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"Oh, maybe this thread could be an opportunity for fabbers to find someone to share Christmas with "I was thinking the same thing! | |||
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I spend so much time with my family over christmas that if I did have a partner they'd see precious little of me. | |||
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"It might just be me, but what do other people think about being single during the festive season. Its always nice to have someone with you to create memories with but that wont be the case for me this year and I don’t really know what to make of it lol I reckon most people would say to just get on with it really! "Nothing new here - doubt I'll see much of my Daughter neither... As long as there's chocs, I'm happy! | |||
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"Last year was my 1st Christmas and New year on my own. I did struggle, didn't celebrate as seemed pointless being on my own. Just treated it like a normal day." How do you reckon this year will go for you? | |||
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"Rather be single than all the fake crap that comes with been in a relationship. Watch what you want on tv, bed to yourself, wouldn't change that! " I respect that but personally being in a relationship with someone in my opinion has more pros than cons | |||
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"Rather be single than all the fake crap that comes with been in a relationship. Watch what you want on tv, bed to yourself, wouldn't change that! I respect that but personally being in a relationship with someone in my opinion has more pros than cons " And it isn't always fake. | |||
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"I'll be working. When I get home I'll probably shed a few tears and wallow in self pity for a bit. My life is defo not what I had in mind but it's the hand I've been dealt." Not too many and not for too long please!! I’m sure you’ll get your happy one day  | |||
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Because its so light you both can enjoy each others company and sex together.
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"I thought this was about somebody releasing a Christmas single… how disappointed am I… " Pmsl I bet you were however, did you know Ed Sheeran and Elton John have released a crimbo single? | |||
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"I spend the day with my ex wife. No point in both of us sat at home lonely. She always cooks an excellent dinner as well. " Aww that's lovely that you can do that. | |||
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"It's what you make of it? People in the world staving to death and some have no family. Being single isn't the end of the world! Spoil yourself instead. "People still have the right to feel sad or low about it, just because there’s worse things going on in the world or people worse off, doesn’t detract from how the individual feels | |||
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"It's what you make of it? People in the world staving to death and some have no family. Being single isn't the end of the world! Spoil yourself instead.
People still have the right to feel sad or low about it, just because there’s worse things going on in the world or people worse off, doesn’t detract from how the individual feels " | |||
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"It's what you make of it? People in the world staving to death and some have no family. Being single isn't the end of the world! Spoil yourself instead.
People still have the right to feel sad or low about it, just because there’s worse things going on in the world or people worse off, doesn’t detract from how the individual feels "Never said that people can't be sad! I have no family and my best friend and other ex is dying of cancer. I was clearly saying it's what you make of it! Putting words in my mouth. Lol  | |||
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"It's what you make of it? People in the world staving to death and some have no family. Being single isn't the end of the world! Spoil yourself instead.
People still have the right to feel sad or low about it, just because there’s worse things going on in the world or people worse off, doesn’t detract from how the individual feels Never said that people can't be sad! I have no family and my best friend and other ex is dying of cancer. I was clearly saying it's what you make of it! Putting words in my mouth. Lol "Haven’t put words in your mouth at all. But when someone/people say they feel sad about a situation and someone says ‘well others are worse off’ - it just makes you feel worse and like your feelings aren’t valid | |||
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"It's what you make of it? People in the world staving to death and some have no family. Being single isn't the end of the world! Spoil yourself instead.
People still have the right to feel sad or low about it, just because there’s worse things going on in the world or people worse off, doesn’t detract from how the individual feels
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"It's what you make of it? People in the world staving to death and some have no family. Being single isn't the end of the world! Spoil yourself instead.
People still have the right to feel sad or low about it, just because there’s worse things going on in the world or people worse off, doesn’t detract from how the individual feels Never said that people can't be sad! I have no family and my best friend and other ex is dying of cancer. I was clearly saying it's what you make of it! Putting words in my mouth. Lol
Haven’t put words in your mouth at all.
But when someone/people say they feel sad about a situation and someone says ‘well others are worse off’ - it just makes you feel worse and like your feelings aren’t valid"I didn't say he couldn't or feel sad? Drama queen I was being positive. | |||
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"It's what you make of it? People in the world staving to death and some have no family. Being single isn't the end of the world! Spoil yourself instead.
People still have the right to feel sad or low about it, just because there’s worse things going on in the world or people worse off, doesn’t detract from how the individual feels
fake! "How am I fake? Or what I’ve said is fake? | |||
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"It's what you make of it? People in the world staving to death and some have no family. Being single isn't the end of the world! Spoil yourself instead.
People still have the right to feel sad or low about it, just because there’s worse things going on in the world or people worse off, doesn’t detract from how the individual feels Never said that people can't be sad! I have no family and my best friend and other ex is dying of cancer. I was clearly saying it's what you make of it! Putting words in my mouth. Lol
Haven’t put words in your mouth at all.
But when someone/people say they feel sad about a situation and someone says ‘well others are worse off’ - it just makes you feel worse and like your feelings aren’t valid I didn't say he couldn't or feel sad? Drama queen I was being positive. "You seem to get very angry and abusive towards others when people disagree with you - no need for it | |||
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"It's what you make of it? People in the world staving to death and some have no family. Being single isn't the end of the world! Spoil yourself instead.
People still have the right to feel sad or low about it, just because there’s worse things going on in the world or people worse off, doesn’t detract from how the individual feels
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How am I fake? Or what I’ve said is fake? "The guy is fake! Long story lol don't put words in my mouth. I didn't say the OP can't be sad or how he should feel? | |||
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"I spend the day with my ex wife. No point in both of us sat at home lonely. She always cooks an excellent dinner as well. " We remain friends, she is still a nice lady and we help each other out if we can. I count myself very lucky. | |||
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"It's what you make of it? People in the world staving to death and some have no family. Being single isn't the end of the world! Spoil yourself instead.
People still have the right to feel sad or low about it, just because there’s worse things going on in the world or people worse off, doesn’t detract from how the individual feels Never said that people can't be sad! I have no family and my best friend and other ex is dying of cancer. I was clearly saying it's what you make of it! Putting words in my mouth. Lol
Haven’t put words in your mouth at all.
But when someone/people say they feel sad about a situation and someone says ‘well others are worse off’ - it just makes you feel worse and like your feelings aren’t valid I didn't say he couldn't or feel sad? Drama queen I was being positive.
You seem to get very angry and abusive towards others when people disagree with you - no need for it "You were abusive to me? Creating drama my god. Lol | |||
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"It's what you make of it? People in the world staving to death and some have no family. Being single isn't the end of the world! Spoil yourself instead.
People still have the right to feel sad or low about it, just because there’s worse things going on in the world or people worse off, doesn’t detract from how the individual feels Never said that people can't be sad! I have no family and my best friend and other ex is dying of cancer. I was clearly saying it's what you make of it! Putting words in my mouth. Lol
Haven’t put words in your mouth at all.
But when someone/people say they feel sad about a situation and someone says ‘well others are worse off’ - it just makes you feel worse and like your feelings aren’t valid I didn't say he couldn't or feel sad? Drama queen I was being positive.
You seem to get very angry and abusive towards others when people disagree with you - no need for it "Angry? Again telling me how i feel and what i said. When did i say the OP isn't allowed to be sad? | |||
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"It's what you make of it? People in the world staving to death and some have no family. Being single isn't the end of the world! Spoil yourself instead.
People still have the right to feel sad or low about it, just because there’s worse things going on in the world or people worse off, doesn’t detract from how the individual feels
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How am I fake? Or what I’ve said is fake? The guy is fake! Long story lol don't put words in my mouth. I didn't say the OP can't be sad or how he should feel? "I know you didn’t - it’s what’s implied with ‘people are worse off’ - as though others should be grateful Like I said above, haven’t put words in your mouth at all. Don’t want to get into an argument - I’ve had a lot in the past after losing my husband say ‘well you can remarry you’re still young’ - or ‘be grateful you had kids’ etc It just grates on me when I see a comment about others have it worse | |||
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"It's what you make of it? People in the world staving to death and some have no family. Being single isn't the end of the world! Spoil yourself instead.
People still have the right to feel sad or low about it, just because there’s worse things going on in the world or people worse off, doesn’t detract from how the individual feels
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How am I fake? Or what I’ve said is fake? The guy is fake! Long story lol don't put words in my mouth. I didn't say the OP can't be sad or how he should feel?
I know you didn’t - it’s what’s implied with ‘people are worse off’ - as though others should be grateful
Like I said above, haven’t put words in your mouth at all.
Don’t want to get into an argument - I’ve had a lot in the past after losing my husband say ‘well you can remarry you’re still young’ - or ‘be grateful you had kids’ etc
It just grates on me when I see a comment about others have it worse "I have my crap and still positive? Not sure where or when i said others can't be sad. You think I'm on cloud 9 or something? Buy it's what you make of it. | |||
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"It's lonely being single throughout the year but I think Christmas is just a little more difficult. Yes I have family and friends but to be able to spend it with that one special person for me would make Christmas. X Storm X" Psst...you're posting this from a couples profile | |||
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"It's what you make of it? People in the world staving to death and some have no family. Being single isn't the end of the world! Spoil yourself instead.
People still have the right to feel sad or low about it, just because there’s worse things going on in the world or people worse off, doesn’t detract from how the individual feels
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How am I fake? Or what I’ve said is fake? The guy is fake! Long story lol don't put words in my mouth. I didn't say the OP can't be sad or how he should feel?
I know you didn’t - it’s what’s implied with ‘people are worse off’ - as though others should be grateful
Like I said above, haven’t put words in your mouth at all.
Don’t want to get into an argument - I’ve had a lot in the past after losing my husband say ‘well you can remarry you’re still young’ - or ‘be grateful you had kids’ etc
It just grates on me when I see a comment about others have it worse I have my crap and still positive? Not sure where or when i said others can't be sad. You think I'm on cloud 9 or something? Buy it's what you make of it. "Not repeating myself again, I give up | |||
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"It's what you make of it? People in the world staving to death and some have no family. Being single isn't the end of the world! Spoil yourself instead.
People still have the right to feel sad or low about it, just because there’s worse things going on in the world or people worse off, doesn’t detract from how the individual feels
fake!
How am I fake? Or what I’ve said is fake? The guy is fake! Long story lol don't put words in my mouth. I didn't say the OP can't be sad or how he should feel?
I know you didn’t - it’s what’s implied with ‘people are worse off’ - as though others should be grateful
Like I said above, haven’t put words in your mouth at all.
Don’t want to get into an argument - I’ve had a lot in the past after losing my husband say ‘well you can remarry you’re still young’ - or ‘be grateful you had kids’ etc
It just grates on me when I see a comment about others have it worse "my real dad i miss at Christmas he died to suicide when younger. No problem not looking for an argument either! I'll be quiet and not say anything. | |||
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"It's what you make of it? People in the world staving to death and some have no family. Being single isn't the end of the world! Spoil yourself instead. "I don’t like this toxic positivity. Dismissing someone else’s troubles because other people have it worse can actually be quite harmful. | |||
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"Oh, maybe this thread could be an opportunity for fabbers to find someone to share Christmas with "Come round to mine and I will cook a sumptuous dinner! | |||
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"It's what you make of it? People in the world staving to death and some have no family. Being single isn't the end of the world! Spoil yourself instead.
I don’t like this toxic positivity.
Dismissing someone else’s troubles because other people have it worse can actually be quite harmful. "Never dismissed it? I said it's what you make of it. You are toxic by assuming things i ain't even said! I think being single and a roof over your head is something to be grateful for when world hunger still exists. | |||
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"Jingle your bells. If you have a problem with Kinky or Tmontana I'd suggest talking with admin instead. I understand everyone can have their own opinions which is fine but I don't really think it is appropriate getting claws out. It's great you're so passionate about something." Why are you butting in? Nothing to do with you really. I think she has a problem with me more like! Lol Oh he knows my problem with him. Thank you | |||
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"It's what you make of it? People in the world staving to death and some have no family. Being single isn't the end of the world! Spoil yourself instead.
I don’t like this toxic positivity.
Dismissing someone else’s troubles because other people have it worse can actually be quite harmful. Never dismissed it? I said it's what you make of it. You are toxic by assuming things i ain't even said! I think being single and a roof over your head is something to be grateful for when world hunger still exists. "You can’t just call me toxic because I disagree. I didn’t say you were toxic, I said I don’t like toxic positivity. It’s a way if totally invalidating someone’s emotions. | |||
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" Its hard at times being single and I find Xmas worst being single. I have a small family and they will be around me but they will be mainly doing their things, which I love. Not had a Xmas day with a partner for 12 yrs. I am looking for someone, hopefully me being single will change in the New Year "Excellent positivity! I'm similar but less years being single. Here's hoping 2022 is a good year for those who seek romance. | |||
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"Jingle your bells. If you have a problem with Kinky or Tmontana I'd suggest talking with admin instead. I understand everyone can have their own opinions which is fine but I don't really think it is appropriate getting claws out. It's great you're so passionate about something. Why are you butting in? Nothing to do with you really. I think she has a problem with me more like! Lol Oh he knows my problem with him. Thank you "I have no problem with you - not everyone is going to agree on the forums, I’m allowed my opinion, as are you, only difference is you reply on the defensive and name call | |||
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"Jingle your bells. If you have a problem with Kinky or Tmontana I'd suggest talking with admin instead. I understand everyone can have their own opinions which is fine but I don't really think it is appropriate getting claws out. It's great you're so passionate about something." Sorry not sure what i said bad? Never once said the OP or anyone isn't allowed to be sad. | |||
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"Jingle your bells. If you have a problem with Kinky or Tmontana I'd suggest talking with admin instead. I understand everyone can have their own opinions which is fine but I don't really think it is appropriate getting claws out. It's great you're so passionate about something. Why are you butting in? Nothing to do with you really. I think she has a problem with me more like! Lol Oh he knows my problem with him. Thank you
I have no problem with you - not everyone is going to agree on the forums, I’m allowed my opinion, as are you, only difference is you reply on the defensive and name call"Well please don't assume what people mean! Have a good evening. | |||
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"Jingle your bells. If you have a problem with Kinky or Tmontana I'd suggest talking with admin instead. I understand everyone can have their own opinions which is fine but I don't really think it is appropriate getting claws out. It's great you're so passionate about something. Why are you butting in? Nothing to do with you really. I think she has a problem with me more like! Lol Oh he knows my problem with him. Thank you "People look out for others. Friends look out for friends. They have both been nothing but amazing as long as I've known them and spoke to them. My view point is a person looking from the outside in and you are the one with some issues this evening that you have no right to spout on to others. | |||
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Come round to mine and I will cook a sumptuous dinner!"Awww, how lovely. I'm not actually looking to spend the day with anyone, I quite like my own company. But that was a very very generous offer  | |||
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"Jingle your bells. If you have a problem with Kinky or Tmontana I'd suggest talking with admin instead. I understand everyone can have their own opinions which is fine but I don't really think it is appropriate getting claws out. It's great you're so passionate about something. Why are you butting in? Nothing to do with you really. I think she has a problem with me more like! Lol Oh he knows my problem with him. Thank you
People look out for others. Friends look out for friends. They have both been nothing but amazing as long as I've known them and spoke to them. My view point is a person looking from the outside in and you are the one with some issues this evening that you have no right to spout on to others."Okay! Still wasn't your place to try and gang up on me. Your friend made assumptions of what i said which clearly i didn't say no one can't be sad. It's what you make of it though! Being single in my opinion isn't the worst thing, But for some however it may hey positivity is good. Have a good evening | |||
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Come round to mine and I will cook a sumptuous dinner!
Awww, how lovely. I'm not actually looking to spend the day with anyone, I quite like my own company. But that was a very very generous offer "Enjoy the day ........... | |||
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"Jingle your bells. If you have a problem with Kinky or Tmontana I'd suggest talking with admin instead. I understand everyone can have their own opinions which is fine but I don't really think it is appropriate getting claws out. It's great you're so passionate about something. Why are you butting in? Nothing to do with you really. I think she has a problem with me more like! Lol Oh he knows my problem with him. Thank you
People look out for others. Friends look out for friends. They have both been nothing but amazing as long as I've known them and spoke to them. My view point is a person looking from the outside in and you are the one with some issues this evening that you have no right to spout on to others."Spout onto others you sound aggressive? She spouted that i felt or said something i didn't even say. Lol oh I'm aware i ain't perfect who is perfect? You have no right to judge me you don't even know me. | |||
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"This is my 3rd Christmas being single, I’d much rather that than the previous 6 where I didn’t know what degrading names I’d be called or if I was going to have to sleep in my car after a d*unk argument. Also, I get to swear at the tv with my dad and have an afternoon nap now " I'm sorry about those previous Christmasses. Enjoy your freedom. | |||
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"This is my 3rd Christmas being single, I’d much rather that than the previous 6 where I didn’t know what degrading names I’d be called or if I was going to have to sleep in my car after a d*unk argument. Also, I get to swear at the tv with my dad and have an afternoon nap now "Good Heavens that is dreadful. | |||
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"It might just be me, but what do other people think about being single during the festive season. Its always nice to have someone with you to create memories with but that wont be the case for me this year and I don’t really know what to make of it lol I reckon most people would say to just get on with it really! "Rather be single than with someone for the sake of it...its not so bad | |||
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"I will be home alone over the Christmas holidays and looking forward to it. No family argument No cooking for hours No washing up No trying to make a Barbie camper van No hunting around for batteries No one drinking all the wine No one eating all the chocolates And on top of this I get to watch what I want on the telly with our someone talking over it. Happy days I do have many happy memories of Christmas. " Do you get invited to many parties? | |||
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"As long as it's not wizard " I really must read the title of these threads properly I thought this was a post about Christmas singles ...lol | |||
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"It might just be me, but what do other people think about being single during the festive season. Its always nice to have someone with you to create memories with but that wont be the case for me this year and I don’t really know what to make of it lol I reckon most people would say to just get on with it really! "this year I'm working. Last year was the first time in 16 years I'd spent xmas with someone.. this year back to it being just me ( kids are elsewhere) | |||
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"It might just be me, but what do other people think about being single during the festive season. Its always nice to have someone with you to create memories with but that wont be the case for me this year and I don’t really know what to make of it lol I reckon most people would say to just get on with it really! "but also for us singletons ..it's the time of Yr we get to fist a bird amd give it right good stuffing  | |||
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"I will be home alone over the Christmas holidays and looking forward to it. No family argument No cooking for hours No washing up No trying to make a Barbie camper van No hunting around for batteries No one drinking all the wine No one eating all the chocolates And on top of this I get to watch what I want on the telly with our someone talking over it. Happy days I do have many happy memories of Christmas. Do you get invited to many parties?" Lucky I don't as I normally dodge the invitation before it's give. Bliss | |||
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"It might just be me, but what do other people think about being single during the festive season. Its always nice to have someone with you to create memories with but that wont be the case for me this year and I don’t really know what to make of it lol I reckon most people would say to just get on with it really! but also for us singletons ..it's the time of Yr we get to fist a bird amd give it right good stuffing "Haha that is a good point | |||
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"It's what you make of it? People in the world staving to death and some have no family. Being single isn't the end of the world! Spoil yourself instead.
I don’t like this toxic positivity.
Dismissing someone else’s troubles because other people have it worse can actually be quite harmful. "Well it was a question.... I've looked at her post as a positive without malice.... What's the ganging up all about now? | |||
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I don’t like this toxic positivity.
Dismissing someone else’s troubles because other people have it worse can actually be quite harmful.
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I've looked at her post as a positive without malice....
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"It might just be me, but what do other people think about being single during the festive season. Its always nice to have someone with you to create memories with but that wont be the case for me this year and I don’t really know what to make of it lol I reckon most people would say to just get on with it really! "It’s my third Christmas being single and I hate it. I surround myself with family which I enjoy every minute of but it would be nice to have a partner to spend it with | |||
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I don’t like this toxic positivity.
Dismissing someone else’s troubles because other people have it worse can actually be quite harmful.
Well it was a question....
I've looked at her post as a positive without malice....
What's the ganging up all about now?
Why do you see it as ganging up? I made a comment."Cos she already was battered by comments from another woman. Which I'm sure you saw.... Anyway did you see the question she asked or not? | |||
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"My first Christmas being single after my marriage break down after 20 years... Going to be a massive shock " stay strong | |||
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"It's what you make of it? People in the world staving to death and some have no family. Being single isn't the end of the world! Spoil yourself instead. "It is what you make of it and it's a time you could make another person's Christmas by being positive with this way of thinking....I smiled when I read this, especially as it was an open question.... Thank you | |||
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"It's what you make of it? People in the world staving to death and some have no family. Being single isn't the end of the world! Spoil yourself instead.
I don’t like this toxic positivity.
Dismissing someone else’s troubles because other people have it worse can actually be quite harmful.
Well it was a question....
I've looked at her post as a positive without malice....
What's the ganging up all about now?
Why do you see it as ganging up? I made a comment.
Cos she already was battered by comments from another woman. Which I'm sure you saw....
Anyway did you see the question she asked or not?"Just because someone else has commented doesn’t mean I can’t. I don’t like toxic positivity, it’s unhealthy. That’s my right. | |||
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"This will be my 9th Christmas single, yeah it’d be lovely to have someone to cuddle up with, watch films etc But hey ho I’ve resigned myself to being a spinster who’ll end up with a lot of dogs (allergic to cats) "Same here, except 10th and I have cats | |||
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I don’t like this toxic positivity.
Dismissing someone else’s troubles because other people have it worse can actually be quite harmful.
Well it was a question....
I've looked at her post as a positive without malice....
What's the ganging up all about now?
Why do you see it as ganging up? I made a comment.
Cos she already was battered by comments from another woman. Which I'm sure you saw....
Anyway did you see the question she asked or not?"Battered? That's not accurate. Kinky did not do that. | |||
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"12th single Christmas for me! Nice to know I’m not the only one! Yes I feel it, but would I rather be single or with the wrong one and miserable?! " I agree it's much better being home alone than being in the wrong relationship | |||
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"My first Christmas being single after my marriage break down after 20 years... Going to be a massive shock Oh I was here four years ago. You will be raw so be kind to yourself. "Thank you. I've got good family and friends around me | |||
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"It also depends on how 'single' one is. Being single but having friends and/or family around is nothing like being single and home alone every Christmas "I agree, been very lucky in that sense. | |||
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"It also depends on how 'single' one is. Being single but having friends and/or family around is nothing like being single and home alone every Christmas "Agreed. I think being alone if you don't want to be must be so hard at Christmas. | |||
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Thank you. I've got good family and friends around me "They will help as long as your brothers ain't like mine . Joking, mine are good as gold really  | |||
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"My first Christmas being single after my marriage break down after 20 years... Going to be a massive shock Oh I was here four years ago. You will be raw so be kind to yourself.
Thank you. I've got good family and friends around me "Oh good. It takes time to process when it ends. Especially an LTR. | |||
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"Agreed. I think being alone if you don't want to be must be so hard at Christmas. " It is  | |||
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"It's what you make of it? People in the world staving to death and some have no family. Being single isn't the end of the world! Spoil yourself instead.
I don’t like this toxic positivity.
Dismissing someone else’s troubles because other people have it worse can actually be quite harmful.
Well it was a question....
I've looked at her post as a positive without malice....
What's the ganging up all about now?
Why do you see it as ganging up? I made a comment.
Cos she already was battered by comments from another woman. Which I'm sure you saw....
Anyway did you see the question she asked or not?
Battered? That's not accurate. Kinky did not do that."Thank you lovely | |||
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"I've never not been single at Christmas. Although I've also never not been single period "Absolute travesty that!!
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"It’s pretty rubbish. When you spend Xmas alone and everyone else you know is with their families, it’s not much fun "How many of them aren't happy though? We always had a big argument on Christmas Day and Mum could be heard saying things like "can't we just get on, it's Christmas?". I'm done with all that. | |||
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"I may be single but I am never alone…… There’s the mice skiing in the trifle, the gnomes repairing my shoes at midnight, and come midnight the fairy’s coming down from the tree and doing her duty…." Trifle mice better not leave little chocolate sprinkles behind them. | |||
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"I may be single but I am never alone…… There’s the mice skiing in the trifle, the gnomes repairing my shoes at midnight, and come midnight the fairy’s coming down from the tree and doing her duty…. Trifle mice better not leave little chocolate sprinkles behind them. " Well I ain’t buying them! Bah humbuggery | |||
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"I may be single but I am never alone…… There’s the mice skiing in the trifle, the gnomes repairing my shoes at midnight, and come midnight the fairy’s coming down from the tree and doing her duty…. Trifle mice better not leave little chocolate sprinkles behind them. Well I ain’t buying them! Bah humbuggery " Fragrant | |||
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"Once I have my family I'm good. However this will be the third Christmas I'll be spending away from them because I don't have any family in the UK. So it would be lovely not to be single around this time but unfortunately I have massive trust issues with women atm, and I can't see myself opening up to a woman emotionally until maybe middle of 2022 (which is why I'm back on fab after an 8 month hiatus) " I find this curious that you've predicted the date when you'll have got a handle of your trust issues... I can't see an end date yet for mine | |||
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"It’s pretty rubbish. When you spend Xmas alone and everyone else you know is with their families, it’s not much fun " I'm sorry to hear that. I think Christmas is presented as this wonderful time for all but that's not the reality for many. | |||
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"It's what you make of it? People in the world staving to death and some have no family. Being single isn't the end of the world! Spoil yourself instead.
I don’t like this toxic positivity.
Dismissing someone else’s troubles because other people have it worse can actually be quite harmful.
Well it was a question....
I've looked at her post as a positive without malice....
What's the ganging up all about now?
Why do you see it as ganging up? I made a comment.
Cos she already was battered by comments from another woman. Which I'm sure you saw....
Anyway did you see the question she asked or not?
Just because someone else has commented doesn’t mean I can’t.
I don’t like toxic positivity, it’s unhealthy.
That’s my right. "It was nothing of the sort.... | |||
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"Jingle your bells. If you have a problem with Kinky or Tmontana I'd suggest talking with admin instead. I understand everyone can have their own opinions which is fine but I don't really think it is appropriate getting claws out. It's great you're so passionate about something. Why are you butting in? Nothing to do with you really. I think she has a problem with me more like! Lol Oh he knows my problem with him. Thank you
People look out for others. Friends look out for friends. They have both been nothing but amazing as long as I've known them and spoke to them. My view point is a person looking from the outside in and you are the one with some issues this evening that you have no right to spout on to others. Spout onto others you sound aggressive? She spouted that i felt or said something i didn't even say. Lol oh I'm aware i ain't perfect who is perfect? You have no right to judge me you don't even know me. "Welcome to the 'friends' of the forum | |||
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"It's what you make of it? People in the world staving to death and some have no family. Being single isn't the end of the world! Spoil yourself instead.
I don’t like this toxic positivity.
Dismissing someone else’s troubles because other people have it worse can actually be quite harmful.
Well it was a question....
I've looked at her post as a positive without malice....
What's the ganging up all about now?
Why do you see it as ganging up? I made a comment.
Cos she already was battered by comments from another woman. Which I'm sure you saw....
Anyway did you see the question she asked or not?
Just because someone else has commented doesn’t mean I can’t.
I don’t like toxic positivity, it’s unhealthy.
That’s my right.
It was nothing of the sort...."It’s is, that’s exactly what it is. Others have it worse, so you’re fine, stop moaning. Toxic positivity. | |||
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"Rather be single than all the fake crap that comes with been in a relationship. Watch what you want on tv, bed to yourself, wouldn't change that! "   | |||
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"It's what you make of it? People in the world staving to death and some have no family. Being single isn't the end of the world! Spoil yourself instead.
I don’t like this toxic positivity.
Dismissing someone else’s troubles because other people have it worse can actually be quite harmful.
Well it was a question....
I've looked at her post as a positive without malice....
What's the ganging up all about now?
Why do you see it as ganging up? I made a comment.
Cos she already was battered by comments from another woman. Which I'm sure you saw....
Anyway did you see the question she asked or not?
Just because someone else has commented doesn’t mean I can’t.
I don’t like toxic positivity, it’s unhealthy.
That’s my right.
It was nothing of the sort....
It’s is, that’s exactly what it is.
Others have it worse, so you’re fine, stop moaning. Toxic positivity."As soon as a comparison is made between people individual situations not matter how well meaning it starts to invalidate another persons feelings. Often it occurs when someone tries to empathise ‘oh I know how that feels’ The truth is while you may have similar experiences you can never truly know how someone is feeling. In this instance saying that there are people worse off in the world starts to invalidate the OP’s feeling by telling him that he should be grateful for what he has, in essence to not complain. | |||
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"It's what you make of it? People in the world staving to death and some have no family. Being single isn't the end of the world! Spoil yourself instead.
I don’t like this toxic positivity.
Dismissing someone else’s troubles because other people have it worse can actually be quite harmful.
Well it was a question....
I've looked at her post as a positive without malice....
What's the ganging up all about now?
Why do you see it as ganging up? I made a comment.
Cos she already was battered by comments from another woman. Which I'm sure you saw....
Anyway did you see the question she asked or not?
Just because someone else has commented doesn’t mean I can’t.
I don’t like toxic positivity, it’s unhealthy.
That’s my right.
It was nothing of the sort....
It’s is, that’s exactly what it is.
Others have it worse, so you’re fine, stop moaning. Toxic positivity."It's what you make of it?????? | |||
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"It can be a lonely time. It’s also a time where couples are out holding hands whilst they shop and they adverts aren’t full of happy families. I think it’s the only time of year that I consider my life. Then Boxing Day arrives and I’m over it "Yeah I feel you on that | |||
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"It can be a lonely time. It’s also a time where couples are out holding hands whilst they shop and they adverts are full of happy families. I think it’s the only time of year that I consider my life. Then Boxing Day arrives and I’m over it "Except for the Boxing Day part I completely agree.... I tend to allow the thoughts to fester for far too long and it's miserable January before I can snap out of it. However, there are two sides to it for me, I can relate to the posters who are looking forward to a Christmas free of an ex partner as well, when you're in any type of abusive situation it is often exacerbated over the "festive" season for a myriad of reasons. Not having to walk on eggshells, be careful what you say or do in case of repercussions which could cone no matter what you say, do or don't say or do.... yeah. Being single and alone is preferable to that. Not being able to be with those you love for whatever reason is hard though, and while that's hard all year, it is harder when you see happy looking couples and families everywhere you look. But for those of us who can't be with those we want to be with, something someone wise keeps saying to me is really appropriate.... it's a great time to be alive, we have so many ways to communicate with others these days and even if we can't be with people we can still reach out using technology. I hope anyone feeling lonely can find a way to reach out, if not to those they love then to at least strangers who may feel similar. And yes, some people have it worse than me (and others). But that doesn't negate the fact that our struggles and sadness are valid. It's so harmful to say anything along the lines of "well others are worse off", as it implies that someone's feelings aren't valid, when they are. The term "man up" is discouraged these days for that reason, and in my view it's not actually any different from "suck it up, there are people worse off than you". | |||
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"Single still too. All this love to give and no one to give it to "Someone’s out there for you Rachael!! You’ll find that person | |||
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"Posted on Twitter by Rev Kate Bottley May 5, 2020 "In case you need it: Sadness is not competitive. Just because there are ‘others worse off’ it doesn’t mean you’re not allowed to feel down. You don’t need to look on the bright side or be glass half full, it’s ok to want to throw the glass against the wall."" I love Rev Kate she lives in the real world | |||
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"Single still too. All this love to give and no one to give it to
Someone’s out there for you Rachael!!
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