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Do you spoil your kids at Christmas?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Back when I was a kiddie, I was lucky to get about 4 or 5 presents at Christmas. That was it. A main present and a few stocking fillers really. Probably with inflation etc the sum total from everybody who gifted (parents / relatives etc) would be probably around the £50 mark at todays prices, I grew up in a single parent family and was massively excited by what I got, and I know (now!) that my Mum would have been stretched financially to provide what we got.

I have to say, these days when the family gathers at the festive period, it seems every child is now inundated with presents. Big fuckers too. Like hundreds of pounds.

I remember a couple of years ago just watching as my nephews and nieces opened their piles of presents, hardly taking time to register what they had received before putting it on the pile and then opening the next.

Of course it’s the time to spoil the kids and treat them as well as you can. Maybe make sure they get the things you didn’t as a kiddie.

So do you use this time of year to shower gifts on your offspring, as a mark of your love for them, or are you more prudent?

Do you overstretch yourself at this time of year financially to make sure they get the best gifts and have a magical Christmas?

And is there an element of having to keep up with the Jones?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah, I put them in the fridge so they last longer

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle


"Nah, I put them in the fridge so they last longer "

they have short shelf lives

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our family was always stretched at Christmas when I was growing up. I remember my mum working hard to make it special with traditions as much as the things under the tree.

Im a single mum and the boy has no contact from his dad's side. I feel pressure to make sure he has a nice bundle but aware it is pretty much just me.

He is older and understands but I still try to make it special and let him have the things he would like if possible.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

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My kids are grown up married men now but when they were little no they weren’t spoilt, they had what we could afford, and it’s stood them in good stead as grown ups

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Our family was always stretched at Christmas when I was growing up. I remember my mum working hard to make it special with traditions as much as the things under the tree.

Im a single mum and the boy has no contact from his dad's side. I feel pressure to make sure he has a nice bundle but aware it is pretty much just me.

He is older and understands but I still try to make it special and let him have the things he would like if possible.

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The kid's already got it all I reckon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The kids have had second hand babysitters (ipads) for a little while now but we've bought them brand new ones instead. They know not to fling them down the stairs anymore.

Other than that they've maybe got 5 other presents which are things they need - clothes!

I'd say excluding the ipads we've spent about £30 each on them.. They get treated throughout the year and we have a big family/extended family so they get spoilt by grandparents and aunties/uncles.

At the moment they're enjoying experiences more so that's what we're trying to do with them instead of materialistic things.

They are very appreciative kids and would be happy with a box of fruit

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By *s Verity VeneryWoman
over a year ago

Bliss


"Nah, I put them in the fridge so they last longer

they have short elf lives "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nah, I put them in the fridge so they last longer

they have short elf lives "

Hug on it's way to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Furunate enough to have been indulged with no shortage as a child, different o mrs who came from a different background. But do wonder if we spoil children those days. It is easy to splash the cash and give them a lot, but do they really appreciate how much work most people have to out in to afford an iPhone or Ps5?

It is a time not only to be generous, but to reflect as well.

Good post and point OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do spoil mine a little I’ve always just had the 1 whose now 18 so he’s been lucky as he’s had e everything I could afford to give him, sometimes that was less and sometimes more. Now having the baby I did tell him he wouldn’t be getting much but him and his gf have got joint gifts and I’ve ended up buying him more than I planned. He has always appreciated his gifts though and I’ve never gone completely over board. The baby wasn’t meant to have anything this year but we have bought quite a few things because he won’t be 1 until august so have bought things to get him through until his birthday

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

yep. If an opportunity to spoil either of our kids arises we take it, always have done. We've never had enough money to go over the top though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No kids so I spoil my parents at Christmas. They looked after me when I was young, now it’s time for me to look after them.

They always tell me they don’t want anything but I always find something they could do with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No kids so I spoil my parents at Christmas. They looked after me when I was young, now it’s time for me to look after them.

They always tell me they don’t want anything but I always find something they could do with. "

Heart emoji.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No kids so I spoil my parents at Christmas. They looked after me when I was young, now it’s time for me to look after them.

They always tell me they don’t want anything but I always find something they could do with.

Heart emoji. "

Try

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No kids so I spoil my parents at Christmas. They looked after me when I was young, now it’s time for me to look after them.

They always tell me they don’t want anything but I always find something they could do with.

Heart emoji.

Try "

Every day’s a school day!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No kids so I spoil my parents at Christmas. They looked after me when I was young, now it’s time for me to look after them.

They always tell me they don’t want anything but I always find something they could do with.

Heart emoji.

Try

Every day’s a school day! "

I’m sure you could teach me a thing or two

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Our family was always stretched at Christmas when I was growing up. I remember my mum working hard to make it special with traditions as much as the things under the tree.

Im a single mum and the boy has no contact from his dad's side. I feel pressure to make sure he has a nice bundle but aware it is pretty much just me.

He is older and understands but I still try to make it special and let him have the things he would like if possible.

The kid's already got it all I reckon "

Awww thank you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t have any

But spoil my nephew

Step sis is a single mom dose her best but it can be costly

The dads a complete dead beat

I spoil him to give him a happy childhood

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By *hisisntpofMan
over a year ago

bristol

Yes i always peel their blood orange for them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I did, however apart from Birthdays my boys did not get much throughout the year so Christmas was an opportunity to spoil them

My eldest birthday is a few days prior to Christmas and it used to drive me when people would buy him one present for both, no I insisted he had them separate or else he missed out.

And Christmas was not allowed to start until his Birthday had been and gone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single mum of 4. I have a very generous family and they're amazing. But even when I had a partner and lots more money I've never been one for huge piles of expensive gifts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, my kids spoil Christmas.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No, my kids spoil Christmas."

That was a joke, probably not a great one. I don't think I spoil loved ones, but do put thought and time into the gifts I get for others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, probably, compensating for time I spent away working. They grew up okay in spite of it. Now I get to spoil my grandchildren..

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

We don’t tend to spoil our kids through the year with gifts so at Xmas and birthdays we tend to spend a fair bit. I always go over what to have budgeted for. To be fair it’s not so much then asking for things but me wanting to make sure that have enough surprises on the day on top of what they have asked for.

I think because I never used to get much as a child and used to feel disappointed, I tend to over indulge them a bit x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ah thanks all, interesting to read through!

I was out at in-laws today and was hearing how my nephew was going to to get a new iPhone 13 for Christmas. He’s 12. Heads gone.

I’ve only got an iPhone 6, and I feel lucky having that!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course, they’re my Kids!

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