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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Do you think opposite attract? Do you like someone to be very different compared to you?

Personally I’ve always been into people who were completely different from me, obviously we have things we share that we might like or find common ground (I think this is the key answer for an healthy relationship with someone total opposite), but generally for example, they’d be doing manual work. Be tall, usually white or fair anyway. With blue eyes or green. Basically very much my opposite in every sense!

I’m a girly girl and I’d usually pick a very masculine guy.

To be with someone who’s polar opposite almost, is interesting and I love being able to get to know their world and learn from them. Rather than having someone that is too similar to me (I’d probably be super friends with them tho?) and that is in my same fields as me (work wise and passion wise too)

Opinions?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you think opposite attract? Do you like someone to be very different compared to you?

Personally I’ve always been into people who were completely different from me, obviously we have things we share that we might like or find common ground (I think this is the key answer for an healthy relationship with someone total opposite), but generally for example, they’d be doing manual work. Be tall, usually white or fair anyway. With blue eyes or green. Basically very much my opposite in every sense!

I’m a girly girl and I’d usually pick a very masculine guy.

To be with someone who’s polar opposite almost, is interesting and I love being able to get to know their world and learn from them. Rather than having someone that is too similar to me (I’d probably be super friends with them tho?) and that is in my same fields as me (work wise and passion wise too)

Opinions?"

That's why I'm attracted to young, slim and attractive women

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

I think if you are poles apart of matters of life principles and attitudes to important things like for example parenting then in the long run it’s a recipe for disaster. People can have totally different jobs and careers and come from totally different backgrounds and upbringings but if there is no commonality on those core things then a long term relationship won’t happen or last

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

I personally believe that the notion of opposite attraction may be true but likely only in the short term.

Certainly, in the long term, the polar opposite traits will become ever more vast.

Well…that’s my take on it at least.

I’m off to caress my radiator now

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I think you you're core values have to align to have a successful relationship.

Though hobbies etc M is into motorbikes and all that where I rather go see a ballet or an art gallery. We do differ but we do like to see each others passions in life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well, I really wouldn’t normally go for a blonde bloke. Dark-haired all the way. Tall too. So yeah, you could have a point!

However I’d expect our values to be roughly in line with each other’s. They’re more important to me anyway.

Oh and Kylie, thanks for your lovely and supportive comment on my running thread xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn’t say so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Could this be why you're unlucky in love?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think you you're core values have to align to have a successful relationship.

Though hobbies etc M is into motorbikes and all that where I rather go see a ballet or an art gallery. We do differ but we do like to see each others passions in life. "

I think you are right there, there has to be some core values at align somewhere to make it successful

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"I think you you're core values have to align to have a successful relationship.

Though hobbies etc M is into motorbikes and all that where I rather go see a ballet or an art gallery. We do differ but we do like to see each others passions in life.

I think you are right there, there has to be some core values at align somewhere to make it successful "

I agree it is nice to learn something new from your other half. I wouldn't want to go out with a male version of myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Core values yes, otherwise you wouldn't get along but different interests aren't an issue. Even different personality types can compliment each other.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Could this be why you're unlucky in love?"

Haha … ouch!!! X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well, I really wouldn’t normally go for a blonde bloke. Dark-haired all the way. Tall too. So yeah, you could have a point!

However I’d expect our values to be roughly in line with each other’s. They’re more important to me anyway.

Oh and Kylie, thanks for your lovely and supportive comment on my running thread xx"

Values I agree, but what about hobbies?

U hear stories of relationships between people in the same fields! Like professors or say music people being with other musicians only

Or actors and actresses.

I do love to know more about my other partner and hear what they do etc and literally have no clue what they are on about and genuinely be interested in hearing something new

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well, I really wouldn’t normally go for a blonde bloke. Dark-haired all the way. Tall too. So yeah, you could have a point!

However I’d expect our values to be roughly in line with each other’s. They’re more important to me anyway.

Oh and Kylie, thanks for your lovely and supportive comment on my running thread xx"

Also of course, if you need any tips for yoga (if you are interested) just send me a message and I’ll try give u some suggestions x

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

My current relationship is based mainly on shared values and beliefs. Also, even though she’s younger than me, her previous history (been married grown up children) means we have a lot in common.

But the main thing is do you get on with each other ?

I laughed a lot during our first meeting and so did she. Conversation flowed and even more intimate secrets were discussed on our second date.

If an opposite person is someone who doesn’t share my humour, intelligence level, interests then I’d rather date someone else.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We are opposite in many ways but our differences compliment each other. We're alike enough to not get on each others nerves too much

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I tend to gravitate to outgoing men who can cook, so yeah, there maybe something in it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I tend to gravitate to outgoing men who can cook, so yeah, there maybe something in it "

Is this a self confession that you can’t cook? X

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales


"I tend to gravitate to outgoing men who can cook, so yeah, there maybe something in it

Is this a self confession that you can’t cook? X "

Yep! I chargrill EVERYTHING

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By *aliceWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham


"I tend to gravitate to outgoing men who can cook, so yeah, there maybe something in it

Is this a self confession that you can’t cook? X

Yep! I chargrill EVERYTHING "

I had a dear friend like that. She managed to produce black carrots and a very acrid metallic smell after 'boiling' them in a saucepan. She didn't realise water was a key part of the boiling process.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I tend to gravitate to outgoing men who can cook, so yeah, there maybe something in it

Is this a self confession that you can’t cook? X

Yep! I chargrill EVERYTHING "

I love chargrill chicken especially when having a Caesar salad

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall

Nah... it's bollocks... you like who you like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe attract as they are someone different but it never lasts as you grow apart and the differences become wider unless you are growing together

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall


"Maybe attract as they are someone different but it never lasts as you grow apart and the differences become wider unless you are growing together "

What ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes.. sometimes not. I find girls change to what they expect me to like, have the same tastes ect then bit by bit they become their real self which is typically oposit to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone has the potential to form an attraction with someone no matter how different they are. When it goes to a relationship level you have to be similar in relationship goals, morals and boundaries. If you have that foundation to build on, your similarities and differences will only be postive things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe attract as they are someone different but it never lasts as you grow apart and the differences become wider unless you are growing together

What ?"

If 2 people are opposites then as they grow the gap becomes wider

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My wife and I had very little in common apart from the place we met. Different interests, background etc. I think it made us interested in each other.

After nearly thirty years we're pretty similar in many ways now or maybe the differences just aren't so obvious.

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

Works for magnets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess opposites attract in the sense something different is attractive but over time those differences become points of friction and you either blow up or drift apart. Just my experience mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I guess opposites attract in the sense something different is attractive but over time those differences become points of friction and you either blow up or drift apart. Just my experience mind. "

Or learn to compromise. Or change.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

I prefer someone similar.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sometimes.. sometimes not. I find girls change to what they expect me to like, have the same tastes ect then bit by bit they become their real self which is typically oposit to me. "

And how does that work out in the end? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been with unsociable, shy men and I don't want that - I want someone like me. Who wants to go out and meet new people. And I think sharing the same values is hugely important. Couldn't care less about the physical or the hobbies (except fishing...or cycling )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe attract as they are someone different but it never lasts as you grow apart and the differences become wider unless you are growing together

What ?

If 2 people are opposites then as they grow the gap becomes wider "

Indeed... and those that match become pretty much as one

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

Sometimes simply because you may see something that is really attractive in the opposite sex. But in my case in here absolutely zero

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By *LiamMan
over a year ago

Midlands

I've found this true, as someone growing up in a very populated inner city alot of my female 'friends' have been from completely different backgrounds. Mainly rural village settings, I'm not sure what makes me attractive to them but I do like their upbringings

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I guess opposites attract in the sense something different is attractive but over time those differences become points of friction and you either blow up or drift apart. Just my experience mind.

Or learn to compromise. Or change."

I'd say compromise is a given in any kind of relationship but having to change to suit someone else... NOT so much. Probably why I'm single lol.

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By *ack688Man
over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

I want them to have the same likes as me, the same passions as well as the same values and beliefs (or lack of them), I don’t want either of us to have to learn to like something the other person is crazy about, and there are definitely some things that if they liked just wouldn’t work for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my experience introvert-extrovert doesn’t work. Too different.

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