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Desperation....eww

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By *upitersmile OP   Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

Why is it that some men (and couples) can't see how desperate they come across? It's such a huge turn off!

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"Why is it that some men (and couples) can't see how desperate they come across? It's such a huge turn off! "
Nothing more of a turn off than desperation !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it that some men (and couples) can't see how desperate they come across? "

I have no idea. Why don't you tell us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it that some men (and couples) can't see how desperate they come across? It's such a huge turn off! Nothing more of a turn off than desperation ! "

OMG Aphrodite is am so wanting you I have never wanted a woman so much I long for your fabulous body...

Hope that doesn't sound too desperate???

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By *azzasheeneMan
over a year ago

kent

Yeah tell me, please i beg you to tell me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe you should advise them as to where they are going wrong or in your opinion desperate.

Maybe they just want to impress,or feel the need to be liked and accepted?

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By *upitersmile OP   Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

I get them every day! How do you guys that have been here for awhile cope lol it's really starting to get my goat

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By *ild Bill Thickcock.Man
over a year ago

Wet Beaver Creek

I desperately hope I don't come across as being desperate

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By *uckknowsMan
over a year ago

here

I wish i wasnt desperate for a ciggie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get them every day! How do you guys that have been here for awhile cope lol it's really starting to get my goat "
we politly tell them to get a life

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"Why is it that some men (and couples) can't see how desperate they come across? It's such a huge turn off! Nothing more of a turn off than desperation !

OMG Aphrodite is am so wanting you I have never wanted a woman so much I long for your fabulous body...

Hope that doesn't sound too desperate??? "
Tongue... you need to look at your groove

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By *upitersmile OP   Couple
over a year ago

Manchester


"Maybe you should advise them as to where they are going wrong or in your opinion desperate.

Maybe they just want to impress,or feel the need to be liked and accepted? "

Surely if you want to impress you should present yourself as self assured not needy?

The occasions I have offered advise, I have offen been either bombarded with abuse or whinging

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"Maybe you should advise them as to where they are going wrong or in your opinion desperate.

Maybe they just want to impress,or feel the need to be liked and accepted? "
I see where you are coming from and sometimes, when I feel I have the time and inclination I give people feedback. Other times when I am stressed... I just feel it is not my job to lift them out of their insecurities. It all depends on how "available" I feel

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By *dinMan
over a year ago

Nr Biggleswade

Sausages!

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By *upitersmile OP   Couple
over a year ago

Manchester


"I get them every day! How do you guys that have been here for awhile cope lol it's really starting to get my goat we politly tell them to get a life"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sausages! "

Damn you...!!!

Now Im desperate for a hot dog....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men are not the only ones that are desperate on FAB.

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By *upitersmile OP   Couple
over a year ago

Manchester


"Men are not the only ones that are desperate on FAB. "

I realise that, but can't say I've had much interest from women lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

surely its desparate?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe they are actually desperate so dont see it as a problem lets face it all of us know someone that will go to extreme lengths for some action.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

I was just thinking.. my definition and understanding of "desperate" may be different from others. To me "desperate" is somebody who will sacrifice any personal likes, preferences and standards to get a shag.

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By *upitersmile OP   Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

Ok to clarify, the types of messages I'm talking about are those when the sender repeatedly sends winks, invites and messages even after being told no thanks. Changes what they have stated in order to persuade us to change ours minds. Or opens with something along the lines of "I've had no luck on fab and am starting to wonder if anyone here will ever meet me....."

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By *upitersmile OP   Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"surely its desparate?"

Uh, no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok to clarify, the types of messages I'm talking about are those when the sender repeatedly sends winks, invites and messages even after being told no thanks. Changes what they have stated in order to persuade us to change ours minds. Or opens with something along the lines of "I've had no luck on fab and am starting to wonder if anyone here will ever meet me....." "

Err... "block"...??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok to clarify, the types of messages I'm talking about are those when the sender repeatedly sends winks, invites and messages even after being told no thanks. Changes what they have stated in order to persuade us to change ours minds. Or opens with something along the lines of "I've had no luck on fab and am starting to wonder if anyone here will ever meet me....."

Err... "block"...??"

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By *upitersmile OP   Couple
over a year ago

Manchester


"Ok to clarify, the types of messages I'm talking about are those when the sender repeatedly sends winks, invites and messages even after being told no thanks. Changes what they have stated in order to persuade us to change ours minds. Or opens with something along the lines of "I've had no luck on fab and am starting to wonder if anyone here will ever meet me....."

Err... "block"...??"

Yes I do block, it's an ever growing list lol but I feel I shouldn't have to

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle


"Ok to clarify, the types of messages I'm talking about are those when the sender repeatedly sends winks, invites and messages even after being told no thanks. Changes what they have stated in order to persuade us to change ours minds. Or opens with something along the lines of "I've had no luck on fab and am starting to wonder if anyone here will ever meet me....." "

Oh dear.

But the answer for me is delete and move on.

I get plenty... admittedly usually from guys. But move on.

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By *upitersmile OP   Couple
over a year ago

Manchester


"Ok to clarify, the types of messages I'm talking about are those when the sender repeatedly sends winks, invites and messages even after being told no thanks. Changes what they have stated in order to persuade us to change ours minds. Or opens with something along the lines of "I've had no luck on fab and am starting to wonder if anyone here will ever meet me....."

Oh dear.

But the answer for me is delete and move on.

I get plenty... admittedly usually from guys. But move on."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok to clarify, the types of messages I'm talking about are those when the sender repeatedly sends winks, invites and messages even after being told no thanks. Changes what they have stated in order to persuade us to change ours minds. Or opens with something along the lines of "I've had no luck on fab and am starting to wonder if anyone here will ever meet me....."

Err... "block"...??

Yes I do block, it's an ever growing list lol but I feel I shouldn't have to"

You dont have to...;-)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's the desperate types on the forums who bother me more because you can't block them.

Same whiney messages, crossposted to several boards. Frequent threads looking for wank fodder, thinly disguised as "just wanted to start a discussion".

I know, I know, they get to post what they want and I can ignore it etc etc. Thing is, if they can post what they like, then by the same rules I can say I think it's sad, pathetic and boring and everyone is free to ignore that.

As for people posting looking for total strangers to have phone sex with them - especially the ones who say they're at work - they really bemuse me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok to clarify, the types of messages I'm talking about are those when the sender repeatedly sends winks, invites and messages even after being told no thanks. Changes what they have stated in order to persuade us to change ours minds. Or opens with something along the lines of "I've had no luck on fab and am starting to wonder if anyone here will ever meet me....."

Err... "block"...??

Yes I do block, it's an ever growing list lol but I feel I shouldn't have to

You dont have to...;-)"

There you go with that logic stuff again... Dangerous stuff, that!

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By *upitersmile OP   Couple
over a year ago

Manchester


"It's the desperate types on the forums who bother me more because you can't block them.

Same whiney messages, crossposted to several boards. Frequent threads looking for wank fodder, thinly disguised as "just wanted to start a discussion".

I know, I know, they get to post what they want and I can ignore it etc etc. Thing is, if they can post what they like, then by the same rules I can say I think it's sad, pathetic and boring and everyone is free to ignore that.

As for people posting looking for total strangers to have phone sex with them - especially the ones who say they're at work - they really bemuse me "

Gotta get their kicks somehow!!!

But on the plus side, I'm am starting to make some great friends on here and enjoying the banter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" but I feel I shouldn't have to

You dont have to...;-)

There you go with that logic stuff again... Dangerous stuff, that! "

Not in the least Captain...;-)

"Live long and prosper...\\ //..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Goodness me, everybody seems so judgmental. Two things; in all walks of life we meet and associate with all different kinds of people, from the confident to desperately insecure or the highly socially skilled to the less so socially skilled and it will be no different on here, you all may find it frustrating and I'm sure it is but your moaning and eye rolling does nothing to help these people and let them know that their behaviour is off putting. Secondly, I'm desperate for a shag, please please please please somebody assist!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it that some men (and couples) can't see how desperate they come across? It's such a huge turn off! "

With the greatest respect you're on a swingers site; desperation grows on trees in here...

Men just find it hard to approach women and are often impatient - this probably makes them appear a little desperate at times - some are, some are not.

This is also an environment where men are applying and women are selecting - so it's no surprise men at times appear desperate. However, some of us have learn to relax and take it easy - good things come to those who wait

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get them every day! How do you guys that have been here for awhile cope lol it's really starting to get my goat "

Op, there is a very easy solution.

Simply use your filters to stop everyone sending you messages, this will then allow you to do your own prospecting. You will be able to write the first message. Some will like your approach, some won't, some may even find you desperate, but it's guaranteed to solve your headache.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"Men are not the only ones that are desperate on FAB. "

Indeed...... and some even woo the attention of the desperate, possibly as an ego trip.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


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With the greatest respect you're on a swingers site; desperation grows on trees in here...

Men just find it hard to approach women and are often impatient - this probably makes them appear a little desperate at times - some are, some are not.

This is also an environment where men are applying and women are selecting - so it's no surprise men at times appear desperate. However, some of us have learn to relax and take it easy - good things come to those who wait "
Very well put -

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

and the desperate to fit in...

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"and the desperate to fit in..."

I nearly spat all over the monitor.

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By *upitersmile OP   Couple
over a year ago

Manchester


"and the desperate to fit in...

I nearly spat all over the monitor."

Filthy mind lol

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