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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How do you deal with them? You know the type! The ones who are always negative, suck the life out of you. Can change the atmosphere in a room in a blink of an eye. They just hover up your good vibes, bring your mood down and make you feel crappie for being happy?

What do you call those types of people, toxic vampires, negative nellies, energy vampires?

Sorry for being negative and bringing the mood down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I ignore them and move on usually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try to stop pissing them off. Or ignore them. Or wind them up. It's a lottery.

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By *hat BlokeMan
over a year ago

Harrogate

I guess the world needs its Eyores to balance out the Tiggers. But I would suggest you take them only in small doses.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Online I just ignore

Real life I plan a renergising activity, I have friends who are like this and this is the only way I can maintain our friendship, non friends I just walk away from

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By *yron69Man
over a year ago

Fareham

Beware the viper with false positiveness.

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By *illynillyCouple
over a year ago

Wiltshire

As a naturally bubbly and positive person (Nilly), I try my best to cheer people up...once they start sucking the life out of every room they walk in I will politely tell them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I guess the world needs its Eyores to balance out the Tiggers. But I would suggest you take them only in small doses."

Hahaha. I like this

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By *idnight RamblerMan
over a year ago

Pershore

Yes, we've all met that kind of person. They are toxic and like to project their negativity onto others. Personally, I think emotional detachment is the best tactic - imagine people as an artist would a subject or doctor a patient. At least until you want to let your guard down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try to avoid the drains and seek out the radiators

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

If its family and they need me I help otherwise tend to keep away from negativity

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

I have a "miserable friend", I limit the time I listen or see her. I think she's starting to notice and, moderating her behaviour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I try to avoid the drains and seek out the radiators "

I could be a plug in heater

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

Rather than mood hoover, I call them “soul suckers”.

I was married to one!

Gbat

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay

Not easy to be around for sure. Especially if youre easily affected by others. I Send them love and keep my own good energetic boundaries. We have a part to play too.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Not easy to be around for sure. Especially if youre easily affected by others. I Send them love and keep my own good energetic boundaries. We have a part to play too. "

Xxx

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By *urls and DressesWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near here

Cut them out so I don’t become a mood hoover

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

There’s a few on here. I just avoid the threads. I come on here for a laugh so I’m not interested in the depressing threads. In real life I don’t think I really have people like that.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire


"I try to avoid the drains and seek out the radiators "

That’s me too! Love radiators

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you deal with them? You know the type! The ones who are always negative, suck the life out of you. Can change the atmosphere in a room in a blink of an eye. They just hover up your good vibes, bring your mood down and make you feel crappie for being happy?

What do you call those types of people, toxic vampires, negative nellies, energy vampires?

Sorry for being negative and bringing the mood down "

Oh the irony

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By *ilverjagMan
over a year ago

swansea

They might get invited once, but they don't get invited round a second time.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Part of my decision to leave my job was because nearly everyone I worked with was negative. It was draining spending 8 hours in the company of misery.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Seems like everyone who posted before me believes they are a 'tigger' or a 'radiator' ....... delusional.

There will be times when you ARE down in the dumps.

Funny how we get thread after thread after thread about caring about mental health and then all of a sudden ..... those who are down should be avoided lest your own sparkly fun rainbow life gets a little grey moment in it.

Life is full of light and dark. No one is always a bundle of fun and that includes you.

Having said that....... I allow everyone I know 'a bad hour' a 'bad day' a 'trickier more challenging time in their life.' ..... they are human.

Anyone who is a nasty cunt 100% of the time needs better help than I can give and I do believe in self preservation and will keep my distance.

I have a friend with a very bleak outlook on life yet I enjoy her intelligence and wit and generosity and enjoy cheering her up and making her laugh about herself. She's too good to lose and she's actually kinder than I am. She feels for the witless whereas I have difficulty with that.

I'd prefer her company any day to the morose comments I read or hear from the brain dead who have never had an original idea, are desperate to fit in and follow the crowd and want to tell me about their new curtains...... I really don't give a fuck about anyone's new anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Part of my decision to leave my job was because nearly everyone I worked with was negative. It was draining spending 8 hours in the company of misery. "

Out of the frying pan and into the fire being a mod on here lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I try to avoid the drains and seek out the radiators

That’s me too! Love radiators "

I'm a radiator . I try and warm my drains up a little each time I come across one ... But some people are happiest being miserable

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"Seems like everyone who posted before me believes they are a 'tigger' or a 'radiator' ....... delusional.

There will be times when you ARE down in the dumps.

Funny how we get thread after thread after thread about caring about mental health and then all of a sudden ..... those who are down should be avoided lest your own sparkly fun rainbow life gets a little grey moment in it.

Life is full of light and dark. No one is always a bundle of fun and that includes you.

Having said that....... I allow everyone I know 'a bad hour' a 'bad day' a 'trickier more challenging time in their life.' ..... they are human.

"

I agree wholeheartedly Granny. I wouldn't say I'm either really, I have excitable times and times when I feel very low. That's normal. I'd hate to have to think I constantly have to be up, keeping up a facade in order to prevent people from seeing me as a radiator. That's not how humans work is it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Radiators can be cold sometimes.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Seems like everyone who posted before me believes they are a 'tigger' or a 'radiator' ....... delusional.

There will be times when you ARE down in the dumps.

Funny how we get thread after thread after thread about caring about mental health and then all of a sudden ..... those who are down should be avoided lest your own sparkly fun rainbow life gets a little grey moment in it.

Life is full of light and dark. No one is always a bundle of fun and that includes you.

Having said that....... I allow everyone I know 'a bad hour' a 'bad day' a 'trickier more challenging time in their life.' ..... they are human.

I agree wholeheartedly Granny. I wouldn't say I'm either really, I have excitable times and times when I feel very low. That's normal. I'd hate to have to think I constantly have to be up, keeping up a facade in order to prevent people from seeing me as a radiator. That's not how humans work is it? "

It’s not but we all work differently. I wouldn’t come on here and post how down in the dumps I was and I don’t particularity like to read it so I avoid those threads. I come on here for a laugh, some post their life stories and that’s fine but it does sometimes get too much and takes the fun away. In which case I’ll disappear for a while. Everyone’s here for different things and I’m sure people get lots of support here. It’s just sometimes it’s literally most of the threads!

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Seems like everyone who posted before me believes they are a 'tigger' or a 'radiator' ....... delusional.

There will be times when you ARE down in the dumps.

Funny how we get thread after thread after thread about caring about mental health and then all of a sudden ..... those who are down should be avoided lest your own sparkly fun rainbow life gets a little grey moment in it.

Life is full of light and dark. No one is always a bundle of fun and that includes you.

Having said that....... I allow everyone I know 'a bad hour' a 'bad day' a 'trickier more challenging time in their life.' ..... they are human.

Anyone who is a nasty cunt 100% of the time needs better help than I can give and I do believe in self preservation and will keep my distance.

I have a friend with a very bleak outlook on life yet I enjoy her intelligence and wit and generosity and enjoy cheering her up and making her laugh about herself. She's too good to lose and she's actually kinder than I am. She feels for the witless whereas I have difficulty with that.

I'd prefer her company any day to the morose comments I read or hear from the brain dead who have never had an original idea, are desperate to fit in and follow the crowd and want to tell me about their new curtains...... I really don't give a fuck about anyone's new anything. "

The point of the thread is how draining

Negativity is

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"Seems like everyone who posted before me believes they are a 'tigger' or a 'radiator' ....... delusional.

There will be times when you ARE down in the dumps.

Funny how we get thread after thread after thread about caring about mental health and then all of a sudden ..... those who are down should be avoided lest your own sparkly fun rainbow life gets a little grey moment in it.

Life is full of light and dark. No one is always a bundle of fun and that includes you.

Having said that....... I allow everyone I know 'a bad hour' a 'bad day' a 'trickier more challenging time in their life.' ..... they are human.

I agree wholeheartedly Granny. I wouldn't say I'm either really, I have excitable times and times when I feel very low. That's normal. I'd hate to have to think I constantly have to be up, keeping up a facade in order to prevent people from seeing me as a radiator. That's not how humans work is it?

It’s not but we all work differently. I wouldn’t come on here and post how down in the dumps I was and I don’t particularity like to read it so I avoid those threads. I come on here for a laugh, some post their life stories and that’s fine but it does sometimes get too much and takes the fun away. In which case I’ll disappear for a while. Everyone’s here for different things and I’m sure people get lots of support here. It’s just sometimes it’s literally most of the threads! "

But you have posted before when you've been feeling low, or upset with things that have gone on. Or discussed things that others might see as less fun.

I do understand avoiding certain threads if they're not a right fit for you and the desire to stick to fun threads. I think I'm trying to say it's nuanced and people are. It can be most of the threads, definitely. I post a lot less nowadays for various reasons.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Part of my decision to leave my job was because nearly everyone I worked with was negative. It was draining spending 8 hours in the company of misery.

Out of the frying pan and into the fire being a mod on here lol x"

Lol nah.

Everyone where I worked was ground down by boredom, bad management and uncertainty. Eventually pessimism and misery became the default setting. It was a very difficult atmosphere.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Seems like everyone who posted before me believes they are a 'tigger' or a 'radiator' ....... delusional.

There will be times when you ARE down in the dumps.

Funny how we get thread after thread after thread about caring about mental health and then all of a sudden ..... those who are down should be avoided lest your own sparkly fun rainbow life gets a little grey moment in it.

Life is full of light and dark. No one is always a bundle of fun and that includes you.

Having said that....... I allow everyone I know 'a bad hour' a 'bad day' a 'trickier more challenging time in their life.' ..... they are human.

I agree wholeheartedly Granny. I wouldn't say I'm either really, I have excitable times and times when I feel very low. That's normal. I'd hate to have to think I constantly have to be up, keeping up a facade in order to prevent people from seeing me as a radiator. That's not how humans work is it?

It’s not but we all work differently. I wouldn’t come on here and post how down in the dumps I was and I don’t particularity like to read it so I avoid those threads. I come on here for a laugh, some post their life stories and that’s fine but it does sometimes get too much and takes the fun away. In which case I’ll disappear for a while. Everyone’s here for different things and I’m sure people get lots of support here. It’s just sometimes it’s literally most of the threads!

But you have posted before when you've been feeling low, or upset with things that have gone on. Or discussed things that others might see as less fun.

I do understand avoiding certain threads if they're not a right fit for you and the desire to stick to fun threads. I think I'm trying to say it's nuanced and people are. It can be most of the threads, definitely. I post a lot less nowadays for various reasons. "

I can’t remember posting anything in a serious way. I’m sure many don’t like my threads, In fact I know some don’t. And that’s fine. I’m just saying what I don’t personally like to see and what drains me x

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Seems like everyone who posted before me believes they are a 'tigger' or a 'radiator' ....... delusional.

There will be times when you ARE down in the dumps.

Funny how we get thread after thread after thread about caring about mental health and then all of a sudden ..... those who are down should be avoided lest your own sparkly fun rainbow life gets a little grey moment in it.

Life is full of light and dark. No one is always a bundle of fun and that includes you.

Having said that....... I allow everyone I know 'a bad hour' a 'bad day' a 'trickier more challenging time in their life.' ..... they are human.

I agree wholeheartedly Granny. I wouldn't say I'm either really, I have excitable times and times when I feel very low. That's normal. I'd hate to have to think I constantly have to be up, keeping up a facade in order to prevent people from seeing me as a radiator. That's not how humans work is it?

It’s not but we all work differently. I wouldn’t come on here and post how down in the dumps I was and I don’t particularity like to read it so I avoid those threads. I come on here for a laugh, some post their life stories and that’s fine but it does sometimes get too much and takes the fun away. In which case I’ll disappear for a while. Everyone’s here for different things and I’m sure people get lots of support here. It’s just sometimes it’s literally most of the threads!

But you have posted before when you've been feeling low, or upset with things that have gone on. Or discussed things that others might see as less fun.

I do understand avoiding certain threads if they're not a right fit for you and the desire to stick to fun threads. I think I'm trying to say it's nuanced and people are. It can be most of the threads, definitely. I post a lot less nowadays for various reasons.

I can’t remember posting anything in a serious way. I’m sure many don’t like my threads, In fact I know some don’t. And that’s fine. I’m just saying what I don’t personally like to see and what drains me x"

I like your posting its always fun xxx

You have never once mentioned

Your painful wisdom teeth or gout or rate your bathroom tiles

Xxx

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Seems like everyone who posted before me believes they are a 'tigger' or a 'radiator' ....... delusional.

There will be times when you ARE down in the dumps.

Funny how we get thread after thread after thread about caring about mental health and then all of a sudden ..... those who are down should be avoided lest your own sparkly fun rainbow life gets a little grey moment in it.

Life is full of light and dark. No one is always a bundle of fun and that includes you.

Having said that....... I allow everyone I know 'a bad hour' a 'bad day' a 'trickier more challenging time in their life.' ..... they are human.

I agree wholeheartedly Granny. I wouldn't say I'm either really, I have excitable times and times when I feel very low. That's normal. I'd hate to have to think I constantly have to be up, keeping up a facade in order to prevent people from seeing me as a radiator. That's not how humans work is it?

It’s not but we all work differently. I wouldn’t come on here and post how down in the dumps I was and I don’t particularity like to read it so I avoid those threads. I come on here for a laugh, some post their life stories and that’s fine but it does sometimes get too much and takes the fun away. In which case I’ll disappear for a while. Everyone’s here for different things and I’m sure people get lots of support here. It’s just sometimes it’s literally most of the threads!

But you have posted before when you've been feeling low, or upset with things that have gone on. Or discussed things that others might see as less fun.

I do understand avoiding certain threads if they're not a right fit for you and the desire to stick to fun threads. I think I'm trying to say it's nuanced and people are. It can be most of the threads, definitely. I post a lot less nowadays for various reasons.

I can’t remember posting anything in a serious way. I’m sure many don’t like my threads, In fact I know some don’t. And that’s fine. I’m just saying what I don’t personally like to see and what drains me x

I like your posting its always fun xxx

You have never once mentioned

Your painful wisdom teeth or gout or rate your bathroom tiles

Xxx"

. I’m slacking then!! My bathroom tiles are definitely a 10 though

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Seems like everyone who posted before me believes they are a 'tigger' or a 'radiator' ....... delusional.

There will be times when you ARE down in the dumps.

Funny how we get thread after thread after thread about caring about mental health and then all of a sudden ..... those who are down should be avoided lest your own sparkly fun rainbow life gets a little grey moment in it.

Life is full of light and dark. No one is always a bundle of fun and that includes you.

Having said that....... I allow everyone I know 'a bad hour' a 'bad day' a 'trickier more challenging time in their life.' ..... they are human.

I agree wholeheartedly Granny. I wouldn't say I'm either really, I have excitable times and times when I feel very low. That's normal. I'd hate to have to think I constantly have to be up, keeping up a facade in order to prevent people from seeing me as a radiator. That's not how humans work is it?

It’s not but we all work differently. I wouldn’t come on here and post how down in the dumps I was and I don’t particularity like to read it so I avoid those threads. I come on here for a laugh, some post their life stories and that’s fine but it does sometimes get too much and takes the fun away. In which case I’ll disappear for a while. Everyone’s here for different things and I’m sure people get lots of support here. It’s just sometimes it’s literally most of the threads!

But you have posted before when you've been feeling low, or upset with things that have gone on. Or discussed things that others might see as less fun.

I do understand avoiding certain threads if they're not a right fit for you and the desire to stick to fun threads. I think I'm trying to say it's nuanced and people are. It can be most of the threads, definitely. I post a lot less nowadays for various reasons.

I can’t remember posting anything in a serious way. I’m sure many don’t like my threads, In fact I know some don’t. And that’s fine. I’m just saying what I don’t personally like to see and what drains me x

I like your posting its always fun xxx

You have never once mentioned

Your painful wisdom teeth or gout or rate your bathroom tiles

Xxx

. I’m slacking then!! My bathroom tiles are definitely a 10 though "
your lovely xxx

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Some people are just natural mood hovers my sister is one! I'm totally the opposite nowt as queer as folk x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i agree wholeheartedly Granny. I wouldn't say I'm either really, I have excitable times and times when I feel very low. That's normal. I'd hate to have to think I constantly have to be up, keeping up a facade in order to prevent people from seeing me as a radiator. That's not how humans work is it? "

But I don't think its about putting on a facade - i think its more about your impact on others (and yourself) when you are in that state. I would encourage everyone to be their authentic self

The way i see it, is that radiators have a natural, positive outlook on life and are able to spin the negative into a positive - for themselves and more importantly for others..but its not about a pretense of happiness - that is a whole different topic. In fact i think you can be a tremendous radiator, but be in the depths of despair

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"i agree wholeheartedly Granny. I wouldn't say I'm either really, I have excitable times and times when I feel very low. That's normal. I'd hate to have to think I constantly have to be up, keeping up a facade in order to prevent people from seeing me as a radiator. That's not how humans work is it?

But I don't think its about putting on a facade - i think its more about your impact on others (and yourself) when you are in that state. I would encourage everyone to be their authentic self

The way i see it, is that radiators have a natural, positive outlook on life and are able to spin the negative into a positive - for themselves and more importantly for others..but its not about a pretense of happiness - that is a whole different topic. In fact i think you can be a tremendous radiator, but be in the depths of despair "

Ah my post was meant to say hoover rather than radiator.

I do understand the concept of hoover/radiator - I normally use the term energy vampire, like a Colin Robinson. I don't think you can be a true radiator in the depths of despair because it wouldn't resonate in the right way. It can be sensed.

Having typed all this though, I do see what you're saying Midnight!

And I'm maybe thinking I should post more banal fun.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"i agree wholeheartedly Granny. I wouldn't say I'm either really, I have excitable times and times when I feel very low. That's normal. I'd hate to have to think I constantly have to be up, keeping up a facade in order to prevent people from seeing me as a radiator. That's not how humans work is it?

But I don't think its about putting on a facade - i think its more about your impact on others (and yourself) when you are in that state. I would encourage everyone to be their authentic self

The way i see it, is that radiators have a natural, positive outlook on life and are able to spin the negative into a positive - for themselves and more importantly for others..but its not about a pretense of happiness - that is a whole different topic. In fact i think you can be a tremendous radiator, but be in the depths of despair

Ah my post was meant to say hoover rather than radiator.

I do understand the concept of hoover/radiator - I normally use the term energy vampire, like a Colin Robinson. I don't think you can be a true radiator in the depths of despair because it wouldn't resonate in the right way. It can be sensed.

Having typed all this though, I do see what you're saying Midnight!

And I'm maybe thinking I should post more banal fun. "

Or anal

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

Can't wait to see the newest Colin Robinson! Bring on the next series I say!!

Gabt

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"

And I'm maybe thinking I should post more banal fun.

Or anal "

I already have a stick up my arse as it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are there people who are positive and happy all the time??

Those kind of people freak me out.

I had a friend who proclaimed to be one of those people, when in reality his was hiding very deep pain.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i agree wholeheartedly Granny. I wouldn't say I'm either really, I have excitable times and times when I feel very low. That's normal. I'd hate to have to think I constantly have to be up, keeping up a facade in order to prevent people from seeing me as a radiator. That's not how humans work is it?

But I don't think its about putting on a facade - i think its more about your impact on others (and yourself) when you are in that state. I would encourage everyone to be their authentic self

The way i see it, is that radiators have a natural, positive outlook on life and are able to spin the negative into a positive - for themselves and more importantly for others..but its not about a pretense of happiness - that is a whole different topic. In fact i think you can be a tremendous radiator, but be in the depths of despair

Ah my post was meant to say hoover rather than radiator.

I do understand the concept of hoover/radiator - I normally use the term energy vampire, like a Colin Robinson. I don't think you can be a true radiator in the depths of despair because it wouldn't resonate in the right way. It can be sensed.

Having typed all this though, I do see what you're saying Midnight!

And I'm maybe thinking I should post more banal fun. "

well that would have saved me 7 mins of my life tapping on my tiny phone screen

How about Robin Williams?? Apparently very positive in his daily interactions and described as a radiator but still took his own life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are there people who are positive and happy all the time??

Those kind of people freak me out.

I had a friend who proclaimed to be one of those people, when in reality his was hiding very deep pain.

"

I think you answered your own question? Some people are very good at how they present themselves to the world but shield what they are feeling /thinking. You probably described half the population

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah… you worked in the same organisation as me!! Small world..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there is a difference between poor mental health and being a negative person. I am usually a positive person, sure I can be cynical about others and life in general but when I think about my own feelings I'm usually up-beat. That didn't stop me going through a bout of depression - though it may well have helped limit that period. In just the same way a person who is constantly negative may not be dealing with MH issues, they just have a negative personality.

We all tend to judge others based on how we see things, how we experience life and how we react so when we meet people like this we assume that they could be like us but are choosing not to be. The reality is very different, the free will we believe has allowed us to make ourselves into the people we are is, in all probability, an illusion. We are the way we are as a product of things that to a large extent are outside our control - genetics and environment. Someone who is instinctively negative likely has no more chance of changing than you or I have of becoming a virtuoso pianist - we could put in hours and hours of practice and achieve a reasonable degree of competency but no matter how hard we try we will never be as good as those blessed with the "right" genes.

I tend to feel sorry for people who are relentlessly negative because if I felt like that I would be really miserable but presumably for them it feels normal which makes me wonder how I would even know if I was like that?

Mr

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over a year ago

You know that friend who always rings up to complain,yet refuses to do anything about the situation or take any action to better themselves?

Yes you do..

And you always answer don't you..

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over a year ago

Some very interesting posts! Food for thought indeed.

I do think there is a difference between having a bad day, time in your life, being in a mood, feeling sad, having depression, personality disorder or a mental health issue and someone who is a mood hoover.

What do I know I’m off to soak in a crystal bath and recharge my energy

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Seems like everyone who posted before me believes they are a 'tigger' or a 'radiator' ....... delusional.

There will be times when you ARE down in the dumps.

Funny how we get thread after thread after thread about caring about mental health and then all of a sudden ..... those who are down should be avoided lest your own sparkly fun rainbow life gets a little grey moment in it.

Life is full of light and dark. No one is always a bundle of fun and that includes you.

Having said that....... I allow everyone I know 'a bad hour' a 'bad day' a 'trickier more challenging time in their life.' ..... they are human.

Anyone who is a nasty cunt 100% of the time needs better help than I can give and I do believe in self preservation and will keep my distance.

I have a friend with a very bleak outlook on life yet I enjoy her intelligence and wit and generosity and enjoy cheering her up and making her laugh about herself. She's too good to lose and she's actually kinder than I am. She feels for the witless whereas I have difficulty with that.

I'd prefer her company any day to the morose comments I read or hear from the brain dead who have never had an original idea, are desperate to fit in and follow the crowd and want to tell me about their new curtains...... I really don't give a fuck about anyone's new anything.

The point of the thread is how draining

Negativity is"

I read the O.P.

I understood the O.P.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"How do you deal with them? You know the type! The ones who are always negative, suck the life out of you. Can change the atmosphere in a room in a blink of an eye. They just hover up your good vibes, bring your mood down and make you feel crappie for being happy?

What do you call those types of people, toxic vampires, negative nellies, energy vampires?

Sorry for being negative and bringing the mood down "

Oh crikey - sorry, I'll get me coat.

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over a year ago


"How do you deal with them? You know the type! The ones who are always negative, suck the life out of you. Can change the atmosphere in a room in a blink of an eye. They just hover up your good vibes, bring your mood down and make you feel crappie for being happy?

What do you call those types of people, toxic vampires, negative nellies, energy vampires?

Sorry for being negative and bringing the mood down "

Fun sponge!! Which sounds so cute it immediately starts counter acting the negative vibes! Duel effects, like a strepsil

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over a year ago

Dementors!

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I cut them out of my life.

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By *ackdaw52Man
over a year ago

Chesterfield

I seem to have this effect on people but it's completely unintentional.

Everyone is laughing and having fun but the mood changes when I appear.

I don't know why because I like to share laughs and be silly sometimes.

It's hurtful to know that the only way to make sure everyone is having a good time is to leave them alone.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"I seem to have this effect on people but it's completely unintentional.

Everyone is laughing and having fun but the mood changes when I appear.

I don't know why because I like to share laughs and be silly sometimes.

It's hurtful to know that the only way to make sure everyone is having a good time is to leave them alone."

I don't believe that

You seem lovely

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over a year ago


"I seem to have this effect on people but it's completely unintentional.

Everyone is laughing and having fun but the mood changes when I appear.

I don't know why because I like to share laughs and be silly sometimes.

It's hurtful to know that the only way to make sure everyone is having a good time is to leave them alone."

Honestly we all tend to massively overestimate the impact we have on others. If you're not making negative comments, saying negative things about yourself, others or the situation then you really aren't having this effect even if you believe it. Unfortunately negativity can be self fulfilling, if you believe you're a negative person you'll make negative comments (like the one you posted on this thread about yourself) and that then portrays you as a negative person and justifies your statement. There's an old saying, if you have nothing nice to say then say nothing and it works incredibly well. If you only speak to say positive things about yourself and others then you will not be seen as a negative person.

Mr

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By *ackdaw52Man
over a year ago

Chesterfield

I try not to say any negative things, I think it's more down to difficulties in communication.

I'm very stoic and unreactive. I rarely smile or laugh even if I find something funny. I'm a stand up comedian's nightmare.

Conversely I find it difficult to read people and tell if they are joking or not, so it's hard to know how to respond.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

I very pleasant and overly nice to them. Because when they flip, they'll hopefully spare me...

Though to be fair I'd rather avoid people at the other end of the spectrum, those people that declare themselves 'fun' and 'crazy'.

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over a year ago


"Seems like everyone who posted before me believes they are a 'tigger' or a 'radiator' ....... delusional.

There will be times when you ARE down in the dumps.

Funny how we get thread after thread after thread about caring about mental health and then all of a sudden ..... those who are down should be avoided lest your own sparkly fun rainbow life gets a little grey moment in it.

Life is full of light and dark. No one is always a bundle of fun and that includes you.

Having said that....... I allow everyone I know 'a bad hour' a 'bad day' a 'trickier more challenging time in their life.' ..... they are human.

Anyone who is a nasty cunt 100% of the time needs better help than I can give and I do believe in self preservation and will keep my distance.

I have a friend with a very bleak outlook on life yet I enjoy her intelligence and wit and generosity and enjoy cheering her up and making her laugh about herself. She's too good to lose and she's actually kinder than I am. She feels for the witless whereas I have difficulty with that.

I'd prefer her company any day to the morose comments I read or hear from the brain dead who have never had an original idea, are desperate to fit in and follow the crowd and want to tell me about their new curtains...... I really don't give a fuck about anyone's new anything. "

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