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Do you think winks show no effort?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Because in my eyes a wink is like a cheeky acknowledgment as to thinking someone is tasty and if they wink you back then a message is to be followed.

What are your thoughts?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I ignore them. If someone wants to message me then message, I don't get the winks thing at all.

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

I take winks as an attempt to get my attention but everyone uses the site differently. Sometimes there’s an interest but that’s way people approach that first message sets off alarm bells

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very rare I look at my winks

Always think if they can’t pluck up the balls to send a message then they aren’t for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer winks, if there's a mutual winking then let's chat. It's a sign of interest and not more lazy than copying & pasting the same message to 1000 women.

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By *oxy lady40Woman
over a year ago

bridgwater

I don’t take any notice of them , usually delete without looking

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By *aggy dollsCouple
over a year ago

bradford

I see them as a green light for me to be lazy and simply dont pay attention to them, but then we barely pay attention to our messages either these days

Mr Hayes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all. I never like to send the first message because I just never think anyone is interested in me. But a wink can test the waters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a bit hit and miss for me, it can be a good way to show interest in one another but it can also be an easy option for making little effort.

Usually if im exchanging winks i always find im the one to message first, or if i dont, i dont receive one from the winker. Which immediately tells me i wouldnt have as good a time as i would with others.

Usually if i feel like i have to do all the work, making first contact, carrying the conversations along etc. Then its going to be like that when it comes to meeting and having sex. Just cos i got the penis between my legs doesnt mean im going to do all the work and make all the effort, id like a little give back in return too. So winks can be quite useful for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never look at them to be honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never look at my winks, I do however send the end odd one if I would like someone to message me! Helps to not feel rejected if you sent a message that gets ignored haha!

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By *lasphemouscoupleCouple
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire


"Because in my eyes a wink is like a cheeky acknowledgment as to thinking someone is tasty and if they wink you back then a message is to be followed.

What are your thoughts?"

This is how we take it too, as an invitation to have a look at their profile.

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By *ydrewMan
over a year ago

forest

I think it's a cheeky hello. If get wink back will always msg

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's the point in completely dismissing a wink? It could potentially lead to something fruitful and if it doesn't sure fuck it, what harm had it done? You wasted a few minutes talking shite with a bellend. Big deal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's the point in completely dismissing a wink? It could potentially lead to something fruitful and if it doesn't sure fuck it, what harm had it done? You wasted a few minutes talking shite with a bellend. Big deal "

I get loads, I would waste a whole day to check them all out, then repeat haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like them, it's like getting a cheeky smile at the bar. If you like them, wink back, if not.. move on. They're playful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never look at mine, but they have served a purpose in the past

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like winks.

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling


"I never look at mine, but they have served a purpose in the past "

Same for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I prefer winks, if there's a mutual winking then let's chat. It's a sign of interest and not more lazy than copying & pasting the same message to 1000 women."

This

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

Ignore them all

If you can’t be bothered to message neither can I

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By *ittleRed18Woman
over a year ago

Aberdeen


"I prefer winks, if there's a mutual winking then let's chat. It's a sign of interest and not more lazy than copying & pasting the same message to 1000 women."

I agree with this. Also I can wink to remove the "all single males block" and if they are still interested we can message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We normally send a wink first to show interest as messages can be missed sometimes so if we get a wink back we know to message

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By *scouple07Couple
over a year ago

louth, Ireland

We use them as an ice breaker and to see if we get a wink back which would hopefully show an interest

Mrs Gs

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle

Don't get it if they wink but no message? Lol

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By *adbod7519Man
over a year ago

Leeds

They alert me to the fact that someone is interested. I always wink back if I’m interested.

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

;-)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We'd prefer someone to let us know they like our profile with a wink.

If we wink back then the conversation starts usually xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I send and look at the ones I receive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's the point in completely dismissing a wink? It could potentially lead to something fruitful and if it doesn't sure fuck it, what harm had it done? You wasted a few minutes talking shite with a bellend. Big deal

I get loads, I would waste a whole day to check them all out, then repeat haha

"

That's a fair point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Winks have worked for me in the past. Those winking games are fun

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By *wingsnroundabouts82Couple
over a year ago

Fucksville

It's definitely a testing the water scenario, if someone winks us and we wink back it's like an invitation to message us but sometimes we do message and thank them for a wink too x so 50/50 really x

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle

Winks are fun when they wink and message too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never look unless I'm playing a winking game

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never look unless I'm playing a winking game "

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By *dmundwilsonMan
over a year ago

Llandudno

I use the wink function mostly to throw a hapless wink at someone who might otherwise be oppressed by yards of messages. On occasion might send one as a prod after a message has been read and put aside a minute or so....as if to say .... hey go on , give it a shot, answer my mail.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

They’re brilliant and a great asset to the site. I much prefer them to some generic messages that’s asking me how I am or am I meeting etc…

Easily ignored if you’re not interested, or a great way to start a conversation with someone you are interested in.

If you’re inundated with messages I can understand why you won’t bother looking at them. But if you’re like me and you get a few every day (messages and winks) it’s just another way of meeting someone.

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Bedford (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

Do men look at winks?

... I'll wink if I want to reach out, then may be follow up with a message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never look at mine, but they have served a purpose in the past "

Ooops

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By *urious couple22Couple
over a year ago

Derby

normally, if we are interested, we will wink and maybe follow up with a message, and normally, we check to see if people have winked us, and if we like their profile, we will wink back.

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By *akie32Man
over a year ago

winchester

i use winks as a way of sying hello

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