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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If you have EVER experienced what is called envy during your experience around non-monogamous behaviour.

You don't have to go into details about it just a simple yes or no will do here.

Is envy a detail that is REALLY conquerable around these here parts?

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

Depends what you mean by envy.

I've never been jealous of a partner/FWB/FB having fun elsewhere. I've never been jealous when I see someone else has met up with someone I'd like to meet up with.

Pleasure isn't a limited thing - someone else having huge fun doesn't mean I have any less.

I am envious at times though when I look at photos and think "god your boobs are gorgeous" or "you have such a lovely bum" or what have you, and I do covet some of the lingerie I see in photos at times.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Depends what you mean by envy.

I've never been jealous of a partner/FWB/FB having fun elsewhere. I've never been jealous when I see someone else has met up with someone I'd like to meet up with.

Pleasure isn't a limited thing - someone else having huge fun doesn't mean I have any less.

I am envious at times though when I look at photos and think "god your boobs are gorgeous" or "you have such a lovely bum" or what have you, and I do covet some of the lingerie I see in photos at times."
You sound like a reasonably well grounded person around these things.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral


"Depends what you mean by envy.

I've never been jealous of a partner/FWB/FB having fun elsewhere. I've never been jealous when I see someone else has met up with someone I'd like to meet up with.

Pleasure isn't a limited thing - someone else having huge fun doesn't mean I have any less.

I am envious at times though when I look at photos and think "god your boobs are gorgeous" or "you have such a lovely bum" or what have you, and I do covet some of the lingerie I see in photos at times. You sound like a reasonably well grounded person around these things."

Either that or a cold hearted bitch. The jury is out!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Depends what you mean by envy.

I've never been jealous of a partner/FWB/FB having fun elsewhere. I've never been jealous when I see someone else has met up with someone I'd like to meet up with.

Pleasure isn't a limited thing - someone else having huge fun doesn't mean I have any less.

I am envious at times though when I look at photos and think "god your boobs are gorgeous" or "you have such a lovely bum" or what have you, and I do covet some of the lingerie I see in photos at times. You sound like a reasonably well grounded person around these things.

Either that or a cold hearted bitch. The jury is out! "
To not be envious you must have a certain amount of steel and potential.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

Yes

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By *uminsiderMKMan
over a year ago

St Austell

A few times, yes...

....I've certainly experienced a couple of instances of being envied by husbands with smaller cocks than mine...

....and on one occasion at a dogging spot, half-a-dozen guys who'd all just fucked a pretty young thing while wearing condoms appeared very envious when I was invited to be her last for the night - I heard at least one mutter "lucky bastard" as I fucked her bare to a quick creampie ending...

....on the flip side, I've been quite envious of a few husbands whose wives I've had the pleasure of playing with!

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

No. But I look at things differently to lots of people, I have wistful yearnings to get into a person's tighty whiteys but never envy because he's meeting someone else.

I've been on the other side though, with someone who wasn't truly polyamourous and we couldn't survive his negativity to even go back to being just friends unfortunately

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldnt call it envy or jealousy as such for myself. Im fine with other ppl having fun elsewhere too, but what i have is something.. different.

To better explain it, i like to be considered as "the special one". (no not that kind of 'speshul' ) For instance, when their swinging days are over, id like for them to think back and the memories they made with me to stick out a little more than the rest. Im not talking about giving them the best sex they ever had, just the most memorable.

Im not someone who "casually" has sex with other ppl just for a pleasure fix and a bit of fun. For me sex is like an art form, a sacred act, a ritual of bonding, and likewise, i put in a great deal of effort in the bedroom, to make it exciting, different. So with that approach to sex, i like to leave an impression.. a very deep impression

Though giving it some proper thought, if i werent the one who left that kind of lasting impression i probably would feel a little envy, but then i have to accept that there are other ppl who would push some buttons that i just simply couldnt based on who and what i am in general.

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I don't do jealousy but am occasionally envious of some of the gorgeous outfits I've spotted in clubs.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I'm not sure if it's envy or longing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't do jealousy but am occasionally envious of some of the gorgeous outfits I've spotted in clubs.

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Same! The only time I feel envy is over shoes and clothes!

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I've watched videos of my long term buddy with another woman and wanted it to be me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I envy some of the ladies with nice curvy hips as I’m going to have to endure three procedures to come even close to that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. I've been non-monogamous for a while, and never felt envious or jealous. I have felt a bit second best or left out at times though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

A lot of what is shared here is quite powerful and deep!

Thanks for your insights.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Envy? Maybe depending on how strictly you’re defining it.

There have been people I’ve met that I’ve really enjoyed being with, and when they tell me they’re meeting that night (but not me) then there is a bit of “ah they’re a lucky so and so” as I know just how good a time they’ll have with the lady in question. But it doesn’t consume me or eat at me, my liaisons on here are always no strings and it’s a casual sex site in essence isn’t it? Of course they’re going to meet others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Envy? Maybe depending on how strictly you’re defining it.

There have been people I’ve met that I’ve really enjoyed being with, and when they tell me they’re meeting that night (but not me) then there is a bit of “ah they’re a lucky so and so” as I know just how good a time they’ll have with the lady in question. But it doesn’t consume me or eat at me, my liaisons on here are always no strings and it’s a casual sex site in essence isn’t it? Of course they’re going to meet others. "

Not all of us are looking for NSA though?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Envy? Maybe depending on how strictly you’re defining it.

There have been people I’ve met that I’ve really enjoyed being with, and when they tell me they’re meeting that night (but not me) then there is a bit of “ah they’re a lucky so and so” as I know just how good a time they’ll have with the lady in question. But it doesn’t consume me or eat at me, my liaisons on here are always no strings and it’s a casual sex site in essence isn’t it? Of course they’re going to meet others.

Not all of us are looking for NSA though? "
A good point.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

No I don't get envy on here as it's strictly fun with people I get on well with and find attractive.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No I don't get envy on here as it's strictly fun with people I get on well with and find attractive."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For detroit

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