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Would you date someone who rejected you/friendzoned you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Simple enough question. Would you date someone who once friendzoned you or rejected your romantic advances? (even if that person was extremely attractive)

This could be fab or other dating site or people you've met in the real world.

For me personally I can't do it, if you say no to me once, I'm good, moved on. I have been friendzoned once in my life(that was this year) and I was so confused as to what was happening I didn't even realise I was friendzoned until a year had passed.

But anyway, curious to hear your thoughts on this forumites

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. I dont play those games. Im not someone they can just throw away and pick back up whenever they want to. Especially if they think ill still be the same the second time around.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it was Rex, I'd give it some serious consideration

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By *amie HantsWoman
over a year ago

Atlantis

I’m currently dating all the people that have rejected me. They just don’t know it

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North


"If it was Rex, I'd give it some serious consideration"

I’d ‘special’ friend zone you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. If you reject me one day then that’s it. I’m done and will move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. God loves a trier.

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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago

Orpington

Nah ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m currently dating all the people that have rejected me. They just don’t know it "

You are cordially invited to stalk me anytime

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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago

CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly)

Sorry but, .....what on earth is friendzoned????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the circumstances. If she said no first in a respectful manner, then why not? I have changed opinions about people multiple times. So can others.

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By *LiamMan
over a year ago

Midlands

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By *LiamMan
over a year ago

Midlands

I've been friend zoned before, on here too. I've blew her back out recently though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Really is very subjective to the person and situation tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on how much time. Things change, relationships change, what people want in life changes. So yes maybe

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By *ettaManMan
over a year ago

Kerry and Dublin

Trick question?

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove


"Depends on how much time. Things change, relationships change, what people want in life changes. So yes maybe"

That's what I was thinking. At the time of rejection, that person was experiencing different things in their life etc. As time progresses, people's situations change.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No

NBVN x

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By *agerMorganMan
over a year ago

Canvey Island

Nope, she turned out to be a dodge of the century.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nope. If you reject me one day then that’s it. I’m done and will move on"

Ditto bruv, I don't care these days I'm really harsh, too harsh at times but yea for me it's a pride thing. I don't even let women get away with little stuff anymore and forgive them and stuff, too many bad experiences have made me really toughen up.

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By *nitterWoman
over a year ago

the land of tall tales and yarn

Blimey given half a chance YES

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I live in hope ..yes

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By *aughty but nice...Man
over a year ago

Staffs

This happened with my ex wife I made a pass one week and she rejected me, a few weeks later we bump into each other and she makes that pass at me .....fast forward many years were now divorced ...

But still friends

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Sorry but, .....what on earth is friendzoned????"

It's a term mostly used by men who feel that being friends with women is a poor second to being in a sexual relationship with them or who are disappointed even they discover that a woman who's been friendly towards him isn't interested in him sexually. Women do use it but not as often in my experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of no, but depends on the circumstances of the no, I wouldn’t expect every decision I make now to definitively be one that stands the test of time, so I’d I can get things wrong, so can others. It may well be a no in most circumstances, but never an automatic no

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By *hy_guy89Man
over a year ago

birmingham

I don’t think my pride would let me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being friends is half the battle. I probably would yes if I thought we still had a connection. Circumstances change, and if they hadnt been mean in their rejection of me then yes maybe.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Yes because we were friendzoned on here we have exchanged numbers we continue to communicate and waiting for a time when it's suitable for both.....

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By *drian HardthrobMan
over a year ago

Worcester

NEVER... if I'm sexually interested in you, I'll tell you. Not going to pretend to be someone's "friend" when I want more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never would. I’m incredibly proud, and my dignity and self-respect are too important to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I've been friendzoned when I was younger, it was after being physical..which in some ways is even worse..

Eons ago, one lady said to me that I "fucked like Alan partridge "..I probably should have friend zoned her, as I was never really attracted to her. I didn't have the maturity, backbone etc. at the time.

Ridiculous (and shameful) behaviour now, when I look back..

I wouldn't venture there now, no, to answer the original question.

-I don't think I'd ever get into that situation, or put someone else in it though, as I'm much more honest as I've got older.

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact

It's not really a situation I can relate to. But if they had rejected me then the barriers will go up, never to come down again. So I'd fuck em but I'd never give them any more than that. But if I was really smitten with them I'd probably be vulnerable and could never handle being just a friend and fucking them would probably mindfuck myself even further. Answer is no!!

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By *orraine999Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere

No thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nope

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Mind you I've always dated my friends because we have so much in common and bounce off each other even the sex is just sex but good sex nothing more just bouncing off each other

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

It depends.

If I've said I'm not interested in a sexual or romantic relationship with someone then I would expect them to respect that, it's hellish when someone keeps pushing and I keep having to reject them (rejection is no fun for either party).

That said sometimes feelings will build over time and someone I've viewed purely as a friend will come to be more.

There are occasions where I've judged someone on behaviour I've observed only to find that's not truly representative of who they are, and as I've got to know them better my opinion of them has changed.

Sometimes I've been turned down due to circumstances. Circumstances change, and if someone comes back to me at a later point I won't dismiss them out of hand just because the timing wasn't right when I first approached them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, if they turned me down they are not getting a second chance

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dated someone for 8 years ..then all of a sudden friend zoned found out she was seeing someone who subsequently died suddenly ...she wanted to re start our "relationship" was never the same and we drifted apart ..im never someone's 2nd best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once I’m parked in the friends zone, I’m done. Happy to be friends but won’t push for anything more

As for returning once it’s ended, he’ll no. Once thrown back I’m going to be moving on.

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By *ilverjagMan
over a year ago

swansea

I can't say that I've ever been in the friendzoned situation, but on straight dating sites where I've been on and off a few times, I have painted the funnel with women who turned me down first time round, presumably because they were spoilt for choice at the time. Obviously they did not have a clue that it was me who was originally on their reject pile tha time around. They all ended up as history though by my choice only because, I don't believe in flogging a dead horse.

With fab being more casual and laidback, no pun intended, it's different and I probably wouldn't even realise that they didn't fancy me at one time unless they actually told me. It may have even happened after socials that people who didn't like the sound of me online thought that I didn't seem such a bad guy after all, and I didn't know it.

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By *r SproutMan
over a year ago

the middle

If I wasn’t good enough the first 5 times I asked what has changed now?

Nope. No thanks.

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland

Was friend zoned by my Mrs when we were 15, been married for 7 years now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, if we had remained friends. I would certainly meet for a social. The internet is not a great medium for meaningful communication and I'm an acquired taste.

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

. (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

Life is too short ...never say never ...unless it is never ...but then what if all circumstances have changed and you then could miss out ...

Dilemma

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I wasn’t good enough the first 5 times I asked what has changed now?

Nope. No thanks."

6 might just be your lucky number

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope I am the same person I was when I asked them as I would be then so no

That’s they lose

They need to live with that choice simple as

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By *r SproutMan
over a year ago

the middle


"If I wasn’t good enough the first 5 times I asked what has changed now?

Nope. No thanks.

6 might just be your lucky number "

Should I ask you again then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I wasn’t good enough the first 5 times I asked what has changed now?

Nope. No thanks.

6 might just be your lucky number

Should I ask you again then? "

Maybe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I’d never be able to get past that they thought there was something they didn’t like enough about me to date. It would always be at the back of my mind that I was a ‘last resort’ or and ‘alternate choice’.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I don’t think so. I’d always have doubts that I wouldn’t be able to put aside.

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

Sorry I am not the brightest so I had to google what friendszone means the answer I got is.Where one person wants to take things to the next level whilst the other just wants to be friends.From a personal perspective I would rather keep that friendship than risk losing it all together so I probably wouldn’t make the first move in case I upset the other person.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

I've had second chances a few years later but there is no going back once they made their mind up. I move on very easily.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

If I was interested in a man romantically but he made it clear he just wanted to be friends I'd be disappointed but happy to have made a friend. If after getting to know me he found that my personality made me attractive to him I don't think I'd pass up the opportunity for a potentially great relationship.

I see loads of people in the forum and in profiles say that personality is more important to them than looks. It seems b that isn't strictly true if people aren't prepared for someone to get to know their personality before they find them attractive

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