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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

First of because a lot of problems reading to understand and just read to reply. This post isn't about

Wanting attention (I have enough, I don't need or want anymore)

Wanting anyone's pity/sympathy

Complaining about anything

Just wanted to open up a little. So yea after my posts this week I'm taking a break from the forums (posting or commenting in posts) I'm feeling a bit bad because I decided to cancel my meets I have planned from tomorrow-Tuesday. Someone made a very judgemental like comment about me (that maybe women think you're easy) which really set me off a bit tbh, that and I've been very busy with my careers made me realise that my time thus weekend can be better spent working on my projects to help make the world a better place (even for the people that hate me) I also echo what others have said that people don't want to have intellectual discourse about anything that they don't agree with.

So I doubt I'll be meeting anyone until the new year tbh. I've had a really tough year dealing with a near death experience, being knocked down, more racism, heartbreak, all while trying to chase ridiculously ambitious dreams.

I came back to fab for stress-free fun, but it seems I'm being stressed everytime I come on this site. While I'm not leaving, I'm just taking a step back, might visit the site every few days until the new year or until my next birthday. I do have a few meets for next weekend as well but it depends on how much work I get done this week tbh. If I'm productive during the week, I'll feel less guilty playing on the weekends.

Anyways I'm sure despite what I said initially, people will draw their own misguided opinions and judgements. But I'm honestly a bit turned off from the forums and the very pushy people on fab who are upset when you can't meet them today for today.

Anyways have fun fabbing (no need to message me, I'm good, have a ton of msgs to read from today already tbh) and again my posts wasn't meant to insult or offended anyone, it was meant to have an interesting conversation about modern dating, modern women, alpha and beta males (never got around to making those posts) and other stuff I thought would be interesting topics to discuss.

Have fun fabbing though (because I hold the ill will to anyone. I'm literally working to try and make the world a better place for your kids and grandkids) one love xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly its a shame to see you take a break like this as a result of the comments made against you. The forum is supposed to be a welcoming place, but while you may post provocative threads its no excuse for the way you have been treated in the forum.

I wasnt impressed by how much ppl berated you, seeing comments like 'misogynist' and 'incel'. I understand we will all have conflicts of opinion regarding some matter or other, but it helps to try to understand and help each other see different points of view, or educate one another where one or many may lack certain experiences in life.

All of the negative comments that have been thrown against you only serve the purpose of pushing you out of the community and dissuading others from taking part out of fear of saying something the majority will get triggered by, starting a witch hunt.

Take some time to focus on yourself, relax a little, dont let the opinions of others bring you down or get in the way of your life especially when they are the opinions of strangers on the internet, nothing says that they know any better than you or anyone else.

Maybe youll come bacm in future with a fresh mindset. But until then and in the mean time, take it easy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really infarct with you but form your posts you don’t seem all that bad

As far as the easy goes who cares

I be the first to say it

I am easy and I couldn’t care what others think off that hi at least us easy people have all the fun

Anyway keep your chin up

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Why are you letting it stress you out xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Honestly its a shame to see you take a break like this as a result of the comments made against you. The forum is supposed to be a welcoming place, but while you may post provocative threads its no excuse for the way you have been treated in the forum.

I wasnt impressed by how much ppl berated you, seeing comments like 'misogynist' and 'incel'. I understand we will all have conflicts of opinion regarding some matter or other, but it helps to try to understand and help each other see different points of view, or educate one another where one or many may lack certain experiences in life.

All of the negative comments that have been thrown against you only serve the purpose of pushing you out of the community and dissuading others from taking part out of fear of saying something the majority will get triggered by, starting a witch hunt.

Take some time to focus on yourself, relax a little, dont let the opinions of others bring you down or get in the way of your life especially when they are the opinions of strangers on the internet, nothing says that they know any better than you or anyone else.

Maybe youll come bacm in future with a fresh mindset. But until then and in the mean time, take it easy "

Totally this.

Whilst you may not be for some, opinion-wise, the 'others' gave you a hard time.

Good old Fab and the herd instinct with many... (Not all...

Stop sharpening your arrow tips, ladies and gents....!)

Have a lovely break, have fun, relax and chill in everything you choose to do and a huge hug for your return very soon

xx

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

Take a break, reset your thoughts and come back, when you are happy. This site is supposed to be fun.

Save your sanity and remember this

"Social media ain't necessarily that social."

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

I'm sorry to read this I haven't seen any comments, saying that I've not read every thread.

I do hope you come back I've enjoyed your honesty.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

I know you were poorly

But don't think people have been harsh to you but I have not read all the threads

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven’t seen these posts or the replies so I’ve not formed an opinion on you. Take a break if you need but don’t let it ruin your time on here. Good luck with whatever you decide is best for you

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Do what you have to do for your own well-being and peace of mind, Fab will still be here when you’re feeling it a bit more and if you choose to post again.

In the meantime I wish you well and that Christmas and the New Year is good to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try not to get too involved in threads that get heated because I usually get a timeout when I do.

So, I’ve not seen what you’re describing but I can imagine what you mean. New people who are strong in their opinions tend to get shot down on these forums.

Take a break. Save the world and we’ll see you when you get back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hope you feel better OP. Just ignore them.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Strangers on the internet... Don't take it all so seriously

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought I caught the tail end of a forum post going downhill for you. Misunderstandings are rife on here, people infer what they want and get offended accordingly. Hope you feel ok and uplifted after a good break. Real life is much nicer anyway people can read your face as well as your words

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never nice to see someone bail.

Make sure you keep talking to people... If I have taken anything from your posts you have a lot to get out into the open.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No idea who you are but I wish you well.

Something to bear in mind…

The internet always has an off switch.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Decided to go out and pop some bottles in the club with some bros, been home all week. Thinking about Bristol tonight.

Thanks for the comments and support though, bless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So you flaked on people you've supposedly arranged to meet because some other people didn't like your forum posts?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry you had that experience, I think people forget that they are dealing with real people with real lives at times. Take care of yourself x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Crikey. What did we miss ????????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So you flaked on people you've supposedly arranged to meet because some other people didn't like your forum posts?"

Everyone is allowed to change their mind.It’s not just the preserve of females!

If he’s explained it here, I’m sure he’s decent enough to explain it to any potential meet.

Comments like that are probably why he needs a break.

In the time of COVID, emotional preservation and well being is paramount!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP I'll miss your forum contributions which I've found intelligent, balanceded and thought provoking. Whatever is stressing you on here it's not worth your time to dwell on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hope you have a nice break OP and have a lovely Christmas

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks for being open and honest with us OP and it’s a shame you feel that way. Your posts are always quite controversial and inevitable attract a lot of attention, not all of it in your favour either so if you aren’t very good at taking criticism or accepting opposing views and opinions then it probably is best that you take a break.

If you’re considering going back to meeting people next weekend then does that mean you’ll consider returning to the forums next weekend as well? I’d love to hear more about how you’re making the world a better place for us all when you return, it would make a change from hearing about how low your opinion of women is.

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle

OP have a break and come back! Don't stop being yourself. You can't be everyone's cup of tea, If you were you would be a mug. Lol They are strangers on the Internet in reality. Take care

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

Your giving up already?

Quitter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How’s your break from posting and commenting in posts going OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lmfao !!! For someone with no meets you are doing some amount of damage according to you

. To be fair I’m surprised members actually agree to meet you after nearly a year with no meets posted . Wreaks of dreamer / already married.

Slap on the back for the good you are doing to the world with your career and weekend work

Yawn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lmfao !!! For someone with no meets you are doing some amount of damage according to you

. To be fair I’m surprised members actually agree to meet you after nearly a year with no meets posted . Wreaks of dreamer / already married.

Slap on the back for the good you are doing to the world with your career and weekend work

Yawn "

He states on his profile that he prefers quality over quantity so imagine how busy he’d be if he opted for quantity over quality....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lmfao !!! For someone with no meets you are doing some amount of damage according to you

. To be fair I’m surprised members actually agree to meet you after nearly a year with no meets posted . Wreaks of dreamer / already married.

Slap on the back for the good you are doing to the world with your career and weekend work

Yawn

He states on his profile that he prefers quality over quantity so imagine how busy he’d be if he opted for quantity over quality...."

Wouldn’t be busy either way amigo . How’s your life ? All good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lmfao !!! For someone with no meets you are doing some amount of damage according to you

. To be fair I’m surprised members actually agree to meet you after nearly a year with no meets posted . Wreaks of dreamer / already married.

Slap on the back for the good you are doing to the world with your career and weekend work

Yawn

He states on his profile that he prefers quality over quantity so imagine how busy he’d be if he opted for quantity over quality....

Wouldn’t be busy either way amigo . How’s your life ? All good "

Sorry but your comments scream arrogance. I dont see you on the forums much, if at all.. and the one time i do see you post its to slag someone off? Smh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lmfao !!! For someone with no meets you are doing some amount of damage according to you

. To be fair I’m surprised members actually agree to meet you after nearly a year with no meets posted . Wreaks of dreamer / already married.

Slap on the back for the good you are doing to the world with your career and weekend work

Yawn

He states on his profile that he prefers quality over quantity so imagine how busy he’d be if he opted for quantity over quality....

Wouldn’t be busy either way amigo . How’s your life ? All good

Sorry but your comments scream arrogance. I dont see you on the forums much, if at all.. and the one time i do see you post its to slag someone off? Smh. "

I’m not sure if that’s aimed at me or Buzz but in what way are either of our comments arrogant? Arrogance is having a high opinion of yourself and your abilities but neither of us mentioned anything about ourselves, we have only talked about OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lmfao !!! For someone with no meets you are doing some amount of damage according to you

. To be fair I’m surprised members actually agree to meet you after nearly a year with no meets posted . Wreaks of dreamer / already married.

Slap on the back for the good you are doing to the world with your career and weekend work

Yawn

He states on his profile that he prefers quality over quantity so imagine how busy he’d be if he opted for quantity over quality....

Wouldn’t be busy either way amigo . How’s your life ? All good

Sorry but your comments scream arrogance. I dont see you on the forums much, if at all.. and the one time i do see you post its to slag someone off? Smh.

I’m not sure if that’s aimed at me or Buzz but in what way are either of our comments arrogant? Arrogance is having a high opinion of yourself and your abilities but neither of us mentioned anything about ourselves, we have only talked about OP."

It was at buzz and given that he feels its acceptable to speak like that and make comments about the lack of meets dreads has, and simply looking at buzz' profile, all i get is a display of arrogance.

As for you, going off other comments youve made about dreads in previous threads (no im not listing them for you) and the things hes said i dont exactly think your comments are in good taste either.

Im not going to get into an argument with you, im telling you that it isnt necessary to be making snide comments about someone. As the saying goes, if you havent got anything nice to say, dont say it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lmfao !!! For someone with no meets you are doing some amount of damage according to you

. To be fair I’m surprised members actually agree to meet you after nearly a year with no meets posted . Wreaks of dreamer / already married.

Slap on the back for the good you are doing to the world with your career and weekend work

Yawn

He states on his profile that he prefers quality over quantity so imagine how busy he’d be if he opted for quantity over quality....

Wouldn’t be busy either way amigo . How’s your life ? All good

Sorry but your comments scream arrogance. I dont see you on the forums much, if at all.. and the one time i do see you post its to slag someone off? Smh.

I’m not sure if that’s aimed at me or Buzz but in what way are either of our comments arrogant? Arrogance is having a high opinion of yourself and your abilities but neither of us mentioned anything about ourselves, we have only talked about OP.

It was at buzz and given that he feels its acceptable to speak like that and make comments about the lack of meets dreads has, and simply looking at buzz' profile, all i get is a display of arrogance.

As for you, going off other comments youve made about dreads in previous threads (no im not listing them for you) and the things hes said i dont exactly think your comments are in good taste either.

Im not going to get into an argument with you, im telling you that it isnt necessary to be making snide comments about someone. As the saying goes, if you havent got anything nice to say, dont say it."

Lack of meets is an understatement amigo , for someone to come on the forum and rave about how well he is doing so well for meets etc then to say all the yawn stuff about doing good for our grandkids is a joke . If you are taking time off fab who really gives 2 fucks ????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tastes like sin to who ? Lol not anyone on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lmfao !!! For someone with no meets you are doing some amount of damage according to you

. To be fair I’m surprised members actually agree to meet you after nearly a year with no meets posted . Wreaks of dreamer / already married.

Slap on the back for the good you are doing to the world with your career and weekend work

Yawn

He states on his profile that he prefers quality over quantity so imagine how busy he’d be if he opted for quantity over quality....

Wouldn’t be busy either way amigo . How’s your life ? All good

Sorry but your comments scream arrogance. I dont see you on the forums much, if at all.. and the one time i do see you post its to slag someone off? Smh.

I’m not sure if that’s aimed at me or Buzz but in what way are either of our comments arrogant? Arrogance is having a high opinion of yourself and your abilities but neither of us mentioned anything about ourselves, we have only talked about OP.

It was at buzz and given that he feels its acceptable to speak like that and make comments about the lack of meets dreads has, and simply looking at buzz' profile, all i get is a display of arrogance.

As for you, going off other comments youve made about dreads in previous threads (no im not listing them for you) and the things hes said i dont exactly think your comments are in good taste either.

Im not going to get into an argument with you, im telling you that it isnt necessary to be making snide comments about someone. As the saying goes, if you havent got anything nice to say, dont say it."

Dreads makes out he gets loads of meets from this site yet he hasn’t got a single verification so I think it’s fair to pick him up on that and I think Buzz’s profile is far from arrogant but that’s just a difference of opinions.

All of Dreads posts have had a sexist and misogynistic tone to them and all I’ve done is tell him that he should consider the feelings of others more and be more respectful, just like I’d do if anyone else posted something that was derogatory to a certain sex, race, religion etc. I’ve only ever criticised what he’s posted and have never been personal in any way, just like you’ve criticised what me and Buzz have posted. You’re free to criticise us just as we’ve free to criticise Dreads.

Considering you haven’t said a single nice thing in any of your posts on this thread maybe you should consider not saying anything in future as well.

I don’t care enough to look back through your posts on other threads so I’m just going by what you’ve said here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lmfao !!! For someone with no meets you are doing some amount of damage according to you

. To be fair I’m surprised members actually agree to meet you after nearly a year with no meets posted . Wreaks of dreamer / already married.

Slap on the back for the good you are doing to the world with your career and weekend work

Yawn

He states on his profile that he prefers quality over quantity so imagine how busy he’d be if he opted for quantity over quality....

Wouldn’t be busy either way amigo . How’s your life ? All good

Sorry but your comments scream arrogance. I dont see you on the forums much, if at all.. and the one time i do see you post its to slag someone off? Smh.

I’m not sure if that’s aimed at me or Buzz but in what way are either of our comments arrogant? Arrogance is having a high opinion of yourself and your abilities but neither of us mentioned anything about ourselves, we have only talked about OP.

It was at buzz and given that he feels its acceptable to speak like that and make comments about the lack of meets dreads has, and simply looking at buzz' profile, all i get is a display of arrogance.

As for you, going off other comments youve made about dreads in previous threads (no im not listing them for you) and the things hes said i dont exactly think your comments are in good taste either.

Im not going to get into an argument with you, im telling you that it isnt necessary to be making snide comments about someone. As the saying goes, if you havent got anything nice to say, dont say it.

Dreads makes out he gets loads of meets from this site yet he hasn’t got a single verification so I think it’s fair to pick him up on that and I think Buzz’s profile is far from arrogant but that’s just a difference of opinions.

All of Dreads posts have had a sexist and misogynistic tone to them and all I’ve done is tell him that he should consider the feelings of others more and be more respectful, just like I’d do if anyone else posted something that was derogatory to a certain sex, race, religion etc. I’ve only ever criticised what he’s posted and have never been personal in any way, just like you’ve criticised what me and Buzz have posted. You’re free to criticise us just as we’ve free to criticise Dreads.

Considering you haven’t said a single nice thing in any of your posts on this thread maybe you should consider not saying anything in future as well.

I don’t care enough to look back through your posts on other threads so I’m just going by what you’ve said here. "

Exactly makes out like he is the shit , daggering all sorts ….. crack on my friend with all the imagery plastic dolls

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Considering you haven’t said a single nice thing in any of your posts on this thread maybe you should consider not saying anything in future as well.

I don’t care enough to look back through your posts on other threads so I’m just going by what you’ve said here. "

I suggest you DO bother to look up and read what i posted as i was the first person to comment on this thread. Youll find me sticking up for dreads. If thats not classed as being nice then im not surprised you dont have nice things to say. Dont try deflect this onto me if you dont like being called out, especially when you cant be bothered to make sure you get your facts straight. But as this is going to go nowhere and serves no purpose bickering...

End of discussion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Considering you haven’t said a single nice thing in any of your posts on this thread maybe you should consider not saying anything in future as well.

I don’t care enough to look back through your posts on other threads so I’m just going by what you’ve said here.

I suggest you DO bother to look up and read what i posted as i was the first person to comment on this thread. Youll find me sticking up for dreads. If thats not classed as being nice then im not surprised you dont have nice things to say. Dont try deflect this onto me if you dont like being called out, especially when you cant be bothered to make sure you get your facts straight. But as this is going to go nowhere and serves no purpose bickering...

End of discussion."

Well I’ll change my comment to say you haven’t said anything nice in you recent posts because you haven’t, that’s just a fact. I don’t mind being called out at all, it’s a forum, that’s what happens, I will defend myself though if I don’t think it’s justified criticism, that’s not me deflecting onto you and it’s a bit arrogant of you to make it all about you....

I’m glad it’s the end of the discussion because you’re boring me now.

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