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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just an observation. . .

Why do couple swingers take the fields"lifestyle" as its called so seriously. Its supposed to be fun but most seem to be very quick to ridicule single guys and some girls especially if they are attached. Is it an insecurity that lurks in the relationship of a swinging couple? That they may steal their partners or something?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not entirely sure what you have based your observation/theory on?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just an observation. . .

Why do couple swingers take the fields"lifestyle" as its called so seriously. Its supposed to be fun but most seem to be very quick to ridicule single guys and some girls especially if they are attached. Is it an insecurity that lurks in the relationship of a swinging couple? That they may steal their partners or something?"

it is very serious

no one is here for fun

x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I think it's more to do with the fact that there are many single guys on Fab so couples and single ladies can be choosy and some make, so I saw on another thread, some ridiculous demands expecting a single male to pay for 2 hotel rooms for example as they didn't want him spending the night with them after they had had fun.

As to the cheating bit, well there is always I suppose the possibility that one half would run off with a single male or that they just don't want to meet cheaters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just an observation. . .

Why do couple swingers take the fields"lifestyle" as its called so seriously. Its supposed to be fun but most seem to be very quick to ridicule single guys and some girls especially if they are attached. Is it an insecurity that lurks in the relationship of a swinging couple? That they may steal their partners or something?"

Well I totally get what you're talking about but you probably posted at the wrong time, the self proclaimed 'genuine' swingers' are probably out 'socialising' at bingo or something. Remember, it's not a sex site

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not entirely sure what you have based your observation/theory on? "

well my theory is based on the fact that many attached singles get bashed here for playing away. But we all do it to a certain extent and i just think having sex with someone else's partner is what we all do. There is a massive level of distrust for attached singles. Without knowing their side of the story

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow

if cheating is unacceptable in your own relationship,

why would it be acceptable in someone else's ???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh and for the record, I agree on the insecurity bit, it's either that or naivety

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"Just an observation. . .

Why do couple swingers take the fields"lifestyle" as its called so seriously. Its supposed to be fun but most seem to be very quick to ridicule single guys and some girls especially if they are attached. Is it an insecurity that lurks in the relationship of a swinging couple? That they may steal their partners or something?"

Wow..... that sounds pretty serious.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"Not entirely sure what you have based your observation/theory on?

well my theory is based on the fact that many attached singles get bashed here for playing away. But we all do it to a certain extent and i just think having sex with someone else's partner is what we all do. There is a massive level of distrust for attached singles. Without knowing their side of the story"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"if cheating is unacceptable in your own relationship,

why would it be acceptable in someone else's ???"

i didn't say it was acceptable. I cant say i think it happens either.!!

I just cant see why singles get such a tough time

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By *lexaWoman
over a year ago

southampton


"Just an observation. . .

Why do couple swingers take the fields"lifestyle" as its called so seriously. Its supposed to be fun but most seem to be very quick to ridicule single guys and some girls especially if they are attached. Is it an insecurity that lurks in the relationship of a swinging couple? That they may steal their partners or something?

Wow..... that sounds pretty serious."

If the single is attached, why would they be such a thrteat to a couple? I would have thought that the unattched ones would have been more of a threat if there were any insecurities within the couple! Attached or single, you can never tell if they're telling the truth on here anyway!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just an observation. . .

Why do couple swingers take the fields"lifestyle" as its called so seriously. Its supposed to be fun but most seem to be very quick to ridicule single guys and some girls especially if they are attached. Is it an insecurity that lurks in the relationship of a swinging couple? That they may steal their partners or something?

it is very serious

no one is here for fun

x"

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

I just like fucking

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"Just an observation. . .

Why do couple swingers take the fields"lifestyle" as its called so seriously. Its supposed to be fun but most seem to be very quick to ridicule single guys and some girls especially if they are attached. Is it an insecurity that lurks in the relationship of a swinging couple? That they may steal their partners or something?

Wow..... that sounds pretty serious.

If the single is attached, why would they be such a thrteat to a couple? I would have thought that the unattched ones would have been more of a threat if there were any insecurities within the couple! Attached or single, you can never tell if they're telling the truth on here anyway! "

Who says they are a threat?

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow


" Its supposed to be fun but most seem to be very quick to ridicule single guys and some girls especially if they are attached. "

did you neglect to read your own post.

or did did you mean attached,like in siamese twins ???

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Ooops - I see... I don't think you meant to quote me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not entirely sure what you have based your observation/theory on?

well my theory is based on the fact that many attached singles get bashed here for playing away. But we all do it to a certain extent and i just think having sex with someone else's partner is what we all do. There is a massive level of distrust for attached singles. Without knowing their side of the story"

Can you explain "we all do it to a certain extent"? I don't get it? Are you saying that us having groupsex is in some how comparable to somebody have sex with another person without their partners knowledge or consent?

And based on this post you are confusing have morals and principals with being serious.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


" Its supposed to be fun but most seem to be very quick to ridicule single guys and some girls especially if they are attached.

did you neglect to read your own post.

or did did you mean attached,like in siamese twins ???"

It might mean he has his cock stuck in her arse and she's had a dry anal spasm.... they could be attached for a while then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not entirely sure what you have based your observation/theory on?

well my theory is based on the fact that many attached singles get bashed here for playing away. But we all do it to a certain extent and i just think having sex with someone else's partner is what we all do. There is a massive level of distrust for attached singles. Without knowing their side of the story"

Why do we need to know their side of the story? We want to play with like minded people, not people who are not honest with their spouses.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I just like fucking "

Good. . . I was hoping that was what we were here for lol. . .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just an observation. . .

Why do couple swingers take the fields"lifestyle" as its called so seriously. Its supposed to be fun but most seem to be very quick to ridicule single guys and some girls especially if they are attached. Is it an insecurity that lurks in the relationship of a swinging couple? That they may steal their partners or something?"

We do have fun!! We are very secure!! And not at all worried that either one of us is going to run off with any of the singles we have met!!

Can't see how you can compare a single cheating behind a partners back! And a couple swinging??

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow


" Its supposed to be fun but most seem to be very quick to ridicule single guys and some girls especially if they are attached.

did you neglect to read your own post.

or did did you mean attached,like in siamese twins ???

It might mean he has his cock stuck in her arse and she's had a dry anal spasm.... they could be attached for a while then."

now thats a relationship.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not entirely sure what you have based your observation/theory on?

well my theory is based on the fact that many attached singles get bashed here for playing away. But we all do it to a certain extent and i just think having sex with someone else's partner is what we all do. There is a massive level of distrust for attached singles. Without knowing their side of the story

Can you explain "we all do it to a certain extent"? I don't get it? Are you saying that us having groupsex is in some how comparable to somebody have sex with another person without their partners knowledge or consent?

And based on this post you are confusing have morals and principals with being serious. "

its all sex with someone you are not committed to. Not sure i see a clear difference.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Not entirely sure what you have based your observation/theory on?

well my theory is based on the fact that many attached singles get bashed here for playing away. But we all do it to a certain extent and i just think having sex with someone else's partner is what we all do. There is a massive level of distrust for attached singles. Without knowing their side of the story"

bit of a difference between playing with someone else's partner knowing they know, and are fine with it... and just playing with someone else's partner....

i don't even call it honesty anymore.... more a case of "honest enough"

"honest enough" to get said leg over with a stranger..... but not quite "honest enough" with the one person in the world you think they would be

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple
over a year ago

Lisburn


"Not entirely sure what you have based your observation/theory on?

well my theory is based on the fact that many attached singles get bashed here for playing away. But we all do it to a certain extent and i just think having sex with someone else's partner is what we all do. There is a massive level of distrust for attached singles. Without knowing their side of the story

Can you explain "we all do it to a certain extent"? I don't get it? Are you saying that us having groupsex is in some how comparable to somebody have sex with another person without their partners knowledge or consent?

And based on this post you are confusing have morals and principals with being serious.

its all sex with someone you are not committed to. Not sure i see a clear difference. "

I think there may be a slight difference. The fact that a couple are both aware of what each other are doing

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow


"Not entirely sure what you have based your observation/theory on?

well my theory is based on the fact that many attached singles get bashed here for playing away. But we all do it to a certain extent and i just think having sex with someone else's partner is what we all do. There is a massive level of distrust for attached singles. Without knowing their side of the story

Can you explain "we all do it to a certain extent"? I don't get it? Are you saying that us having groupsex is in some how comparable to somebody have sex with another person without their partners knowledge or consent?

And based on this post you are confusing have morals and principals with being serious.

its all sex with someone you are not committed to. Not sure i see a clear difference. "

playing away,requires more than a little,deception and dishonesty.

swinging does not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not entirely sure what you have based your observation/theory on?

well my theory is based on the fact that many attached singles get bashed here for playing away. But we all do it to a certain extent and i just think having sex with someone else's partner is what we all do. There is a massive level of distrust for attached singles. Without knowing their side of the story

Can you explain "we all do it to a certain extent"? I don't get it? Are you

saying that us having groupsex is in some how comparable to somebody have sex with another person without their partners knowledge or consent?

And based on this post you are confusing have morals and principals with being serious.

its all sex with someone you are not committed to. Not sure i see a clear difference. "

But we have the choice of who we have sex with!! Married singles playing without their partners consent is cheating!

We choose not to play with married singles for a number of reasons!

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


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its all sex with someone you are not committed to. Not sure i see a clear difference. "

is that what you would say to the face of the person who didn't know their other half was doing this? not being facetious.. just curious....

since it is "theory night"...can I put one forward:

I was say that it is easy to say that if you don't put a name or face to the person.. an anonymous figure so to speak...

..... but when that figure does become a voice, or god forbid something face to face.... its not quite that easy, because they become a living and breathing human being with emotions...

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


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its all sex with someone you are not committed to. Not sure i see a clear difference. "

You obviously don't give a shit if they are cheating or not....... are you not capable of understanding why some people do?

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By *anSusieCouple
over a year ago

Midlothian

It's easier planning a meet with a sngl guy they free @ week-ends as they don't need to take wife shopping or kids to footy training + spend evening in front of TV......of course we wont know how sngl. sngl realy is @ a Club....never mind we having a blast on Fab with the choices we made+ boundaries we set up

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just an observation. . .

Why do couple swingers take the fields"lifestyle" as its called so seriously. Its supposed to be fun but most seem to be very quick to ridicule single guys and some girls especially if they are attached. Is it an insecurity that lurks in the relationship of a swinging couple? That they may steal their partners or something?

We do have fun!! We are very secure!! And not at all worried that either one of us is going to run off with any of the singles we have met!!

Can't see how you can compare a single cheating behind a partners back! And a couple swinging?? "

So back to the original question, is it taken so seriously because they are attached and could be a potential threat.

Or is it that they are not true to their current partner? I do know some couples find it a threat to their relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not entirely sure what you have based your observation/theory on?

well my theory is based on the fact that many attached singles get bashed here for playing away. But we all do it to a certain extent and i just think having sex with someone else's partner is what we all do. There is a massive level of distrust for attached singles. Without knowing their side of the story

Can you explain "we all do it to a certain extent"? I don't get it? Are you saying that us having groupsex is in some how comparable to somebody have sex with another person without their partners knowledge or consent?

And based on this post you are confusing have morals and principals with being serious.

its all sex with someone you are not committed to. Not sure i see a clear difference. "

So the fact that in one scenario there is somebody that is unaware and is being cheated on isn't a "clear difference"?

You are a couple, so you are honestly saying that when you play together is the same as if one of you cheated? Seriously? If your other half said that she/he'd been having a load of casual sex behind your back, in your world that is the same as when you have group sex together?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's all sex with someone you are not committed to. Not sure i see a clear difference.

So if you found out your OH was playing behind your back and without your consent, you would be ok with that??

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"Just an observation. . .

Why do couple swingers take the fields"lifestyle" as its called so seriously. Its supposed to be fun but most seem to be very quick to ridicule single guys and some girls especially if they are attached. Is it an insecurity that lurks in the relationship of a swinging couple? That they may steal their partners or something?

We do have fun!! We are very secure!! And not at all worried that either one of us is going to run off with any of the singles we have met!!

Can't see how you can compare a single cheating behind a partners back! And a couple swinging??

So back to the original question, is it taken so seriously because they are attached and could be a potential threat.

Or is it that they are not true to their current partner? I do know some couples find it a threat to their relationship

"

How do you know they do?

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple
over a year ago

Lisburn


"Just an observation. . .

Why do couple swingers take the fields"lifestyle" as its called so seriously. Its supposed to be fun but most seem to be very quick to ridicule single guys and some girls especially if they are attached. Is it an insecurity that lurks in the relationship of a swinging couple? That they may steal their partners or something?

We do have fun!! We are very secure!! And not at all worried that either one of us is going to run off with any of the singles we have met!!

Can't see how you can compare a single cheating behind a partners back! And a couple swinging??

So back to the original question, is it taken so seriously because they are attached and could be a potential threat.

Or is it that they are not true to their current partner? I do know some couples find it a threat to their relationship

"

Ok maybe im being stupid here, but how can someone attached be a threat?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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its all sex with someone you are not committed to. Not sure i see a clear difference.

You obviously don't give a shit if they are cheating or not....... are you not capable of understanding why some people do?"

perfectly capable. But that wasnt the original question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just like fucking

*sorry i typed that way before anyone else..just on a serious lag here..bloody dialup internet!

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By *onny BonesMan
over a year ago

a block away from heaven


"I just like fucking "

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"

its all sex with someone you are not committed to. Not sure i see a clear difference.

You obviously don't give a shit if they are cheating or not....... are you not capable of understanding why some people do?

perfectly capable. But that wasnt the original question."

IF it is true that you are perfectly capable of understanding why some people do care........ why are you asking the question?

Why are you assuming and stating they see cheats as a threat?

IF it is true that you are perfectly capable of understanding, are you just posting this stuff to get a reaction?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just an observation. . .

Why do couple swingers take the fields"lifestyle" as its called so seriously. Its supposed to be fun but most seem to be very quick to ridicule single guys and some girls especially if they are attached. Is it an insecurity that lurks in the relationship of a swinging couple? That they may steal their partners or something?

We do have fun!! We are very secure!! And not at all worried that either one of us is going to run off with any of the singles we have met!!

Can't see how you can compare a single cheating behind a partners back! And a couple swinging??

So back to the original question, is it taken so seriously because they are attached and could be a potential threat.

Or is it that they are not true to their current partner? I do know some couples find it a threat to their relationship

Ok maybe im being stupid here, but how can someone attached be a threat?

Because they are capable of going behind backs maybe"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

its all sex with someone you are not committed to. Not sure i see a clear difference.

You obviously don't give a shit if they are cheating or not....... are you not capable of understanding why some people do?

perfectly capable. But that wasnt the original question.

IF it is true that you are perfectly capable of understanding why some people do care........ why are you asking the question?

Why are you assuming and stating they see cheats as a threat?

IF it is true that you are perfectly capable of understanding, are you just posting this stuff to get a reaction?"

i wanted to ask the question as i wanted to know what people thought and im perfectly entitled to ask.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"

its all sex with someone you are not committed to. Not sure i see a clear difference.

You obviously don't give a shit if they are cheating or not....... are you not capable of understanding why some people do?

perfectly capable. But that wasnt the original question.

IF it is true that you are perfectly capable of understanding why some people do care........ why are you asking the question?

Why are you assuming and stating they see cheats as a threat?

IF it is true that you are perfectly capable of understanding, are you just posting this stuff to get a reaction?

i wanted to ask the question as i wanted to know what people thought and im perfectly entitled to ask."

Just as I wanted to ask those questions.

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple
over a year ago

Lisburn


"Just an observation. . .

Why do couple swingers take the fields"lifestyle" as its called so seriously. Its supposed to be fun but most seem to be very quick to ridicule single guys and some girls especially if they are attached. Is it an insecurity that lurks in the relationship of a swinging couple? That they may steal their partners or something?

We do have fun!! We are very secure!! And not at all worried that either one of us is going to run off with any of the singles we have met!!

Can't see how you can compare a single cheating behind a partners back! And a couple swinging??

So back to the original question, is it taken so seriously because they are attached and could be a potential threat.

Or is it that they are not true to their current partner? I do know some couples find it a threat to their relationship

Ok maybe im being stupid here, but how can someone attached be a threat?

Because they are capable of going behind backs maybe"

ok to me your not making sense, yes we all know that makes a person with a partner is going behind there backs, but that doesnt explain how there are a threat to anyone else. Unless you think they cant be trusted to be discreet, which i think would do more harm to them than you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

its all sex with someone you are not committed to. Not sure i see a clear difference.

You obviously don't give a shit if they are cheating or not....... are you not capable of understanding why some people do?

perfectly capable. But that wasnt the original question.

IF it is true that you are perfectly capable of understanding why some people do care........ why are you asking the question?

Why are you assuming and stating they see cheats as a threat?

IF it is true that you are perfectly capable of understanding, are you just posting this stuff to get a reaction?

i wanted to ask the question as i wanted to know what people thought and im perfectly entitled to ask.

Just as I wanted to

ask those questions."

yes and thanks for sharing your point of _iew with me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By *hoseboots1952Couple
over a year ago

grangemouth

to the original question....we first started using these sites as a way of meeting like minded people. also, we were totally fed up watchin our friend cuckold his wife repeatedly so we decided it wouldnt happen to us, therefore we began this way. cheating is in NO WAY ACCEPTABLE and using excuses isnt on either. we would NEVER CONSIDER playing any part in helping or playing with the person cheating, no sirree!!! as for single people, most people including singles, are pretty much ok, approachable, chatty and helpful. you know? if people just a READ THE RULES FIRST before enterin a room then a lot of hassle would be avoided. most people are also sensible enough to realise that if they're pleasant polite and well mannered i.e. saying hi n just well....talking, then they'll get much further than if they're rude or demanding. which we have had a LOT of. boy do i love the block button lol it saves sooo much trouble. nuff said.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

For a few swinging is the thread that keeps them together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For a few swinging is the thread that keeps them together"
lol bet no one will own up to that mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In our _iew we entered into this lifestyle to meet like minded people and enjoy some fun with like minded people and someone who is clearly cheating is not like minded so therefore we choose not to chat/meet cheating people as in our _iew cheating is wrong on any level.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all know the brain is weak to temptation - or other parts of the anatomy... Cheaters need to learn to use the brain more to think about the effect their actions have on their relationship - it destroys & demoralises the other half when they get found out & it becomes a 'Put up & shut up' situation or a 'ship out' one - either way their happy relationship is tainted somehow... It takes time to learn to trust again...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What a totally poIntless post

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