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By *luebell888 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

So the guy who I had been chatting to and planned to meet on Friday appears to have left fab without saying goodbye. Not the first time this has happened to me and probably won't be the last. Not the end of the world but still annoying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

His loss, the fool

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Look on the bright side.

You got a few days warning before he ghosted you on Friday.

Every cloud n all that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hugs sorry this happened

But got to say I think the person may have been crazy to pass up a chances with you x

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By *luebell888 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"Look on the bright side.

You got a few days warning before he ghosted you on Friday.

Every cloud n all that."

Very true and I am going to Cjs Xmas party on Saturday so have that to look forward to as know people will turn up.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire


"So the guy who I had been chatting to and planned to meet on Friday appears to have left fab without saying goodbye. Not the first time this has happened to me and probably won't be the last. Not the end of the world but still annoying."

His loss consider it a lucky escape but it’s disappointing when you’ve invested all that time and effort.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did you tell him about deep fried Mars bars?

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By *luebell888 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"Did you tell him about deep fried Mars bars? "

He has probably had a few himself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes people don't get the chance to say goodbye if the account has been suspended or removed.

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By *luebell888 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"Sometimes people don't get the chance to say goodbye if the account has been suspended or removed. "

I know this but have a feeling he just left.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd not take it to heart, people leave for many reasons, it's probably nothing to do with you. I'd guess this place is pretty low on most people's list of priorities.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

if all his message have disappeared he's deleted his profile, if not he's either blocked you or been suspended by admin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Join the club, the vast majority i talk to seem to just disappear or completely forget i exist

Makes me wonder why i even make any kind of effort to begin with..

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By *luebell888 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"if all his message have disappeared he's deleted his profile, if not he's either blocked you or been suspended by admin "

Messages gone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't spend another second thinking about him. You've got CJ's on Saturday to look forward to and enjoy!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"if all his message have disappeared he's deleted his profile, if not he's either blocked you or been suspended by admin

Messages gone."

deleted his profile then.

That's a shame. Hope he's ok and you're not too disappointed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Did you tell him about deep fried Mars bars?

He has probably had a few himself."

I have never had one, am I missing out?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’re very beautiful OP and it’s definitely his loss. He obviously wasn’t serious about meeting up with you and it’s better that you found out sooner rather than later. You’re not going to struggle to find other men who want to meet up with you and some of them might even be genuine. Good luck OP.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

Really sorry to hear this.

It is annoying.

But you'll spring-back to your good self in no time.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

everyone's entitled to change their mind and the guy might have had an emergency.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lucky escape any one that has the chance to meet you and doesn’t just don’t seem right to me ?????

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair


"Join the club, the vast majority i talk to seem to just disappear or completely forget i exist

Makes me wonder why i even make any kind of effort to begin with.."

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Don't give up young man.

Change your name to "Once_Tasted_Never_Forgotten"

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By *rMojoRisinMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

Clearly his psychiatrist has caught up with him!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Exactly never mind.

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By *luebell888 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"everyone's entitled to change their mind and the guy might have had an emergency. "

I just know that if I had changed my mind or had an emergency I would have messaged to say so to the person I had planned to meet. A message takes 10seconds to send.

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By *otBunsHunWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

A lot like the thrill of the chase. They get cold feet once arrangements have been made. At least it's happened now and you won't waste your time getting ready etc.

It's still not nice though

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"everyone's entitled to change their mind and the guy might have had an emergency.

I just know that if I had changed my mind or had an emergency I would have messaged to say so to the person I had planned to meet. A message takes 10seconds to send."

oh I agree, its horrible when people just disappear off the radar. Its just the guy will probably get a drubbing on here and he isn't here to defend himself.

Its still not nice for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"everyone's entitled to change their mind and the guy might have had an emergency. "

One that would give him enough time to delete his profile before dealing with it?

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Enjoy cjs,

He'll be back at some point I bet.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"everyone's entitled to change their mind and the guy might have had an emergency.

One that would give him enough time to delete his profile before dealing with it? "

well you just never know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The bright side. Better now than after the meet.

Good riddance

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By *luebell888 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"The bright side. Better now than after the meet.

Good riddance"

It was only a social meet but a night in will do me good after working nights all week.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The bright side. Better now than after the meet.

Good riddance"

As bad as it is when someone goes missing before a meet it’s even worse when they do it after a meet because then you have to go over everything you said and did with them in your head and analyse it to try and work out if you did something wrong to make them lose interest.

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

Hugs and think of it as a lucky escape.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t understand that mentality at all, OP. It’s unnecessarily rude x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So this means you’re free Friday night then.....if you’re interested in submissive men I’m more than happy to drive up to Glasgow to take his place...

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle

Aww bless you! His loss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So the guy who I had been chatting to and planned to meet on Friday appears to have left fab without saying goodbye. Not the first time this has happened to me and probably won't be the last. Not the end of the world but still annoying."

Being ghosted is terribly frustrating!!

But as all the others have stated…don’t waste any more thoughts on him and look forward to your party Saturday….his loss lovely not yours

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By *elshkinkyMan
over a year ago

south wales

Disappointing when you invest time on someone and then they have a change of heart… As the saying goes, the best way to get over a man is to get under another one …

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By *ettaManMan
over a year ago

Kerry and Dublin


"So the guy who I had been chatting to and planned to meet on Friday appears to have left fab without saying goodbye. Not the first time this has happened to me and probably won't be the last. Not the end of the world but still annoying."

Maybe he's just emulating the approach of Spanish commander Hernán Cortés during the 1519 Spanish conquest of Mexico, when he infamously ordered his men to “burn the boats”?

He did this to ensure that the only choices his men had were to emerge victorious or die.

Perhaps he is deleting his Fab account so that he ensures his only two choices are woo you into bed or never have another fab meet again.

Either way, this individual sounds pretty unstable and you're probably better off avoiding him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So the guy who I had been chatting to and planned to meet on Friday appears to have left fab without saying goodbye. Not the first time this has happened to me and probably won't be the last. Not the end of the world but still annoying.

Maybe he's just emulating the approach of Spanish commander Hernán Cortés during the 1519 Spanish conquest of Mexico, when he infamously ordered his men to “burn the boats”?

He did this to ensure that the only choices his men had were to emerge victorious or die.

Perhaps he is deleting his Fab account so that he ensures his only two choices are woo you into bed or never have another fab meet again.

Either way, this individual sounds pretty unstable and you're probably better off avoiding him."

How did that work out for Hernan Cortes and his men? Did they emerge victorious or all die? They could also have been captured alive by the enemy and held as a prisoner, enduring years of torture and neglect, so there was a third option for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Either way, this individual sounds pretty unstable and you're probably better off avoiding him."

Given he deleted his profile, I think that's inevitable

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By *evonshireboyMan
over a year ago

North Devon


"everyone's entitled to change their mind and the guy might have had an emergency. "

What sort of emergency, other than your wife discovering, means your first thought is to remove your Fab profile?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Join the club, the vast majority i talk to seem to just disappear or completely forget i exist

Makes me wonder why i even make any kind of effort to begin with..

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Don't give up young man.

Change your name to "Once_Tasted_Never_Forgotten" "

Ah I dont give up, i dont hold many expectations to begin with for me to give up on them

Though quite the apt name i must admit, i definitely do leave a deep impression, pun intended

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By *ersey GirlCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Maybe he did message you and because he deleted his account the message has gone

R

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"everyone's entitled to change their mind and the guy might have had an emergency.

What sort of emergency, other than your wife discovering, means your first thought is to remove your Fab profile?"

Haha that actually happened to me years ago.. the guy said his wife discovered his fab profile.. on the day of the meet. What are the chances ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe he did message you and because he deleted his account the message has gone

R"

This is an excellent point, the poor man is being slated for not messaging you and just disappearing when he could have send a really apologetic message, explaining everything, in a polite and respectful way, without realising that you wouldn’t be able to see it once he deleted his profile.

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