FabSwingers.com forum: Expected

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Are single guys expected to send a face picture first in a private message if they don't display one on profile.

Some thoughts please.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say so.

Establish a level of attraction from the off would be beneficial.

I see little point in finding common interest, or compatible personality, only to find that you don’t fancy that person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It helps

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I wouldn't say it's expected but you're more likely to get a response if you do.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

We don't expect it or ask for it. We do ask for a full body shot and we're not bothered if it's a clothed one. We wouldn't expect anybody to do something we don't do ourselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never have but then I don’t chat to meet. I just chat

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By *inkylipsWoman
over a year ago

Debauchery

I never demand one and I will still talk to them i they don’t. I go off the first interaction firstly and then if we are lab for a social I will ask to seems pic if he hasn’t already

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Yes deffo x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think whoever sends a 1st message should attach a facepic, i ask for one right away and if i message a guy 1st il send mine

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Well it's nice to see who you're chatting to so would be good,it makes you more real doesn't it.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Its not expected or fab etiquette, but it may save you time by helping the other party determine if there is any attraction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It helps

Mostly it does, mine are on my profile anyway. However I have been turned down on here, then later at some of the organised socials we have in Wales been told that I am better in person and they wouldn't have said no if they actually met me first. So just keep in mind that yes its good to see a face but its not going to be possible to actually " see who the person is " just from a picture.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d say it’s the right thing to do, if not expected. I would, if I was to share, at least expect one in return. It’s curtesy right?

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By *orders CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Kelso

We don't expect a face pic until we've chatted a little while. Chatting helps determine if it's worthwhile going further.

We wouldn't want to send face pics to all and sundry so think that single guys should be able to do similar.

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By *ngusLaddieMan
over a year ago

angus

"It helps

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By *aliceWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

I'd concentrate on the content of the message rather than attaching a face picture. If someone then wants a face pic at least you've established some level of interest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes please. It the most important attributes for attraction, might as well get it out the to avoid wasting time and disappointment xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It helps

I agree with all this.

So you wouldn't wait for it to be requested. Just send.

Noted

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

"Are single guys expected to send a face picture first in a private message if they don't display one on profile.

Some thoughts please. "

No. I would never ask or expect this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It helps

I agree with all this.

So you wouldn't wait for it to be requested. Just send.

Noted

As I said, mine are visible on my public profile and my profile pic is of my face so it will show up in any messages I send.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always send a face pic with a first message and don't really reply if people don't send one either, to us it's common sense to want to see what each other looks like, saves the endless messages if there is no attraction x

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Yes d

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It helps

I agree with all this.

So you wouldn't wait for it to be requested. Just send.

Noted

As I said, mine are visible on my public profile and my profile pic is of my face so it will show up in any messages I send."

Well done, sir

We are not all as bold due to job roles and various other reasons.

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By *orkshireDrifterMan
over a year ago

Nafferton, nr Driffield.

It is sensible to do so. Solo guys are up against a lot of competition so good profile pics are a must but a well taken portrait pic is a definite yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are single guys expected to send a face picture first in a private message if they don't display one on profile.

Some thoughts please. "

Expected

NO! Freedom of choice for sending and if the person/s wishes to reply....

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Personally yes I want to see his face, that will determine whether he goes into friendzone or will our dance continue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't expect to see a face picture in the first message, everyone is entitled to privacy. Once you have a conversation going then that's the time to swap I feel.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"I don't expect to see a face picture in the first message, everyone is entitled to privacy. Once you have a conversation going then that's the time to swap I feel."

This if we are meeting a face pic please x

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

I wouldn't say that it's compulsory at the beginning but at a point it's always nice to see whom each other have been chatting with.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

It's expected by some, even some profiles that say they won't send one straight away ask for one with first message or won't get a reply.

They're usually profiles that have no photos or just some friends only ones and I tend to not bother messaging them because it seems a bit unfair.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I send my bumhole and I always get a response

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

No. The rules and regs and commonly accepted etiquettes are for ALL regardless.

Anyone who tells you different is telling you THEIR expectations of you. Nothing more.... now you decide if you are going to or not .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No. The rules and regs and commonly accepted etiquettes are for ALL regardless.

Anyone who tells you different is telling you THEIR expectations of you. Nothing more.... now you decide if you are going to or not .

I guess this must resonate with some on here.

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

"We don't expect a face pic until we've chatted a little while. Chatting helps determine if it's worthwhile going further.

We wouldn't want to send face pics to all and sundry so think that single guys should be able to do similar. "

We're the same. If someone does the chat with no meet veris, we'll ask early doors for a picture with something, all phones used here will have a camera. It helps weadle out the time wasters, usually.

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By *wingsnroundabouts82Couple
over a year ago

Fucksville

Yep saves a hell of a lot of time. Just being honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well it's nice to see who you're chatting to so would be good,it makes you more real doesn't it."

This ^

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well it's nice to see who you're chatting to so would be good,it makes you more real doesn't it.

This ^

How about reciprocation

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Mug shot here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't expect one in a first message. Maybe after chatting a while and if there was definite interest building then I would like to receive a face pic. I would also send a face pic too if I was interested in meeting.

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

"Its not expected or fab etiquette, but it may save you time by helping the other party determine if there is any attraction."

Absolutely, I want to flirt with someone that I fancy.

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By *urio77Man
over a year ago

northampton

I haven’t and would never send a photo with any first message. I also scroll pass on any profile that requests one as I would never request one myself. I love the fact that you can build a rap-pore with some one without the shackles of looks being the determining factor as to whether you find them attractive.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I don't expect one first message no, only ask when we are getting on well and then swap mine too.

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

I think whoever sends the first message should include a face pic. Then if you’re interested you should reply with your own.

I’ve been in the position a couple of times, early on in online dating and on fab, where I’ve chatted first and then got a face pic later and didn’t find the person attractive. It makes it very awkward then, especially if the chat had been going well.

I much prefer to swap faces before we get started, that way we both know who we’re talking to and there’s no disappointment later on if we don’t like how the other looks.

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By *ilverjagMan
over a year ago

swansea

As a guy who scrubs up quite well, and told by others that I'm in pretty good shape, I don't send a clear face photo with a first message, and if they say on their profiles, that no clear face photo means no reply, or instant block, they can take a hike because, you don't actually know that it's a couple, or a lady that you are trying to connect with. With so many fake profiles the chances are that that a deal breaker like the above conditions attached on their profiles can mean that you are actually getting in touch with some Quasemodo look alike who is looking for photos of attractive guys to use himself as profile photos. Apparently it happens quite regularly.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's helpful for you, as it filters out the unmatched as early as possible.

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

Nothing's *expected* but if you're comfortable doing so it'll probably improve you're chances

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

I expect nothing from no one

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By *amie HantsWoman
over a year ago

Atlantis

I wouldn’t expect it but if I was going to start getting to know someone it’s nice to know what they look like.

If I’m keen on someone, I like to send a face picture early on to see if there’s attraction there to carry on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I send a face picture with a message usually

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I expect nothing from no one

Blind date, could be fun. Not that I would ever dream of doing something like that

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

We wouldn’t expect anything.

We’d definitely prefer a face pic over a cock pic though!

Although there’s no point chatting and chatting and then establish there’s no attraction, so we would hope for one early on…but wouldn’t expect it.

We like to see who we chat to.

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By *B69Woman
over a year ago

Wiltshire

I don’t expect one but if we are chatting then I would hope to exchange them after a while

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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago

Dublin

I would if they had a well written profile and felt we'd connect on a personal level. That's rare enough though so normally I wouldn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn’t say it’s expected but if you want a response I’d say it’s a good idea , ladies are bombarded with messages on here so it will help you stand out

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By *oneyBear100Couple
over a year ago

Gatwick area

Nope, wouldn't expect one from singles or couples in an opening salvo but it is preferred to a cock pic (they make really unattractive faces!). Within the first 3 or 4 messages is good though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't send one until I feel comfortable so would not expect anyone else to.

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