FabSwingers.com forum: There is something wrong here!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

This site must have been built for couples!

OR men who encourage women to do things!!

The option to block single males and have it blazoned across a profile as

NOT LOOKING FOR SINGLE MEN.

IS A BIT OF AN OVERKILL!

They been blocked already!

Access has been denied!

SO? Why is it now broadcast too?

NOT LOOKING FOR SINGLE MEN.

Why are the single males the ONLY grouping on the whole site where such a blazoned sign can appear on another's profile?

NOT LOOKING FOR SINGLE MEN!

You know why it's like that?

It's because they are afraid their goddamn women are going to run off with you!

So they put up the warning sign!

It's the reverse of DOGS KEEP OUT!

That IS truly the epitome of being singled out here!

WOOF!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Apologies, it's not the reverse of DOGS:KEEP OUT it's an alternative to.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Further apologies, IT CAN be a reversal of DOGS KEEP OUT and often is!

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over a year ago

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

If they put it on their profile as well then it stops single men getting to the point of messaging? Maybe.

I think it is the single men group that has the rep of ignoring profile requests so they make multiple efforts to deter them

Maybe?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

SO, your not obviously welcome in the house, except to eat.

You can make your home in the wilds and return for an occasional munch.

The RSPCA would have a field day!

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

"SO, your not obviously welcome in the house, except to eat.

You can make your home in the wilds and return for an occasional munch.

The RSPCA would have a field day! "

Or you can go elsewhere where you are welcome

Plenty of people are happy to chat with single males. Just seek them out instead

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe they wrote it on their profile first, then found the filter - forgetting afterwards, to eliminate the profile text

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Maybe they wrote it on their profile first, then found the filter - forgetting afterwards, to eliminate the profile text

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NO..I'm refering to the big sign that appears when single males are blocked.

People can put anything they want in their profile text.

The one I refer to is site generated.

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By *exy4youxxWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract

"Maybe they wrote it on their profile first, then found the filter - forgetting afterwards, to eliminate the profile text

NO..I'm refering to the big sign that appears when single males are blocked.

People can put anything they want in their profile text.

The one I refer to is site generated."

It also appears to us wemon too o just tried to msg a female ... BIG MASSIVE sign came saying females are blocked from messaging her so no your not being signalled out at all ...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"SO, your not obviously welcome in the house, except to eat.

You can make your home in the wilds and return for an occasional munch.

The RSPCA would have a field day!

Or you can go elsewhere where you are welcome

Plenty of people are happy to chat with single males. Just seek them out instead

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I personally would rather be able to block them without a big sign on my straight male profile that says NOT LOOKING FOR SINGLE MEN!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"SO, your not obviously welcome in the house, except to eat.

You can make your home in the wilds and return for an occasional munch.

The RSPCA would have a field day! "

Men should regroup and re evaluate any many a situation and Act accordingly so.

Re gain their own very status and power of man hood.

Guys/ lads/ gents/boys/ men ...

Step back think

,ponder,look at all angles of situation and. See where we are on this map here??

And many of life in itself.

We should be celebrated but yet we are being dragged through the Mud. Or some are acting in a manner very less Alpha like, be less thirsty you then will see a shift and change.

Last nite I was sent a text!

We have a new setup!

We charge £50 to cover all our costs, bills,condoms lube etc.

Oral all good.

Sex use condoms..

I had to be very stern and honest with myself and I declined there & then!!

I have not & will not pay for a joy,pleasure, of nature shared between to humans of opposite Sex's.

All numbers deleted..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"SO, your not obviously welcome in the house, except to eat.

You can make your home in the wilds and return for an occasional munch.

The RSPCA would have a field day!

Or you can go elsewhere where you are welcome

Plenty of people are happy to chat with single males. Just seek them out instead

I personally would rather be able to block them without a big sign on my straight male profile that says NOT LOOKING FOR SINGLE MEN!"

so remove thw filter and then block all single men individually!

Won't take you too long!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Maybe they wrote it on their profile first, then found the filter - forgetting afterwards, to eliminate the profile text

NO..I'm refering to the big sign that appears when single males are blocked.

People can put anything they want in their profile text.

The one I refer to is site generated.

It also appears to us wemon too o just tried to msg a female ... BIG MASSIVE sign came saying females are blocked from messaging her so no your not being signalled out at all ..."

I still want to be able to block single males without those words being on MY profile.

If I have blocked them access has been denied them.

SO? Who else needs to know that but me and them IF I have blocked them?

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

Definition of swinging as per Urban Dictionary:

"A lifestyle of non-monogamy where sexual relations occur outside the established couple.

So yeah, this site has been built mostly for couples.

And no, my man is not worried I'm going to run away with someone as it's my decision that I don't want to meet men. Why would I look for other penis if I can have one on tap whenever I want to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh right I get it now......

I agree, I don't want anyone knowing what filters I've got in place, to stop them from messaging!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"SO, your not obviously welcome in the house, except to eat.

You can make your home in the wilds and return for an occasional munch.

The RSPCA would have a field day!

Or you can go elsewhere where you are welcome

Plenty of people are happy to chat with single males. Just seek them out instead

I personally would rather be able to block them without a big sign on my straight male profile that says NOT LOOKING FOR SINGLE MEN!

so remove thw filter and then block all single men individually!

Won't take you too long!!

"
I have removed the filter and will delete when needed that sign was pissing my straight self off!

Profile looks better without it too.

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By *hancer666Man
over a year ago

Redbourn

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Definition of swinging as per Urban Dictionary:

"A lifestyle of non-monogamy where sexual relations occur outside the established couple.

So yeah, this site has been built mostly for couples.

And no, my man is not worried I'm going to run away with someone as it's my decision that I don't want to meet men. Why would I look for other penis if I can have one on tap whenever I want to.

K"
I have no issues with that definition of swinging.

I'm a swinging facilitator NEVER thought of myself as a swinger.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Oh right I get it now......

I agree, I don't want anyone knowing what filters I've got in place, to stop them from messaging!"

Pardon?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

????

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Definition of swinging as per Urban Dictionary:

"A lifestyle of non-monogamy where sexual relations occur outside the established couple.

So yeah, this site has been built mostly for couples.

And no, my man is not worried I'm going to run away with someone as it's my decision that I don't want to meet men. Why would I look for other penis if I can have one on tap whenever I want to.

K"
"built mostly for couples" like a car built mostly for drivers?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is there anyone on this thread or reading decent enough to explain to me what the hell he's complaining about? I can't see where it's an issue for the OP and I'm dying to know!

Thank You!

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By *exy4youxxWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract

"Maybe they wrote it on their profile first, then found the filter - forgetting afterwards, to eliminate the profile text

NO..I'm refering to the big sign that appears when single males are blocked.

People can put anything they want in their profile text.

The one I refer to is site generated.

It also appears to us wemon too o just tried to msg a female ... BIG MASSIVE sign came saying females are blocked from messaging her so no your not being signalled out at all ...

I still want to be able to block single males without those words being on MY profile.

If I have blocked them access has been denied them.

SO? Who else needs to know that but me and them IF I have blocked them?"

Hmm I have looked at your profile and I can't see big letters saying single males blocked

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By *exy4youxxWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract

Ahhh ok I know what your on about now sorry op just looked at my male friends profile and says in small writing on his profile not looking for single males .... I'm sure the reason they do that is because you select who your looking to meet eg sm females couples TV's etc when you set up profile BUT if you forget or don't know you have to also add them to your EMAIL filters or they can still message you ... so I'm sure this is fabs way of double protection which I think is great of them don't know why it bothers you so much tbh

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Maybe they wrote it on their profile first, then found the filter - forgetting afterwards, to eliminate the profile text

NO..I'm refering to the big sign that appears when single males are blocked.

People can put anything they want in their profile text.

The one I refer to is site generated.

It also appears to us wemon too o just tried to msg a female ... BIG MASSIVE sign came saying females are blocked from messaging her so no your not being signalled out at all ...

I still want to be able to block single males without those words being on MY profile.

If I have blocked them access has been denied them.

SO? Who else needs to know that but me and them IF I have blocked them?

Hmm I have looked at your profile and I can't see big letters saying single males blocked "
I removed it before this thread..got tired of seeing it on my profile.

If I block a grouping I have blocked them.

I know that.

So I state again.

WHO needs to know that bar me?

MAYBE straight couples?

MAYBE straight singles?

That's the only reason the sign could be there above and beyond the ability to block.

SO? What do you say to that.

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

Op, are you fed up with clicking on profiles not looking for single men? Very much sounds that way. The way you SHOUT about it.

There are plenty of profiles just looking for single men. A sweeping assumption from you, assuming tge female wants to run off with any cock with a heart beat, will not put you in a good place.

Our profile only looks for single men & Cd/Tv's.

. We've blocked couples, and still get messages from single men asking to bring a fem along too with them. Our dynamic of Stag and Vixen, who prodomintly looks for gb's and greedy girl events. Will only work with single men.

I fem, am very much in a "male only enviroment" in the vanilla world. Them not knowing what we're into. I've been apporched by 6 other men at differant times. Offering me to get in their pants. Yes one was marreid. As if they are doing me a favour. They get turned down. One had to be spoken too quite firmly and told to back off or else.

My fella knows with confidence that I would never drop my knickers. Unless he's there in person. I myself made this rule and told him. I value our relationship too much, than to risk it for a quick shag. When I can fuck whoever I want, whenever I want. He's more than happy if I wanted to go out shagging alone. Aa long as I was safe, and sent him pictures.

. This is not out dynamic, so we only play if he's there. Why? Not because we're worreird I'd run off with the other man. Our kink is me being turned on by him getting turned on, by seeing me fucked by others. Then claiming me back, as he's always last in.

Please op, forget your assumptions, they are not correct for everyone.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ahhh ok I know what your on about now sorry op just looked at my male friends profile and says in small writing on his profile not looking for single males .... I'm sure the reason they do that is because you select who your looking to meet eg sm females couples TV's etc when you set up profile BUT if you forget or don't know you have to also add them to your EMAIL filters or they can still message you ... so I'm sure this is fabs way of double protection which I think is great of them don't know why it bothers you so much tbh "

No apologies needed.

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By *hancer666Man
over a year ago

Redbourn

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By *hancer666Man
over a year ago

Redbourn

"Is there anyone on this thread or reading decent enough to explain to me what the hell he's complaining about? I can't see where it's an issue for the OP and I'm dying to know!

Thank You!

"????"

I'll have a crack at explaining it if you want? And it will be worth what comes next, I need to ween myself off the forum anyway

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Op, are you fed up with clicking on profiles not looking for single men? Very much sounds that way. The way you SHOUT about it.

There are plenty of profiles just looking for single men. A sweeping assumption from you, assuming tge female wants to run off with any cock with a heart beat, will not put you in a good place.

Our profile only looks for single men & Cd/Tv's.

Please op, forget your assumptions, they are not correct for everyone."
Why should I be fed up with profiles not looking for single men?

If that were the case I would have stated that..and I would have had no right to do so.

BUT I do feel it is within my right to not want a particular set of words blazoned across my profile when a filter block does that job nicely.

As for the running off with someone else part I'm not making that sort of move on any a ya!

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By *exy4youxxWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract

"Op, are you fed up with clicking on profiles not looking for single men? Very much sounds that way. The way you SHOUT about it.

I think he was on about it on his profile not others but now you suggest that I'm not sure lol x

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By *esparate danMan
over a year ago

glasgow

"Definition of swinging as per Urban Dictionary:

"A lifestyle of non-monogamy where sexual relations occur outside the established couple.

So yeah, this site has been built mostly for couples.

And no, my man is not worried I'm going to run away with someone as it's my decision that I don't want to meet men. Why would I look for other penis if I can have one on tap whenever I want to.

Sane could be asked about why he wants other vagina

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I prefer the filter block alone and if some bloke comes on all profiled up as a female pics and all that's his issue not mine..and no sign in large letters will stop that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If the site is "built mostly for couples"

Is a lot of the sites workings then built on a few particular presumptions?

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By *hancer666Man
over a year ago

Redbourn

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By *hancer666Man
over a year ago

Redbourn

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"SO, your not obviously welcome in the house, except to eat.

You can make your home in the wilds and return for an occasional munch.

The RSPCA would have a field day!

Or you can go elsewhere where you are welcome

Plenty of people are happy to chat with single males. Just seek them out instead

I personally would rather be able to block them without a big sign on my straight male profile that says NOT LOOKING FOR SINGLE MEN!"
So do it go to your settings and do it why the big announcement??

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Maybe they wrote it on their profile first, then found the filter - forgetting afterwards, to eliminate the profile text

NO..I'm refering to the big sign that appears when single males are blocked.

People can put anything they want in their profile text.

The one I refer to is site generated."

Do you think you see it more often because you are in fact a single male?

If I click on a profile not looking for single women it will say I'm blocked because the profile user doesn't want to meet people of my gender. No biggie. Move on tk the next one that interests me.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Oh huey

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I for one do not need fabswingers to vouch for my sexual integrity.

I should be able to filter block ANY group and that is that.

Any words referring to that on my profile text are obviously not intended to remind me of who I am, but are for the reading of others.

Unless fabswingers presume I don't know myself?

I can take care of myself by deleting ALL intrusions I don't want, without having some sort of 'double protection' lol

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"I for one do not need fabswingers to vouch for my sexual integrity.

I should be able to filter block ANY group and that is that.

Any words referring to that on my profile text are obviously not intended to remind me of who I am, but are for the reading of others.

Unless fabswingers presume I don't know myself?

I can take care of myself by deleting ALL intrusions I don't want, without having some sort of 'double protection' lol"

Use a condom on your finger

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Maybe they wrote it on their profile first, then found the filter - forgetting afterwards, to eliminate the profile text

NO..I'm refering to the big sign that appears when single males are blocked.

People can put anything they want in their profile text.

The one I refer to is site generated.

Do you think you see it more often because you are in fact a single male?

If I click on a profile not looking for single women it will say I'm blocked because the profile user doesn't want to meet people of my gender. No biggie. Move on tk the next one that interests me. "
That's not the one it's the filter block one that can also appear on an individuals profile.

I should have been calling it message filter on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't discriminate single men. It's all men for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be happy with bold uppercase lettering...I won't need to wear my specs!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I for one do not need fabswingers to vouch for my sexual integrity.

I should be able to filter block ANY group and that is that.

Any words referring to that on my profile text are obviously not intended to remind me of who I am, but are for the reading of others.

Unless fabswingers presume I don't know myself?

I can take care of myself by deleting ALL intrusions I don't want, without having some sort of 'double protection' lol

Use a condom on your finger "
Seems like the site has used them all up 'double protection!

I prefer single protection..one digit..delete.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Message Filter and Looking For must match here....

If not it's a BOOM moment!

(bearing with this thread, to see if I get there in the end)

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By *exy4youxxWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract

I prefer the filter block alone and if some bloke comes on all profiled up as a female pics and all that's his issue not mine..and no sign in large letters will stop that."

It's not in large letters ... that one is only when you message someone whose blocked messages ... so still not sure why it's upsetting you so much

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By *exy4youxxWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract

"I for one do not need fabswingers to vouch for my sexual integrity.

I should be able to filter block ANY group and that is that.

Any words referring to that on my profile text are obviously not intended to remind me of who I am, but are for the reading of others.

Unless fabswingers presume I don't know myself?

I can take care of myself by deleting ALL intrusions I don't want, without having some sort of 'double protection' lol"

You don't like what fab is doing simply delete your profile...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer the filter block alone and if some bloke comes on all profiled up as a female pics and all that's his issue not mine..and no sign in large letters will stop that.

It's not in large letters ... that one is only when you message someone whose blocked messages ... so still not sure why it's upsetting you so much "

That's what's throwing me ...

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"This site must have been built for couples!

OR men who encourage women to do things!!

The option to block single males and have it blazoned across a profile as

NOT LOOKING FOR SINGLE MEN.

IS A BIT OF AN OVERKILL!

They been blocked already!

Access has been denied!

SO? Why is it now broadcast too?

NOT LOOKING FOR SINGLE MEN.

Why are the single males the ONLY grouping on the whole site where such a blazoned sign can appear on another's profile?

NOT LOOKING FOR SINGLE MEN!

You know why it's like that?

It's because they are afraid their goddamn women are going to run off with you!

So they put up the warning sign!

It's the reverse of DOGS KEEP OUT!

That IS truly the epitome of being singled out here!

WOOF!

I think you have answered your own question here

You don't want guys to contact you then use your filters x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dude, chill!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I prefer the filter block alone and if some bloke comes on all profiled up as a female pics and all that's his issue not mine..and no sign in large letters will stop that.

It's not in large letters ... that one is only when you message someone whose blocked messages ... so still not sure why it's upsetting you so much "
I understand why your not getting it.

This isn't making complaint about that block when a message is sent to someone.

But about the extra information seen on my own or another's profile when they filter block single males.

It reads "Not looking for single men"

My profile states I'm straight.

So do I need extra convincing that I myself am not looking for single males?

I wouldn't think so.

So obviously that text is for others.

What others?

Straight couples?

Straight female singles?

I think the penny has dropped as to who that extra addition is for without it being explicitly aimed at them.

If I didn't post this I may not have figured it out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who cares, it’s a few bytes of the internet. It makes it easy for to recognise who’s NOT looking for ME.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

I prefer the filter block alone and if some bloke comes on all profiled up as a female pics and all that's his issue not mine..and no sign in large letters will stop that.

It's not in large letters ... that one is only when you message someone whose blocked messages ... so still not sure why it's upsetting you so much I understand why your not getting it.

This isn't making complaint about that block when a message is sent to someone.

But about the extra information seen on my own or another's profile when they filter block single males.

It reads "Not looking for single men"

My profile states I'm straight.

So do I need extra convincing that I myself am not looking for single males?

I wouldn't think so.

So obviously that text is for others.

What others?

Straight couples?

Straight female singles?

I think the penny has dropped as to who that extra addition is for without it being explicitly aimed at them.

If I didn't post this I may not have figured it out.

Or you could start meeting guys

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By *exy4youxxWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract

I prefer the filter block alone and if some bloke comes on all profiled up as a female pics and all that's his issue not mine..and no sign in large letters will stop that.

It's not in large letters ... that one is only when you message someone whose blocked messages ... so still not sure why it's upsetting you so much I understand why your not getting it.

This isn't making complaint about that block when a message is sent to someone.

But about the extra information seen on my own or another's profile when they filter block single males.

It reads "Not looking for single men"

My profile states I'm straight.

So do I need extra convincing that I myself am not looking for single males?

I wouldn't think so.

So obviously that text is for others.

What others?

Straight couples?

Straight female singles?

I think the penny has dropped as to who that extra addition is for without it being explicitly aimed at them.

If I didn't post this I may not have figured it out.

You say it's its in large letters ... it's not its hardly noticeable tbh and I really still don't understand why it's bothering you so much

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

I prefer the filter block alone and if some bloke comes on all profiled up as a female pics and all that's his issue not mine..and no sign in large letters will stop that.

It's not in large letters ... that one is only when you message someone whose blocked messages ... so still not sure why it's upsetting you so much I understand why your not getting it.

This isn't making complaint about that block when a message is sent to someone.

But about the extra information seen on my own or another's profile when they filter block single males.

It reads "Not looking for single men"

My profile states I'm straight.

So do I need extra convincing that I myself am not looking for single males?

I wouldn't think so.

So obviously that text is for others.

What others?

Straight couples?

Straight female singles?

I think the penny has dropped as to who that extra addition is for without it being explicitly aimed at them.

If I didn't post this I may not have figured it out.

You say it's its in large letters ... it's not its hardly noticeable tbh and I really still don't understand why it's bothering you so much "

You really think it is? Bothering him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer the filter block alone and if some bloke comes on all profiled up as a female pics and all that's his issue not mine..and no sign in large letters will stop that.

It's not in large letters ... that one is only when you message someone whose blocked messages ... so still not sure why it's upsetting you so much I understand why your not getting it.

This isn't making complaint about that block when a message is sent to someone.

But about the extra information seen on my own or another's profile when they filter block single males.

It reads "Not looking for single men"

My profile states I'm straight.

So do I need extra convincing that I myself am not looking for single males?

I wouldn't think so.

So obviously that text is for others.

What others?

Straight couples?

Straight female singles?

I think the penny has dropped as to who that extra addition is for without it being explicitly aimed at them.

If I didn't post this I may not have figured it out.

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over a year ago

It's a quirky site with some old fashion set up ways - it's

I think it's a good way of speeding things up...

Plus why we bothering here, you've highlighted, you at least read profiles, even if it's just your own

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"SO, your not obviously welcome in the house, except to eat.

You can make your home in the wilds and return for an occasional munch.

The RSPCA would have a field day! "

I made my home in the wilds years ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Believe it or not most profile with that are looking for single men

The just don’t want they mail box filled up and prefer to do they own hunting

If someone who has a filter up message first it drops the filter for that person

Opens a line off communication

So it means they mail box isn’t full off junk

Or they haven’t switch off to message for the day

You know 10 dick pics in the first hour or so can really make you say stuff the message to day

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over a year ago

I prefer the filter block alone and if some bloke comes on all profiled up as a female pics and all that's his issue not mine..and no sign in large letters will stop that.

It's not in large letters ... that one is only when you message someone whose blocked messages ... so still not sure why it's upsetting you so much I understand why your not getting it.

This isn't making complaint about that block when a message is sent to someone.

But about the extra information seen on my own or another's profile when they filter block single males.

It reads "Not looking for single men"

My profile states I'm straight.

So do I need extra convincing that I myself am not looking for single males?

I wouldn't think so.

So obviously that text is for others.

What others?

Straight couples?

Straight female singles?

I think the penny has dropped as to who that extra addition is for without it being explicitly aimed at them.

If I didn't post this I may not have figured it out.

Or you could start meeting guys

"
It's probs to alert bisexual males in couples that I'm not for them or ANY single OR pairs of guys anywhere round these here parts.

So in truth fab may really be covering my ass..let me put that filter back on!

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over a year ago

I prefer the filter block alone and if some bloke comes on all profiled up as a female pics and all that's his issue not mine..and no sign in large letters will stop that.

It's not in large letters ... that one is only when you message someone whose blocked messages ... so still not sure why it's upsetting you so much I understand why your not getting it.

This isn't making complaint about that block when a message is sent to someone.

But about the extra information seen on my own or another's profile when they filter block single males.

It reads "Not looking for single men"

My profile states I'm straight.

So do I need extra convincing that I myself am not looking for single males?

I wouldn't think so.

So obviously that text is for others.

What others?

Straight couples?

Straight female singles?

I think the penny has dropped as to who that extra addition is for without it being explicitly aimed at them.

If I didn't post this I may not have figured it out.

You know that your profile is designed for mother people to look at so they can decide if you're of interest to them? The site has worked the same way since you joined. This mechanism is set up to show others your preferences, and deter people who might otherwise message you.

The 'looking for' section links to your search function, not the messaging so there are 2 sets of filters for a reason.

There's nothing unusual in this unless someone wants to rail against imaginary injustice for dramatic effect.

Better?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If my hubby thought I was capable of running off with someone, the last thing he would let me do is bounce on their penis. Kinda defeats the whole object of 'swinging'.

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

"If my hubby thought I was capable of running off with someone, the last thing he would let me do is bounce on their penis. Kinda defeats the whole object of 'swinging'."

Have you ever thought about writing poetry?

LvM

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over a year ago

"It's a quirky site with some old fashion set up ways - it's

I think it's a good way of speeding things up...

Plus why we bothering here, you've highlighted, you at least read profiles, even if it's just your own

"
I think honesty is the best policy around here.

If I didn't stick this thread up enlightenment I may not have recieved.

The only downside for me was the jumbled OP which could read as if I'm against blocks themselves thus exasperating some/many

when it was a message filter issue beyond my understanding..not any more methinks!

I like to be able to make sense of my surroundings as much as possible.

All casualties hit in the crossfire will have to restore themselves!

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By *ecretlivesCouple
over a year ago

FABWatch HQ

I prefer the filter block alone and if some bloke comes on all profiled up as a female pics and all that's his issue not mine..and no sign in large letters will stop that.

It's not in large letters ... that one is only when you message someone whose blocked messages ... so still not sure why it's upsetting you so much I understand why your not getting it.

This isn't making complaint about that block when a message is sent to someone.

But about the extra information seen on my own or another's profile when they filter block single males.

It reads "Not looking for single men"

My profile states I'm straight.

So do I need extra convincing that I myself am not looking for single males?

I wouldn't think so.

So obviously that text is for others.

What others?

Straight couples?

Straight female singles?

I think the penny has dropped as to who that extra addition is for without it being explicitly aimed at them.

If I didn't post this I may not have figured it out.

Op - Unusually ranty. Trolling? Secret Incel? Devils Advocate? It would appear you were wrong in assertion it was only men this happened to yet you persist. If not for other threads where you are a great deal more balanced you would be blocked and gone.

There are a number of ways other users can arrive at your profile. Site creators made it clear for certain categories to minimise friction (so they felt at that time). Clunky maybe.

summary:

- extrapolating just on basis of own experience is always risky

- site has been around many years and is anachronistic in many ways. That is not personal.

- if you are trolling, pick a more clear cut target

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Definition of swinging as per Urban Dictionary:

"A lifestyle of non-monogamy where sexual relations occur outside the established couple.

So yeah, this site has been built mostly for couples.

And no, my man is not worried I'm going to run away with someone as it's my decision that I don't want to meet men. Why would I look for other penis if I can have one on tap whenever I want to..

Exactly this I think OP your abit up yourself!

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over a year ago

I prefer the filter block alone and if some bloke comes on all profiled up as a female pics and all that's his issue not mine..and no sign in large letters will stop that.

It's not in large letters ... that one is only when you message someone whose blocked messages ... so still not sure why it's upsetting you so much I understand why your not getting it.

This isn't making complaint about that block when a message is sent to someone.

But about the extra information seen on my own or another's profile when they filter block single males.

It reads "Not looking for single men"

My profile states I'm straight.

So do I need extra convincing that I myself am not looking for single males?

I wouldn't think so.

So obviously that text is for others.

What others?

Straight couples?

Straight female singles?

I think the penny has dropped as to who that extra addition is for without it being explicitly aimed at them.

If I didn't post this I may not have figured it out.

The 'looking for' section links to your search function, not the messaging so there are 2 sets of filters for a reason.

There's nothing unusual in this unless someone wants to rail against imaginary injustice for dramatic effect.

Better?

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I still maintain I do not want not looking for single men on my profile but seeing as there are all types of 'men' on here I will have to tolerate that.

You shall not here from me on this matter again.

Better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"NOT LOOKING FOR SINGLE MEN!

You know why it's like that?

It's because they are afraid their goddamn women are going to run off with you!

So they put up the warning sign!"

This is quite a spectacular assumption isn't it? Based on.......what? For many couples, swinging is about shared experiences, not replacing a partner. Any single, male or female, who thinks that is how swinging works is going to be disappointed that it's not all about them.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"SO, your not obviously welcome in the house, except to eat.

You can make your home in the wilds and return for an occasional munch.

The RSPCA would have a field day! "

More appropriate could be 'if your approachable and cute, you can have a stroke (usually behind the ears)..

If not approachable etc, off you trot..?

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over a year ago

I prefer the filter block alone and if some bloke comes on all profiled up as a female pics and all that's his issue not mine..and no sign in large letters will stop that.

It's not in large letters ... that one is only when you message someone whose blocked messages ... so still not sure why it's upsetting you so much I understand why your not getting it.

This isn't making complaint about that block when a message is sent to someone.

But about the extra information seen on my own or another's profile when they filter block single males.

It reads "Not looking for single men"

My profile states I'm straight.

So do I need extra convincing that I myself am not looking for single males?

I wouldn't think so.

So obviously that text is for others.

What others?

Straight couples?

Straight female singles?

I think the penny has dropped as to who that extra addition is for without it being explicitly aimed at them.

If I didn't post this I may not have figured it out.

The 'looking for' section links to your search function, not the messaging so there are 2 sets of filters for a reason.

There's nothing unusual in this unless someone wants to rail against imaginary injustice for dramatic effect.

Better?

I still maintain I do not want not looking for single men on my profile but seeing as there are all types of 'men' on here I will have to tolerate that.

You shall not here from me on this matter again.

Better

Much!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a quirky site with some old fashion set up ways - it's

I think it's a good way of speeding things up...

Plus why we bothering here, you've highlighted, you at least read profiles, even if it's just your own

I think honesty is the best policy around here.

If I didn't stick this thread up enlightenment I may not have recieved.

The only downside for me was the jumbled OP which could read as if I'm against blocks themselves thus exasperating some/many

when it was a message filter issue beyond my understanding..not any more methinks!

I like to be able to make sense of my surroundings as much as possible.

All casualties hit in the crossfire will have to restore themselves!

Do you not think it's a over controlling nature ?

It can be upsetting your balance a bit....

I'm like that too sometimes

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over a year ago

I prefer the filter block alone and if some bloke comes on all profiled up as a female pics and all that's his issue not mine..and no sign in large letters will stop that.

It's not in large letters ... that one is only when you message someone whose blocked messages ... so still not sure why it's upsetting you so much I understand why your not getting it.

This isn't making complaint about that block when a message is sent to someone.

But about the extra information seen on my own or another's profile when they filter block single males.

It reads "Not looking for single men"

My profile states I'm straight.

So do I need extra convincing that I myself am not looking for single males?

I wouldn't think so.

So obviously that text is for others.

What others?

Straight couples?

Straight female singles?

I think the penny has dropped as to who that extra addition is for without it being explicitly aimed at them.

If I didn't post this I may not have figured it out.

There are a number of ways other users can arrive at your profile. Site creators made it clear for certain categories to minimise friction (so they felt at that time). Clunky maybe.

summary:

- extrapolating just on basis of own experience is always risky

- site has been around many years and is anachronistic in many ways. That is not personal.

- if you are trolling, pick a more clear cut target

I appreciate that my ability to see many sides to an issue has been noted.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thread over.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thread over."

Or is it?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

So much drama over a message telling other people why they can't message you..... Jeez

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By *obbychickWoman
over a year ago

Essex

I don’t think it is over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow mate, honestly.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thread over."

Potential for meets over.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OR…… you're not looking for single men but you've not blocked Single Men for when you're interacting within the forums…… you may have Single Men as friends on here.

KEEP OFF THE GRASS!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You think too much mate.

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Aww do you need a hug

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Just do what everyone else does, ignore the messages from single men.

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By *hancer666Man
over a year ago

Redbourn

I prefer the filter block alone and if some bloke comes on all profiled up as a female pics and all that's his issue not mine..and no sign in large letters will stop that.

It's not in large letters ... that one is only when you message someone whose blocked messages ... so still not sure why it's upsetting you so much I understand why your not getting it.

This isn't making complaint about that block when a message is sent to someone.

But about the extra information seen on my own or another's profile when they filter block single males.

It reads "Not looking for single men"

My profile states I'm straight.

So do I need extra convincing that I myself am not looking for single males?

I wouldn't think so.

So obviously that text is for others.

What others?

Straight couples?

Straight female singles?

I think the penny has dropped as to who that extra addition is for without it being explicitly aimed at them.

If I didn't post this I may not have figured it out.

There are a number of ways other users can arrive at your profile. Site creators made it clear for certain categories to minimise friction (so they felt at that time). Clunky maybe.

summary:

- extrapolating just on basis of own experience is always risky

- site has been around many years and is anachronistic in many ways. That is not personal.

- if you are trolling, pick a more clear cut target

I appreciate that my ability to see many sides to an issue has been noted.

Id appreciate it If you could extend that 'not hearing from me on this matter' pledge to include Regurgitating post on topics that have been covered hundreds of times while sneakily being so self congratulatory if your profile and posts had to come out and identify they would be autosexual. I also heard your analogies are being used on a dreadful 'how to, assisted suicide website' reading them to someone whos in pain they actually check out sooner as they see it as a better alternative

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Sometimes the message needs to be hammered home

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I do wonder why the site adds it to profiles when you block men from messaging though.

I am only here for single men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plenty of profiles on here say ' No Single Men ' but their verifications are full of single men..talk about confusion for us single men

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over a year ago

I prefer the filter block alone and if some bloke comes on all profiled up as a female pics and all that's his issue not mine..and no sign in large letters will stop that.

It's not in large letters ... that one is only when you message someone whose blocked messages ... so still not sure why it's upsetting you so much I understand why your not getting it.

This isn't making complaint about that block when a message is sent to someone.

But about the extra information seen on my own or another's profile when they filter block single males.

It reads "Not looking for single men"

My profile states I'm straight.

So do I need extra convincing that I myself am not looking for single males?

I wouldn't think so.

So obviously that text is for others.

What others?

Straight couples?

Straight female singles?

I think the penny has dropped as to who that extra addition is for without it being explicitly aimed at them.

If I didn't post this I may not have figured it out.

There are a number of ways other users can arrive at your profile. Site creators made it clear for certain categories to minimise friction (so they felt at that time). Clunky maybe.

summary:

- extrapolating just on basis of own experience is always risky

- site has been around many years and is anachronistic in many ways. That is not personal.

- if you are trolling, pick a more clear cut target

I appreciate that my ability to see many sides to an issue has been noted.

Fk me you just toe to toe with him and took it to a level it didn't have to go....

Yay to testosterone!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Huey X

That fresh air is calling you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My experience is similar, I find lots of posts in bold letters No SINGLE MEN, my profile banner says pond life due to a forum post I read stating single men are the lowest form on fab honest, its on one of the old forum threads.

I did wonder why members do this when they can filter responses, so to see an other member express my thoughts, makes me think there could be something to this.

as a result I am unconfident to visit clubs, or interact with couples as I think others think of me as pond life, desperate for a shag etc.

also looking for couples is not important to me anymore due to the number couples profiles which make unflattering comments against single men.

I know there are time wasters on here but it is not only single men its couples single females as well in fact where are the no single females posts haha no more to be said.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I prefer the filter block alone and if some bloke comes on all profiled up as a female pics and all that's his issue not mine..and no sign in large letters will stop that.

It's not in large letters ... that one is only when you message someone whose blocked messages ... so still not sure why it's upsetting you so much I understand why your not getting it.

This isn't making complaint about that block when a message is sent to someone.

But about the extra information seen on my own or another's profile when they filter block single males.

It reads "Not looking for single men"

My profile states I'm straight.

So do I need extra convincing that I myself am not looking for single males?

I wouldn't think so.

So obviously that text is for others.

What others?

Straight couples?

Straight female singles?

I think the penny has dropped as to who that extra addition is for without it being explicitly aimed at them.

If I didn't post this I may not have figured it out.

There are a number of ways other users can arrive at your profile. Site creators made it clear for certain categories to minimise friction (so they felt at that time). Clunky maybe.

summary:

- extrapolating just on basis of own experience is always risky

- site has been around many years and is anachronistic in many ways. That is not personal.

- if you are trolling, pick a more clear cut target

I appreciate that my ability to see many sides to an issue has been noted.

I've resurrected!!

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By *assie101Woman
over a year ago

Kent

"Maybe they wrote it on their profile first, then found the filter - forgetting afterwards, to eliminate the profile text

NO..I'm refering to the big sign that appears when single males are blocked.

People can put anything they want in their profile text.

The one I refer to is site generated.

It also appears to us wemon too o just tried to msg a female ... BIG MASSIVE sign came saying females are blocked from messaging her so no your not being signalled out at all ..."

Or when you are out of the age range. It happens

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By *hancer666Man
over a year ago

Redbourn

I prefer the filter block alone and if some bloke comes on all profiled up as a female pics and all that's his issue not mine..and no sign in large letters will stop that.

It's not in large letters ... that one is only when you message someone whose blocked messages ... so still not sure why it's upsetting you so much I understand why your not getting it.

This isn't making complaint about that block when a message is sent to someone.

But about the extra information seen on my own or another's profile when they filter block single males.

It reads "Not looking for single men"

My profile states I'm straight.

So do I need extra convincing that I myself am not looking for single males?

I wouldn't think so.

So obviously that text is for others.

What others?

Straight couples?

Straight female singles?

I think the penny has dropped as to who that extra addition is for without it being explicitly aimed at them.

If I didn't post this I may not have figured it out.

There are a number of ways other users can arrive at your profile. Site creators made it clear for certain categories to minimise friction (so they felt at that time). Clunky maybe.

summary:

- extrapolating just on basis of own experience is always risky

- site has been around many years and is anachronistic in many ways. That is not personal.

- if you are trolling, pick a more clear cut target

I appreciate that my ability to see many sides to an issue has been noted.

I've resurrected!!"

Oh bugger, in those few minutes we've already had the funeral and the wake...i did the eulogy.

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By *aked2sumCouple
over a year ago

Coast

Our profile states single guys welcome. It’s personal choice that’s what fabs about there’s lots of couples on here into single guys

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By *hancer666Man
over a year ago

Redbourn

I prefer the filter block alone and if some bloke comes on all profiled up as a female pics and all that's his issue not mine..and no sign in large letters will stop that.

It's not in large letters ... that one is only when you message someone whose blocked messages ... so still not sure why it's upsetting you so much I understand why your not getting it.

This isn't making complaint about that block when a message is sent to someone.

But about the extra information seen on my own or another's profile when they filter block single males.

It reads "Not looking for single men"

My profile states I'm straight.

So do I need extra convincing that I myself am not looking for single males?

I wouldn't think so.

So obviously that text is for others.

What others?

Straight couples?

Straight female singles?

I think the penny has dropped as to who that extra addition is for without it being explicitly aimed at them.

If I didn't post this I may not have figured it out.

There are a number of ways other users can arrive at your profile. Site creators made it clear for certain categories to minimise friction (so they felt at that time). Clunky maybe.

summary:

- extrapolating just on basis of own experience is always risky

- site has been around many years and is anachronistic in many ways. That is not personal.

- if you are trolling, pick a more clear cut target

I appreciate that my ability to see many sides to an issue has been noted.

I've resurrected!!

Oh bugger, in those few minutes we've already had the funeral and the wake...i did the eulogy.

P.s ...and the headstone. Your name resistance lives on as you are often referenced now when the pub quiz question ' Name the 3 swear words starting with C, D and F that were first legally chiseled onto a headstone in 2021'

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over a year ago

I prefer the filter block alone and if some bloke comes on all profiled up as a female pics and all that's his issue not mine..and no sign in large letters will stop that.

It's not in large letters ... that one is only when you message someone whose blocked messages ... so still not sure why it's upsetting you so much I understand why your not getting it.

This isn't making complaint about that block when a message is sent to someone.

But about the extra information seen on my own or another's profile when they filter block single males.

It reads "Not looking for single men"

My profile states I'm straight.

So do I need extra convincing that I myself am not looking for single males?

I wouldn't think so.

So obviously that text is for others.

What others?

Straight couples?

Straight female singles?

I think the penny has dropped as to who that extra addition is for without it being explicitly aimed at them.

If I didn't post this I may not have figured it out.

There are a number of ways other users can arrive at your profile. Site creators made it clear for certain categories to minimise friction (so they felt at that time). Clunky maybe.

summary:

- extrapolating just on basis of own experience is always risky

- site has been around many years and is anachronistic in many ways. That is not personal.

- if you are trolling, pick a more clear cut target

I appreciate that my ability to see many sides to an issue has been noted.

I've resurrected!!

Oh bugger, in those few minutes we've already had the funeral and the wake...i did the eulogy.

If you had more style you could be funny!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP.. So the blanket block that the site has created, allows you to be put in a category of singles males and their behaviour that you don't feel you belong in? You're tarnished with a brush in effect in the process and the words in your face highlight it all the more?

Do you feel you're better than the dogs with three dicks and think the block each on their own merit feature allows you to prove you're not like the rest and a good option?

We haven't blocked males for various reasons. But we won't be playing with any single males unless we chose at any point to go down the route of MMF etc. But it's bit something we've chosen to do yet so effectively we could block them all. It's just part of our dynamic and preferences not a slight at men.

PW.

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By *ausageNmashCouple
over a year ago

Andover

You may find a lady here and return as a couples profile and realise the problem for a lot of couples looking for the odd male to join them sometimes

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By *hancer666Man
over a year ago

Redbourn

I prefer the filter block alone and if some bloke comes on all profiled up as a female pics and all that's his issue not mine..and no sign in large letters will stop that.

It's not in large letters ... that one is only when you message someone whose blocked messages ... so still not sure why it's upsetting you so much I understand why your not getting it.

This isn't making complaint about that block when a message is sent to someone.

But about the extra information seen on my own or another's profile when they filter block single males.

It reads "Not looking for single men"

My profile states I'm straight.

So do I need extra convincing that I myself am not looking for single males?

I wouldn't think so.

So obviously that text is for others.

What others?

Straight couples?

Straight female singles?

I think the penny has dropped as to who that extra addition is for without it being explicitly aimed at them.

If I didn't post this I may not have figured it out.

There are a number of ways other users can arrive at your profile. Site creators made it clear for certain categories to minimise friction (so they felt at that time). Clunky maybe.

summary:

- extrapolating just on basis of own experience is always risky

- site has been around many years and is anachronistic in many ways. That is not personal.

- if you are trolling, pick a more clear cut target

I appreciate that my ability to see many sides to an issue has been noted.

I've resurrected!!

Oh bugger, in those few minutes we've already had the funeral and the wake...i did the eulogy.

If you had more style you could be funny!"

Of course they had no style, nor were they articulate, nor worthy of being called a response. It was a rant, and written simultaneously as I was thinking it, the enjoyment I got will be short lived and replaced with regret . 'No style'....you went easy on me. Not an adult repost by me, but every now and then, it's good to just express yourself freely, and it's generally original, you can relate to that cant you

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By *heonix_flamesWoman
over a year ago

Midlands

I think you need to put this in the Site Feedback forum?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer the filter block alone and if some bloke comes on all profiled up as a female pics and all that's his issue not mine..and no sign in large letters will stop that.

It's not in large letters ... that one is only when you message someone whose blocked messages ... so still not sure why it's upsetting you so much I understand why your not getting it.

This isn't making complaint about that block when a message is sent to someone.

But about the extra information seen on my own or another's profile when they filter block single males.

It reads "Not looking for single men"

My profile states I'm straight.

So do I need extra convincing that I myself am not looking for single males?

I wouldn't think so.

So obviously that text is for others.

What others?

Straight couples?

Straight female singles?

I think the penny has dropped as to who that extra addition is for without it being explicitly aimed at them.

If I didn't post this I may not have figured it out.

There are a number of ways other users can arrive at your profile. Site creators made it clear for certain categories to minimise friction (so they felt at that time). Clunky maybe.

summary:

- extrapolating just on basis of own experience is always risky

- site has been around many years and is anachronistic in many ways. That is not personal.

- if you are trolling, pick a more clear cut target

I appreciate that my ability to see many sides to an issue has been noted.

I've resurrected!!

Oh bugger, in those few minutes we've already had the funeral and the wake...i did the eulogy.

If you had more style you could be funny!

This is some long arse read..

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By *-4pleasureCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

"Further apologies, IT CAN be a reversal of DOGS KEEP OUT and often is!"

U ok hun?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This site must have been built for couples!

OR men who encourage women to do things!!

The option to block single males and have it blazoned across a profile as

NOT LOOKING FOR SINGLE MEN.

IS A BIT OF AN OVERKILL!

They been blocked already!

Access has been denied!

SO? Why is it now broadcast too?

NOT LOOKING FOR SINGLE MEN.

Why are the single males the ONLY grouping on the whole site where such a blazoned sign can appear on another's profile?

NOT LOOKING FOR SINGLE MEN!

You know why it's like that?

It's because they are afraid their goddamn women are going to run off with you!

So they put up the warning sign!

It's the reverse of DOGS KEEP OUT!

That IS truly the epitome of being singled out here!

WOOF!

Have a wee chug and a lie down. You'll feel better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Glad I went for that walk

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Further apologies, IT CAN be a reversal of DOGS KEEP OUT and often is!

U ok hun? "
Thanks for asking.

I'm OK.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I prefer the filter block alone and if some bloke comes on all profiled up as a female pics and all that's his issue not mine..and no sign in large letters will stop that.

It's not in large letters ... that one is only when you message someone whose blocked messages ... so still not sure why it's upsetting you so much I understand why your not getting it.

This isn't making complaint about that block when a message is sent to someone.

But about the extra information seen on my own or another's profile when they filter block single males.

It reads "Not looking for single men"

My profile states I'm straight.

So do I need extra convincing that I myself am not looking for single males?

I wouldn't think so.

So obviously that text is for others.

What others?

Straight couples?

Straight female singles?

I think the penny has dropped as to who that extra addition is for without it being explicitly aimed at them.

If I didn't post this I may not have figured it out.

There are a number of ways other users can arrive at your profile. Site creators made it clear for certain categories to minimise friction (so they felt at that time). Clunky maybe.

summary:

- extrapolating just on basis of own experience is always risky

- site has been around many years and is anachronistic in many ways. That is not personal.

- if you are trolling, pick a more clear cut target

I appreciate that my ability to see many sides to an issue has been noted.

I've resurrected!!

Oh bugger, in those few minutes we've already had the funeral and the wake...i did the eulogy.

If you had more style you could be funny!

This is some long arse read..

Gotta acknowledge that!

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

First line of my profile is " Not looking for straight guys"

Is that emblazoned?

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By *hancer666Man
over a year ago

Redbourn

I prefer the filter block alone and if some bloke comes on all profiled up as a female pics and all that's his issue not mine..and no sign in large letters will stop that.

It's not in large letters ... that one is only when you message someone whose blocked messages ... so still not sure why it's upsetting you so much I understand why your not getting it.

This isn't making complaint about that block when a message is sent to someone.

But about the extra information seen on my own or another's profile when they filter block single males.

It reads "Not looking for single men"

My profile states I'm straight.

So do I need extra convincing that I myself am not looking for single males?

I wouldn't think so.

So obviously that text is for others.

What others?

Straight couples?

Straight female singles?

I think the penny has dropped as to who that extra addition is for without it being explicitly aimed at them.

If I didn't post this I may not have figured it out.

There are a number of ways other users can arrive at your profile. Site creators made it clear for certain categories to minimise friction (so they felt at that time). Clunky maybe.

summary:

- extrapolating just on basis of own experience is always risky

- site has been around many years and is anachronistic in many ways. That is not personal.

- if you are trolling, pick a more clear cut target

I appreciate that my ability to see many sides to an issue has been noted.

I've resurrected!!

Oh bugger, in those few minutes we've already had the funeral and the wake...i did the eulogy.

If you had more style you could be funny!

This is some long arse read..

Gotta acknowledge that!"

I concur

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My experience is similar, I find lots of posts in bold letters No SINGLE MEN, my profile banner says pond life due to a forum post I read stating single men are the lowest form on fab honest, its on one of the old forum threads.

I did wonder why members do this when they can filter responses, so to see an other member express my thoughts, makes me think there could be something to this.

as a result I am unconfident to visit clubs, or interact with couples as I think others think of me as pond life, desperate for a shag etc.

also looking for couples is not important to me anymore due to the number couples profiles which make unflattering comments against single men.

I know there are time wasters on here but it is not only single men its couples single females as well in fact where are the no single females posts haha no more to be said."

well I changed my email restrictions and got more mail from single guys, than I have ever had from women so I am changing back.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"SO, your not obviously welcome in the house, except to eat.

You can make your home in the wilds and return for an occasional munch.

The RSPCA would have a field day!

Or you can go elsewhere where you are welcome

Plenty of people are happy to chat with single males. Just seek them out instead

I personally would rather be able to block them without a big sign on my straight male profile that says NOT LOOKING FOR SINGLE MEN!

so remove thw filter and then block all single men individually!

Won't take you too long!!

So in other words there is no way to remove those words from a straight male profile (which is what this thread IS about)

without the consequence of having single men able to directly message me?

Surely todays technology and intent can achieve that?

A female comes on the site having no idea of how it works and sees not looking for single men written on my profile because I have message filter blocked single males from ACTUALLY messaging me..

they do have no access to me but looking at my profile with those words on it?

Who knows?

Surely it raises a question.

It just seems strange to me.

Others here have run off on a tangent claiming I am complaining about what goes into profile texts or about what message filters THEY have up.

THEY can have up any message filters they want.

I flung some stuff out in OP in a harsh way about running off with others etc..why? Because I believe that? No.

but it had more to do with a feeling of being sabotaged.

If this post offends anyone?

Maybe it will be similar to the response I had from the person whose post this is joined to whose green faced emoji and wording signifies...Good luck with having to individually remove every male visitor to your profile because you don't want those words on your profile.

A hell of a lot of understanding there!

I think those words on my profile could send out a mixed message and I don't like them there.

NEVER WILL.

SIMPLE.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll check back in on new years eve see how this threads is going.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If I do not use that messaging filter I could be willingly leaving myself open to the approaches of single males.

Who knows?

If I use that message filter by blocking on my straight male profile it states (not written by me) that I am not looking for single males!

Is that reasonable?

If It is clearly seen that I am looking for F and MF where does not looking for single men come into it?

Am I being stupid to ask this?

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By *panddaCouple
over a year ago

West Mids

"This site must have been built for couples!

OR men who encourage women to do things!!

The option to block single males and have it blazoned across a profile as

NOT LOOKING FOR SINGLE MEN.

IS A BIT OF AN OVERKILL!

They been blocked already!

Access has been denied!

SO? Why is it now broadcast too?

NOT LOOKING FOR SINGLE MEN.

Why are the single males the ONLY grouping on the whole site where such a blazoned sign can appear on another's profile?

NOT LOOKING FOR SINGLE MEN!

You know why it's like that?

It's because they are afraid their goddamn women are going to run off with you!

So they put up the warning sign!

It's the reverse of DOGS KEEP OUT!

That IS truly the epitome of being singled out here!

WOOF!

Afraid of our ladies running away with single men?? No. They are not possessions, they have the freedom of choice.

Speaking personally of course, a single man doesn't bring anything to our party.

Like turning up empty handed, drinking everyone else's alcohol, then leaving again.

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland

We say we’re not looking for single males on our profile.

We are happy to chat with them, but we don’t want to lead them on thinking we’re looking to meet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

On a straight males profile that wording is useless, possibly detrimental information.

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By *1c4yMan
over a year ago

stourbridge

Many profiles are of single men using couple profiles to chat with single women. Then when the meet is arranged the imaginary female part of the couple can't make the meet for one reason or the other. Hence why they don't want messages off single males because there is no female she doesn't exist.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Many profiles are of single men using couple profiles to chat with single women. Then when the meet is arranged the imaginary female part of the couple can't make the meet for one reason or the other. Hence why they don't want messages off single males because there is no female she doesn't exist. "
That is a bit irrelevant to my intended point here (which a lot of people are missing) and if it happens (how would I know? I'm not a woman) I would be sorry that they had to suffer such.

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth

Perchance being a tad over sensitive - maybe

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"On a straight males profile that wording is useless, possibly detrimental information."
This should have been added to my last post..about the consequence of message filtering on a straight males profile when blocking single males.

It's not an answer about others messaging blocks

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Perchance being a tad over sensitive - maybe

"
No, I'm not and I'm straight in the old school sense.

You may have been the wrong person to ask that question.

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By *1c4yMan
over a year ago

stourbridge

"Many profiles are of single men using couple profiles to chat with single women. Then when the meet is arranged the imaginary female part of the couple can't make the meet for one reason or the other. Hence why they don't want messages off single males because there is no female she doesn't exist. That is a bit irrelevant to my intended point here (which a lot of people are missing) and if it happens (how would I know? I'm not a woman) I would be sorry that they had to suffer such. "

So maybe the NO SINGLE MEN sign is there as a warning for the single guys that try and make couple profiles which enables them to message people that have single men blocked.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Because its a filter option and things you can filter by are listed on profiles. It's supposed to help save you time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I do not use that messaging filter I could be willingly leaving myself open to the approaches of single males.

Who knows?

If I use that message filter by blocking on my straight male profile it states (not written by me) that I am not looking for single males!

Is that reasonable?

If It is clearly seen that I am looking for F and MF where does not looking for single men come into it?

Am I being stupid to ask this?"

better to ask than to feel how you feel.

I did change my looking for then got more mail than I ever have had from men, so I changed it back that was my experience yesterday.

so for me I will keep the filter, but I won't type in bold letters no single men no need to do it twice as they can't write to me except when they pretend to be a women.

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over a year ago

"Many profiles are of single men using couple profiles to chat with single women. Then when the meet is arranged the imaginary female part of the couple can't make the meet for one reason or the other. Hence why they don't want messages off single males because there is no female she doesn't exist. That is a bit irrelevant to my intended point here (which a lot of people are missing) and if it happens (how would I know? I'm not a woman) I would be sorry that they had to suffer such.

So maybe the NO SINGLE MEN sign is there as a warning for the single guys that try and make couple profiles which enables them to message people that have single men blocked. "
That's when it's relevant to that and It's very good.

BUT that isn't so relevant to a straight male profile having it on HIS profile when HE has blocked single males from messaging him via message filter.

I have made a thread on site feedback where that 'dilemma' belongs.

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By *1c4yMan
over a year ago

stourbridge

"Many profiles are of single men using couple profiles to chat with single women. Then when the meet is arranged the imaginary female part of the couple can't make the meet for one reason or the other. Hence why they don't want messages off single males because there is no female she doesn't exist. That is a bit irrelevant to my intended point here (which a lot of people are missing) and if it happens (how would I know? I'm not a woman) I would be sorry that they had to suffer such.

So maybe the NO SINGLE MEN sign is there as a warning for the single guys that try and make couple profiles which enables them to message people that have single men blocked. That's when it's relevant to that and It's very good.

BUT that isn't so relevant to a straight male profile having it on HIS profile when HE has blocked single males from messaging him via message filter.

I have made a thread on site feedback where that 'dilemma' belongs."

Why wouldn't it be relevant?

A single straight male can block single males but if a single male decided to make a fake female or couple account they could still send a message.

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