FabSwingers.com forum: Hog tied

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I need some help!

I'm a control freak in every respect and never get my rocks off with sex. I'd rather do it myself with my toys ( especially bullet!)

Some guys say I need to relax and then it'll happen but I'm a big girl and really body conscious so spend most of the time cringing incase they go near wobbly bits

What sexual scenarios such as being dominated (which I would hate) am I likely to lose control and experience a decent orgasm. If this isn't the place to find it then I'm off home x

Thanks for your help!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Embrace your wobbles x I love being blindfolded a huge turn on x

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By *bmarley77Man
over a year ago

Nr Derby

Kaboobee,

It does really sound like you need to try and relax, embrace your body and let men go near your better formed assets......

loads of men,(including myself) just love a curvy lady...maybe allowing a partner to explore these areas might help you to discover your burning desires.

Next time you with a trustworthy partner, explain....allow them to explore just one previously 'out of bounds areas of your body'.....build up confidence....maybe a little tie and tease. Take small steps. Build your confidence. Unlock that inner sexiness screaming to get out!

Dont be ashamed or frightened of what you've got!

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you tried a club maybe a bbw night x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've thought about it but looking at me in the mirror makes me feel sick so can't say a room full of bbw's appeals

I'm fine as long as I have a body stocking on or they can't see me but if not, game over

I actually stopped play on Thursday as I made myself feel sick thinking what he must be looking at

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ohhh hun.... there are so many out there who love us the way we are.... honest....

I love being tied and blindfolded.... uhmmm, then let their fingers to the talking... or the other thing I love to do is to simply climb on top.... I love taking control in that situation.

usually never fails to achieve what I am looking for....

S xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No its just that I think you need a huge confidence boost and to learn to love yourself x My first club experience gave me a huge confidence boost and I have never looked back x Ps I love your rack very nice indeed x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im getting better with my body image. I used to truly hate myself then i just bit the bullet and took a pic of me stood infront of a mirror in just bra and frenchies so that a man knew what he was going to experience. I wasnt bull shitting anyone, thats who i am and if they didnt like it the guys didn't have to message me.

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By *uggers nemesisCouple
over a year ago

london

"I need some help!

I'm a control freak in every respect and never get my rocks off with sex. I'd rather do it myself with my toys ( especially bullet!)

Some guys say I need to relax and then it'll happen but I'm a big girl and really body conscious so spend most of the time cringing incase they go near wobbly bits

What sexual scenarios such as being dominated (which I would hate) am I likely to lose control and experience a decent orgasm. If this isn't the place to find it then I'm off home x

Thanks for your help!"

Sounds like you need to become the dominator lol,blinfold him,tie him up,fuck his brains out,simple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I need some help!

I'm a control freak in every respect and never get my rocks off with sex. I'd rather do it myself with my toys ( especially bullet!)

Some guys say I need to relax and then it'll happen but I'm a big girl and really body conscious so spend most of the time cringing incase they go near wobbly bits

What sexual scenarios such as being dominated (which I would hate) am I likely to lose control and experience a decent orgasm. If this isn't the place to find it then I'm off home x

Thanks for your help!

Sounds like you need to become the dominator lol,blinfold him,tie him up,fuck his brains out,simple

Great Idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, you're doing it fine on your own, do you really want someone else to give you an orgasm? Or is it just some blokes that think you should?

I do it for myself and no-one else can. I enjoy sex loads, I just don't have an orgasm that way. It doesn't bother me and to be honest I don't want anyone else to. With my bloke I do have whole body orgasms but I think that's because he gets inside my head and it's just amazing.

Be honest with yourself, if you're happy now then why change? But if you do want to have a go then try different things to see what works for you.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I need some help!

I'm a control freak in every respect and never get my rocks off with sex. I'd rather do it myself with my toys ( especially bullet!)

Some guys say I need to relax and then it'll happen but I'm a big girl and really body conscious so spend most of the time cringing incase they go near wobbly bits

What sexual scenarios such as being dominated (which I would hate) am I likely to lose control and experience a decent orgasm. If this isn't the place to find it then I'm off home x

Thanks for your help!"

If you can't think of a sexual scenario that will do it it's unlikely that we will be able to come up with one for you. Being tied up and dominated, totally vulnerable for a guy to look at and touch any part of you....would that appeal to you, sounds unlikely given what you've said. Love yourself first, embrace your looks and if you can't try to set about achieving that...no one else can do it for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I need some help!

I'm a control freak in every respect and never get my rocks off with sex. I'd rather do it myself with my toys ( especially bullet!)

Some guys say I need to relax and then it'll happen but I'm a big girl and really body conscious so spend most of the time cringing incase they go near wobbly bits

What sexual scenarios such as being dominated (which I would hate) am I likely to lose control and experience a decent orgasm. If this isn't the place to find it then I'm off home x

Thanks for your help!

Sounds like you need to become the dominator lol,blinfold him,tie him up,fuck his brains out,simple

a definite possibility.... if hes tied up you wont have to worry... Uhmm, where are my ropes....

xxxx

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Hi babe please believe me when I say loads of guys love to play with big girls. I love curvy ladies and I am sure if you let the right guy caress cuddle and kiss you in all the right areas in a relaxing surrounding you would be able to enjoy orgasmic sex and other erotic turn ons. Celebrate your curves. There are other tiny girls who would envy your endowments. Xx rog

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nobody can force you to relax and enjoy and trying is just going to build mental blocks and increase anxiety.

You need to learn to love yourself and accept they are with you because they find you attractive and then progress gradually with someone/people you trust. You need to communicate honestly with each other, listen to each other and build some trust. Then you can work on relaxation and knocking down some of the barricades you've built.

There's no quick fix for this one, (I know this because to an extent, I am in the same situation as you are).

I can make myself orgasm until I all but pass out but relaxing and letting go with someone else is extremely difficult for me. It's the giving up control thing I have an issue with. Orgasm, to me, represents total loss of control. Plus I think I must look bloody ridiculous.

I realise I've never thought anyone else looks ridiculous when having an orgasm, and I've never found being able to bring anyone else to that state anything other than horny, but I'm quite sure they must be thinking how funny I look!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once i begin to enjoy myself, worry about wobbly bits go out of the window.

And most guys when enjoying themselves and with a woman who is enjoying the sex and passion..., dont even notice the wobbly bits.

Sometimes you just have to let go and enjoy the experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i agree with the "blindfold him and take full advantage” group lol

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I need some help!

I'm a control freak in every respect and never get my rocks off with sex. I'd rather do it myself with my toys ( especially bullet!)

Some guys say I need to relax and then it'll happen but I'm a big girl and really body conscious so spend most of the time cringing incase they go near wobbly bits

What sexual scenarios such as being dominated (which I would hate) am I likely to lose control and experience a decent orgasm. If this isn't the place to find it then I'm off home x

Thanks for your help!"

Dont worry about wobbly bits, just enjoy what you do with whoever you do it with. As long as you both enjoy it and you get what you want - wet n sticky - guys won't care about your wobbly bits!! My ex was a size 20 and had lots of wobbly bits but that didn't stop us having a great time in bed!

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