FabSwingers.com forum: How confident are you?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

On a scale of 1 to 10. How confident are you at leading when it comes to chasing your prey on fab?

Even for a social or a more adventurous sexy meet, do you lead with the question or do you wait to be asked?

Is it easy for you or do you find it awkward to ask?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably a -8

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How far in the minus can we go haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How far in the minus can we go haha"

In fab, some like to go all the way…

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I'd say I'm a 6 or 7 but I don't chase or hunt and have no interest in being chased or hunted either.

I prefer to just pull up alongside others who are on the same path and strike up a conversation.

Often that path diverges and we go our separate ways but so be it and I keep moving forward.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lols deffo high minus figures…… not good “chasing” at all…..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A good, strong, zero..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If im happy and my anxiety isnt playing up, im around 8-9, if im in a really good mood and can feed off the confidence of others im with i can easily hit a 10

You may not think that about me from seeing me in the forums or my profile, you have to meet me in person to really get a sense of me and my personality

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I’m quite confident in arranging dates…I’m not pushy but I like to show I am keen to move things forward if that’s what we all want.

I’d build on the vibe though so if it didn’t feel like we were at the stage, I wouldn’t ask.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

-100.

I'm confident at having a joke though.

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By *tephanjMan
over a year ago

Kettering

I'm not confident at all so I would be a 3

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am confident (it’s not something I’ve always been) but I am comfortable and happy with myself now. I’d say a 9

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By *nitterWoman
over a year ago

the land of tall tales and yarn

I generally wouldn't ask. Not through lack of confidence though

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By *ewCoupleHXCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

We struggle to chase, so probably 1 or 2

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If im happy and my anxiety isnt playing up, im around 8-9, if im in a really good mood and can feed off the confidence of others im with i can easily hit a 10

You may not think that about me from seeing me in the forums or my profile, you have to meet me in person to really get a sense of me and my personality"

Confidence

that’s key, when someone makes me feel confident I find it very easy to say that we should do this again or meet for coffee etc.

(I’ve been known to blurt out much more sugestive things we should do when I’m a ten )

I’m normally a 5 =should I, shouldn’t I type of thing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We struggle to chase, so probably 1 or 2"

Prefer to be caught?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I generally wouldn't ask. Not through lack of confidence though"

Are you old fashioned?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Over the years Fab (and work, and life generally) has boosted my confidence - I wish I had the confidence back at my peak in my late teens / twenties I have now to talk to people. Back then I was very socially awkward and shy.

I still hate having to socialise in big groups etc so the big Forum socials like the MLS would be right outside my comfort zone but 1 to 1 I think I’m up around a 7. I still get that terrified feeling BEFORE a meet (don’t we all) but actually ARRANGING it on the first place is ok!

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

A 10 on fab and real life! Comes with age I think x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I’d build on the vibe though so if it didn’t feel like we were at the stage, I wouldn’t ask.

that’s the key I think. That’s why I always think it’s easy to ask for socials After all, what’s the worst that can happen.

*that’s another thread isn’t it ?

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By *nitterWoman
over a year ago

the land of tall tales and yarn

"I generally wouldn't ask. Not through lack of confidence though

Are you old fashioned?

I'm afraid so

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By *uicy 2020Woman
over a year ago

London

Id say only about maybe a 2, and thats only if ive had a drink, lol

I am super shy and unconfident, but then i also like a man who takes charge so a guy sending that 1st message or being the 1st to suggest a meet, shows hes got what im looking for. X

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Probably 9. Life is too short to sit on the fence.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

9 xxx

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

I’d only ever suggest socials after chatting a while and because of the way I am I’m mega clear that that’s all it is.. I’m more than happy to do this as it’s totally off the personality in conversation, so I generally get a good feel for whether or not they’re my kinda human… I’m not very sociable and I find it difficult to click with people so when I do I say it.

Christ that was a ramble….

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am pretty confident unless they suddenly jump at me out of the blue asking out then I can have a bit of a wobble..especially if they are quite attractive

i might be found pestering friends for advice: shall I say YES?!

When it's on my terms and building up to it with meaningful chats.. I am fine asking first, and had some pleasurable meets out of regular conversation. Some turned into friendships some bit more. I don't like the term chasing prey. It should never feel like chasing. It's draining and if they cannot commit to a meet, but that's what you want, it's frustrating and unfair. You should invest your time and give your best to someone who has similar expectations and hopes.

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By *urplechesterCouple
over a year ago

chester

It’s a work in progress for me! I definitely feed off the vibe of the other person, if they’re easy to chat to, send good messages back that you can work with etc then I’m ok, but if they’re one word answer types and don’t show me much personality then I’m lost

Miss pc

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Bliss

10. I go for what I want in fab, which is especially essential for my kink search

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By *osscoxxMan
over a year ago

dundee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If im happy and my anxiety isnt playing up, im around 8-9, if im in a really good mood and can feed off the confidence of others im with i can easily hit a 10

You may not think that about me from seeing me in the forums or my profile, you have to meet me in person to really get a sense of me and my personality

Confidence

that’s key, when someone makes me feel confident I find it very easy to say that we should do this again or meet for coffee etc.

(I’ve been known to blurt out much more sugestive things we should do when I’m a ten )

I’m normally a 5 =should I, shouldn’t I type of thing. "

Exactly, sometimes ppl can think im not very confident in certain situations, but thats not the case as in some situations its better to hold back and observe, get a feeling of the environment before throwing myself in there without thinking

Confidence isnt being loud and friendly all the time, confidence just means you act without hesitation. Similarly patience and calculation shouldnt be mistaken for hesitation

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By *osscoxxMan
over a year ago

dundee

Definitely closer to minus 10 lol

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By *ausage1970Man
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Big fat 8

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I generally wouldn't ask. Not through lack of confidence though

Are you old fashioned?

I'm afraid so

That’s actually rather nice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the day and mood.

I'm often a -50 and consider myself to be the troll under the bridge. Then there are occasions when I'm an 8 - 9 but not to the point where I'm cocky.

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By *igg25Man
over a year ago

andover

On here probably a 7 in real life yeah I’m definitely a little pussy cat

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"On here probably a 7 in real life yeah I’m definitely a little pussy cat

Awwe x

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By *alty surpriseMan
over a year ago

Uttoxeter

I'd say 7 or 8 in a 1to 1 situation...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you don't ask you'd maybe never know. I'm more than happy and comfortable enough to ask. I would only do that after I've built up a rapport with someone so usually the question is when rather than would they like to meet.

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By *igg25Man
over a year ago

andover

"On here probably a 7 in real life yeah I’m definitely a little pussy cat

Awwe x"

Can’t help it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ruth is definitely more confident than me . When together, I feed off her and that would make us (as a couple) around the 8 mark.

On my own I may be around the 3 mark.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Before I had the baby around a 7….. now 0 not sure I’ll have the confidence to meet ever again

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By *arker secrets 321Man
over a year ago

West Bromwich

I like 2 think I'm both confident and also a little shy at times .depends on situation and how well I know that person x

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

Mr 8

Mrs 4

And then we meet and Mr stays the same, whilst Mrs is a grower and she's loving the situation and bristling with confidence.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"On here probably a 7 in real life yeah I’m definitely a little pussy cat

Awwe x

Can’t help it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never asked anyone on here to meet, so that makes me zero

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By *lex199169Man
over a year ago

tamworth

In life I’d be a 9 but I tend to hold off a little on Fab. I kind of get the impression the ladies do not like the Uber direct approach.

I maybe wrong.

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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Personally I'd met someone instantly and would have no issue asking them but I feel asking too soon is more likely to put them off.

So I'm confident asking them, no necessarily confident they will say yes.

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By *lue eyed builderMan
over a year ago

Gloucester

8/10 20/10 after a drink

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I rarely message people but that’s not really a confidence thing, it’s more a can’t be arsed thing. I usually chat for a while before meeting but yeah I’ll say so when are we meeting then if they haven’t said it x

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

10 for me then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

About a 4, though if alcohol is involved I can be a 10 x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"About a 4, though if alcohol is involved I can be a 10 x

Haha.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

10 if I am just meeting in a room -10 if I have to have a social

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By *jc65Man
over a year ago

gillingham

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I dont stalk, I'll ask outright..nothing ventured, nothing gained x

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By *jc65Man
over a year ago

gillingham

"On a scale of 1 to 10. How confident are you at leading when it comes to chasing your prey on fab?

Even for a social or a more adventurous sexy meet, do you lead with the question or do you wait to be asked?

Is it easy for you or do you find it awkward to ask?

-10 I’ve not had a sniff of any fun on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not shy, I'm very sociable and I have reasonable confidence. Just not with men.

So it's a 3.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I dont stalk, I'll ask outright..nothing ventured, nothing gained x"

I wish we could all adopt your attitude.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I used to be quite good at introducing myself to guys that interested me but I’ve been out the game for so long I rarely go beyond a bit of chat these days

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

I'll always happily ask to do a social, because if I think we're after the same thing, I don't want to waste any time. And then if we get on, I'd do the same with a meet. It really depends on the dynamic. I might let them ask me sometimes, because it's good to feel wanted.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm usually terrible. A 3 at best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm reasonably confident at making first contact, having some chat and making arrangements to meet if things go well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can be really shy so I’d say a 5, luckily Mr is very confident and will do most of the groundwork

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm so glad I'm not the only one with no or little confidence,I have found it easier in a social atmosphere like clubs,put my happy mask on and it's all good,it's when I'm alone I overthink,and beat myself up

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
over a year ago

Next Door

I'm quite shy and not confident.

Maybe a 3 or 4.

As I get to know someone then my confident grows.

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By *man79Man
over a year ago

newry dundalk. warrenpoint

A strong 10.

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

I would say it depends on how we chat in the first place in this alternative universe and then if a social does happen we should have a good base

In terms of confidence I would say about A moderate seven. But anything can happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone has to ask first; to show interest, why not me? I would say I'm probably a 7 or 8.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say I'm about a 7-8 I'm not shy nor am I arrogant I have no problem approaching talking and flirting with people yet if I know I'm not getting anywhere I know when to just walk away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me, confidence has grown as I've become older..

20s ...minus 100

30s....5ish

40s....7ish

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By *t3_jalapenoMan
over a year ago

darlo

5 for me

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I will happily send messages and once we've chatted I'll happily ask for a social. I'm happy turning up solo to a group social and if there's someone there I like the looks of I'm happy to introduce myself to them and initiate a chat.

I'm great company, a social with me is no hardship for anyone!

For all of that I'd say my confidence is a 10.

Where I struggle is turning a social into more. I don't have the gumption and don't have the sexual confidence. I don't see myself as being at all sexy and don't see that anyone else would find me so.

If the other person waits for me to move things on we'll still be meeting for coffee without going further when we're 90.

Confidence at that point: 0.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve lost some confidence and resilience recently, so probs a 2

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

5 maybe.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

"5 maybe. "

Though about 0 at reading signals.

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By *ooBulMan
over a year ago

Missin’ Yo’ Kissin’

A faint heart never won a fair maiden...

So I'd shake a few tail feathers & ramp it up to a modest 7 whilst having Eddie Money's "Shakin" in the background to nourish my soul!

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By *amie HantsWoman
over a year ago

Atlantis

I’d say probably about a 4/5. I’m pretty rubbish at being assertive and I’m pretty rubbish at picking up subtle hints over text

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By *orace99Man
over a year ago

York

Low fours..... Difficult to be confident when you don't believe anyone else would be interested in you.

Bit of a.belly, grey hairs, introvert *facepalm*

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’ve lost some confidence and resilience recently, so probs a 2 "

you need some ‘elf confidence.

*your current name. You’re welcome

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By *verready5000Man
over a year ago

mansfield

I’d say I’m a 1!

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

A good solid 2, on a social.

A wavering 3 online

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

About a 2

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By *just.meMan
over a year ago

hartlepool

Online about 4/5

In person about 1/2

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On here I'm very confident approaching people I like. I'd never do that in the real world!

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By *olex99Man
over a year ago

Hull

Confidence? I've heard of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not confident in the slightest. I could be chatting with someone but actually meeting neve comes up from my side as I would be afraid if ruining a good thing if they're not interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

-10 in person

2 online

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m going to say somewhere around a 1.5

Too many rejections in the past has knocked it (days pre FAB and since being a member )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

0, I don't lead anything at all and I'm super awkward

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

About a 7. 7.3 on a really good day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In here a 10. Irl about a 2

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Used to be really unconfident but much better now. Probably 7.

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By *ightower2021Man
over a year ago

donegal

I'd say about a 4

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even after all these years I still find it awkward.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

If I think there's a slim chance then I will ask but I float between 0 and about a 6

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

I'm happy to make first moves if thats what you mean?

Like everyone, find rejection a bit tough, but I will go for it regardless.

If you don't ask, you'll never know.

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By *lasgowgent35Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

So you should

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

I'm not inclined to chase or have any expectation to be chased. I look upon it as a mutual opportunity; the other person is never perceived by me as being "prey".

My confidence wavers between 6 and 8, depending on the profile and what I can initially glean from it and from the person directly.

On a few occasions I've been told by women that I'm "...not assertive enough" and that I give up too quickly. I like to persevere but then there's a fine line between that and being too pushy and overtly persistent.

Everything is preordained and there are ever only two outcomes for me. With that said I'm confident enough to suggest a meet or a social when things 'feel' right.

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By *inAndTonic21Couple
over a year ago

Merseyside

We are both pretty confident really but tonic more than gin in social situations

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By *eardedman7Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

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By *9 kisses.Man
over a year ago

clacton on sea

"I'm happy to make first moves if thats what you mean?

Like everyone, find rejection a bit tough, but I will go for it regardless.

If you don't ask, you'll never know.

Exactly the same but if I'm rejected then I'm not their cup of tea,

I'm not going worry about it,

Life goes on,

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By *oloPoly1998Man
over a year ago

Around

I suppose I try to strike up conversation with people or couples I find attractive but receive little return unfortunately. I don't let it get to me and carry my confidence the next time someone catches my eye. I'd say 8/10

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By *orraine999Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere

I fluctuate between an 8.5 or 9. I was at a 3 a few days ago but I’ve bounced back.

I don’t chase or like being chased but I will send a message, talk and maybe meet and see how things go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm very confident (bordering on cocky lol) I would say 9.5 at least, however I don't ever chase women, I msg and if they don't reply on to the next one, I also get a lot of msgs on my inbox so I get to filter out who I want and don't want xx

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By *B69Woman
over a year ago

Wiltshire

I’m a 7/8 happily message first but won’t chase, I’m crap at messaging so having a social is better for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps a 2?

My confidence in general has hit an all time low due to gaining weight, which has a complete knock on how I see myself here.

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By *rMojoRisinMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

It fluctuates, over the past few months it’s been a 0, my confidence has been low and I’ve lost interest.

But it won’t stay like that forever.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It fluctuates, over the past few months it’s been a 0, my confidence has been low and I’ve lost interest.

But it won’t stay like that forever. "

I hope it doesn’t for a lot of people who fluctuate, on this thread it’s become obvious lots are like this.

In regards to this website, I think just a few nice words sent your way can make a real difference, a fab on a picture, a message out of the blue, that type of thing.

Positive breeds positive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Solid 5 as half the time they either go quiet, flaky or disappear when I ask to set a date to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

confidents 100 out off 10 but I don’t normally do the chaseing I know what I have to offer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That sums me up, depends on where the conversation is. If at the right point I’m confident enough to say what I want.

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By *ydrewMan
over a year ago

Chippenham

Not confident at all. Fab has blown my confidence

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

Probably about an 8, never been shy, pretty straight talking and if I want something I go for it

I don’t chase people, people aren’t prey but if I fancy someone and we’re getting on then sure I’ll ask to meet, worst that happens is they say no, it’s not the end of the world x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"……people aren’t prey but if I fancy someone and we’re getting on then sure I’ll ask to meet, worst that happens is they say no, it’s not the end of the world x"

someone else said similar. I’m just too wise to not appreciate how much time I have wasted in the past for someone else to make something happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Solid 8.5

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

High 8-9 for asking. Now if you asked aboutcrate of returns on those asks...then we're in minus figures.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Bliss

"I'm not inclined to chase or have any expectation to be chased. I look upon it as a mutual opportunity; the other person is never perceived by me as being "prey".

Do you mean "preyed upon"

I hunt in here for what I want using specific techniques, but my "prey" is someone who is highly sought after to me that I wish to pursue

After all why settle for mediocre when special is out there to grab with both hands

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like most people on this thread, I'm pretty unconfident.

Partly my nature, but also, I don't want to be pushy.

(It's a wonder I'm here at all really)

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

In my fab days of glory a definite 10. I knew who I liked and had no problem or reservations with engaging with anyone. Good things rarely happen to men on fab who sit on their hands hoping for someone to come along

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By *uminmyhole69Man
over a year ago

Heathrow area

Im pretty confident when I approach someone dont have a fear of rejection as I figure cant be everyones "cup of tea" but if you don't ask ypu'll never know although I do get messaged more then I message to be honest

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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago

Orpington

When it comes to the opposite sex...I'm a solid 2

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

"I'm not inclined to chase or have any expectation to be chased. I look upon it as a mutual opportunity; the other person is never perceived by me as being "prey".

Do you mean "preyed upon"

I hunt in here for what I want using specific techniques, but my "prey" is someone who is highly sought after to me that I wish to pursue

After all why settle for mediocre when special is out there to grab with both hands

"Preyed upon" would be the outcome because it's past tense. But I get your point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably a 9, shy bairns get nowt haha.

No seriously the worse that can happen is a no, and I can live with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When it comes to the opposite sex...I'm a solid 2

Shouldn't assume, but I am surprised by that.

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York

I don't chase, I'm quite a confident (but humble) person but figure if someone is interested in me they'll let me know, that way I don't feel like some kind of pest.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"When it comes to the opposite sex...I'm a solid 2

Shouldn't assume, but I am surprised by that. "

I’ve noticed this by reading a lot of the replies. I’m surprised by lots that say they lack confidence in here.

don’t assume.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Probably an 8. I've got more confident as I've got older.

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

On the dance floor I reign supreme and am as confident as bell.

On fab probably not so much.

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

On the dance floor I reign supreme and am as confident as bell.

On fab probably not so much.

I put myself as 5. I know my worth but that dosnt come across maybe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On here a 10. You just ask. If no it's a no. In person is different. I'm confident in myself but bit different when in a social setting and someone catches your eye.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am confident as my job dictates I need to be somewhat of an extrovert. However there are times when I have the black cloak of self doubt to deal with.

If you are ever in need of reassurance as to the self doubt that underpins the most confident and assertive of people Dwight Eisenhower’s biography will set your mind at rest. It called being human?

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By *irtydanMan
over a year ago

Blackpool

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By *orkshireDrifterMan
over a year ago

Nafferton, nr Driffield.

Confident? Yes but not in the sense of being pushy or a pest. I let my interest be known, my attraction to them or just desire for what they offer but then it's over to them. So a nine?

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

We definitely don't have prey (or conquests or anything else like that). We just have conversations and see where they go. I'd say we're about a 7 or 8 on that front.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"A 10 on fab and real life! Comes with age I think x"

You don’t ask you don’t get , in all areas of life ! But on here it is surely so much easier than real life ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When it comes to the opposite sex...I'm a solid 2

Shouldn't assume, but I am surprised by that.

I’ve noticed this by reading a lot of the replies. I’m surprised by lots that say they lack confidence in here.

don’t assume. "

I've been surprised a few times but both ways - those I might not have thought would be confident and vice versa. And that there is a difference in confidence levels in approaching people but then moving it forwards.

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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago

Orpington

"When it comes to the opposite sex...I'm a solid 2

Shouldn't assume, but I am surprised by that. "

I might actually explain this in a future thread

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes

I would say a 7 mostly. In person I may talk gibberish out of nerves though lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When it comes to the opposite sex...I'm a solid 2

Shouldn't assume, but I am surprised by that.

I might actually explain this in a future thread"

Please do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On here a 10. I’d have absolutely no issue with approaching (messaging) a stranger that I liked the look of.

In real life there’s other factors involved before I’d state my interest. First I’d have to know if they were single and available then it’s game on!

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

10 I’m not shy in making it known I’m interested… if I am

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