FabSwingers.com forum: Hotel meets

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm not talking "I'm in the Premier Inn in Reading tonight" hotel meets. How you feel about meeting and playing in hotels? Whether it's NSA, one night affairs or something more regular. I've said no every time I've been asked since I first joined Fet in August. Do you say yes to hotels?

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I only play away in hotels, I don't want people coming to my family home

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I only meet in hotels. Never do one offs/randoms though.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It's a good option for me, where I've built a rapport with someone

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

I have met my sub in a hotel that is mid way between where we both live for some fun and club visits.

Otherwise we either meet at hers or ours.

In the past we have met and played in hotels, airbnbs and our house. It just depends what you want to get up to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Open to hotels as long as I meet before hand for a drink to break the ice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not talking "I'm in the Premier Inn in Reading tonight" hotel meets. How you feel about meeting and playing in hotels? Whether it's NSA, one night affairs or something more regular. I've said no every time I've been asked since I first joined Fet in August. Do you say yes to hotels? "

Hotel meets are nice, one properly planned

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely! Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Huh.

I wasn't expecting that. Does it feel a bit clinical, awkward - if that makes sense?

I've always met play partners at my house or theirs (my house no longer possible). I guess to me hotels = no intimacy or connection. If that's only where I'd meet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hotel meets are nice, one properly planned"

Properly planned means what...to you?

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Huh.

I wasn't expecting that. Does it feel a bit clinical, awkward - if that makes sense?

I've always met play partners at my house or theirs (my house no longer possible). I guess to me hotels = no intimacy or connection. If that's only where I'd meet."

I’d never have anyone at my house.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Huh.

I wasn't expecting that. Does it feel a bit clinical, awkward - if that makes sense?

I've always met play partners at my house or theirs (my house no longer possible). I guess to me hotels = no intimacy or connection. If that's only where I'd meet.

I’d never have anyone at my house. "

I wouldn't have a one night stand there. But before my kids lived with me full time my FWB would come there. We played for a year that way. Talked for 6 weeks before even having a coffee. Even that kind of setup you'd say hotel?

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

"Huh.

I wasn't expecting that. Does it feel a bit clinical, awkward - if that makes sense?

I've always met play partners at my house or theirs (my house no longer possible). I guess to me hotels = no intimacy or connection. If that's only where I'd meet."

I don't want my neighbours seeing different men coming to mine or hearing us fuck loudly against the wall. It’s also more fun in a hotel as anything goes as you'll never see the person next door again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Huh.

I wasn't expecting that. Does it feel a bit clinical, awkward - if that makes sense?

I've always met play partners at my house or theirs (my house no longer possible). I guess to me hotels = no intimacy or connection. If that's only where I'd meet."

You're not wrong, I prefer to meet at men at there homes, have a chat, maybe something to eat or drink, and then relax into the bedroom (or sofa). Hotels can feel a tad cold in comparison, but can still work out fine. Fortunately I've only had one bad one where he basically just bent me over, came in me and then just left. That was shit, but just a bad meet I think xx

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Huh.

I wasn't expecting that. Does it feel a bit clinical, awkward - if that makes sense?

I've always met play partners at my house or theirs (my house no longer possible). I guess to me hotels = no intimacy or connection. If that's only where I'd meet.

I’d never have anyone at my house.

Yeah definitely. I’ve had a couple it long term FWBs. Still wouldn’t do it. It’s my children’s home. I don’t even tell people where I live x

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

"Huh.

I wasn't expecting that. Does it feel a bit clinical, awkward - if that makes sense?

I've always met play partners at my house or theirs (my house no longer possible). I guess to me hotels = no intimacy or connection. If that's only where I'd meet."

Same as me

if I’m at the point where I’m happy to be naked with someone, I’m happy for them to be in my home. Hotel meets don’t interest me at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always meet in hotels. I've no desire to go to someone's house or have them come to me. I don't have to tidy up or worry about curtain twitchers etc etc.

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By *xiled BikerMan
over a year ago

Beverley

Always enjoyed hotel meets but always in good 4 or 5 stars, meet in nice bar and in advance agree that keycard will be on table, if and when the lady wishes to go upstairs she just picks up the card, if she doesn't no awkwardness and we all go our own ways or have a few more drinks.

I always find them a huge turn on, huge beds, lots of props and full height mirrors, double baths and walk in showers lots of opportunities

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always meet in hotels. I've no desire to go to someone's house or have them come to me. I don't have to tidy up or worry about curtain twitchers etc etc. "

They do clearly have big advantages for discreet meets

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

The degree to which there's intimacy and a connection is more a function of the social time spent together first than the venue. Hotel meetings don't have to be one offs with total strangers. Far from it in fact. We have enjoyed many nice and regular hotel meetings with guys over the years. We cannot accommodate or travel far so local hotels suit us perfectly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thoroughly enjoy playing in hotels. Have a few drinks in the hotel bar then head upstairs for fun.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Huh.

I wasn't expecting that. Does it feel a bit clinical, awkward - if that makes sense?

I've always met play partners at my house or theirs (my house no longer possible). I guess to me hotels = no intimacy or connection. If that's only where I'd meet.

So privacy is an issue- I can understand that. I am fairly private where I am but as my kids are there all the time it's not longer an option.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

It's always hotel meets for me.

My home is my "safe house", my sanctuary and extraneous to my life on Fab.

Hotels are relatively safe (there's CCTV), it's neutral ground, it's "our" room and we can lose ourselves in whatever wild abandonment we choose, without being distracted by anything that reminds us of our personal and private space at home.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Huh.

I wasn't expecting that. Does it feel a bit clinical, awkward - if that makes sense?

I've always met play partners at my house or theirs (my house no longer possible). I guess to me hotels = no intimacy or connection. If that's only where I'd meet."

For me it's about the person, not the location. I've had clinical home meets and intimate hotel meets

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By *wingsnroundabouts82Couple
over a year ago

Fucksville

We'd do hotels purely to save me having to sort the kids over night with the in laws lol but with out appetite it could get expensive.. We only ever meet people we've had a real friendly rapport with x lately though we just loiter in chams whenever we get a chance to play as that way there's more people to play with too..

God we sound bad...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Huh.

I wasn't expecting that. Does it feel a bit clinical, awkward - if that makes sense?

I've always met play partners at my house or theirs (my house no longer possible). I guess to me hotels = no intimacy or connection. If that's only where I'd meet.

Same as me

if I’m at the point where I’m happy to be naked with someone, I’m happy for them to be in my home. Hotel meets don’t interest me at all. "

It takes me some time to get to the point I'd wanting to be naked with someone. So yes, it's the trust element. I'm not planning on bedding a cast of thousands. But I do wonder if I'm turning down some good chances to connect by avoiding hotels.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you have to do what you're comfortable with. If you're not comfortable with something then don't do it. I never compromise if something is important to me.

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By *hil most chillMan
over a year ago

South East & Europe

Hotels are the hottest of all meet venues. A room made up nice just for the purposes of sex? Yes please. Make as much noise as you want and don’t worry about changing the sheets after? Hell yeah. Make imaginative use of the bathroom and chairs, tables etc? Sign me up. I fucking LOVE hotel meets, there’s just an electric atmosphere of pure naughtiness when I meet someone at a hotel. First meets are always exciting, the whole “will we be leaving the bar together or not?” anticipation…

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's always hotel meets for me.

My home is my "safe house", my sanctuary and extraneous to my life on Fab.

I don't see my life and my "sex" life as separate entities. I'm getting that lots of people do, this hotels are popular because it provides some separation of the two. I wouldn't want to meet someone with whom I don't have a bond and they know something about me and me about them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Always enjoyed hotel meets but always in good 4 or 5 stars, meet in nice bar and in advance agree that keycard will be on table, if and when the lady wishes to go upstairs she just picks up the card, if she doesn't no awkwardness and we all go our own ways or have a few more drinks.

I always find them a huge turn on, huge beds, lots of props and full height mirrors, double baths and walk in showers lots of opportunities "

You Sir are a gent.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We'd do hotels purely to save me having to sort the kids over night with the in laws lol but with out appetite it could get expensive.. We only ever meet people we've had a real friendly rapport with x lately though we just loiter in chams whenever we get a chance to play as that way there's more people to play with too..

God we sound bad... "

No, you really don't! You have your intimacy and connection with each other. And having a good rapport before you meet sounds great.

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By *aughty but nice...Man
over a year ago

Staffs

I love hotel meets no pressure,do what you want,I like the communication leading up to the meet the texting of a room number or the meeting in a hotel bar it all seems so naughty and that's what I like about it.

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By *rangesmartieWoman
over a year ago

Devon

"Hotels are the hottest of all meet venues. A room made up nice just for the purposes of sex? Yes please. Make as much noise as you want and don’t worry about changing the sheets after? Hell yeah. Make imaginative use of the bathroom and chairs, tables etc? Sign me up. I fucking LOVE hotel meets, there’s just an electric atmosphere of pure naughtiness when I meet someone at a hotel. First meets are always exciting, the whole “will we be leaving the bar together or not?” anticipation…"

Yep all of this. Clean tidy room fresh sheets just waiting for you to mess them up. Fling your stuff every where. The neighbours don't exist. The anonymity of the room enables you to create a whole private world of fantasy for yourselves.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

We enjoy hotel meets…you can all relax in neutral settings and then we carry on the fun when they’ve left…

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I always find them a huge turn on, huge beds, lots of props and full height mirrors, double baths and walk in showers lots of opportunities "

I've had men say this to me before. That they like 4/5 star hotels. And that's fine, of course why would it not be if your choice.

I'm a single mum of 4, I can't afford that. Nor do I want to be "treated" every time. Even half of a Travellodge costs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its quite a good neutral place. Not really the most private but you could say that about houses built out of (seemingly) cardboard anyway. If its a dayuse it may feel a bit rushed and is if you are just there for the shagging but it can also be fun and a bit different. It might be worth trying it once or twice and seeing what you think, you might love it or hate it

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I've never had a dynamic where meeting in a hotel has felt cold or clinical - I think that's in part because I take the time to talk to and know the other person. I do like hotels, not even because of the compartmentalising aspect. It's hot. I get to stay in beautiful rooms and enjoy the facilities and the person I'm with.

Apart from one person on here, I don't think anyone knows where I actually live. And I'd rather keep it that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's always hotel meets for me.

My home is my "safe house", my sanctuary and extraneous to my life on Fab.

This for me

Always happy to entertain at my place. Whatever feels more comfortable.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Hotels don't work for me because I like to see my lovers on a regular basis so they end up becoming expensive. I find the more barriers there are, the less chance of it becoming a regular thing. Distance is another barrier.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Its quite a good neutral place. Not really the most private but you could say that about houses built out of (seemingly) cardboard anyway. If its a dayuse it may feel a bit rushed and is if you are just there for the shagging but it can also be fun and a bit different. It might be worth trying it once or twice and seeing what you think, you might love it or hate it

I don't do just for the shagging (really did not work for me!) but yeah I am kinda wondering if it's worth a try.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hotels are my preferred option. I like the neutral ground

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hotels don't work for me because I like to see my lovers on a regular basis so they end up becoming expensive. I find the more barriers there are, the less chance of it becoming a regular thing. Distance is another barrier. "

Honest I just randomly picked Reading!

This is what I would like but if they don't live locally it becomes trickier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hotel meets suit us perfectly

NBVN x

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By *olarbear73Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

It is most definitely a yes from me… once out of hibernation I’ll be putting my feelers out….

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had a few hotel meets, found them a lot of fun for the most part. As with most things, it’s who you’re meeting that makes it enjoyable.

Something about a hotel meet that gives it an edge though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My current men all come to my house but I've known them for years. Anyone else it's always hotels.

It's horny going to a hotel in the daytime. Also more discreet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh I do like a hotel meet.

Last one he brought candles, champagne, we spent ages chatting had lots of fun, ordered pizza at half time.

I like to escape my home/everyday life so hotel meets are ideal for me.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

I'm at home all day every day, so sometimes a hotel room is quite exciting. My first proper meet was an afternoon in a hotel and I thought it was amazing. Plus you don't have to clean up before and after, more privacy, no interruptions.

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By *MrandMrsRedxCouple
over a year ago

Wiltshire

I’ve never done a hotel meet… I think if it was under the right circumstances for me I would

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hotels are good

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Oh I do like a hotel meet.

Last one he brought candles, champagne, we spent ages chatting had lots of fun, ordered pizza at half time.

I like to escape my home/everyday life so hotel meets are ideal for me."

Well. No-one offered me pizza at half time! I didn't know this was an option.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

"...in advance agree that keycard will be on table, if and when the lady wishes to go upstairs she just picks up the card, if she doesn't no awkwardness and we all go our own ways or have a few more drinks. "

With all my honourable intentions, sense and sensibilities for my age, I am ever humbled when I come across such great advice such as this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All my meets are hotel meets but on my terms.. I book it and pay for it.

I wouldn't go to someone else's hotel room, I'm a bit cautious of secret filming.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

"I don't see my life and my "sex" life as separate entities. I'm getting that lots of people do, this hotels are popular because it provides some separation of the two. I wouldn't want to meet someone with whom I don't have a bond and they know something about me and me about them. "

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It's perfectly normal if your life and "sex" life aren't distinct.

However just to make clear - I only meet in a hotel after I've had one or more socials previously (drinks, brunch etc) AND after chatting on Fab.

For me - personally - having a hotel playdate isn't about sex that's hollow and 'transactional'. The fact that we're playing is because we've established that "bond", there is much chemistry (through extensive chat and socials/meets), there's emotional connection, the obvious sexual tension and synergy and the sapsiosexuality (e.g. we share non-sexual commonalities between us).

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Hotel's are always great for meetings when you obviously have built up some kind of connection before hand then ruin the bed,shower room and always chances other swingers would be using the same hotel as have been known to be popular

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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It's perfectly normal if your life and "sex" life aren't distinct.

However just to make clear - I only meet in a hotel after I've had one or more socials previously (drinks, brunch etc) AND after chatting on Fab.

I liked the flower at the end there

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By *nsatiable NurseWoman
over a year ago

Brighton

Hotel meets are nice, one properly planned"

Some lovely hotels in Brighton

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We love to meet playmates at our house for some loud sexy fun that we hope our neighbours hear…

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By *xfordshireCoupleMFCouple
over a year ago

Nr. Oxford

We love hotels for meets.

The bed has access all round, there’s a handy shower and then no cleaning up after!

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By *wingsnroundabouts82Couple
over a year ago

Fucksville

I'm beginning to reaaallly want a hotel meet now

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

"I'm beginning to reaaallly want a hotel meet now

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In Reading?..?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm beginning to reaaallly want a hotel meet now

Bloody hell, it's not a crisps thread!

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By *onlywishiMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

Had a few hotel meets normally with ladies who I’d chatted too for a while before going to somewhere near where they lived and were comfy going too

Cosy social in the bar first to get to know if there is an attraction then relax together before naughtily going back to the room ?

There is always the option for an all-nighter or just finish when the lady is ready to go home ?

If your worried out someone seeing your body ? Most hotels have blackout curtains which make the room really dark ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely it's your rapport with the person not where you meet?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Surely it's your rapport with the person not where you meet? "

I think that this may be true. A few people have said that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Huh.

I wasn't expecting that. Does it feel a bit clinical, awkward - if that makes sense?

I've always met play partners at my house or theirs (my house no longer possible). I guess to me hotels = no intimacy or connection. If that's only where I'd meet.

I’d never have anyone at my house.

Yeah definitely. I’ve had a couple it long term FWBs. Still wouldn’t do it. It’s my children’s home. I don’t even tell people where I live x"

Very wise head on shoulders..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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It's perfectly normal if your life and "sex" life aren't distinct.

However just to make clear - I only meet in a hotel after I've had one or more socials previously (drinks, brunch etc) AND after chatting on Fab.

But it's still about the sex though

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By *arbar2021Couple
over a year ago

city

I love hotel meets. A drink or two and a flirt and that look when you both know its time to head to head to the room.

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By *wingsnroundabouts82Couple
over a year ago

Fucksville

"I'm beginning to reaaallly want a hotel meet now

Bloody hell, it's not a crisps thread!

Hahaha I love you lol, you're ace x and now I fancy a bag of plain crisps... Hahaha x

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By *wingsnroundabouts82Couple
over a year ago

Fucksville

"I'm beginning to reaaallly want a hotel meet now

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In Reading?..?

Unfortunately not lol

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By *oomarangMan
over a year ago

Chester

I did have a meet once on a hotel. She was from Wakefield in Chester for a company meeting and staying over the night, I would do it again if I got the chance

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By *ane DTV/TS
over a year ago

Glasgow

Clubs or hotels, not bringing anyone back to mine when I haven't known them for an extended period.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I work away a lot and stay in hotels. For me this is the best time to meet. I’m away from home and the wife and some company is more than welcome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What can be a better setting than a luxury hotel with a good restaurant and bar?

Nice meal, couple of drinks for the conversation to flow and help relax and get in the mood. Then retire to a well appointed room for some fun.

That’s how we usually roll once we’ve made a connection at a club or (more rarely) via here. Not been possible for a while but will be the way to go once we get back in the game.

Never been let down and it has always worked out wonderfully. Can’t wait to do again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love hotels! I sometimes just book in advance without knowing if or who I'm meeting. I wouldn't like to go to someone else's hotel room so much though.

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By *ouis CyphreMan
over a year ago

The Midlands

First meet always in a hotel. Mutual safety and adds that little extra zing.

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By *inkylipsWoman
over a year ago

Debauchery

Hotels all the way for me. I can’t play at home and I’m not comfortable playing at a strangers house so a hotel is perfect, Or unless it’s at a club. There is something hot about getting dressed up for the occasion, maybe going for drinks and flirting before going back to the hotel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only play in hotels, clubs or if they accommodate. We keep our home out of it for our children

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hotels with the select few I get on with, my home is a no no. I feel I’m better relaxed in a hotel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a NSA type person and nothing says NSA more, than a hotel meet. At least for initial hookups.

If it turns out I'm meeting them more regularly, then I might accommodate later on down the line or meet at theirs.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm a NSA type person and nothing says NSA more, than a hotel meet. At least for initial hookups.

If it turns out I'm meeting them more regularly, then I might accommodate later on down the line or meet at theirs."

This is why I started the thread. I'm not NSA. But it would appear that a hotel can work for those who want more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love a nice lush hotel. It’s nothing to do with the meet just the no hassle I don’t have to tidy up and luxury that I love. Hell I’m happy if I’m on my own

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I love a nice lush hotel. It’s nothing to do with the meet just the no hassle I don’t have to tidy up and luxury that I love. Hell I’m happy if I’m on my own

I like them. My bank balance says no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"First meet always in a hotel. Mutual safety and adds that little extra zing. "

Come add some zing to my hotel room

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I love a nice lush hotel. It’s nothing to do with the meet just the no hassle I don’t have to tidy up and luxury that I love. Hell I’m happy if I’m on my own

I like them. My bank balance says no.

Well there is that drawback

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always meet in hotels.

As a couple looking for mainly single men it's a good way to sort the dreamers from the doers.

Once we've narrowed down the field we ask the male to book a hotel in advance - offering to pay half of course but they need to show serious intent about showing up.

90% don't book which saves us time waiting for a no show on the night.

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By *ossman0168Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

You can relax more in a hotel and be a lot more adventurous with your merry knowing you don’t have to clean up afterwards lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I greatly enjoy using hotels especially good hotels that have that have that luxury experience. The rooms have great wash and shower facilities that are large enough to have shower sex if wanted, I just adore having a sexy woman in the shower. The venue is neutral and its exciting, there is a bar there to first meet and socialise before heading to the room.

No interuptions no disturbances and you dont have to worry about changing the bedding or the mess.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You can relax more in a hotel and be a lot more adventurous with your merry knowing you don’t have to clean up afterwards lol

I don't know if I would relax more in a hotel, but maybe I should find out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hotel meets work best for us/me. Usually have a drink or two first to break the ice.

Nikki x

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By *ikesEmBigMan
over a year ago

Herts

One of my best meets was in a hotel. Remember her at the bar looking incredible and wanting to rush her upstairs to fuck her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I greatly enjoy using hotels especially good hotels that have that have that luxury experience. The rooms have great wash and shower facilities that are large enough to have shower sex if wanted, I just adore having a sexy woman in the shower. The venue is neutral and its exciting, there is a bar there to first meet and socialise before heading to the room.

No interuptions no disturbances and you dont have to worry about changing the bedding or the mess.

This

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Absolutely. We thoroughly enjoy hotel meets, one of our favourite ways to play.

A night/weekend away and naughtiness, what's not to love.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Absolutely. We thoroughly enjoy hotel meets, one of our favourite ways to play.

A night/weekend away and naughtiness, what's not to love."

I can absolutely see why it's a preference for couples. But it looks different as a single woman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I love a nice lush hotel. It’s nothing to do with the meet just the no hassle I don’t have to tidy up and luxury that I love. Hell I’m happy if I’m on my own

I like them. My bank balance says no.

The inevitable draw back. I'm a NSA type but not a rich one! I suppose fwb is my probably goal.

Boundaries are more likely to be respected in that scenario.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have done hotel meets and enjoyed them having a drink in the bar beforehand but I have a fuck buddy now so I enjoy having fun in the comforts of my own home it's much more relaxing

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Even though I chat for a while before I meet anyone and meet for coffee before arranging anything else. It's hotel meets for me .I only bring people I know well and meet regularly and trust to my home and I will never go to a guys home for a first meet again. Did it once when I was new on fab and never again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would consider meeting couples in hotels.

As a single I'd have only gone to a hotel meet after having had a social with someone and working out if I wanted to take it further. Just turning up at a hotel without a social was a total no no.

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to love hotel meets but not had one for a long long time...not for a first meet though.

Definitely be up for more again now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I love a nice lush hotel. It’s nothing to do with the meet just the no hassle I don’t have to tidy up and luxury that I love. Hell I’m happy if I’m on my own

I like them. My bank balance says no.

The inevitable draw back. I'm a NSA type but not a rich one! I suppose fwb is my probably goal.

***Boundaries are more likely to be respected in that scenario.***"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always hotel meets for me. I just find it nice.

Its more a out the person I'm meeting rather than the surrounding.

I always get to the hotel first and make sure is warm. Especially during this time of the year

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By *0tt0nSu3Woman
over a year ago

London

"We love hotels for meets.

The bed has access all round, there’s a handy shower and then no cleaning up after!"

Totally off the subject but I love your lingerie! Where do you buy your lingerie? I would have messaged you but I'm out of your age range. Lol... Hypocritical for me to complain about age filters! Lol!

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I do like hotel meets. I saw one guy for well over 2 years, every time we met up it was in a gorgeous hotel. It was all part of the experience.

I do have FWB I see at home, but I don't do that with many people.

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By *ilverjagMan
over a year ago

swansea

I hardly ever meet at hotels when I've got enough tastefully furnished executive investment homes to play in. My experience has generally been that people were more comfortable meeting at my place because, if they weren't comfortable with the the area or location, they can simply drive off. A home in a nice area also gives a good indication of the high standards that the host probably has. And lastly, meeting at my place demonstrates to those who don't meet married guys, that there is no wife lurking in the background. That's not to mention the cost saving.

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By *ilverjagMan
over a year ago

swansea

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
over a year ago

Wales/ All over UK

I am happy to accommodate in my home as I live alone, but due to being a relatively sparsely populated local area I often have to travel for meets… and this is often easier if I have a hotel room to use, so yes hotels meets are good with me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would never meet anyone in a hotel I can't think of anything more dangerous, talk about putting yourself at risk.

All so I might play the slut but I will not be walk into a hotel and advertised to everyone what I am doing ,as having worked in a hotel trust me all staff know why you're there.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I would never meet anyone in a hotel I can't think of anything more dangerous, talk about putting yourself at risk.

All so I might play the slut but I will not be walk into a hotel and advertised to everyone what I am doing ,as having worked in a hotel trust me all staff know why you're there. "

Isn’t it more dangerous to go to someone’s house?!

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I hardly ever meet at hotels when I've got enough tastefully furnished executive investment homes to play in. My experience has generally been that people were more comfortable meeting at my place because, if they weren't comfortable with the the area or location, they can simply drive off. A home in a nice area also gives a good indication of the high standards that the host probably has. And lastly, meeting at my place demonstrates to those who don't meet married guys, that there is no wife lurking in the background. That's not to mention the cost saving. "

Ooooooh get you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would never meet anyone in a hotel I can't think of anything more dangerous, talk about putting yourself at risk.

All so I might play the slut but I will not be walk into a hotel and advertised to everyone what I am doing ,as having worked in a hotel trust me all staff know why you're there. "

Just out of curiosity, what kind of dangers are you taking about?

Also, I see no big deal if hotel staff see consenting adults sharing a room.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would never meet anyone in a hotel I can't think of anything more dangerous, talk about putting yourself at risk.

All so I might play the slut but I will not be walk into a hotel and advertised to everyone what I am doing ,as having worked in a hotel trust me all staff know why you're there.

Isn’t it more dangerous to go to someone’s house?!"

Exactly, at least a hotel is in a public place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would never meet anyone in a hotel I can't think of anything more dangerous, talk about putting yourself at risk.

All so I might play the slut but I will not be walk into a hotel and advertised to everyone what I am doing ,as having worked in a hotel trust me all staff know why you're there. "

Not if you pic a reputable hotel like premier inn

It’s quite safe

And take extra precautions

Book your own room

That way hotel has records off you staying there

Meet them outside the hotel and bring them in

Public areas like check in and stuff have security cameras elevator has a security cameras

It’s going to pic you up and who your with up that way there’s a record off who you were with

And if really worried book a disabled room they have emergency pull cords in room and toilet

If this go wrong pull the cord staff will get a alert and be on they way up

And to answer the op question I love hotels I can let loose and not have to worry about what next door can hear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have met men in hotels in Oxford and like the idea in general but have twice been stood up by pathetic time wasters who have invited me to visit them and carried on chatting until I got there; one then just disappeared and the other pretended that he was on the way back to the hotel and strung me along for half an hour, leaving me hanging around in the street outside in central Oxford like an aging unsuccessful street-walker before I was sure what was going on and left!

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By *ookinforfun6972Couple
over a year ago

Hartlepool

Yes love to meet in hotels

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have met men in hotels in Oxford and like the idea in general but have twice been stood up by pathetic time wasters who have invited me to visit them and carried on chatting until I got there; one then just disappeared and the other pretended that he was on the way back to the hotel and strung me along for half an hour, leaving me hanging around in the street outside in central Oxford like an aging unsuccessful street-walker before I was sure what was going on and left!"

That's appalling behaviour no matter where you are! Sorry that happened to you.

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

Why not. It’s is a good middle ground

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By *ouis CyphreMan
over a year ago

The Midlands

"First meet always in a hotel. Mutual safety and adds that little extra zing.

Come add some zing to my hotel room

You know it

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

"First meet always in a hotel. Mutual safety and adds that little extra zing.

Come add some zing to my hotel room

You know it

^ he knows it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer hotel meets, not clinical at all especially if you have had a build up to it with a few socials first and then a drink or two in the bar

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always find them a huge turn on, huge beds, lots of props and full height mirrors, double baths and walk in showers lots of opportunities

You Sir are a gent.

I used to have meets at mine but no longer accommodate. My fb has arranged some meets in very nice hotels. I love hotel meets! No need to worry about tidying, lots of options, quite exciting to be away from home...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have met men in hotels in Oxford and like the idea in general but have twice been stood up...

That's appalling behaviour no matter where you are! Sorry that happened to you.

Thank you; I am afraid that a lot of men, including many who claim to be 'straight' but are eager to have sex with us think that people like me (TV/TG) are just fair game to muck around for fun or just desperate for sex and will do whatever they want; I have become more wary and selective and demand more information now. I am fairly thick skinned, luckily, and can still look after myself; a lot of the cock waving pseudo-macho wimps I have come across would be rather surprised if they knew what the pre-feminised pre-Lucy me was, and I now have some idea what real women sometimes go through with moronic dishonest men, and even more sympathy than I had as a man!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I much prefer hotel meets regardless of rating. Its just a room to have fun in and better than accommodating at home which we used to do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hotels are a very good middle ground, so yep hotel meets are a regular occurrence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it completely depends on who I’m meeting and how comfortable/safe I feel about meeting them. If it’s someone I’ve been chatting to for a while and we’ve done video calls or phone calls at least and my gut feeling is that they’re totally genuine then I’ll invite them to my house. Although I don’t give them my address, I arrange to meet them on a pub car park close to where I live and lead them from there to my house.

If it’s someone who for some reason I feel a little bit wary of or who I haven’t been speaking to for very long then I prefer a hotel meet. Normally I pick a hotel with a bar so that we can meet there first for a drink and a chat rather than going straight to the room as that could be a bit intense and awkward.

Also, if I’m meeting someone who lives quite far from me and I’m driving to them but they don’t want to meet at their house then a hotel close to them is always a good option.

One other factor is what you’re planning to do when you meet. Often I’m meeting someone who wants to play with me as their sub which could involve impact play, rough sex etc which can be noisy and cause me to scream loudly so it’s not ideal being in a building with lots of other people and in a room surrounded by other rooms with people in.

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

I like a hotel meet.

To me it feels special and a nice reason to get out of the house and go somewhere different.

We can have a nice meal or drink out if we like, then go back to a clean and comfortable room for sex.

So much nicer than having to worry about the house and sort out food and drinks at home, and I know for certain we aren't going to be interrupted by a salesman or window cleaner.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

I only go to clubs. I dont even arrange to meet in clubs. Just go

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By *rCandPrincessCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

I love meeting in a hotel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I love meeting in a hotel

Is there anything in particular that you love about it?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"For me it completely depends on who I’m meeting and how comfortable/safe I feel about meeting them. If it’s someone I’ve been chatting to for a while and we’ve done video calls or phone calls at least and my gut feeling is that they’re totally genuine then I’ll invite them to my house. Although I don’t give them my address, I arrange to meet them on a pub car park close to where I live and lead them from there to my house.

Also, if I’m meeting someone who lives quite far from me and I’m driving to them but they don’t want to meet at their house then a hotel close to them is always a good option.

I've played as a sub. Either I am very quiet or j have very thick walls!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer hotel meets.

It's neutral ground, you're both guests where a third party sort everything else out for you.

If either of you are particularly uncomfortable, you can leave.

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

"Absolutely. We thoroughly enjoy hotel meets, one of our favourite ways to play.

A night/weekend away and naughtiness, what's not to love.

I can absolutely see why it's a preference for couples. But it looks different as a single woman. "

I still do hotels as a single woman as I find it safer than going to a couples house.

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