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By *ranimallxl5 OP   Man
over a year ago

Winchester

How do people make new friends in their 40s?

A lot of my friends and family are now married with children and it's getting really hard to do social activities without giving a month notice. Be great to find new like-minded friends

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

Well you could take up a hobby, that has a club or “space” associated with it.

I recently started riding again (nothing to do with my jodhpurs fetish) and I meet all sorts at the stables and have started going “hacking” with a little group (or whoever is about really).

You have to be a little bit brave to put yourself out there find something you are interested in doing that presents social opportunities.

It’s not easy, depending, where you live, but it is doable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have a useful tool at your finger tips right here. Join in the socials, it's what I'm doing and have met some amazing people whom I hope will become good friends. And I haven't boffed any of them.....yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not easy is it? I've been so consumed with work I had little time to devote to myself.

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

Google 'meet up', groups that meet with similar interests. There are usually a handful in your area.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

On here I go to the socials

In Real life I am part of a few online groups and we meet up for events

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pole dancing. Worked for me - plus it makes for interesting conversations at the coffee bar!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

It can be extremely difficult to make new friends the older you get. Clubs and social groups are the usual suggestion and they can be great, they can also be full of people who already know each other and are quite resistant to welcoming newcomers whatever they claim. One of the best ways if you have time is volunteering.

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By *ranimallxl5 OP   Man
over a year ago

Winchester


"It can be extremely difficult to make new friends the older you get. Clubs and social groups are the usual suggestion and they can be great, they can also be full of people who already know each other and are quite resistant to welcoming newcomers whatever they claim. One of the best ways if you have time is volunteering."

I did volunteer for a group but it was for under 35s

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

I had trouble with it, but by going to the UpTheBrum and Manchester Socials, I believe I have made some new proper friends (and not just fwbs).

The main thing is, get out there and find people with similar interests.

Good luck

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By *wingsnroundabouts82Couple
over a year ago

Fucksville

We've met our best friends on here x we now go on holiday, days out, shopping, our kids get on etc etc x best thing we ever did x plus they play too so winner winner!! X

Failing that definitely finding a hobby would be a way "in" x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"It can be extremely difficult to make new friends the older you get. Clubs and social groups are the usual suggestion and they can be great, they can also be full of people who already know each other and are quite resistant to welcoming newcomers whatever they claim. One of the best ways if you have time is volunteering.

I did volunteer for a group but it was for under 35s

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Time to find a new group .

We moved a few years back and knew nobody in the area. We're friendly with a couple of neighbours but not friends with them iyswim. We joined a social club which was anything but social , there are a couple of other clubs we'll join when the current unpleasantness has passed but making new friends is not always easy, it often requires a fair bit of effort. Don't be discouraged, if one thing doesn't work try another, friendships can often form in unlikely places and with unlikely people

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

As already said above, download an app called Meetup. Within that there are numerous interests ranging from outdoor activities to book clubs and everything in between. You simply have to join one of the groups and turn up at the organised events.

You've even got the option of starting your own groups based on whatever your hobbies or interests are and others will join.

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove


"As already said above, download an app called Meetup. Within that there are numerous interests ranging from outdoor activities to book clubs and everything in between. You simply have to join one of the groups and turn up at the organised events.

You've even got the option of starting your own groups based on whatever your hobbies or interests are and others will join."

Oh, I didn't know it was an app, I just heard it mentioned on here in the past and googled it

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"As already said above, download an app called Meetup. Within that there are numerous interests ranging from outdoor activities to book clubs and everything in between. You simply have to join one of the groups and turn up at the organised events.

You've even got the option of starting your own groups based on whatever your hobbies or interests are and others will join.

Oh, I didn't know it was an app, I just heard it mentioned on here in the past and googled it "

Yes it's been going for years. I haven't been a member for about 3 years but there are events all over the country. Some of the groups charge a small fee of £10 to join for a year while others charge £1 each time you turn up. Many are completely free.

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By *LiamMan
over a year ago

Midlands

How do you make them in your late 20?

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

The friends I've made in recent years have been through courses, activities and jobs.

I did a couple of evening classes and have a social group from them - one of the groups goes to the theatre and I've had some great nights out with them, the other tends to be coffee mornings that I attend when I can.

I did a rave fitness class and made a couple of friends there, we go out for drinks every few months.

Most of my social group is ex colleagues, because I've moved around quite a bit with work and in every job there are a couple of people I want to keep in touch with.

I find it very easy to make social mates, and in non-covid times I'm usually out more nights than I'm home. They aren't very close friendships though, I only have two of those and both were made at work. They're "fancy a coffee?" mates where it's just a social thing.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Have u a dog? Great way to meet people x

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By *agnar1980Man
over a year ago

Poole

Even harder with covid around!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At 35 I’ve found the best way to make friends is to paint the garden fence. Every fucker from the neighbourhood comes out to speak. Granted it’s to ask if you’ll paint there’s too but I spoke to a lot of people that day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A hobby if you can. Hiking/running/cycling/riding group. Mens club? (although that seems to often be old men that sit in the pub all day!). Volunteer work - fire, search and rescue, stables, animal shelter, community work. Good luck op x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Volunteer

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By *ranimallxl5 OP   Man
over a year ago

Winchester


"As already said above, download an app called Meetup. Within that there are numerous interests ranging from outdoor activities to book clubs and everything in between. You simply have to join one of the groups and turn up at the organised events.

You've even got the option of starting your own groups based on whatever your hobbies or interests are and others will join."

I do have meetup - just haven't seen anything I fancy yet. I don't really want to meet a group of people in a pub, I'd prefer an activity

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"As already said above, download an app called Meetup. Within that there are numerous interests ranging from outdoor activities to book clubs and everything in between. You simply have to join one of the groups and turn up at the organised events.

You've even got the option of starting your own groups based on whatever your hobbies or interests are and others will join.

I do have meetup - just haven't seen anything I fancy yet. I don't really want to meet a group of people in a pub, I'd prefer an activity"

In the 2 years I was on it I never met anyone in a pub. There were lots of walking groups and I even went rockpool fishing for shrimp.

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By *eardedman7Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

I’ve got a number of friends in the 40’s happy to connect with anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've found it impossible due to location and my horrendous work schedule.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Go to gigs. Music is always a good talking point before and after.

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By *ranimallxl5 OP   Man
over a year ago

Winchester


"Go to gigs. Music is always a good talking point before and after."
but loud

I do goto gigs

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By *urls and DressesWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near here

I volunteer locally, chat to people on my many walks (having a dog helps with that), active in local social media groups

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

From Fab. Not internet pen pals. Proper friends I meet up with and do stuff with. All from Fab. It can be done.

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By *racy_JacksWoman
over a year ago

Derby

I built up my social circle where I live now within the last few years. Once you’ve met a couple of people you might then get introduced to their mates and it snowballs.

As mentioned already the Meetup app is good. Also connected with someone from here who I recognised from a Meetup group. Tinder. The gym. It’s good to have a combination of things on the go

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By *urious_couple_ukCouple
over a year ago

South Cambs

So I’m married with kids early 40s. I don’t work anymore and don’t meet people through kids as they get older. Had a nice friend group that fell apart as people moved, started jobs, split up etc.

I’m finding it so hard too. I think my biggest problem is finding people who want to do stuff. The friends I have just seem to want to stay at home with their kids, I love my family but want to do stuff with and without them!

All new friends welcome here

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By *ranimallxl5 OP   Man
over a year ago

Winchester


"So I’m married with kids early 40s. I don’t work anymore and don’t meet people through kids as they get older. Had a nice friend group that fell apart as people moved, started jobs, split up etc.

I’m finding it so hard too. I think my biggest problem is finding people who want to do stuff. The friends I have just seem to want to stay at home with their kids, I love my family but want to do stuff with and without them!

All new friends welcome here "

If I was closer

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