FabSwingers.com forum: Admiration from afar

By *heGateKeeper OP Man
over a year ago

Stratford

Inspired by some conversations I’ve had this week on here, and also by my reaction to a forum post earlier . Do you notice people on here that you don’t converse with but you just appreciate their existence, their being and their contribution?

Are you ever tempted to drop them a message and just say you liked a particular post, or noticed their general contribution and wanted to say hi/thanks?

It might not be apparent on the surface, it’s easy to feel ignored or insignificant but someone on here fully appreciates your contributions to the forums and wants great things for you.

Ps that someone isn’t me. I think you’re all ****s

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, lots.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are definitely people on here who make brilliant, level-headed points with whichever thread they contribute to and argue their point really well. I never tell them over messages though because it's unsolicited and I never really tell them on the thread either because it doesn't really add anything of value to the thread as a whole.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, there are people on here I admire, or think are wise and intelligent, or think they are sexy, or that they are weird for liking G&T

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And yes, I’ll sometimes drop people a message to tell them I appreciate a comment, a picture or something else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"or that they are weird for liking G&T

Think shes on about you LvM

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I admire many and their use of words to make a point

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By *LiamMan
over a year ago

Midlands

There's a few ladies I'd like to run my tongue over but I've probably not told them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes lots for all different reason

I even may atmer someone for they dress sense

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A fair few I perv on in secret, I don't message because I know nothing will ever come of it. I definitely appreciate their pictures though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Theres a few on the forum i feel that way about, for various reasons obviously.

Though sometimes i feel its best just to appreciate from afar, no need to mingle with everyone i have an appreciation for.

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By *umslaveTV/TS
over a year ago

Sheffield

Lots and lots of you lovelies get admired from afar. I'd never dream of plucking up the courage to contact them though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I admire a lot of you lovely lot!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

yes there are a few people I admire for their intelligence, knowledge or emotional intelligence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to say that the forums are the best part about fab, and that’s only possible because of you lovely lot

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By *ack688Man
over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

My hotlist has quite a few forumites on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are definitely a few I admire from afar but too shy to message or wink.

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By *tephanjMan
over a year ago

Kettering

Yes but for most I'm not in their age range plus I'm shy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I perve from afar but actually if I love someone's contributions I message them and tell them so. I'm not shy about that. Had some wonderful conversations as a result.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So far no because I spend too much time in the virus section

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are a few forumers whose posts I'd look out for...

And a few I think would be cool to meet for a cuppa or bevvie.

Generally keep it to myself tho unless there's a compliment thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I admire many people on here for many different things. I have told one or two.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's people/ posts I like and appreciate but I wouldn't really message them as they probably think I'm a dickhead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

9 times out of 10 I just message. Not looking for an opportunity for something more but just wanting to appreciate their input. Sometimes it leads to further conversation, sometimes it just ends with a smile and thanks. Both are okay In fact I just did that yesterday.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Not really. If I like someone I'll just tell them. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's people/ posts I like and appreciate but I wouldn't really message them as they probably think I'm a dickhead. "

I tried that.....and I think they thought I was dickhead

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I have done in the past and probably will do in the future.

That means if I haven’t sent you one, then I think you’re a cockwomble.

I’m joking, I just wanted to write cockwomble

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i took the plunge and messaged someone I'd liked for ages from far away.. I'm glad i did..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's people/ posts I like and appreciate but I wouldn't really message them as they probably think I'm a dickhead.

I tried that.....and I think they thought I was dickhead

Dickhead here also

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Yes for me OP but I usually let them know

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I've never done that but have had a few people contact me through various threads to tell me that my contributions are valid.

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By *heGateKeeper OP Man
over a year ago

Stratford

"There are definitely people on here who make brilliant, level-headed points with whichever thread they contribute to and argue their point really well. I never tell them over messages though because it's unsolicited and I never really tell them on the thread either because it doesn't really add anything of value to the thread as a whole."

I agree with this. It’s a weird one to broach

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By *heGateKeeper OP Man
over a year ago

Stratford

"Yes, there are people on here I admire, or think are wise and intelligent, or think they are sexy, or that they are weird for liking G&T

You are too kind

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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

Yup. I finally got to meet one of my such people last weekend

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Yes, I occasionally do this. Not too often though as it plays havoc with my cool as a cucumber demeanour

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By *heGateKeeper OP Man
over a year ago

Stratford

"So far no because I spend too much time in the virus section

That place is a real idiot filter

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

Nope, don't want to look like a weirdo

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By *heGateKeeper OP Man
over a year ago

Stratford

Well done to you guys and girls who are brave enough to just come out with it. Definitely agree with the post above where it was said that sometimes it leads to lovely conversations and sometimes just a thank you and a smile. Even better that some of you have met people off the back of that initial message.

I remember I sent someone a message to compliment their eyebrows recently, and thought I must have come across like a right loony

I’m glad I’m not the only one who sees it and I’ll be sure to make sure I’m more forward in sharing my appreciation

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By *erotic_adventureMan
over a year ago

London, Scotland & The North,

Yes, I tend to praise and provide constructive feedback

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By *heGateKeeper OP Man
over a year ago

Stratford

"Nope, don't want to look like a weirdo

More of*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope, don't want to look like a weirdo

It takes a lot more than that on Fab

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

No I can't say I have. If someone intrigues me I like to try and interact with them. Sometimes they don't want to and that's fine but sometimes it leads to a really interesting conversation or even a good friendship

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

If I’m browsing a thread and see a comment I find resonates with me or my way of thinking I’ll post on the thread a ‘well said’ or something like that, there’s some very wise advice given and some from those more experienced on the scene than I am, if I see a non judgemental, well thought and articulated post it will always catch my eye, nothing wrong with a little gratitude towards it.

Rare that I’d send a private message to tell them as it’s a bit unsolicited for me xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We both really enjoy the forums . It gives people a chance to express themselves and after a while you may get an inkling into the personalities of some of the protagonists. These is a lot of good banter on here as well as some more contentious conversations. But there is nothing wrong with a mass-debate (see what we did there). The only thing we would say is be careful as they can be quite addictive.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Yes, definitely. I've messaged posters before in such circumstances - it's clear that I'm not doing it because I fancy them/think that they're attractive but because I appreciate their way with words. Or the non bias/non fallacy laden approach they have in responding to a debate.

I like the myriad of posters we have on here and I'd like to think I'm able to remove my own bias enough to appreciate a post from a poster, regardless of who the poster is. I do have a habit of just posting I like x, y and z about someone's post.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's people/ posts I like and appreciate but I wouldn't really message them as they probably think I'm a dickhead. "

You could message me and send me an unsolicited crisp pic and I wouldn't think you're a dickhead

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By *ickshawedCouple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

There's quite a few people whose posts I notice. I especially like those who make me laugh, but some of the more serious sensible posts get my notice also.

I've never messaged first myself but a few have messaged us and have led to friendly conversations. I'd say I've made a few good friends. I really enjoy chatting to those from the forum.

Have yet to meet anyone from the forum, but perhaps in the new year

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's people/ posts I like and appreciate but I wouldn't really message them as they probably think I'm a dickhead.

I tried that.....and I think they thought I was dickhead

Dickhead here also

I feel like that after every post I type.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's people/ posts I like and appreciate but I wouldn't really message them as they probably think I'm a dickhead.

You could message me and send me an unsolicited crisp pic and I wouldn't think you're a dickhead

It won't let me send crisps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's people/ posts I like and appreciate but I wouldn't really message them as they probably think I'm a dickhead.

I tried that.....and I think they thought I was dickhead

Dickhead here also

I feel like that after every post I type. "

Aww you're all cool. ^^^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's people/ posts I like and appreciate but I wouldn't really message them as they probably think I'm a dickhead.

You could message me and send me an unsolicited crisp pic and I wouldn't think you're a dickhead

It won't let me send crisps.

Sob

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

Of course, many peeps!

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"There's people/ posts I like and appreciate but I wouldn't really message them as they probably think I'm a dickhead. "

Awwww fanks... but I think everyone is a dickhead

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

"or that they are weird for liking G&T

Think shes on about you LvM

More gin for me

LvM

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"or that they are weird for liking G&T

Think shes on about you LvM

More gin for me

LvM"

The op knows perfectly well who I’m talking about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's people/ posts I like and appreciate but I wouldn't really message them as they probably think I'm a dickhead.

Awwww fanks... but I think everyone is a dickhead

You make me laugh and think and smile.

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over a year ago

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By *heGateKeeper OP Man
over a year ago

Stratford

"or that they are weird for liking G&T

Think shes on about you LvM

More gin for me

LvM

The op knows perfectly well who I’m talking about

Ignore her LvM. I generally do

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By *heGateKeeper OP Man
over a year ago

Stratford

"Of course, many peeps!

I love those shoes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes! I've spoken to a few people I wouldn't usually speak to and enjoyed getting to know them. We seem to bounce off each other

If anybody is wanting to chat with me *tumble* then I'm always happy to. I'm not mean, I promise

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

Yes, often

there are some great contributors to forum posts. I’ve occasionally tried to tell them so but often filters mean I can’t do it goes unheard

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

"or that they are weird for liking G&T

Think shes on about you LvM

More gin for me

LvM

The op knows perfectly well who I’m talking about

Ignore her LvM. I generally do

It's hard when she's wiggling that tail though

LvM

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By *heGateKeeper OP Man
over a year ago

Stratford

"or that they are weird for liking G&T

Think shes on about you LvM

More gin for me

LvM

The op knows perfectly well who I’m talking about

Ignore her LvM. I generally do

It's hard when she's wiggling that tail though

LvM"

It’s all a rouse! Don’t fall for it

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By *heGateKeeper OP Man
over a year ago

Stratford

"Yes, often

there are some great contributors to forum posts. I’ve occasionally tried to tell them so but often filters mean I can’t do it goes unheard"

Had the same experience & I don’t condone bypassing filters

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By *heGateKeeper OP Man
over a year ago

Stratford

"I've never done that but have had a few people contact me through various threads to tell me that my contributions are valid. "

It’s a great feeling. The one I had recently really made my day

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

I used to, and chatted to some lovely people because of it. I spend very little time in here these days, I don't recognise anyone or see enough to really appreciate their thoughts or wordsmithery.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I drop messages, from afar.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"or that they are weird for liking G&T

Think shes on about you LvM

More gin for me

LvM

The op knows perfectly well who I’m talking about

Ignore her LvM. I generally do

It's hard when she's wiggling that tail though

LvM

It’s all a rouse! Don’t fall for it

Mwah haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have to say that the forums are the best part about fab, and that’s only possible because of you lovely lot

I agree with this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had the odd appreciative forum message on here, and it is really appreciated! Nice when it’s not all down to tits, smile, hair or fucking!

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

I do yes. There's many people I appreciate that I've not mentioned it too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve had the odd appreciative forum message on here, and it is really appreciated! Nice when it’s not all down to tits, smile, hair or fucking!

You forgot lips

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So far no because I spend too much time in the virus section

That place is a real idiot filter

Brings back memories of brexit threads

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve had the odd appreciative forum message on here, and it is really appreciated! Nice when it’s not all down to tits, smile, hair or fucking!

You forgot lips

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

"Of course, many peeps!

I love those shoes

Bless you- you’d like my Xmas jumper I’ve been wearing at work… haha. Been getting on average 50 compliments a day on it!

I love giving people compliments.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's loads of people I like forum-wise, but haven't specifically said to. It's nice having a wee interaction on a thread, but I feel like private conversations just get awkward if they're not heading towards meeting so I can be a bit stand-offish. It would be good to just show appreciation of a post with a wee like button though.

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