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By *icecouple561 OP   Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Can I buy my dad for Christmas.

Everyone gets him chocolate or biscuits. He has everything he needs as far as clothes, hats, scarves, gloves etc are concerned. He has all he needs as far as his hobbies and interests are concerned. He's partially sighted but very mobile and fit for someone in their mid nineties. I'm well and truly stumped.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am in the same boat

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I bake mine a Christmas cake even if he doesn't eat it over Christmas. It will keep ages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

An afternoon tea voucher would be my go to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

HAve you seen ugears models?

I got one from my kids last christmas. basically wooden mechano. lots of models to choose from

something different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I bake mine a Christmas cake even if he doesn't eat it over Christmas. It will keep ages. "

Cool .. Ha ha ha

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By *icecouple561 OP   Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Thanks for all your suggestions so far. I'm off to wander aimlessly round the shops getting quietly more and more desperate . I will check back on my return

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By *ickshawedCouple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

Sweets? My grandma had a big thing for sugared almonds so I got her a bag every Christmas.

Have also for my husband's grandma created a personalised photo calendar with pictures of her great grandchildren every month. Easy to do online. You can also do photo books or mugs etc. Or if you feel lazy just get a really nice photo printed, buy a nice frame and give that.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax


"Can I buy my dad for Christmas.

Everyone gets him chocolate or biscuits. He has everything he needs as far as clothes, hats, scarves, gloves etc are concerned. He has all he needs as far as his hobbies and interests are concerned. He's partially sighted but very mobile and fit for someone in their mid nineties. I'm well and truly stumped."

I saw a gift idea on FB the other day. You put in a memorable date and location and it shows a star map for that date and location. Maybe your date of birth or his?

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend


"Can I buy my dad for Christmas.

Everyone gets him chocolate or biscuits. He has everything he needs as far as clothes, hats, scarves, gloves etc are concerned. He has all he needs as far as his hobbies and interests are concerned. He's partially sighted but very mobile and fit for someone in their mid nineties. I'm well and truly stumped."

I saw a reading gadget on telly this morning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Onlyfans subscription?

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By *ichaelangelaCouple
over a year ago

notts

does he like football?? take him to a match and a couple of pints after

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Ebook subscription

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By *icecouple561 OP   Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Right! I'm back. It was awful and I'm amazed I got out alive.

Thank you for all your suggestions I will have a think on them

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By *icecouple561 OP   Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Onlyfans subscription?"

this made me laugh. It's not a great gift for a partially sighted person unless there's a braille version

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By *oeBeansMan
over a year ago

Derby

Is he into alcohol? Perhaps a set of glasses and his favourite or even a beer/whiskey tasting session?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A ride in a spitfire... £3k fom Duxford war museum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Onlyfans subscription?

this made me laugh. It's not a great gift for a partially sighted person unless there's a braille version "

Audio books?

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

A hamper of all his favourite things?

Some really comfy slippers? (Something off my dad's list)

A voucher for a lunch out with you or any grandchildren?

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I never knew what to buy my mum as she really had all she needs. Over the past few years I have gone down the lines of spa breaks, afternoon tea days or theatre tickets which gets her out the house as well as giving me something to look forward to also.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Does he drink? A nice bottle of something. My dad is after don't brandy and lovage to have a nip on the golf course.

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By *ristolmark87Man
over a year ago

Southsea

If he has a bike can always get tools and accessories for it

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By *icecouple561 OP   Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"If he has a bike can always get tools and accessories for it "

He did have a bike and a motorbike but he's 94...

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By *icecouple561 OP   Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"If he has a bike can always get tools and accessories for it

He did have a bike and a motorbike but he's 94..."

But thanks for your suggestion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe a family photo album or photos of himself from the past to present .....

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By *icecouple561 OP   Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I can't answer you all but I'm taking suggestions on board.

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By *icecouple561 OP   Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Does he drink? A nice bottle of something. My dad is after don't brandy and lovage to have a nip on the golf course."

He does, I took him two litres of Bailey's yesterday

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By *icecouple561 OP   Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Can I buy my dad for Christmas.

Everyone gets him chocolate or biscuits. He has everything he needs as far as clothes, hats, scarves, gloves etc are concerned. He has all he needs as far as his hobbies and interests are concerned. He's partially sighted but very mobile and fit for someone in their mid nineties. I'm well and truly stumped.I saw a reading gadget on telly this morning "

You're going to have to be a bit more specific . Did it magnify text?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

An experience/ day out voucher maybe?

We used to have a similar problem buying for my dad. People that have everything they want are a nightmare to buy for good luck

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I Remember That!: Captivating Stories, Interesting Facts and Fun Trivia for Seniors

by Bill O'Neill

Extra Large Print Random Word Search 2: 50 Easy To See Puzzles: Volume 2

by Rex Witcherley

Low Vision Notebook: Bold Lined Paper For Visually Impaired | Blue & Purple Gradient (Low Vision Writing Paper)

by Yellow Bird Notebooks

Large Print Quick Crosswords

by C. McCormick

Communiclock talking clock - from RNIB

Born in 1941: Your Life in Wordsearch Puzzles: 7 (Time Travel Wordsearch Puzzles)

by Time Travel Puzzles

LAVAED Motion Sensor Toilet Night Light,8 Colors Changing Body Motion Sensor Toilet Bowl Seat Lamp for Bathroom (1 Pack)

Indus Lifespace Artisan Of India Classic Hand Carved Nose-shaped Eyeglass Spectacle Holder with Black Moustache

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By *B69Woman
over a year ago

Wiltshire

Not sure on your budget but how about a kindle, you can change the size of text to suit him and then get him different subscriptions for future birthdays and treats

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By *icecouple561 OP   Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"I Remember That!: Captivating Stories, Interesting Facts and Fun Trivia for Seniors

by Bill O'Neill

Extra Large Print Random Word Search 2: 50 Easy To See Puzzles: Volume 2

by Rex Witcherley

Low Vision Notebook: Bold Lined Paper For Visually Impaired | Blue & Purple Gradient (Low Vision Writing Paper)

by Yellow Bird Notebooks

Large Print Quick Crosswords

by C. McCormick

Communiclock talking clock - from RNIB

Born in 1941: Your Life in Wordsearch Puzzles: 7 (Time Travel Wordsearch Puzzles)

by Time Travel Puzzles

LAVAED Motion Sensor Toilet Night Light,8 Colors Changing Body Motion Sensor Toilet Bowl Seat Lamp for Bathroom (1 Pack)

Indus Lifespace Artisan Of India Classic Hand Carved Nose-shaped Eyeglass Spectacle Holder with Black Moustache

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Thanks GC! Low vision writing paper sounds like a good idea as does the book

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

An in-home essential oil body massage.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

A year's appointments with a visiting chiropodist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pjs? Slippers? Dressing gown? Dvd or book? Steam train experience? Brewery tour? Hamper of his favourite things?

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Does he go out to eat? A voucher for a restaurant he likes. Think that’s what I’m going to do. I’ve no idea what to get my parents.

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

Something for the garden ? New bird feeder, bird bath, statue, solar lights, witty outdoor door mat, new sign for their house or the number or the name of the house ....

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

I get a year subscription for daddio. Last year it was real ales but they just kept piling up as the bottles looked too nice to empty apparently.

This year I’m going for a britbox subscription

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By *icecouple561 OP   Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Thanks all

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Maybe record yourself reading him a book, that way he can plug you into his ears for some chill time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks OP for this thread!! Unexpectedly helpful advice on Fab

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By *icecouple561 OP   Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Maybe record yourself reading him a book, that way he can plug you into his ears for some chill time"

Oh lord I sound like a female Kenneth Williams .

It's an excellent idea though

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By *icecouple561 OP   Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Thanks OP for this thread!! Unexpectedly helpful advice on Fab"

It's like a Christmas gift brain storming session isn't it

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

A book. My Dad has dementia so won't notice me re-gifting a book he's already read at my house....

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend


"Can I buy my dad for Christmas.

Everyone gets him chocolate or biscuits. He has everything he needs as far as clothes, hats, scarves, gloves etc are concerned. He has all he needs as far as his hobbies and interests are concerned. He's partially sighted but very mobile and fit for someone in their mid nineties. I'm well and truly stumped.I saw a reading gadget on telly this morning

You're going to have to be a bit more specific . Did it magnify text? "

I think it connects to a phone by Bluetooth and is a text to speech gismo

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By *hubby CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Essex

Take him on holiday and make memories, way better then any gift.

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By *icecouple561 OP   Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"A book. My Dad has dementia so won't notice me re-gifting a book he's already read at my house...."

I shouldn't laugh but . This is after telling my mum about eight times in the space of an hour that yes, she has eaten lunch and what it was.

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By *icecouple561 OP   Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Can I buy my dad for Christmas.

Everyone gets him chocolate or biscuits. He has everything he needs as far as clothes, hats, scarves, gloves etc are concerned. He has all he needs as far as his hobbies and interests are concerned. He's partially sighted but very mobile and fit for someone in their mid nineties. I'm well and truly stumped.I saw a reading gadget on telly this morning

You're going to have to be a bit more specific . Did it magnify text? I think it connects to a phone by Bluetooth and is a text to speech gismo"

Ah right. Sounds great

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By *icecouple561 OP   Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Take him on holiday and make memories, way better then any gift. "

Circumstances mean that I can't do that as much as I'd like to

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"A book. My Dad has dementia so won't notice me re-gifting a book he's already read at my house....

I shouldn't laugh but . This is after telling my mum about eight times in the space of an hour that yes, she has eaten lunch and what it was. "

Trying to (keep) explaining to Dad about the post-storm repairs to his house is just

It's like another FT job!

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By *icecouple561 OP   Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"A book. My Dad has dementia so won't notice me re-gifting a book he's already read at my house....

I shouldn't laugh but . This is after telling my mum about eight times in the space of an hour that yes, she has eaten lunch and what it was.

Trying to (keep) explaining to Dad about the post-storm repairs to his house is just

It's like another FT job! "

It's draining isn't it.

Can your dad appear "normal" for brief periods?

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"A book. My Dad has dementia so won't notice me re-gifting a book he's already read at my house....

I shouldn't laugh but . This is after telling my mum about eight times in the space of an hour that yes, she has eaten lunch and what it was.

Trying to (keep) explaining to Dad about the post-storm repairs to his house is just

It's like another FT job!

It's draining isn't it.

Can your dad appear "normal" for brief periods?"

Yes......

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

There is a motorbike themed cafe in Market Deeping in Lincolnshire. It's 10 miles north on Peterborough. So maybe something like that.

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

Do something that triggers his memories.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"HAve you seen ugears models?

I got one from my kids last christmas. basically wooden mechano. lots of models to choose from

something different"

I second this! My FIL loves them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does he like music? I know it is a gamble with civid etc, but maybe a ticket to see an orchestra in concert or an opera? Would be a noce experience and something to look forward to do together.

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By *iger4uWoman
over a year ago

In my happy place

Fenland real sheepskin moccasins.

My Dad loved his.

TkMaxx or Brand Alley.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A hang drum.

One of my favourite instruments, ethereal sounding, therapeutic..

If you have a sense of rhythm it sounds great. Sounds great even if you don't..

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By *icecouple561 OP   Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"A book. My Dad has dementia so won't notice me re-gifting a book he's already read at my house....

I shouldn't laugh but . This is after telling my mum about eight times in the space of an hour that yes, she has eaten lunch and what it was.

Trying to (keep) explaining to Dad about the post-storm repairs to his house is just

It's like another FT job!

It's draining isn't it.

Can your dad appear "normal" for brief periods?

Yes...... "

Do friends and family who only keep in contact via brief visits or calls think you're exaggerating the problem?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lovely picture of all his grandkids, and a Christmas meal donation to a local homeless shelter

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By *atriciayoiditTV/TS
over a year ago

hatfield


"Can I buy my dad for Christmas.

Everyone gets him chocolate or biscuits. He has everything he needs as far as clothes, hats, scarves, gloves etc are concerned. He has all he needs as far as his hobbies and interests are concerned. He's partially sighted but very mobile and fit for someone in their mid nineties. I'm well and truly stumped."

easy...just tell him you love him...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What about a audible subscription? He can listen to books if he likes books?

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"A book. My Dad has dementia so won't notice me re-gifting a book he's already read at my house....

I shouldn't laugh but . This is after telling my mum about eight times in the space of an hour that yes, she has eaten lunch and what it was.

Trying to (keep) explaining to Dad about the post-storm repairs to his house is just

It's like another FT job!

It's draining isn't it.

Can your dad appear "normal" for brief periods?

Yes......

Do friends and family who only keep in contact via brief visits or calls think you're exaggerating the problem? "

Yep. His Spanish girlfriend finally believes me, she messaged me about it last night. For example.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

A gift voucher x

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By *icecouple561 OP   Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"A book. My Dad has dementia so won't notice me re-gifting a book he's already read at my house....

I shouldn't laugh but . This is after telling my mum about eight times in the space of an hour that yes, she has eaten lunch and what it was.

Trying to (keep) explaining to Dad about the post-storm repairs to his house is just

It's like another FT job!

It's draining isn't it.

Can your dad appear "normal" for brief periods?

Yes......

Do friends and family who only keep in contact via brief visits or calls think you're exaggerating the problem?

Yep. His Spanish girlfriend finally believes me, she messaged me about it last night. For example. "

I had quite a long conversation with one of my brothers tonight. He says he believes me but it's taken a while. I think one of the most frustrating things is explaining the situation to people who say things like "well older people do get forgetful". They don't forget they've V had their dinner five minutes after they've eaten it! I don't know how my father puts up with it 24/7

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ooo what about an alexa dot? It will play the radio, tell him bus times, call people, tell him jokes, the time etc

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By *icecouple561 OP   Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Ooo what about an alexa dot? It will play the radio, tell him bus times, call people, tell him jokes, the time etc"

I did think about that but him and technology don't mix well

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"A book. My Dad has dementia so won't notice me re-gifting a book he's already read at my house....

I shouldn't laugh but . This is after telling my mum about eight times in the space of an hour that yes, she has eaten lunch and what it was.

Trying to (keep) explaining to Dad about the post-storm repairs to his house is just

It's like another FT job!

It's draining isn't it.

Can your dad appear "normal" for brief periods?

Yes......

Do friends and family who only keep in contact via brief visits or calls think you're exaggerating the problem?

Yep. His Spanish girlfriend finally believes me, she messaged me about it last night. For example.

I had quite a long conversation with one of my brothers tonight. He says he believes me but it's taken a while. I think one of the most frustrating things is explaining the situation to people who say things like "well older people do get forgetful". They don't forget they've V had their dinner five minutes after they've eaten it! I don't know how my father puts up with it 24/7 "

Yes, my brother thoroughly "enjoyed" his frustrating day of repeating himself on Wednesday.... It's usually me who is on the front line!

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By *ob08Man
over a year ago

Macclesfield

Hookers and , can't go wrong with the a classic.

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By *icecouple561 OP   Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"A book. My Dad has dementia so won't notice me re-gifting a book he's already read at my house....

I shouldn't laugh but . This is after telling my mum about eight times in the space of an hour that yes, she has eaten lunch and what it was.

Trying to (keep) explaining to Dad about the post-storm repairs to his house is just

It's like another FT job!

It's draining isn't it.

Can your dad appear "normal" for brief periods?

Yes......

Do friends and family who only keep in contact via brief visits or calls think you're exaggerating the problem?

Yep. His Spanish girlfriend finally believes me, she messaged me about it last night. For example.

I had quite a long conversation with one of my brothers tonight. He says he believes me but it's taken a while. I think one of the most frustrating things is explaining the situation to people who say things like "well older people do get forgetful". They don't forget they've V had their dinner five minutes after they've eaten it! I don't know how my father puts up with it 24/7

Yes, my brother thoroughly "enjoyed" his frustrating day of repeating himself on Wednesday.... It's usually me who is on the front line! "

.

We're choosing to see the funny side. It's difficult some days but what's the alternative?

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By *ob08Man
over a year ago

Macclesfield

Lol censored, similar to Pepsi

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By *icecouple561 OP   Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Hookers and , can't go wrong with the a classic."

I like your use of the plural

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By *ob08Man
over a year ago

Macclesfield


"Hookers and , can't go wrong with the a classic.

I like your use of the plural "

Well he's your dad you don't want to cheap out

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"A book. My Dad has dementia so won't notice me re-gifting a book he's already read at my house....

I shouldn't laugh but . This is after telling my mum about eight times in the space of an hour that yes, she has eaten lunch and what it was.

Trying to (keep) explaining to Dad about the post-storm repairs to his house is just

It's like another FT job!

It's draining isn't it.

Can your dad appear "normal" for brief periods?

Yes......

Do friends and family who only keep in contact via brief visits or calls think you're exaggerating the problem?

Yep. His Spanish girlfriend finally believes me, she messaged me about it last night. For example.

I had quite a long conversation with one of my brothers tonight. He says he believes me but it's taken a while. I think one of the most frustrating things is explaining the situation to people who say things like "well older people do get forgetful". They don't forget they've V had their dinner five minutes after they've eaten it! I don't know how my father puts up with it 24/7

Yes, my brother thoroughly "enjoyed" his frustrating day of repeating himself on Wednesday.... It's usually me who is on the front line!

.

We're choosing to see the funny side. It's difficult some days but what's the alternative?"

I'm contemplating learning bricklaying and my brother is about to get a crash course in aerial fitting and roof tiling because I can't cope with more of this until some actual tradespeople find time to even price up things. His house/garage is a dangerous mess

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By *icecouple561 OP   Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"A book. My Dad has dementia so won't notice me re-gifting a book he's already read at my house....

I shouldn't laugh but . This is after telling my mum about eight times in the space of an hour that yes, she has eaten lunch and what it was.

Trying to (keep) explaining to Dad about the post-storm repairs to his house is just

It's like another FT job!

It's draining isn't it.

Can your dad appear "normal" for brief periods?

Yes......

Do friends and family who only keep in contact via brief visits or calls think you're exaggerating the problem?

Yep. His Spanish girlfriend finally believes me, she messaged me about it last night. For example.

I had quite a long conversation with one of my brothers tonight. He says he believes me but it's taken a while. I think one of the most frustrating things is explaining the situation to people who say things like "well older people do get forgetful". They don't forget they've V had their dinner five minutes after they've eaten it! I don't know how my father puts up with it 24/7

Yes, my brother thoroughly "enjoyed" his frustrating day of repeating himself on Wednesday.... It's usually me who is on the front line!

.

We're choosing to see the funny side. It's difficult some days but what's the alternative?

I'm contemplating learning bricklaying and my brother is about to get a crash course in aerial fitting and roof tiling because I can't cope with more of this until some actual tradespeople find time to even price up things. His house/garage is a dangerous mess "

Oh god!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does he go walking much? We bought my Dad one of those fancy walking stick/poles for his birthday and he loves that. He had a fall just before his birthday while out walking and lost a bit of confidence but he’s much happier now he has the pole to walk with.

Also, every Christmas my sister pays for an annual subscription for his golf magazine which is a pretty cool present as it lasts all year.

Talking from a male point of view (I know I’m pretty feminine but I am ‘officially’ male so I can haha) I am always happy and grateful to receive simple presents like smellies (I love receiving some posh shower gel that I can save for when I’m going out somewhere and want to smell extra nice).

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"A book. My Dad has dementia so won't notice me re-gifting a book he's already read at my house....

I shouldn't laugh but . This is after telling my mum about eight times in the space of an hour that yes, she has eaten lunch and what it was.

Trying to (keep) explaining to Dad about the post-storm repairs to his house is just

It's like another FT job!

It's draining isn't it.

Can your dad appear "normal" for brief periods?

Yes......

Do friends and family who only keep in contact via brief visits or calls think you're exaggerating the problem?

Yep. His Spanish girlfriend finally believes me, she messaged me about it last night. For example.

I had quite a long conversation with one of my brothers tonight. He says he believes me but it's taken a while. I think one of the most frustrating things is explaining the situation to people who say things like "well older people do get forgetful". They don't forget they've V had their dinner five minutes after they've eaten it! I don't know how my father puts up with it 24/7

Yes, my brother thoroughly "enjoyed" his frustrating day of repeating himself on Wednesday.... It's usually me who is on the front line!

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We're choosing to see the funny side. It's difficult some days but what's the alternative?

I'm contemplating learning bricklaying and my brother is about to get a crash course in aerial fitting and roof tiling because I can't cope with more of this until some actual tradespeople find time to even price up things. His house/garage is a dangerous mess

Oh god! "

I'm sure I can lay bricks at ground level from my wheelchair....

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By *icecouple561 OP   Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Hookers and , can't go wrong with the a classic.

I like your use of the plural

Well he's your dad you don't want to cheap out "

True! .

He reliably informed me that since his prostate operation he can no longer have children but can still have sex (thanks dad ) and he also told me that at his age he can take risks so I think you've probably hit on the perfect gift

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By *icecouple561 OP   Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"A book. My Dad has dementia so won't notice me re-gifting a book he's already read at my house....

I shouldn't laugh but . This is after telling my mum about eight times in the space of an hour that yes, she has eaten lunch and what it was.

Trying to (keep) explaining to Dad about the post-storm repairs to his house is just

It's like another FT job!

It's draining isn't it.

Can your dad appear "normal" for brief periods?

Yes......

Do friends and family who only keep in contact via brief visits or calls think you're exaggerating the problem?

Yep. His Spanish girlfriend finally believes me, she messaged me about it last night. For example.

I had quite a long conversation with one of my brothers tonight. He says he believes me but it's taken a while. I think one of the most frustrating things is explaining the situation to people who say things like "well older people do get forgetful". They don't forget they've V had their dinner five minutes after they've eaten it! I don't know how my father puts up with it 24/7

Yes, my brother thoroughly "enjoyed" his frustrating day of repeating himself on Wednesday.... It's usually me who is on the front line!

.

We're choosing to see the funny side. It's difficult some days but what's the alternative?

I'm contemplating learning bricklaying and my brother is about to get a crash course in aerial fitting and roof tiling because I can't cope with more of this until some actual tradespeople find time to even price up things. His house/garage is a dangerous mess

Oh god!

I'm sure I can lay bricks at ground level from my wheelchair.... "

I reckon you could if you could manage the hod

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By *icecouple561 OP   Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Does he go walking much? We bought my Dad one of those fancy walking stick/poles for his birthday and he loves that. He had a fall just before his birthday while out walking and lost a bit of confidence but he’s much happier now he has the pole to walk with.

Also, every Christmas my sister pays for an annual subscription for his golf magazine which is a pretty cool present as it lasts all year.

Talking from a male point of view (I know I’m pretty feminine but I am ‘officially’ male so I can haha) I am always happy and grateful to receive simple presents like smellies (I love receiving some posh shower gel that I can save for when I’m going out somewhere and want to smell extra nice)."

My dad actually prefers simple gifts. He gets a lot of pleasure from things like a nice bar of chocolate.

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over a year ago


"Does he go walking much? We bought my Dad one of those fancy walking stick/poles for his birthday and he loves that. He had a fall just before his birthday while out walking and lost a bit of confidence but he’s much happier now he has the pole to walk with.

Also, every Christmas my sister pays for an annual subscription for his golf magazine which is a pretty cool present as it lasts all year.

Talking from a male point of view (I know I’m pretty feminine but I am ‘officially’ male so I can haha) I am always happy and grateful to receive simple presents like smellies (I love receiving some posh shower gel that I can save for when I’m going out somewhere and want to smell extra nice).

My dad actually prefers simple gifts. He gets a lot of pleasure from things like a nice bar of chocolate. "

I haven’t got a very sweet tooth so I have to pretend to be happy about receiving chocolate as a gift haha. I don’t dislike it but I don’t get excited about it either, I’d much prefer a multi pack of crisps....I’d be genuinely excited and happy to receive crisps as a present.

I always get bought underwear (male) which I like as I’d never buy that for myself so it’s good to be able to chuck out some of the worn out pairs of boxer shorts when I get some new ones.

Personally I think men are a lot easier to buy for than women....any tips on what to buy my mom (who has everything and is quite fussy) would be grateful appreciated haha.

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By *icecouple561 OP   Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Does he go walking much? We bought my Dad one of those fancy walking stick/poles for his birthday and he loves that. He had a fall just before his birthday while out walking and lost a bit of confidence but he’s much happier now he has the pole to walk with.

Also, every Christmas my sister pays for an annual subscription for his golf magazine which is a pretty cool present as it lasts all year.

Talking from a male point of view (I know I’m pretty feminine but I am ‘officially’ male so I can haha) I am always happy and grateful to receive simple presents like smellies (I love receiving some posh shower gel that I can save for when I’m going out somewhere and want to smell extra nice).

My dad actually prefers simple gifts. He gets a lot of pleasure from things like a nice bar of chocolate.

I haven’t got a very sweet tooth so I have to pretend to be happy about receiving chocolate as a gift haha. I don’t dislike it but I don’t get excited about it either, I’d much prefer a multi pack of crisps....I’d be genuinely excited and happy to receive crisps as a present.

I always get bought underwear (male) which I like as I’d never buy that for myself so it’s good to be able to chuck out some of the worn out pairs of boxer shorts when I get some new ones.

Personally I think men are a lot easier to buy for than women....any tips on what to buy my mom (who has everything and is quite fussy) would be grateful appreciated haha. "

If only everyone was as easy as you to buy for.

Yep, tips for mums would be good. I've got mine sorted but it will help other people

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over a year ago

Fab subscription for the year.

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By *ilverjagMan
over a year ago

swansea

For my mum, apart from the usual stocking fillers, not the kind of drop dead gorgeous stocking fillers like we have on here I might add, I've had several old photos made into canvases for her, including some of her wedding photos, and they can then be switched around throughout the year. Apart from the obvious nostalgic value, the mental health team have suggested that surrounding a place with memories keeps the mind of a dementia sufferer stimulated. It might be worth thinking about whether your dad's memory is good or not so good.

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over a year ago


"A book. My Dad has dementia so won't notice me re-gifting a book he's already read at my house...."

i'm going to write a list of all my books to check if my children do this for me ... then I'll lose the list lol

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over a year ago

Don't think you was expecting this much help OP!

Spoilt for choice now eh

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

A bottle of Whisky always did it for my dad.

He loved a tipple.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"A book. My Dad has dementia so won't notice me re-gifting a book he's already read at my house....

i'm going to write a list of all my books to check if my children do this for me ... then I'll lose the list lol"

From experience....you’ll forgot you had the list!

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over a year ago

A experience, a day out just the two of you maybe for a afternoon tea or a day trip that envolves his hobby that just you 2 can do and have quality time together.

Things arnt needed but people always appreciate quality time together

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over a year ago


"A book. My Dad has dementia so won't notice me re-gifting a book he's already read at my house....

i'm going to write a list of all my books to check if my children do this for me ... then I'll lose the list lol

From experience....you’ll forgot you had the list! "

I think I'll write it on my arm lol

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Video of the year he was born?

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By *icecouple561 OP   Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"For my mum, apart from the usual stocking fillers, not the kind of drop dead gorgeous stocking fillers like we have on here I might add, I've had several old photos made into canvases for her, including some of her wedding photos, and they can then be switched around throughout the year. Apart from the obvious nostalgic value, the mental health team have suggested that surrounding a place with memories keeps the mind of a dementia sufferer stimulated. It might be worth thinking about whether your dad's memory is good or not so good. "

He's as sharp as a tack. It's my mother who has compromised short term memory.

The problem when someone is partially sighted is that visual reminders aren't quite as effective.

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By *icecouple561 OP   Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Don't think you was expecting this much help OP!

Spoilt for choice now eh

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Lol. There are a lot of really great ideas aren't there. Hopefully it's helped other people as well as me

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"Can I buy my dad for Christmas.

Everyone gets him chocolate or biscuits. He has everything he needs as far as clothes, hats, scarves, gloves etc are concerned. He has all he needs as far as his hobbies and interests are concerned. He's partially sighted but very mobile and fit for someone in their mid nineties. I'm well and truly stumped."

Why not give him a time voucher where you promised to take him out out for a meal or something as a family at some point in the new year as a guy I want nothing just time with my wife and kids.

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By *icecouple561 OP   Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Can I buy my dad for Christmas.

Everyone gets him chocolate or biscuits. He has everything he needs as far as clothes, hats, scarves, gloves etc are concerned. He has all he needs as far as his hobbies and interests are concerned. He's partially sighted but very mobile and fit for someone in their mid nineties. I'm well and truly stumped.

Why not give him a time voucher where you promised to take him out out for a meal or something as a family at some point in the new year as a guy I want nothing just time with my wife and kids."

That's a great idea.

I do spend a lot of time with my dad so do our daughter and her husband. If I could give him a voucher for time with his other children and grandchildren that would be a different matter

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