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By *wingsnroundabouts82 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Fucksville

Seen a couple of threads regarding making an exception for someone who is normally not your "type"...

One person found it not so nice and it worried me as not 5 mins before I had commented on another thread that this other guy wasn't what I'd normally go for but I'd make an exception as his profile was spot on and he was some serious, serious eye candy.

I meant it as a huge compliment.

My question is, if someone were to message you or comment on your thread that they would make an exception for you cus you're bloody gorgeous would you be offended or chuffed?

Playing on my mind now... #overthinker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seen a couple of threads regarding making an exception for someone who is normally not your "type"...

One person found it not so nice and it worried me as not 5 mins before I had commented on another thread that this other guy wasn't what I'd normally go for but I'd make an exception as his profile was spot on and he was some serious, serious eye candy.

I meant it as a huge compliment.

My question is, if someone were to message you or comment on your thread that they would make an exception for you cus you're bloody gorgeous would you be offended or chuffed?

Playing on my mind now... #overthinker"

Nope. When I was back home, neither of my last 2 girlfriends liked guys with dreadlocs. They made an exception a we had long lovely relationships.

However you have to be careful how you word it though. If you say- "You're not my usual type but I think you're gorgeous, sexy etc" that's alright.

But

If you say something like "like you're bad looking for a black guy or short guy" it comes across as a backhanded compliment and can also come across a bit racist. So once you know how to express yourself well. You should be fine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most people have a visual 'type' that they find most attractive or usually go for. Sometimes someone might look different to your usual 'go to look' and it surprises your mind because it's a new attraction. Also the attraction could come from personality, humour or anything else that challenges your perception of 'type'.

I don't see it as a negative thing. Most of us are set in our ways and it just means we are challenging our normal. It doesn't mean there was anything wrong with you to begin with.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

I’d find it a bit of a back handed compliment tbh; I wouldn’t normally go for you, but because you are pretty I will make an exception.

Sure its nice to be told I’m pretty and I may get a shag out of it, but would that be the case if I was taller but not pretty?

Better to keep any mention of possible negativity out the conversation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it some kind of negging?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chuffed everytime, 100%.

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By *wingsnroundabouts82 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Fucksville


"Is it some kind of negging?"

Oh gosh what's negging? Lol x

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By *wingsnroundabouts82 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Fucksville


"Chuffed everytime, 100%."

Me too

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By *wingsnroundabouts82 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Fucksville


"I’d find it a bit of a back handed compliment tbh; I wouldn’t normally go for you, but because you are pretty I will make an exception.

Sure its nice to be told I’m pretty and I may get a shag out of it, but would that be the case if I was taller but not pretty?

Better to keep any mention of possible negativity out the conversation."

Very true x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I wouldn't be offended but I wouldn't take it as a compliment. Its a commonly used manipulative tactic, I don't want anyone implying that they're doing me a favour thanks all the same

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By *wingsnroundabouts82 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Fucksville


"Most people have a visual 'type' that they find most attractive or usually go for. Sometimes someone might look different to your usual 'go to look' and it surprises your mind because it's a new attraction. Also the attraction could come from personality, humour or anything else that challenges your perception of 'type'.

I don't see it as a negative thing. Most of us are set in our ways and it just means we are challenging our normal. It doesn't mean there was anything wrong with you to begin with."

Love this x and I love the spice of life and those people who every now and then really intrigue me and pique my interest x life's too boring to immediately dismiss people isn't it? X I love variety and am lucky I don't have a type

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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It depends. I've had the "I don't normally go for non-white people but I'd make an exception for you" and their profile is filled with no blacks, no asians and that's an off you fuck comment in my mind. Not interested.

I guess... it depends how you put it. And why. It's not always taken as the compliment it's meant to be.

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By *wingsnroundabouts82 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Fucksville


"Seen a couple of threads regarding making an exception for someone who is normally not your "type"...

One person found it not so nice and it worried me as not 5 mins before I had commented on another thread that this other guy wasn't what I'd normally go for but I'd make an exception as his profile was spot on and he was some serious, serious eye candy.

I meant it as a huge compliment.

My question is, if someone were to message you or comment on your thread that they would make an exception for you cus you're bloody gorgeous would you be offended or chuffed?

Playing on my mind now... #overthinker

Nope. When I was back home, neither of my last 2 girlfriends liked guys with dreadlocs. They made an exception a we had long lovely relationships.

However you have to be careful how you word it though. If you say- "You're not my usual type but I think you're gorgeous, sexy etc" that's alright.

But

If you say something like "like you're bad looking for a black guy or short guy" it comes across as a backhanded compliment and can also come across a bit racist. So once you know how to express yourself well. You should be fine "

It's a minefield isn't it lol x

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By *wingsnroundabouts82 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Fucksville


"I wouldn't be offended but I wouldn't take it as a compliment. Its a commonly used manipulative tactic, I don't want anyone implying that they're doing me a favour thanks all the same"

Very good point x x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seen a couple of threads regarding making an exception for someone who is normally not your "type"...

One person found it not so nice and it worried me as not 5 mins before I had commented on another thread that this other guy wasn't what I'd normally go for but I'd make an exception as his profile was spot on and he was some serious, serious eye candy.

I meant it as a huge compliment.

My question is, if someone were to message you or comment on your thread that they would make an exception for you cus you're bloody gorgeous would you be offended or chuffed?

Playing on my mind now... #overthinker"

I shouldn't worry OP, there's a big difference between what you said and the post you are referring to. You're not my usual type but for you I'll make an exception is very different to you're hot but it's a shame you are too short.

What you said acknowledges you have a type you usually prefer but something about the person you're complimenting is good enough to override that. The other post is saying "I like x about you but your y puts me off"

Mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I’m not for them then I don’t want any exceptions made as in the long run this could lead to regret by both parties

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By *amie HantsWoman
over a year ago

Atlantis

Depends on the context. If you’re pointing out what you view as a flaw, I wouldn’t take it as good.

‘I think you’re gorgeous’ vs ‘I think you’re gorgeous and I don’t usually go for chubby girls’

I wouldn’t be offended, I’d just feel it was a bit weird they were telling me that they view something about me as a flaw so I should be grateful for being the exception. I’d just lose interest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't be offended but I wouldn't take it as a compliment. Its a commonly used manipulative tactic, I don't want anyone implying that they're doing me a favour thanks all the same"

Basically THIS

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By *rad670Man
over a year ago

South Lakes

Almost all of my meets and friendships have come from people making an exception to what their preferences were and I take it as a huge compliment when someone dies that. Firstly it wasn't me that pestered or engaged and secondly being good enough to have someone bend their rules has to be a compliment. I will happily continue to be what someone doesn't normally look for thank you

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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago

Orpington


"Seen a couple of threads regarding making an exception for someone who is normally not your "type"...

One person found it not so nice and it worried me as not 5 mins before I had commented on another thread that this other guy wasn't what I'd normally go for but I'd make an exception as his profile was spot on and he was some serious, serious eye candy.

I meant it as a huge compliment.

My question is, if someone were to message you or comment on your thread that they would make an exception for you cus you're bloody gorgeous would you be offended or chuffed?

Playing on my mind now... #overthinker"

This is about my "if only you were taller" thread isn't it

OK here is the simple answer...I wouldn't find it offensive, but I also wouldn't think it's a compliment, and I would think the comment itself is slightly ignorant. I also wouldn't want to build a connection (of any sorts- not even a purely sexual one) with someone that would approach me like that. Clearly there's something about me that you don't find attractive and most likely is still bothering you .

That's how I would see it

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By *wingsnroundabouts82 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Fucksville


"Seen a couple of threads regarding making an exception for someone who is normally not your "type"...

One person found it not so nice and it worried me as not 5 mins before I had commented on another thread that this other guy wasn't what I'd normally go for but I'd make an exception as his profile was spot on and he was some serious, serious eye candy.

I meant it as a huge compliment.

My question is, if someone were to message you or comment on your thread that they would make an exception for you cus you're bloody gorgeous would you be offended or chuffed?

Playing on my mind now... #overthinker

This is about my "if only you were taller" thread isn't it

OK here is the simple answer...I wouldn't find it offensive, but I also wouldn't think it's a compliment, and I would think the comment itself is slightly ignorant. I also wouldn't want to build a connection (of any sorts- not even a purely sexual one) with someone that would approach me like that. Clearly there's something about me that you don't find attractive and most likely is still bothering you .

That's how I would see it"

Deffo not "aimed at you" as I was supportive of you and telling that girl to sod off x I just wondered if I was being paranoid and how other people would see it x I have a habit of typing something ans from my point of view its a compliment but for others they view it differently so this thread was very much just to see both sides on this specific question x

I still stand by my comment that that girl was crazy, you're mighty fine x x

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I would probably think awww really, how lucky am I then.

If he was hot I'd fuck him senseless.

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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago

Orpington


"Seen a couple of threads regarding making an exception for someone who is normally not your "type"...

One person found it not so nice and it worried me as not 5 mins before I had commented on another thread that this other guy wasn't what I'd normally go for but I'd make an exception as his profile was spot on and he was some serious, serious eye candy.

I meant it as a huge compliment.

My question is, if someone were to message you or comment on your thread that they would make an exception for you cus you're bloody gorgeous would you be offended or chuffed?

Playing on my mind now... #overthinker

This is about my "if only you were taller" thread isn't it

OK here is the simple answer...I wouldn't find it offensive, but I also wouldn't think it's a compliment, and I would think the comment itself is slightly ignorant. I also wouldn't want to build a connection (of any sorts- not even a purely sexual one) with someone that would approach me like that. Clearly there's something about me that you don't find attractive and most likely is still bothering you .

That's how I would see it

Deffo not "aimed at you" as I was supportive of you and telling that girl to sod off x I just wondered if I was being paranoid and how other people would see it x I have a habit of typing something ans from my point of view its a compliment but for others they view it differently so this thread was very much just to see both sides on this specific question x

I still stand by my comment that that girl was crazy, you're mighty fine x x "

But not tall enough

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I'd walk away compliment or not.

A fb tried that one on me, "I don't normally go for bigger ladies but your actually really nice" bye bye is what I said...

I'm nobody's exception no matter how pretty he is...

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By *wingsnroundabouts82 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Fucksville


"Seen a couple of threads regarding making an exception for someone who is normally not your "type"...

One person found it not so nice and it worried me as not 5 mins before I had commented on another thread that this other guy wasn't what I'd normally go for but I'd make an exception as his profile was spot on and he was some serious, serious eye candy.

I meant it as a huge compliment.

My question is, if someone were to message you or comment on your thread that they would make an exception for you cus you're bloody gorgeous would you be offended or chuffed?

Playing on my mind now... #overthinker

This is about my "if only you were taller" thread isn't it

OK here is the simple answer...I wouldn't find it offensive, but I also wouldn't think it's a compliment, and I would think the comment itself is slightly ignorant. I also wouldn't want to build a connection (of any sorts- not even a purely sexual one) with someone that would approach me like that. Clearly there's something about me that you don't find attractive and most likely is still bothering you .

That's how I would see it

Deffo not "aimed at you" as I was supportive of you and telling that girl to sod off x I just wondered if I was being paranoid and how other people would see it x I have a habit of typing something ans from my point of view its a compliment but for others they view it differently so this thread was very much just to see both sides on this specific question x

I still stand by my comment that that girl was crazy, you're mighty fine x x

But not tall enough "

Bahahahaha!! We're all the same lying down tho right?? Hubs is only 5.7/5.8 so just perfect for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally think it depends on the context. The post you made was a lovely compliment, and I think the thread you are referring to that was more of a back handed message.

I think they are entirely different in my opinion I wouldn’t worry OP

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"Seen a couple of threads regarding making an exception for someone who is normally not your "type"...

One person found it not so nice and it worried me as not 5 mins before I had commented on another thread that this other guy wasn't what I'd normally go for but I'd make an exception as his profile was spot on and he was some serious, serious eye candy.

I meant it as a huge compliment.

My question is, if someone were to message you or comment on your thread that they would make an exception for you cus you're bloody gorgeous would you be offended or chuffed?

Playing on my mind now... #overthinker"

I've had a few women message me to say they have never made first contact with a man in here before but my profile and forum comments encouraged them to do so. I guess that's the same as making an exception.

Sometimes it can just be smoke blowing and that's usually obvious so I don't respond to it but even if it is a genuine compliment it wouldn't change me approach.

If that's all they have to say and can't maintain a conversation we won't be meeting, exception or not.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I'd be neither offended or chuffed. Obviously I would really not be for them so I'd happily pass them by.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know I’m not for everyone so if someone chooses to make an exception for me that’s nice

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By *arker secrets 321Man
over a year ago

West Bromwich

I would take it as a compliment as ur saying there's something about me u find attractive/ appealing. But everyone takes compliments differently x

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By *wingsnroundabouts82 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Fucksville


"I personally think it depends on the context. The post you made was a lovely compliment, and I think the thread you are referring to that was more of a back handed message.

I think they are entirely different in my opinion I wouldn’t worry OP "

Thank you, was over thinking it I think x x

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By *wingsnroundabouts82 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Fucksville


"I would take it as a compliment as ur saying there's something about me u find attractive/ appealing. But everyone takes compliments differently x "

Me too x but you're right x

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By *wingsnroundabouts82 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Fucksville


"I know I’m not for everyone so if someone chooses to make an exception for me that’s nice "

I think so too x guess I'm ever the optimist lol x

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

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"Seen a couple of threads regarding making an exception for someone who is normally not your "type"...

One person found it not so nice and it worried me as not 5 mins before I had commented on another thread that this other guy wasn't what I'd normally go for but I'd make an exception as his profile was spot on and he was some serious, serious eye candy.

I meant it as a huge compliment.

My question is, if someone were to message you or comment on your thread that they would make an exception for you cus you're bloody gorgeous would you be offended or chuffed?

Playing on my mind now... #overthinker"

Don’t let it play on your mind op, like you say you meant it as a huge compliment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I personally think it depends on the context. The post you made was a lovely compliment, and I think the thread you are referring to that was more of a back handed message.

I think they are entirely different in my opinion I wouldn’t worry OP

Thank you, was over thinking it I think x x "

We are all guilty of over thinking sometimes don’t worry lovely xx

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Ive said it a couple of times when I’ve met people who aren’t really looking for the same as me. Nobody’s ever taken it in a bad way x

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth


"I wouldn't be offended but I wouldn't take it as a compliment. Its a commonly used manipulative tactic, I don't want anyone implying that they're doing me a favour thanks all the same"

This. You can bet they probably use the same line on everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seen a couple of threads regarding making an exception for someone who is normally not your "type"...

One person found it not so nice and it worried me as not 5 mins before I had commented on another thread that this other guy wasn't what I'd normally go for but I'd make an exception as his profile was spot on and he was some serious, serious eye candy.

I meant it as a huge compliment.

My question is, if someone were to message you or comment on your thread that they would make an exception for you cus you're bloody gorgeous would you be offended or chuffed?

Playing on my mind now... #overthinker

Nope. When I was back home, neither of my last 2 girlfriends liked guys with dreadlocs. They made an exception a we had long lovely relationships.

However you have to be careful how you word it though. If you say- "You're not my usual type but I think you're gorgeous, sexy etc" that's alright.

But

If you say something like "like you're bad looking for a black guy or short guy" it comes across as a backhanded compliment and can also come across a bit racist. So once you know how to express yourself well. You should be fine

It's a minefield isn't it lol x "

Just jave good intentions. There are lots of women who may not be my ideal type but I'm attracted to them. What I do is I just don't even bring it up. Like never, if they ask me my type I tell them and I leave out one or two features because I'm just not into making people feel bad about themselves. Life is tough as it is already, people need a reason to smile sometimes.

That's how I see and deal with it tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That being said, today I realised at least four women who I was having lovely chats with this week, blocked me this evening when they saw posts about my preferences, whether it be face, body or public hair. Sad thing is, I thought they looked good and I was definitely interested in them. I always say people can't deal with the truth sometimes

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By *wingsnroundabouts82 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Fucksville

Thanks everyone x feeling a bit better now lol x x x

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