FabSwingers.com forum: why?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

why do ppl who u have problems with but told them not to mail back insist on blocking, or ppl u just ak a simple question. lol. rude. lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just one of those things, accept and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they block you I'd surmise it's because they don't want you looking at their profile or contacting them.

Just a guess though.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Confused!

If you have a problem and have asked them not to mail you and they block you (in order not to contact you): why are you checking their profile, and how is that rude?

Your idea of a simple question could be a pain in the arse to the recipient. For example I receive "how are you fancy a chat?" type messages from men in Edinburgh...my profile says local. What's the point?

"Rude" gets bandied around on these forums frequently: usually by petulant people with a sense of entitlement!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Confused!

If you have a problem and have asked them not to mail you and they block you (in order not to contact you): why are you checking their profile, and how is that rude?

"Rude" gets bandied around on these forums frequently: usually by petulant people with a sense of entitlement!

OMG! You have totally not answered that question the way I think you should! How rude!!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Confused!

If you have a problem and have asked them not to mail you and they block you (in order not to contact you): why are you checking their profile, and how is that rude?

"Rude" gets bandied around on these forums frequently: usually by petulant people with a sense of entitlement!

OMG! You have totally not answered that question the way I think you should! How rude!!

My bad!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

what i mean is i ask not to mail back as im not a rude blocker then they mail me with something bad and block me before i can even answer, i said nothing about checking profile.

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By *reenonionsMan
over a year ago

Nr Exeter

Prob because they are a wave short of a shipwreck, a can short of a six pack.

Its people with opinions it seems are the issue.

In the words of Kenny Everett - round em up, put em in a field and bomb the bastards!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

wow, i didnt really think that when i posted a comment i would be insulted, lol, think thats my last. always thought a forum would be a friendly place. ah well guess im just naive. sorry guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"what i mean is i ask not to mail back as im not a rude blocker then they mail me with something bad and block me before i can even answer, i said nothing about checking profile. "

Maybe they think saying don't message me back is rude. Who are made you the manners police? Or is messaging and blocking etiquette covered in Debrett's and I missed it somehow?

The block function is a site option for people to use as they wish. You use it however you like but, unfortunately for you, your way isn't the only way.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

k, thx.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"wow, i didnt really think that when i posted a comment i would be insulted, lol, think thats my last. always thought a forum would be a friendly place. ah well guess im just naive. sorry guys."

Again with the tantrum when people don't agree with you, just like when they don't abide by your rules for messaging and blocking.

Nobody has to agree with you. Nobody has to use their account the way you say.

So much butthurt over by being blocked by people you don't want to hear from anyway! How about using that energy to find people you do want to talk to?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

By the way, please feel free to point out where anyone insulted you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

wow, honestly i made a comment and got attacked over it, lol. these ppl were rude to me first i was saying dont mail me back as i didnt want anymore grief and then got more and they then blocked me when i couldnt defend myself. sorry if im a bad person. lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

by the way kinky it wasnt u who i was saying insulted me, why the personal attack?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

i felt insulted by this comment if u want the actual one, lol. "Rude" gets bandied around on these forums frequently: usually by petulant people with a sense of entitlement" as it was me who used the word rude its must have been me who was called petulant with a sense of entitlement. again sorry ppl, i had a bad experience tonight with a member and aired and then got shot down for it. really sorry all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"by the way kinky it wasnt u who i was saying insulted me, why the personal attack?"

Where was I personal? Seriously, show me the insult.

I disagreed with your viewpoint and pointed out that you are not in charge of how anyone else uses the site.

Apparently disagreeing with you constitutes a "personal attack".

If someone said "you are so (insert insulting word here)", that's a personal insult. Telling you that you don't get to dictate how others behave isn't.

Unless I've missed it, I see no personal insult here. Please point it out.

Really though expecting everyone to agree with you on a forum is much the same as expecting people to not message you when you tell them to, and not to block you because you don't think they should!

Did you really expect everyone to be aghast and tell you how dreadful those nasty people who blocked you are?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

wow, are u bored or what. do u get a kick out of this. wish i had never bothered. never came across a person like you before, you just crack me up, dont think i can sleep now without laughing out loud. lol, i tried to mail you to explain that i wasnt being personal to you but wahey u blocked me. thats just excellent. lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i felt insulted by this comment if u want the actual one, lol. "Rude" gets bandied around on these forums frequently: usually by petulant people with a sense of entitlement" as it was me who used the word rude its must have been me who was called petulant with a sense of entitlement. again sorry ppl, i had a bad experience tonight with a member and aired and then got shot down for it. really sorry all."

Whoa, way oversensitive!

Had it been said "you are petulant and entitled" that would be a personal insult.

Saying petulant people who are entitled use the word rude on the forum a lot in no way means that everyone who uses the word rude is petulant and entitled. You weren't mentioned at all! A personal insult needs to be actually directed at you for it to be personal.

Try the analogy 'the sky is blue, but not everything blue is the sky'.

Tbh I think you are being a bit too sensitive here and too sensitive about who blocks you. You have the option to block too, and it's your choice whether to use it or not. Either way, forget the people who don't want to talk to you and concentrate on those who do.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

your way to clever for me with these big lengthy replies. pls draw a line and stay on the other side.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do I get a kick out of this? No. I actually happen to disagree with you.

And I'm merely responding to your posts which, so far, I have also disagreed with.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"your way to clever for me with these big lengthy replies. pls draw a line and stay on the other side. "

There you go again. "I don't like you disagreeing with me so please stop responding to my posts".

A bit like "I don't like what you are saying, please don't message me again".

You don't get to decide who replies to a forum post either, sorry.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

lol. your spending sooo much time typing out huge answers your missing the posts inbetween and answering 2 posts back. he he

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"lol. your spending sooo much time typing out huge answers your missing the posts inbetween and answering 2 posts back. he he"

That's ok, I have plenty of time to address them whilst you carry on giving me more to reply to.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

lol. i get the impression u like to have the last word. your not nice are you? trying your best to make others look negative.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You should probably be grateful that someone is replying to you because I bet you'd think it was rude if people had totally ignored you.

Perhaps you should have written in your first post that you only want comments from people who agree with you.

Incidentally, if you've had a "bad experience" and someone was abusive to you in a message, you should report it to admin using the report link. That way it can be looked at and dealt with appropriately. Posting on the forum about it is not the way to get it dealt with.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

ok. no probs will take it on board and move on, but im guessing your gonna get your last word in anyway. lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"lol. i get the impression u like to have the last word. your not nice are you? trying your best to make others look negative."

And you aren't trying to have the last word? lol

You're the one giving me more to reply to.

I'm not nice? Not me bitching about people on a forum rather than following the proper course of action!

I thought this was entertaining you anyway. How can I be entertaining you and not being nice?

I even gave you advice which you chose to ignore. Up to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"ok. no probs will take it on board and move on, but im guessing your gonna get your last word in anyway. lol"

Depends whether you keep trying.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

there you go girl, u get it all of your chest. lol. am off to bed so chat in morning. nighty night.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"there you go girl, u get it all of your chest. lol. am off to bed so chat in morning. nighty night.

Night night, Mr I Am Definitely Not Trying To Have The Last Word

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

im not. he he. honestly nighty night this time can talk positively in morn. shame u blocked me u seem lovely. lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So it's really night night this time then?

You hang up first.

No you hang up first.

No, you hang up first.

Etc. etc.

I'm not very nice but I seem lovely?

Oooooooookay.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

no u hang u first. love ya. the lovely bit was sarcastic. lol. honestly im hanging up. talk soon gorgeous. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"no u hang u first. love ya. the lovely bit was sarcastic. lol. honestly im hanging up. talk soon gorgeous. x"

Sure you are...

Thing is, I'm not going to pretend to agree with someone just because they might call me a great big meanie head otherwise. Doesn't bother me in the slightest what an anonymous bunch of pixels on the net thinks of me.

If you plan to arrange meets here, you're going to have to get used to people blocking you. It happens, tantrums or no.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I didn't make it personal, but you've proved my point. You've come across as a petulant child in the throes of a temper tantrum...grow up!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn't make it personal, but you've proved my point. You've come across as a petulant child in the throes of a temper tantrum...grow up!

Oh goodness. That probably makes you a great big meanie head too.

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

Heh, I''ve been working the graveyard shift tonight and was starting to struggle to stay awake but this thread has been great entertainment

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I didn't make it personal, but you've proved my point. You've come across as a petulant child in the throes of a temper tantrum...grow up!

Oh goodness. That probably makes you a great big meanie head too.

I fear it might...oh well!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"wow, honestly i made a comment and got attacked over it, lol. these ppl were rude to me first i was saying dont mail me back as i didnt want anymore grief and then got more and they then blocked me when i couldnt defend myself. sorry if im a bad person. lol"

So why didn't you report them in the first place then? And the reason they blocked you is because they didn't want you messaging them back!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"im not. he he. honestly nighty night this time can talk positively in morn. shame u blocked me u seem lovely. lol"

Given your behaviour on this thread, I can see why

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

"what i mean is i ask not to mail back as im not a rude blocker then they mail me with something bad and block me before i can even answer, i said nothing about checking profile. "

This post confused me. Why is it rude to block someone? I think it's more rude to tell someone to not reply than it is to block someone... and it's less effective too, as you found out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"what i mean is i ask not to mail back as im not a rude blocker then they mail me with something bad and block me before i can even answer, i said nothing about checking profile.

This post confused me. Why is it rude to block someone? I think it's more rude to tell someone to not reply than it is to block someone... and it's less effective too, as you found out."

It is not rude to reply to someone who is rude to you, unless you reply in the manner they sent you, and lets not forget we only have one side of the story

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah... I'd block you too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah... I'd block you too"

Is that your last word...?

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

"what i mean is i ask not to mail back as im not a rude blocker then they mail me with something bad and block me before i can even answer, i said nothing about checking profile.

This post confused me. Why is it rude to block someone? I think it's more rude to tell someone to not reply than it is to block someone... and it's less effective too, as you found out.

It is not rude to reply to someone who is rude to you, unless you reply in the manner they sent you, and lets not forget we only have one side of the story"

Yeah I don't consider it rude... but I couldn't understand why he said he "I ask not to mail back as I'm not a rude blocker".

I've blocked and been blocked. In neither case did I see blocking as a rude gesture.

I don't mind being blocked... at least you know where you stand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

^ blocked ^ lol

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

"^ blocked ^ lol "

Waaaaaah, why'd you go and do that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"^ blocked ^ lol "

^ Senokot ^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"^ blocked ^ lol

^ Senokot ^

A cup of coffee works wonders after an Indian takeaway the night before lol

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

Kinky - just curious but did you end up shagging him in the end ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I had written to someone telling them not to contact me again I would have blocked them at the same time anyway

Not rude - common sense !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Kinky - just curious but did you end up shagging him in the end ?

Lmao!....I just fired coffee out of my nose after reading that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"^ blocked ^ lol

^ Senokot ^

A cup of coffee works wonders after an Indian takeaway the night before lol

My last Indian takeaway made me coffee the morning after...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Lol. It was me who got bad mail, then I asked not to mail me and then they did with a horrible mail but at this point I couldn't defend myself at all as they blocked me, I never said or done anything wrong, lol. Guess I'm just a bad man for trying to defend against comments in a mail that weren't true. Thankyou all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Kinky - just curious but did you end up shagging him in the end ?

Meet? Oh we dont meet..official timewaster we are lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lol. It was me who got bad mail, then I asked not to mail me and then they did with a horrible mail but at this point I couldn't defend myself at all as they blocked me, I never said or done anything wrong, lol. Guess I'm just a bad man for trying to defend against comments in a mail that weren't true. Thankyou all.

No you are not but its a pointless exercise as they perhaps were doing it for fun and to wind you up, which they succeeded in doing so. Next time, report, block and move on, no point in crying over spilt milk

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

By the way I'm not in a temper tantrum,lol, just made a comment and realised this is like being thrown to the lions, I actually started enjoying myself here, lots of fun, lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thx kinky kitten . I know next time, lol. Never air your opinion in a forum, he he, it's like the firing squad here, lol. X

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

If someone sends you bad mail you are perpetuating it by replying.

Report any offensive mail and block them so they can't send more.

Can I suggest you read the hints and tips? It tells you that not replying is not rude. And blocking is not rude it is simply a site tool.

However posting in an open forum then asking people not to post again since you don't like their reply is foolhardy and petulant. Take a look at some other threads, irony and sarcasm are alive and well. As is common sense.

You got genuine answers to your question, you simply didn't get the answers you wanted.

I also suggest you read the forum rules, as you have actually crossed some lines and possibly broken some.

Oh and you're not supposed to use the forum to ask people why they've blocked you...

But I can tell you that many forumites will see the tone and tenor of someone's posts and decide that they don't want to receive and contact from that person in the future.

Good luck on the site and I hope you manage to take it a little less personally.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The person who blocked me isn't on here, don't know what your talking about. Sorry

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

But in more than one post you have drawn attention to the fact that a forumite has blocked you.

Anyway, I said my piece and am not going to get drawn into a tit for tat dialogue.

Again: open forum = replies you have no control over.

Some may even mention sausages...

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"But in more than one post you have drawn attention to the fact that a forumite has blocked you.

Anyway, I said my piece and am not going to get drawn into a tit for tat dialogue.

Again: open forum = replies you have no control over.

Some may even mention sausages..."

Think you're wasting your time here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Sorry, maybe it came over that way but was really just trying to have a little fun as felt a bit attacked, lol. It's my first time in a forum and never realised its so cutthroat, sorry if I have upset anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The person who blocked me isn't on here, don't know what your talking about. Sorry "

Think your pants might be on fire there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry, maybe it came over that way but was really just trying to have a little fun as felt a bit attacked, lol. It's my first time in a forum and never realised its so cutthroat, sorry if I have upset anyone."

No one was attacking you, just giving you their opinion

You'll need to toughen up and learn to just roll with the punches on here, it is after all just nsa fun

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Lol. They have been totally burnt off, lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well I've been beat, by all you clever ppl, nice to see the school bullies still exist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Throwing toys out of a pram is not attractive.

Accept and move on, or you'll risk digging a very big hole for yourself until the roof collapse!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I've been beat, by all you clever ppl, nice to see the school bullies still exist."

Being clever does not equate to being a bully!

And no one has bullied you, but you are showing a great sign of your maturity with your posts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mate, you're really going to need to develop a thick skin and learn to relax if you want to succeed on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"wow, i didnt really think that when i posted a comment i would be insulted, lol, think thats my last. always thought a forum would be a friendly place. ah well guess im just naive. sorry guys."
I have said on more than one occassion its a place not for the faint hearted! Accept you are one of fifteen thousand single (or purport to be) guys on FAB and that people can pick or choose what they do say or dont as the case maybe. Its just a fact of FAB life. I would advise that you do not take it personal and move on!

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

"Well I've been beat, by all you clever ppl, nice to see the school bullies still exist."

Where has there been any bullying towards you? Just because people disagree with you doesn't mean they're bullying you.

I've seen people get (deservedly) flamed much worse for posting things on here. You've not been bullied, in my opinion, but simply didn't get the reactions you were hoping for. At least people on the forums know your name now though, so it's not all bad, eh?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What i think the op is trying to say, he thinks its 'rude' if someone sends a derogatory msg and then blocks the recipient before they can even reply! Tho i may be wrong!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thankyou v much, I wasn't gonna post on here again but yes that's exactly what I meant and have been roasted for it, again glad to hear you got it.

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

"What i think the op is trying to say, he thinks its 'rude' if someone sends a derogatory msg and then blocks the recipient before they can even reply! Tho i may be wrong!"

After he has sent them a message saying "you're not nice don't ever mail me again".

And since he's far too polite and nice to ever block anyone he is deeply affronted why they block him!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What i think the op is trying to say, he thinks its 'rude' if someone sends a derogatory msg and then blocks the recipient before they can even reply! Tho i may be wrong!

After he has sent them a message saying "you're not nice don't ever mail me again".

And since he's far too polite and nice to ever block anyone he is deeply affronted why they block him!

well, as i said, i may be wrong!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What i think the op is trying to say, he thinks its 'rude' if someone sends a derogatory msg and then blocks the recipient before they can even reply! Tho i may be wrong!

After he has sent them a message saying "you're not nice don't ever mail me again".

And since he's far too polite and nice to ever block anyone he is deeply affronted why they block him!

well, as i said, i may be wrong!

Can I frame that?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've never mailed anyone saying they are not nice, that was just a comment on here as a joke . The ppl I originally posted about aren't on this forum. I mailed these ppl to say not to mail as they were sending me mail accusing me of things nastily, then they sent an accusation I could not respond and defend myself against as they blocked me. Again can I just say they are not on this forum and I would not name that as its against rules. I made a comment and have had a hate team on me on here since. Thankyou for that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What i think the op is trying to say, he thinks its 'rude' if someone sends a derogatory msg and then blocks the recipient before they can even reply! Tho i may be wrong!

After he has sent them a message saying "you're not nice don't ever mail me again".

And since he's far too polite and nice to ever block anyone he is deeply affronted why they block him!

well, as i said, i may be wrong!

Can I frame that?

Lol,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The person who blocked me isn't on here, don't know what your talking about. Sorry "

Yes she is, she is towards the top of your thread, another kinky person whom you said was nice but she had blocked you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you don't want to hear from somebody again, use the block tool, simples. I think the op has had a very steep learning curve here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've never mailed anyone saying they are not nice, that was just a comment on here as a joke . The ppl I originally posted about aren't on this forum. I mailed these ppl to say not to mail as they were sending me mail accusing me of things nastily, then they sent an accusation I could not respond and defend myself against as they blocked me. Again can I just say they are not on this forum and I would not name that as its against rules. I made a comment and have had a hate team on me on here since. Thankyou for that"

I think I'd quit while you are ahead

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Kinky that wax just a little dig as I tried to nip it all in the bud and she blocked me lol. I was trying to reply on here in pvt, she wasn't the original person this was all about, we were just being cheeky to each other , and I was just being sarcastic, sorry if I have confused ppl but she wasn't the one. Pls anyone reading understand it wasn't about kinky I dint know her till this forum thread. Thx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am afraid that the OP has been treated poorly in this forum. That said I was banned for 24 hours because I dared to disagree with a FAB Forum junkie. It seems that if a person has a point they should not be subject to this kind of treatment. As I see the post there was nothing offensive or derogatory in the narrative and was in my opinion a question

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Your original post was a complaint about why do people you (already) have a problem with reply to your 'don't mail me again' message with something unpleasant and then block you so you can't reply.

And that you are not so rude as to block them.

1) Blocking is not rude it's a site tool. Its a handy way to ensure people you have a problem with don't mail you or appear in any searches.

2) If you receive rude, offensive or bullying messages don't engage in a debate and escalate the issue, report to admin and step away with your dignity.

3) You didn't want further messages with this person/people so why would being blocked annoy you other than you not being able to have the last word? Have you got a fixation with having the last word? Are you convinced that noone else's word is good enough to be the last one?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thankyou, can I just say without giving anything away, the email I couldn't answer and was blocked from could potentially affect my life as they are local to me, that's why I needed to reply and sort . They seem to know me and I don't know them, which really worries me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I said not to email when they were being offensive, then I got a mail naming me in real life and then the block, that's why I needed to reply as I wanted to defend myself, when someone seems to know you it's not sensible to report them as this could cause problems in real life and affect it a lot. Like I said they seem to know me. Thx and pls accept any apologies if I have confused an upset anyone.

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I said not to email when they were being offensive, then I got a mail naming me in real life and then the block, that's why I needed to reply as I wanted to defend myself, when someone seems to know you it's not sensible to report them as this could cause problems in real life and affect it a lot. Like I said they seem to know me. Thx and pls accept any apologies if I have confused an upset anyone."

You have no grounds to report them though, just because you suspect the know you in real life, does not mean you can report them.

I'd try not to worry about it.

Unless you are trying to defend yourself so that they don't tell your wife/partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When one has nothing to hide, one has nothing to fear.

So true!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You should really have outlined that in your original post.

Also, if you were worried things would escalate if you reported them, imagine what could happen when they discover you've been discussing it in an open forum!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

to the op...you really do have to have a thick skin and take the good with the bad regarding chats,blocks,meets,forum comments etc. You are absolutely entitled to your opinion, as is everybody else on the forums; some will agree or disagree, but in my opinion, if you take disagreeable comments personally, you're on a hiding to nothing. I like to think of it as constructive criticism - use it and learn from it - after all, its meant to be fun!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

They contacted me and when I mailed politely showing no interest they got nasty and then like I have sent accusations and left me blocked and not able to sort it. It's worrying when you need to defend yourself to protect your outside life, again sorry all if I never explained myself. Reporting will not fix this but I feel will make it worse, I think I may just leave site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you still have the message in your inbox, where they have named you, report it to admin, that you are concerned. I'm assuming you are concerned that they will say something to your wife.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Can I just say to Julie, it's not just wife, it's my family, we all like to keep swinging behind closed ish doors, lol. I like to think my sex life is my sex life and not to upset my family members with. Thx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am afraid that the OP has been treated poorly in this forum. That said I was banned for 24 hours because I dared to disagree with a FAB Forum junkie. It seems that if a person has a point they should not be subject to this kind of treatment. As I see the post there was nothing offensive or derogatory in the narrative and was in my opinion a question"

It happens all the time.

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

You do realise that if you had explained that instead of just having a rant about being blocked and rude messages that you would have received far more constructive advice?

I would use a message they sent you to block them in return. That way they cannot monitor your profile and check your friends list or status or verifications to keep track of you.

It may be a concern that they seem to know you, but you have to weigh up how comfortable you are with that and if you feel you have anything to hide/lose. If you do then you may want to consider shutting down your profile and reopening a new one using different pics. If you do that your first action should be to block these people so they can't see your new profile.

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Btw admin never tell who or why someone has been reporte

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over a year ago

"Can I just say to Julie, it's not just wife, it's my family, we all like to keep swinging behind closed ish doors, lol. I like to think my sex life is my sex life and not to upset my family members with. Thx "

No problem and don't feel like you have to justify yourself to anyone on here.

But I really hate to say it, leaving the site will not stop the person from telling anyone.

Really as I said try not to worry about it, they are also on the site so could risk you exposing them.

Just enjoy and keep your chin up

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thx tempting, I'm gonna just put it to one side, sorry if I didn't explain to we'll but didn't wanna give loads away at first and didn't realise what this forum would set off, lol. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In all honestly, your profile states you are married, so assuming you are playing without the wifes consent (maybe wrong on this).

But playing behind her back will always be a risk, and that risk could break up family life.

Closing your profile wont make it any less a risk, if you continue to use this or any other sites to play without wife knowing.

Basically, guess I'm trying to say, its a risk you married men take.

Although the people that messaged you should not send abusive messages or name you, can only blame yourself if your wife and family find out, no one forces you to play behind partners back.

No doubt I will get shouted at for posting this, just my opinion, everyone has there own opinions, be it right or wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You do realise that if you had explained that instead of just having a rant about being blocked and rude messages that you would have received far more constructive advice?

I would use a message they sent you to block them in return. That way they cannot monitor your profile and check your friends list or status or verifications to keep track of you.

Good advice........I would still report to admin too. I think these last few replies to the op, are the ones he was hoping for. I can only imagine how worrying it would be if somebody played the 'I know who you are' mind game, especially if they're a married 'single'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thx tempting, I'm gonna just put it to one side, sorry if I didn't explain to we'll but didn't wanna give loads away at first and didn't realise what this forum would set off, lol. X"

Stick around, you might enjoy it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thx Julie. Will try. Lol. Keep me chin up, lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've enjoyed a lot of things here, lol. Just a shame ppl need to spoil it for me, just one of the costs of being a sex fiend I suppose, lol. Kidding. He he

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over a year ago

"You do realise that if you had explained that instead of just having a rant about being blocked and rude messages that you would have received far more constructive advice?

I would use a message they sent you to block them in return. That way they cannot monitor your profile and check your friends list or status or verifications to keep track of you.

Loving the last few posts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've enjoyed a lot of things here, lol. Just a shame ppl need to spoil it for me, just one of the costs of being a sex fiend I suppose, lol. Kidding. He he"

So, take a step back, deep breath and start again!! Think happy thoughts!

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

Mmmkay this extra information does change my opinion. I wasn't aware of the context from reading the op.

TemptingDevil's advice sounds good to me.

Hope you get this sorted as soon as possible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Question to woorkyguy , do you and kinky know each other outside of the forums ?

Just a thought because I know several couples who would quite happily stay up all night arguing to make sure they got the last word in !

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Lol, I don't know her. Thx all for positive comments, finally I have got out what I should have said at first, I need to learn a thing or 2. Lol

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

If they have sent offensive messages you should report and leave it to admin. If they are prepared to send them to you they will be prepared to send them to others.

If you are not sure if they are bad enough then say that. You can also mention that they know your real world identity and have used it to bully/blackmail/intimidate you.

Bad apples will only turn the whole barrel rotten if we let them. Whether or not any on the forum agree or disagree with married people being here as singles without their oh knowledge the attempt to use real world details to intimidate, manipulate and bully people on the site is far more of a concern. I'd they were truly worried about the state of you marriage there are other, more sympathetic and constructive methods.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Time to try and put it behind me as its out of my hands, lol. Probs go mental passing ppl in street and thinking ."do they know my little secret" lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Tempting, I can't afford any hassle to my life and how it affects my family especially, so to report wouldn't help and may make it worse if they do know me. Fabswingers has no control of life outside it. Thx anyway for advise.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Well unless you sent them a face picture they would have to know you pretty well as you got a cock picture on your profile.

Have you seriously thought whether you should be on here or not if you have so much to loose in the "real" world, if someone knows your on here

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Tempting, I can't afford any hassle to my life and how it affects my family especially, so to report wouldn't help and may make it worse if they do know me. Fabswingers has no control of life outside it. Thx anyway for advise."

So they are on Fab. Hmmm...I'm saying nothing further...

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