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"Depends how you define kinky surely? A very subjective term/" Exactly, that is what I thought. But people use the term and I was just curious what (most) people consider "kinky" ? | |||
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"Well, to some people anal is considered the height of kink, others consider that to be fairly tame. Personally, I've not found anything that I don't enjoy, so I consider it all to be normal." People with parrots are highly suspicious though  | |||
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"Depends how you define kinky surely? A very subjective term/Exactly, that is what I thought. But people use the term and I was just curious what (most) people consider "kinky" ? " My personal thought when I see someone describing themselves as kinky is similar to hearing someone describe themselves as whacky - they almost certainly aren't. | |||
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"Well, to some people anal is considered the height of kink, others consider that to be fairly tame. Personally, I've not found anything that I don't enjoy, so I consider it all to be normal.People with parrots are highly suspicious though "Hide your gerbils!  | |||
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"Depends how you define kinky surely? A very subjective term/Exactly, that is what I thought. But people use the term and I was just curious what (most) people consider "kinky" ? My personal thought when I see someone describing themselves as kinky is similar to hearing someone describe themselves as whacky - they almost certainly aren't. " My toy bag and photos of my play sessions would suggest I am the exception to prove the rule. | |||
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"Depends how you define kinky surely? A very subjective term/Exactly, that is what I thought. But people use the term and I was just curious what (most) people consider "kinky" ? My personal thought when I see someone describing themselves as kinky is similar to hearing someone describe themselves as whacky - they almost certainly aren't. " That is really interesting - I am really just curious what defines "kinky" - to me some (not all of the BDSM scene appears kinky. Having said that "kinky" in my world is not a pejorative term  | |||
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"Depends how you define kinky surely? A very subjective term/Exactly, that is what I thought. But people use the term and I was just curious what (most) people consider "kinky" ? My personal thought when I see someone describing themselves as kinky is similar to hearing someone describe themselves as whacky - they almost certainly aren't. My toy bag and photos of my play sessions would suggest I am the exception to prove the rule. "No, I have you down as kinky alright - the profile name suggests that for starters. Actually tbh it was your name that made me think about what people think of as "kinky" - hope you dont mind x | |||
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"What makes me kinky? An interest in trying new things and pushing boundaries. Having fetishes, such as my love of latex. Enjoying more unusual play such as watersports, strap-on play, breathplay and e-stim. The sort of mind that can't go into a kitchen shop or a B&Q without forgetting what I went in for and coming out with new pervertables. The sort of brain constantly wondering why does that cause that reaction? How else can I get that reaction? How can I get a better reaction? What happens when I do this? Ooh, that was unexpected, can I do it again? What can I do with this? What happens when I...? In the pursuit of further understanding and greater pleasure (both given and received) I've played with a lot of other kinky people. I've also, as a Top myself, given myself into the hands of an experienced Dominant and have experienced a lot of extremely kinky play, to see how it feels. I have the photos to prove it." Thanks Kinky, that post has really given me the best explanation so far. | |||
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"What makes me kinky? An interest in trying new things and pushing boundaries. Having fetishes, such as my love of latex. Enjoying more unusual play such as watersports, strap-on play, breathplay and e-stim. The sort of mind that can't go into a kitchen shop or a B&Q without forgetting what I went in for and coming out with new pervertables. The sort of brain constantly wondering why does that cause that reaction? How else can I get that reaction? How can I get a better reaction? What happens when I do this? Ooh, that was unexpected, can I do it again? What can I do with this? What happens when I...? In the pursuit of further understanding and greater pleasure (both given and received) I've played with a lot of other kinky people. I've also, as a Top myself, given myself into the hands of an experienced Dominant and have experienced a lot of extremely kinky play, to see how it feels. I have the photos to prove it." I agree with much of this sentiment. It's much like thrill seeking sportsmen! There's always a higher cliff to jump off or mountain to climb or a faster car to drive. | |||
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"Depends how you define kinky surely? A very subjective term/Exactly, that is what I thought. But people use the term and I was just curious what (most) people consider "kinky" ? My personal thought when I see someone describing themselves as kinky is similar to hearing someone describe themselves as whacky - they almost certainly aren't. My toy bag and photos of my play sessions would suggest I am the exception to prove the rule. No, I have you down as kinky alright - the profile name suggests that for starters. Actually tbh it was your name that made me think about what people think of as "kinky" - hope you dont mind x"I don't mind at all. I get "so what makes you kinky then?" and "how kinky are you?" a lot in my inbox. It's difficult to define, (and it's boring to keep being asked as part of one or two line messages because it takes a long-ish answer that is always the same). My last regular play partner, who was the most wonderful deviant, called me 'kinky' (it was part of the inspiration for my name here). One look at the photos of things I've done and few would, I think, disagree I am kinky. Funnily, some of the guys who've tried to manipulate me into playing with them have taken the, "Kinky? Prove it!" approach. That approach has a zero percent success rate for them so far as I know who I am, and what I enjoy, and I have nothing to prove (certainly not to strangers on the internet). I just am | |||
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"I like to think I'm kinky but that's just because I'm up for anything , which for a single bloke is shocking to all I'm sure. Can't think of anything that has been suggested to me that I haven't done but maybe that's cos no one has mentioned poo . "Sounding? Breathplay? E-stim? Needle play? CBT? Nipple clamps and pegs etc? Branding? Scrotal infusion? Catheterisation? Enemas? | |||
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"I like to think I'm kinky but that's just because I'm up for anything , which for a single bloke is shocking to all I'm sure. Can't think of anything that has been suggested to me that I haven't done but maybe that's cos no one has mentioned poo .
Sounding? Breathplay? E-stim? Needle play? CBT? Nipple clamps and pegs etc? Branding? Scrotal infusion? Catheterisation? Enemas?
"I've done a few of those. I really enjoyed some too. My trouble is, I can't say no...lol | |||
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"I like to think I'm kinky but that's just because I'm up for anything , which for a single bloke is shocking to all I'm sure. Can't think of anything that has been suggested to me that I haven't done but maybe that's cos no one has mentioned poo .
Sounding? Breathplay? E-stim? Needle play? CBT? Nipple clamps and pegs etc? Branding? Scrotal infusion? Catheterisation? Enemas?
"Ooops, Kinky, I have learnt more this evening by reading your posts here than I have in the past 4 years of being on the scene. | |||
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"I like to think I'm kinky but that's just because I'm up for anything , which for a single bloke is shocking to all I'm sure. Can't think of anything that has been suggested to me that I haven't done but maybe that's cos no one has mentioned poo .
Sounding? Breathplay? E-stim? Needle play? CBT? Nipple clamps and pegs etc? Branding? Scrotal infusion? Catheterisation? Enemas?
I've done a few of those. I really enjoyed some too.
My trouble is, I can't say no...lol"I can say no but I only have a few hard limits. | |||
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"I like to think I'm kinky but that's just because I'm up for anything , which for a single bloke is shocking to all I'm sure. Can't think of anything that has been suggested to me that I haven't done but maybe that's cos no one has mentioned poo .
Sounding? Breathplay? E-stim? Needle play? CBT? Nipple clamps and pegs etc? Branding? Scrotal infusion? Catheterisation? Enemas?
I've done a few of those. I really enjoyed some too.
My trouble is, I can't say no...lol
I can say no but I only have a few hard limits."Oh, I have hard limits too but since they're the same as most people's the subject is rarely broached...lol | |||
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"I had to look up sounding, the rest I could guess
I once went on top AND kept the light on - shameful, I know "I named a few random suggestions off the top of my head, which is why there are some extreme ones mixed in with taker ones. There are plenty more I could have added lol | |||
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"I've been thinking about changing my name actually. Getting so many 'what makes you kinky?' one-liners is boring. Plus too many misunderstand and think I am only looking for subs or that I always want D/s play. Sometimes I just want a bloody good fuck, without worrying about who is in charge! My name also attracts wannabe Doms who can't read and assume a kinky female *has* to be sub. And if they aren't it's because they haven't met the right Dom yet." I know what you mean, some people just don't understand that much of it is spontaneous or just part of a good fuck, or that sometimes vanilla will do the job adequately... | |||
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"I had to look up sounding, the rest I could guess
I once went on top AND kept the light on - shameful, I know "Caz/Daz... nothing you do could be remotely considered shameful. Adventurous? Yes. Unusual? Maybe. Hilarious? Most certainly? But not shameful ... EVER!!! | |||
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"I like to think I'm kinky but that's just because I'm up for anything , which for a single bloke is shocking to all I'm sure. Can't think of anything that has been suggested to me that I haven't done but maybe that's cos no one has mentioned poo .
Sounding? Breathplay? E-stim? Needle play? CBT? Nipple clamps and pegs etc? Branding? Scrotal infusion? Catheterisation? Enemas?
"Your in a world I can't bullshit and say yes to, I've got to be honest and say I haven't heard of some of these things but the few I know really intrigue me, like the breath play, that's been on my mind for a while, I've experimented while wanking but the problem is I'm always in control and when your own mind is in charge the safety gauge kicks in way to early. I'm not a fan of needles due to some injuries I have substances and the amount of needles I've had injected into me makes me despise them. So I guess I'm falling into that "go on try me" catagory and failing . Without knowing what specifics of the wordings i can't say I would but at the same time , is not being taken out of your comfort zone not what keeps us all ticking ??  | |||
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" Without knowing what specifics of the wordings i can't say I would but at the same time , is not being taken out of your comfort zone not what keeps us all ticking ?? "I so agree with that being taken out of comfort zone ! | |||
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"I like to think I'm kinky but that's just because I'm up for anything , which for a single bloke is shocking to all I'm sure. Can't think of anything that has been suggested to me that I haven't done but maybe that's cos no one has mentioned poo .
Sounding? Breathplay? E-stim? Needle play? CBT? Nipple clamps and pegs etc? Branding? Scrotal infusion? Catheterisation? Enemas?
Your in a world I can't bullshit and say yes to, I've got to be honest and say I haven't heard of some of these things but the few I know really intrigue me, like the breath play, that's been on my mind for a while, I've experimented while wanking but the problem is I'm always in control and when your own mind is in charge the safety gauge kicks in way to early.
I'm not a fan of needles due to some injuries I have substances and the amount of needles I've had injected into me makes me despise them.
So I guess I'm falling into that "go on try me" catagory and failing .
Without knowing what specifics of the wordings i can't say I would but at the same time , is not being taken out of your comfort zone not what keeps us all ticking ?? "A lot of people don't want to even go near the edge of their comfort zone. To each their own, but that's not my thing at all. To me, the best thing someone can say to the suggestion of something new is 'tell me more about it?' Incidentally, I haven't done all of the things on my list of suggestions above. Scrotal infusion is a niche kink and has some significant risks associated with it. It also requires specialist equipment which is difficult to obtain in the UK. Branding is also a bit of a niche kink! It's not something I am into. I always think, however, that anyone saying they are "up for anything" doesn't really know what "anything" could entail!!! | |||
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"I like to think I'm kinky but that's just because I'm up for anything , which for a single bloke is shocking to all I'm sure. Can't think of anything that has been suggested to me that I haven't done but maybe that's cos no one has mentioned poo .
Sounding? Breathplay? E-stim? Needle play? CBT? Nipple clamps and pegs etc? Branding? Scrotal infusion? Catheterisation? Enemas?
Your in a world I can't bullshit and say yes to, I've got to be honest and say I haven't heard of some of these things but the few I know really intrigue me, like the breath play, that's been on my mind for a while, I've experimented while wanking but the problem is I'm always in control and when your own mind is in charge the safety gauge kicks in way to early.
I'm not a fan of needles due to some injuries I have substances and the amount of needles I've had injected into me makes me despise them.
So I guess I'm falling into that "go on try me" catagory and failing .
Without knowing what specifics of the wordings i can't say I would but at the same time , is not being taken out of your comfort zone not what keeps us all ticking ??
A lot of people don't want to even go near the edge of their comfort zone. To each their own, but that's not my thing at all.
To me, the best thing someone can say to the suggestion of something new is 'tell me more about it?'
Incidentally, I haven't done all of the things on my list of suggestions above.
Scrotal infusion is a niche kink and has some significant risks associated with it. It also requires specialist equipment which is difficult to obtain in the UK.
Branding is also a bit of a niche kink! It's not something I am into.
I always think, however, that anyone saying they are "up for anything" doesn't really know what "anything" could entail!!!
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" I always think, however, that anyone saying they are "up for anything" doesn't really know what "anything" could entail!!! "
It is a term I hate for similar reasons. Just people trying to sound edgy.
To go back to my earlier comment, It is obvious from your pics that you are kinky (profiles hid so can't comment on that). What I hate is when it is thrown in to a profile with no substance. We know what we like, what interests us and what we would never do. It's when people can't be specific that I get dismissive. | |||
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"Kinky, you now scare me "lol The people to be scared of are the ones who read 50 Shades and think "I could do that" and don't bother trying to find out more first. I started very gradually and there are still things I don't have experience of but would like to learn. Breathplay was on my list of "no way!"s for years before I'd learned enough. There are two major paradigms in BDSM. The first is SSC - safe, sane and consensual. The other is RACK - risk aware consensual kink. I follow the latter because although I try to be as well-informed as possible, and to do things as safely as I can, some of the things I do, and have done, really can't be called "safe". For example, breathplay is not "safe" whichever way you look at it. | |||
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"Branding is still technically illegal in the UK." So, technically, is assault, regardless of whether it was consensual. The legality of even owning photos of some BDSM acts is still a very grey area. | |||
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"Branding is still technically illegal in the UK. So, technically, is assault, regardless of whether it was consensual. The legality of even owning photos of some BDSM acts is still a very grey area. " I remember the debates over on informed consent. The new laws had quite a lot of us rethinking some of our pics on there...lol | |||
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"Branding is still technically illegal in the UK. So, technically, is assault, regardless of whether it was consensual. The legality of even owning photos of some BDSM acts is still a very grey area. I remember the debates over on informed consent. The new laws had quite a lot of us rethinking some of our pics on there...lol" The situation is still far from clear. | |||
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"Branding is still technically illegal in the UK. So, technically, is assault, regardless of whether it was consensual. The legality of even owning photos of some BDSM acts is still a very grey area. I remember the debates over on informed consent. The new laws had quite a lot of us rethinking some of our pics on there...lol The situation is still far from clear." Out of interest, is this true for the UK or other European countries? | |||
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"Branding is still technically illegal in the UK. So, technically, is assault, regardless of whether it was consensual. The legality of even owning photos of some BDSM acts is still a very grey area. I remember the debates over on informed consent. The new laws had quite a lot of us rethinking some of our pics on there...lol The situation is still far from clear." Yeah, the law came into force with little warning and very little clarification and despite various requests they seem unwilling to give clear descriptions of which acts are now considered obscene and which are okay. Sometimes being a consenting adult is difficult!...lol | |||
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"Branding is still technically illegal in the UK. So, technically, is assault, regardless of whether it was consensual. The legality of even owning photos of some BDSM acts is still a very grey area. I remember the debates over on informed consent. The new laws had quite a lot of us rethinking some of our pics on there...lol The situation is still far from clear.Out of interest, is this true for the UK or other European countries? " Sorry, I missed this. It's a UK law. I don't know if any other European countries have their own versions. | |||
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"I like to think I'm kinky but that's just because I'm up for anything , which for a single bloke is shocking to all I'm sure. Can't think of anything that has been suggested to me that I haven't done but maybe that's cos no one has mentioned poo .
Sounding? Breathplay? E-stim? Needle play? CBT? Nipple clamps and pegs etc? Branding? Scrotal infusion? Catheterisation? Enemas?
"That is definitely a list not on my "to do". I am a wuss with any type of pain lol | |||
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"I like to think I'm kinky but that's just because I'm up for anything , which for a single bloke is shocking to all I'm sure. Can't think of anything that has been suggested to me that I haven't done but maybe that's cos no one has mentioned poo .
Sounding? Breathplay? E-stim? Needle play? CBT? Nipple clamps and pegs etc? Branding? Scrotal infusion? Catheterisation? Enemas?
That is definitely a list not on my "to do".
I am a wuss with any type of pain lol
"There's a fine line between pleasure and pain. That being said, some of the things on the list above are painful and intrusive. | |||
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"I like to think I'm kinky but that's just because I'm up for anything , which for a single bloke is shocking to all I'm sure. Can't think of anything that has been suggested to me that I haven't done but maybe that's cos no one has mentioned poo .
Sounding? Breathplay? E-stim? Needle play? CBT? Nipple clamps and pegs etc? Branding? Scrotal infusion? Catheterisation? Enemas?
That is definitely a list not on my "to do".
I am a wuss with any type of pain lol
There's a fine line between pleasure and pain. That being said, some of the things on the list above are painful and intrusive."Yes indeed, we like spanking and I don't find that painful, I would if it was to the extreme of drawing blood. | |||
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"I like to think I'm kinky but that's just because I'm up for anything , which for a single bloke is shocking to all I'm sure. Can't think of anything that has been suggested to me that I haven't done but maybe that's cos no one has mentioned poo .
Sounding? Breathplay? E-stim? Needle play? CBT? Nipple clamps and pegs etc? Branding? Scrotal infusion? Catheterisation? Enemas?
That is definitely a list not on my "to do".
I am a wuss with any type of pain lol
There's a fine line between pleasure and pain. That being said, some of the things on the list above are painful and intrusive.
Yes indeed, we like spanking and I don't find that painful, I would if it was to the extreme of drawing blood.
"Yeah, drawing blood from spanking is taking it to an extreme. Ideally the effects shouldn't be long lasting and cause any kind of long lasting discomfort. | |||
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"What makes a person (in the scene, I guess) kinky? " I guess that is the difference between erotic and kinky... erotic is when you use feathers, kinky is when you use the whole chicken | |||
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"Sosiec and TVSindy - those are such good points - I guess "kinky" is not in the eye of the kinky person but it is how others label it? TVSindy - why do men have such great legs... it aint fair!!;-)" God gives gifts out to those least expecting it
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"What makes a person (in the scene, I guess) kinky? " Was once told it was only kinky the first time | |||
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