FabSwingers.com forum: Read or Unread

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What's worse? To have your message read or always unread and why?

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By *ondoner27Man
over a year ago

london

Worse to have them unread in my opinion. If you send a nice message with a photo and it’s read with no response you know exactly what it means. If it’s unread you hope maybe they haven’t seen it… even though deep down you know exactly what it means too

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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Definitely read. Gives you closure. Although I don't exactly dwell in the unread ones as I've a fair idea they've read my profile and decide not to even bother wasting their time looking at the message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think its worse having it unread, not even deleted. Just sitting there in their inbox for ages. Makes me think, "well they havent deleted and they shouldve deleted a lot of their messages by now, so theyre aware of my message being there, they dont want to delete it, but they clearly havent read it"

Having it read and no reply is a clearer answer than not having it read and still hasnt been deleted. Theres one particular forumite who offered to meet for a social, she messaged me first bare in mind.. but made no effort to let me know if it was going ahead or not, and still hasnt read my last 2 messages. The first of those was from a week ago too. Think this level of uncertainty makes me question whether i should bother with them in future

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

I sometimes read messages and take a while to reply. I sometimes take a while to read messages.

If its deleted without a reply, then that means not interested.

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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Theres one particular forumite who offered to meet for a social, she messaged me first bare in mind.. but made no effort to let me know if it was going ahead or not, and still hasnt read my last 2 messages. The first of those was from a week ago too. Think this level of uncertainty makes me question whether i should bother with them in future

No question about it. Don't bother with them. If it's only just started now and it's already causing you a headache then it's hardly going to get any better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always clear my messages after sending and don't think about it. The people who actually want to talk to you will message back, the one's that are flaky disappear. It's a good way to filter out people who aren't there for the right reasons.

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By *iaisonseekerMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Definitely read. Gives you closure. Although I don't exactly dwell in the unread ones as I've a fair idea they've read my profile and decide not to even bother wasting their time looking at the message.

This is true. It's the hope that kills you after all.

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

There's no way of knowing whether messages are actually read or not. A message being opened and one being read and digested are two very different things.

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