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You don't look that big....

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By *he_original_polo OP   Woman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

....why do guys think this is a compliment?

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Lord alone knows. I always want to reply, compared to what?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love hearing that!

(as long as its my gut they are referring to obviously)

Mars and Venus I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"....why do guys think this is a compliment?"

Some don't and just take it on the chin

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Maybe some guys think that all women are obsessed about being a certain size, whatever that might be. Truth is that not all of us are... and if I heard a guy say that to me it would be a bit of a turn off. Not because it would be a reference to my weight but more because it would be assuming that we are all the same. Lack of appreciation and differentiation I guess?

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

Maybe it's not intended as a compliment. Maybe that is what their eyes are telling them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends if a question has been asked. Some questions have no correct answer

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She asks, "Does this dress make me look fat?"

You hesitate in responding...-10

You reply, "Where?"..-35

You reply, "No, I think it's your arse"..-100

Any other response..-20

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate hearing this as it makes me feel sure they're not imagining me as something I'm not and then I don't want to meet me as I think they'd be disappointed.

It's difficult because I don't want to put really unflattering photos up - who does? I'd prefer to show my best features but at the same time, as my profile says (when it is visible) I am a size 20 with lumpy bits and jiggly bits. There's no way anyone could (honestly) deny I'm quite large.

I've been thinking recently that clubs may be the best way to go, so people can see exactly what I look like from the outset.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"I hate hearing this as it makes me feel sure they're not imagining me as something I'm not and then I don't want to meet me as I think they'd be disappointed.

It's difficult because I don't want to put really unflattering photos up - who does? I'd prefer to show my best features but at the same time, as my profile says (when it is visible) I am a size 20 with lumpy bits and jiggly bits. There's no way anyone could (honestly) deny I'm quite large.

I've been thinking recently that clubs may be the best way to go, so people can see exactly what I look like from the outset."
Being sexy (and you ARE) is soooo much more than being a certin size and having (some guys love them) or not having wobbly bits.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Should say 'then I don't want to meet them' not 'don't want to meet me'.

Thanks Aphrodite. I don't exactly think I am not sexy, but I'm not really visually appealing to many. And in a society fixated on looks, and in a sphere where the focus is more on casual encounters than deep connections, visual appeal is an important factor.

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By *he_original_polo OP   Woman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"Maybe it's not intended as a compliment. Maybe that is what their eyes are telling them"

May be, but unlikely......... especially when they say it was meant to be a compliment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try reversing the compliment next time it gets said lol and see the faces on the guys drop x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's always the fit hunk arrogant guys that don't compliment a woman

The smaller shy guys are full of compliments

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"....why do guys think this is a compliment?"

Rhetorical question Ms Polo?

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield


"It's always the fit hunk arrogant guys that don't compliment a woman

The smaller shy guys are full of compliments "

Nope, I get lots of compliments from fit hunky guys. And they rarely come out with nonsense like you don't look that big!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It whats on the inside that matters . These guys couldnt put two lines together or hold a decent conversation . Girls dont matter what size you are you are all great and we are all here to have fun . So stuff the twatts some of us guys are decent and gen . Happy playing guys x

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By *ngelsdevilWoman
over a year ago

Merseyside


"I hate hearing this as it makes me feel sure they're not imagining me as something I'm not and then I don't want to meet me as I think they'd be disappointed.

It's difficult because I don't want to put really unflattering photos up - who does? I'd prefer to show my best features but at the same time, as my profile says (when it is visible) I am a size 20 with lumpy bits and jiggly bits. There's no way anyone could (honestly) deny I'm quite large.

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Exactly how I feel about me!! Couldn't have worded it better myself!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your meeting a guy who's deciding weather he likes you or not on the size of your body ,weather your big or small !

Well if that was me I'd politely say "no thanks" and look esle where, there's so much more to a person than the size of their body.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Try reversing the compliment next time it gets said lol and see the faces on the guys drop x"

amazing to hear some of the guys' replies when you tell them they "don't look that big", they usually get all huffy and spit out vile insults

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Round is a shape too ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With most guys with hunky bodies they are so in love with themselves they cant see outside the box

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

Is it because you're stood next to a giant tube of polo's, and you're actually the tallest woman in the world ..

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush


"Maybe it's not intended as a compliment. Maybe that is what their eyes are telling them

May be, but unlikely......... especially when they say it was meant to be a compliment."

Agreed, as then it is only a compliment in the eyes of the giver.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would a guy think it was a compliment if a woman said "its not that small"??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're all bloody sizist in one way or another it seems!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guess would depend in response to what, what was said to elicit the comment?

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By *he_original_polo OP   Woman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"It's always the fit hunk arrogant guys that don't compliment a woman

The smaller shy guys are full of compliments "

Actually I find it is the guys trying too hard to chuck loads of compliments at you, as if all women need their ego boosting (the fragile sensitive things we are) who come out with the most twattish lines.

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By *ethany10Couple
over a year ago

falkirk

Single guys will say anything to get into a woman's pants

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive never seen it as an insult though.

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By *he_original_polo OP   Woman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"Single guys will say anything to get into a woman's pants "

It's odd then that so many should say things which have the opposite effect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Give me a real woman with curves and a nice juicy bum any day of the week rather than a skinny Minnie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it better or worse than "you don't look that old"?!

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By *he_original_polo OP   Woman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"....why do guys think this is a compliment?

Rhetorical question Ms Polo? "

As if I would

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I dont like false compliments, however, i do like a genuine compliment from someone who has nothing to gain.

If a guy is trying to get into my knickers he can get half way there by making me laugh not fawning all over me.

My favourite compliments on here are from people who just compliment me and for whatever reason dont want to meet me ie out of the area ect

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By *toneblueMan
over a year ago

Southampton

Since I have never in my life believed a compliment paid to me, I don't believe in giving them either as I feel/fear they may sound phoney. We should be secure enough in ourselves not to need them or go fishing for them. The only really genuine compliment is when you just can't help yourself because someone looks so stunning you just have to say something - and that rarely happens in my experience. Anything less smacks of ego-massaging in order to inveigle your way into someone's pants. IMO

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"It whats on the inside that matters . These guys couldnt put two lines together or hold a decent conversation . Girls dont matter what size you are you are all great and we are all here to have fun . So stuff the twatts some of us guys are decent and gen . Happy playing guys x "

It's NOT what's on the inside that matters otherwise every munter on here would be bagging loads of sex and they are not - are they?

Most of the females on here are women. Granted not all of them react badly to being called a 'girl' - I do. It's sickening.

If size doesn't matter why do you advertise for BBW's ? Clearly it matters to you.

Women are not 'all great' whatever that means - some of them are actually discerning thinking adults with built in bullshit detectors. Some of them are downright loath evoking, cauldron dancing , human repellant harpies.

If twats got stuffed then 50% of women on here would get more sex.

Some of us guys are genuine ( that made me smile ) thank you.

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush


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Most of the females on here are women."

That's a sweeping statement granny

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

You don't look that big....

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"

Most of the females on here are women.

That's a sweeping statement granny"

I know.... sorry Ryan's Arse... you are right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it the equivolent of 'you looked tighter in your photos?'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People should embrace there size,

I have noticed there are lots of photos that are took at angles that make things look bigger or smaller than they really are, by women and men.

Why hide it just show it all then later on it avoided awkward situations maybe.

Im no expert tho

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