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What do people see the purpose of a social is?

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By *he normal one OP   Man
over a year ago

Hereford

What do people think the main reason to hold a social is?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Well there's a social to be social.

And then a social to see if you fancy the pants of each other.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Erm to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To see if i am comfortable enough with that person to do more than a social. Can't always judge this through messages and video call

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because going to a stranger's house, especially when said stranger is expecting sex, is reckless as fuck

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By *organ DeanWoman
over a year ago

Belfast

See if they show up & on time.

Do a heat check, eye contact is usually enough for me.

Ask if they are a serial killer.

See how they react to the question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To make sure their cock measures correctly. I take a measuring tape to every social. If you say you're 6" when you're actually 7" then you can just get in the bin.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

for me its to see if I find the guy attractive

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

It was the best thing I ever did.

But it doesn't answer your question.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

To be social. Also to blind people with blingy dresses

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Too mingle and enjoy each others company with no attachments

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To find out if you fancy getting nekkid with someone/s. Plus, hopefully have a giggle and a jolly lovely time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A) to make sure you clock

B) to make sure they don't kiss like a washing machine

C) I'm not inviting a random stranger to my place

D) I'm not going to some random strangers place

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By *urious_Female89Woman
over a year ago

great yarmouth

For me its to see if there is chemistry and attraction in person.. people can come across very differently online in my experience so meeting with no expectations takes the pressure off. I'm looking for more fwbs so I need to be able to like/have a laugh with them before anything sexual happening

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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"What do people think the main reason to hold a social is?"

The clue is in the name. That’s the main reason. Go with no expectations of anything else and any connections or otherwise is a bonus. Oh and they are usually a pre social to a club night up here so a good icebreaker.

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

Chemistry is elusive , a pretty face is just not enough…. Oh and I prefer chagging people I actually like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To make sure their cock measures correctly. I take a measuring tape to every social. If you say you're 6" when you're actually 7" then you can just get in the bin. "

Think you have that backwards it’s normally the other way around ha ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people are happy to have play with anyone that comes along and their is nothing wrong with that when everyone consents.

For others that is not the case there needs to be attraction or something there before play can be considered, so a social meet gives the opportunity to meet and see others for real.

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By *he normal one OP   Man
over a year ago

Hereford

Perhaps I didn’t word it quite right I was thinking a fab members general social at a pub etc.

He reason I ask is if someone is organising one sets the acceptable age in a narrow bracket isn’t this someone looking for a playmate for their self rather than a fun get to know one another general meet.

I suppose the answer is if I don’t like it organise one myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To make sure their cock measures correctly. I take a measuring tape to every social. If you say you're 6" when you're actually 7" then you can just get in the bin.

Think you have that backwards it’s normally the other way around ha ha "

Nope, smaller the better for me

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By *aughty but nice...Man
over a year ago

Staffs

A social is to meet someone

I seldom like to just jump into bed with someone I need to meet and greet and see if I like someone first.

My very best meets have developed from a social.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To make sure their cock measures correctly. I take a measuring tape to every social. If you say you're 6" when you're actually 7" then you can just get in the bin.

Think you have that backwards it’s normally the other way around ha ha

Nope, smaller the better for me "

Hello....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To make sure their cock measures correctly. I take a measuring tape to every social. If you say you're 6" when you're actually 7" then you can just get in the bin.

Think you have that backwards it’s normally the other way around ha ha

Nope, smaller the better for me "

Well that rules out a jam sandwich then

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair


"To find out if you fancy getting nekkid with someone/s. Plus, hopefully have a giggle and a jolly lovely time. "

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"nekkid" - I love that word!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To make sure their cock measures correctly. I take a measuring tape to every social. If you say you're 6" when you're actually 7" then you can just get in the bin.

Think you have that backwards it’s normally the other way around ha ha

Nope, smaller the better for me

Hello...."

As soon as I read that post I thought of you

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"To find out if you fancy getting nekkid with someone/s. Plus, hopefully have a giggle and a jolly lovely time.

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"nekkid" - I love that word! "

It's a northern word! Used liberally in this house

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"Perhaps I didn’t word it quite right I was thinking a fab members general social at a pub etc.

He reason I ask is if someone is organising one sets the acceptable age in a narrow bracket isn’t this someone looking for a playmate for their self rather than a fun get to know one another general meet.

I suppose the answer is if I don’t like it organise one myself."

We recently attended the Manchester social and it was a wide mix of ages, good mix of guys, gals, couples and people who identify in different ways. It was bloody ace and I wouldn't like there to be any restrictions on the ages etc.

The purpose was to have fun, meet like minded people and socialise among (hopefully) non judgemental folks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What do people think the main reason to hold a social is?"

Not sure, never had one!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To make sure their cock measures correctly. I take a measuring tape to every social. If you say you're 6" when you're actually 7" then you can just get in the bin.

Think you have that backwards it’s normally the other way around ha ha

Nope, smaller the better for me

Hello....

As soon as I read that post I thought of you "

Haha, thanks, I’m glad that I’m the first person you think of when someone mentions small cocks.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair


"Perhaps I didn’t word it quite right I was thinking a fab members general social at a pub etc.

He reason I ask is if someone is organising one sets the acceptable age in a narrow bracket isn’t this someone looking for a playmate for their self rather than a fun get to know one another general meet.

I suppose the answer is if I don’t like it organise one myself.

We recently attended the Manchester social and it was a wide mix of ages, good mix of guys, gals, couples and people who identify in different ways. It was bloody ace and I wouldn't like there to be any restrictions on the ages etc.

The purpose was to have fun, meet like minded people and socialise among (hopefully) non judgemental folks. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To make sure their cock measures correctly. I take a measuring tape to every social. If you say you're 6" when you're actually 7" then you can just get in the bin.

Think you have that backwards it’s normally the other way around ha ha

Nope, smaller the better for me

Hello....

As soon as I read that post I thought of you

Haha, thanks, I’m glad that I’m the first person you think of when someone mentions small cocks. "

Just trying to play matchmaker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quick psycho check, height check, age check, chat check and sniff test all completed in one coffee date.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To make sure their cock measures correctly. I take a measuring tape to every social. If you say you're 6" when you're actually 7" then you can just get in the bin.

Think you have that backwards it’s normally the other way around ha ha

Nope, smaller the better for me

Hello....

As soon as I read that post I thought of you

Haha, thanks, I’m glad that I’m the first person you think of when someone mentions small cocks.

Just trying to play matchmaker "

Thanks, I need all the help I can get so I really appreciate it. Unfortunately Appletree is only looking for women on here so I think we’re wasting our time.

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By *hisisntpofMan
over a year ago

bristol

To get a free beer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To make sure their cock measures correctly. I take a measuring tape to every social. If you say you're 6" when you're actually 7" then you can just get in the bin.

Think you have that backwards it’s normally the other way around ha ha

Nope, smaller the better for me

Hello....

As soon as I read that post I thought of you

Haha, thanks, I’m glad that I’m the first person you think of when someone mentions small cocks.

Just trying to play matchmaker

Thanks, I need all the help I can get so I really appreciate it. Unfortunately Appletree is only looking for women on here so I think we’re wasting our time. "

but you're right, sorry! Women to the front of the queue please.. *tumble*

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By *leecouple101Couple
over a year ago

North East Lincolnshire


"To see if i am comfortable enough with that person to do more than a social. Can't always judge this through messages and video call "

Very true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To make sure their cock measures correctly. I take a measuring tape to every social. If you say you're 6" when you're actually 7" then you can just get in the bin.

Think you have that backwards it’s normally the other way around ha ha

Nope, smaller the better for me

Hello....

As soon as I read that post I thought of you

Haha, thanks, I’m glad that I’m the first person you think of when someone mentions small cocks.

Just trying to play matchmaker

Thanks, I need all the help I can get so I really appreciate it. Unfortunately Appletree is only looking for women on here so I think we’re wasting our time.

but you're right, sorry! Women to the front of the queue please.. *tumble*"

That’s just my luck, if it isn’t my tiny cock that puts someone off it’s the fact that I have a cock at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Quick psycho check, height check, age check, chat check and sniff test all completed in one coffee date. "

Haha great list

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To see if there’s chemistry/attraction/potential. Builds tension too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Laughter. Connect over insane giggles or laughter and a sexual meet is 100 times better x

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By *ilverjagMan
over a year ago

swansea

To ensure that the WOW factor is there! Which is invariably apparent from the eye contact, followed by the uncontrollable mutual desire to be touchy feely with each other when you instantly know that you are both mentally undressing each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To ensure that the WOW factor is there! Which is invariably apparent from the eye contact, followed by the uncontrollable mutual desire to be touchy feely with each other when you instantly know that you are both mentally undressing each other. "

Would you still have sex with someone it the WOW factor wasn’t there? The way you said ‘ensure’ it’s there implies that you have to have it to take things further. Would you not be interested in someone if you liked them but didn’t like them enough for there to be a WOW factor?

Personally I don’t need there to be a WOW factor for me to have sex with someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To have a damn good flirt

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

To us it is fun.

A bye product, see who’s values align and who is congruent.

And enjoy a social moment with like minded people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A) to make sure you clock

B) to make sure they don't kiss like a washing machine

C) I'm not inviting a random stranger to my place

D) I'm not going to some random strangers place"

Ace always clocks.

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Back of the bins.

1. Check they are who they say they are.

2. Check their general attitude

3. Have some cool conversations

4. Confuse other patrons in bar/pub

5. Gather more members for the hive Queen

6. Kiss as many people as possible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"1. Check they are who they say they are.

2. Check their general attitude

3. Have some cool conversations

4. Confuse other patrons in bar/pub

5. Gather more members for the hive Queen

6. Kiss as many people as possible "

Love this x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"1. Check they are who they say they are.

2. Check their general attitude

3. Have some cool conversations

4. Confuse other patrons in bar/pub

5. Gather more members for the hive Queen

6. Kiss as many people as possible "

#6 - yeah #6 for sure!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Perhaps I didn’t word it quite right I was thinking a fab members general social at a pub etc.

He reason I ask is if someone is organising one sets the acceptable age in a narrow bracket isn’t this someone looking for a playmate for their self rather than a fun get to know one another general meet.

I suppose the answer is if I don’t like it organise one myself."

Do you mean a group forum social?

Or a social meet with someone you're looking to fuck?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To determine whether things online translate to reality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To determine whether things online translate to reality"

Without feeling pressure for any physical contact..

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By *he normal one OP   Man
over a year ago

Hereford

A group forum social

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To see if they will be in public with me. Check not psycho. Check not just plain weird.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be sociable

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

.


"To be sociable"

Yep, simple and true.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"To determine whether things online translate to reality

Without feeling pressure for any physical contact.."

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By *.R.MMan
over a year ago

Norfolk

To see if you both click, I like a social

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A group forum social "

Ah usually a way for forum friends to meet up. Sometimes new people go and can make friends that way.

Depends on the social really. Some are very cliquey and some are very friendly.

I don't know why so many people suggest socials as a way to get veris and meet people. -As many socials are filled quickly with existing friend groups who won't talk to newbies.

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By *ustfun009Man
over a year ago

oxford

A social proves both are genuine and not just looking for a quick bunk up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Check each other see if tick boxes to progress further

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes

Expand your social network

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To present and verify Covid status.

Once all the papers are in order then social interaction may take place.

Peace and Love

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Purpose of a social is to make sure they’re not a weirdo

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"To see if i am comfortable enough with that person to do more than a social. Can't always judge this through messages and video call "

This! Especially as I meet at home. Works both ways too: I'm larger than my playmates and use restraints, hot wax etc ...they have to be confident, comfortable with me.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"Perhaps I didn’t word it quite right I was thinking a fab members general social at a pub etc.

He reason I ask is if someone is organising one sets the acceptable age in a narrow bracket isn’t this someone looking for a playmate for their self rather than a fun get to know one another general meet.

I suppose the answer is if I don’t like it organise one myself."

I've hosted group socials for years, all hosts are entitled to place whatever restrictions they want on them, we do it for the craic, not profit.

My rules are that they have to be verified by a single woman or couple and I decide based on their communication.

So many ask to attend a social in a pub on a Sunday afternoon and attach dick pics.

Single men bombard me with messages about coming to socials and most don't turn up and don't let me know.

Some of them are too scared to even enter the pub and ask me to meet them outside but none of the single women do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Purpose of a social is to make sure they’re not a weirdo "

Absolutely

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By *he_Wite_NiteMan
over a year ago

Norwich this week, usually Dundee and around


"To make sure their cock measures correctly. I take a measuring tape to every social. If you say you're 6" when you're actually 7" then you can just get in the bin. "

Damn it, you mean we can't measure with my shrunken tape, I'll bring it with me!

To answer OP, to check there is the same spark in person as in messages, and to check that their photos aren't fake, and ripped off from the Sydney University prospectus!

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Purely to have a party and meet people I normally wouldn't be able to meet

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

A one to one social is to find chemistry...

Whilst a cuppa one is purely to have a chat with someone

I pressed send by accident

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

For single women safety, on my own profile I'd only do a social first in public.

Also it's a good way to gage the attraction and connection, over a drink.

Miss

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Plus it can be proper akward if you don't do a social and there's no attraction for one of you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Group social would be a nice opportunity to put faces and real people to those I have interacted with on fab.

Individual social is to see if a chemistry we may have felt on fab is true for real life and whether there could be anything more.

Both are without expectation or obligation on all sides.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"A group forum social

Ah usually a way for forum friends to meet up. Sometimes new people go and can make friends that way.

Depends on the social really. Some are very cliquey and some are very friendly.

I don't know why so many people suggest socials as a way to get veris and meet people. -As many socials are filled quickly with existing friend groups who won't talk to newbies."

We went to the Manchester social at the weekend. I think I'd met in person three or four of the other hundreds of attendees? We had an absolute blast, got to know people we hardly knew existed before. Absolutely nothing cliquey at all, in my view.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

Try before you buy…. See what people are like in the actual wild before making any decisions

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By *entative_steps7781Couple
over a year ago

Home

Check to see that they are a nice person who can hold a decent conversation, make me smile and if we have chemistry/attraction before taking it any further

MJ x

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

To see if there is chemistry with no expectations of anything else.

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Back of the bins.


"A group forum social

Ah usually a way for forum friends to meet up. Sometimes new people go and can make friends that way.

Depends on the social really. Some are very cliquey and some are very friendly.

I don't know why so many people suggest socials as a way to get veris and meet people. -As many socials are filled quickly with existing friend groups who won't talk to newbies.

We went to the Manchester social at the weekend. I think I'd met in person three or four of the other hundreds of attendees? We had an absolute blast, got to know people we hardly knew existed before. Absolutely nothing cliquey at all, in my view. "

You’ve still got to try to talk to people! All an organised social is is a room of people who are open to being approached. We’ve been to 4 now and each time we’ve been a bit bolder!

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By *inja 636Man
over a year ago

Grays

As a single guy a social for me is important I want my times to be special so it's about chemistry manners and respect I don't just want any woman ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anticipation. That moment when you both know you’re going to have each other, like being at the top of the roller coaster, the emotional equivalent of edging.

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By *lasphemouscoupleCouple
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

Because chemistry is important, a social meet is definitely first for us to establish whether we both fancy someone/s

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a little less clinical than just meeting and going at it

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By *ostguy321Man
over a year ago

Princes Risborough

Definitely a good way to assess if there is chemistry to take things forward

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be social. Also to blind people with blingy dresses "

You do that so well!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To make sure they are the same person as the face photo they sent of themselves!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because it feels lovely. Connections of varying types, meeting wonderful people, fun and gorgeous spirits wearing antlers, just nice really Innit?

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"To be social. Also to blind people with blingy dresses

You do that so well!"

Thank you You were someone I'd never met before, had no interaction with before Saturday, but I think we hit it off pretty well?! Maybe you were just dazzled

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Share thoughts, ideas, humour and have a chat to see if there is a connection.

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By *alentedfMan
over a year ago

Near Newbury


"Because going to a stranger's house, especially when said stranger is expecting sex, is reckless as fuck "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't see the point of a social meet they seem totally pointless and a waste of playing time.

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

To see if you like them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be social. Also to blind people with blingy dresses

You do that so well!

Thank you You were someone I'd never met before, had no interaction with before Saturday, but I think we hit it off pretty well?! Maybe you were just dazzled "

Of course I was! But back to your dress, you wore it very well

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By *ich_ChesterMan
over a year ago

Chester

Good to have a social just to check all ok, not a serial killer, they are what there pictures display, have teeth, hold a conversation

On the plus side its pretty good way to meet people and make friends even if we don't end up shagging the life out of each other x

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

Weeds out fantasists, keyboard warriors and time-wasters, as well as those who are only interested in shagging (rather than swinging, which is social and shagging)

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE


"Chemistry is elusive , a pretty face is just not enough…. Oh and I prefer chagging people I actually like.

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So are socials necessary then ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To see if you like them"

Exactly this

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I've had a couple of socials that were genuinely pretty fucking frightening from a safety aspect.

Imagine that had been in an isolated environment where I couldn't just get up and walk away or didn't have the public around me.

Yes, people can not take no for an answer once they've got you on your own, so socials aren't foolproof in that respect, but if they ain't taking no for an answer or behaving disrespectfully or inappropriately in public that's a pretty huge red fucking flag.

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over a year ago

Hopefully to just observe the person in a public setting to see if you can trust them in a private one and also to see if you click and have chemistry (especially if you haven't really talked much with the person etc)

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over a year ago

Free coffee. And cake.

To see if someone I talk to online will get on with me face to face.

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over a year ago


"I've had a couple of socials that were genuinely pretty fucking frightening from a safety aspect.

Imagine that had been in an isolated environment where I couldn't just get up and walk away or didn't have the public around me.

Yes, people can not take no for an answer once they've got you on your own, so socials aren't foolproof in that respect, but if they ain't taking no for an answer or behaving disrespectfully or inappropriately in public that's a pretty huge red fucking flag."

Well that's crap. I thought group socials were supposed to be a friendly, safe environment. Are we just talking sausage fest then?

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over a year ago


"A group forum social

Ah usually a way for forum friends to meet up. Sometimes new people go and can make friends that way.

Depends on the social really. Some are very cliquey and some are very friendly.

I don't know why so many people suggest socials as a way to get veris and meet people. -As many socials are filled quickly with existing friend groups who won't talk to newbies.

We went to the Manchester social at the weekend. I think I'd met in person three or four of the other hundreds of attendees? We had an absolute blast, got to know people we hardly knew existed before. Absolutely nothing cliquey at all, in my view. "

Hundreds?.... .....that's me in the corner with my back to the wall..

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over a year ago


"A group forum social

Ah usually a way for forum friends to meet up. Sometimes new people go and can make friends that way.

Depends on the social really. Some are very cliquey and some are very friendly.

I don't know why so many people suggest socials as a way to get veris and meet people. -As many socials are filled quickly with existing friend groups who won't talk to newbies.

We went to the Manchester social at the weekend. I think I'd met in person three or four of the other hundreds of attendees? We had an absolute blast, got to know people we hardly knew existed before. Absolutely nothing cliquey at all, in my view. "

Is that the only one you've been to?

I found the MLS people really friendly the times that I went.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"A group forum social

Ah usually a way for forum friends to meet up. Sometimes new people go and can make friends that way.

Depends on the social really. Some are very cliquey and some are very friendly.

I don't know why so many people suggest socials as a way to get veris and meet people. -As many socials are filled quickly with existing friend groups who won't talk to newbies.

We went to the Manchester social at the weekend. I think I'd met in person three or four of the other hundreds of attendees? We had an absolute blast, got to know people we hardly knew existed before. Absolutely nothing cliquey at all, in my view.

Is that the only one you've been to?

I found the MLS people really friendly the times that I went. "

The only big group one, yes. Had small scale socials before with maybe 10-12 people, down to 1:1.

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By *ilverjagMan
over a year ago

swansea


"To ensure that the WOW factor is there! Which is invariably apparent from the eye contact, followed by the uncontrollable mutual desire to be touchy feely with each other when you instantly know that you are both mentally undressing each other.

Would you still have sex with someone it the WOW factor wasn’t there? The way you said ‘ensure’ it’s there implies that you have to have it to take things further. Would you not be interested in someone if you liked them but didn’t like them enough for there to be a WOW factor?

Personally I don’t need there to be a WOW factor for me to have sex with someone "

To be honest if I don't actually fancy someone, they have more chance of raising The Titanic, than what makes me smile, as I dry myself down whilst looking in the mirror after taking a shower, although it doesn't happen very often. You would be surprised how many guys I know feel the same way. Even when I've played with lady friends as a couple at parties, or same room fun with another couple, it's invariably been agreed that although the girls can always take one for the team, if one or other of us didn't fancy someone, neither of us would play, and I always respected that. We would have a special word or phrase to get the message across to each other whether it was going to be a goer, or a non starter.

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