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By *drian Hardthrob OP Man
over a year ago

Worcester

What dark family secrets you were finally let into?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That my father is not my biological father and by the time I found out my mother had died and I had a family of my own...

NBVN x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I'm still not old enough to know.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Some quite disturbing stuff about my aunt and her two husbands.

I feel sad for her.

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By *reasyMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

"That my father is not my biological father and by the time I found out my mother had died and I had a family of my own...

NBVN x"

I hope that hasn’t caused you distress. I guess however you have many possible questions some which never may be answered.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mum told me where Dads porn stash was

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm still not old enough to know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That my father is not my biological father and by the time I found out my mother had died and I had a family of my own...

NBVN x

I hope that hasn’t caused you distress. I guess however you have many possible questions some which never may be answered. "

It did affect me for quite a while but I have since connected with my biological father and have a beautiful relationship with him.

NBVN x

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

My paternal biological grandmother was a "bit of a girl." My dad was adopted by his great uncle.

Gbat

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

That the woman who I grew up to know as my auntie was actually my sister

My mum was not married when she got pregnant and so her mum and dad adopted the baby…and so got bought up as my mums sister

My family are weird like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We found a written receipt for £10 for a baby amongst my Grandma's belongings

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By *icarage ManMan
over a year ago

South Shields

My mam told me that when she was 16 she fell pregnant and put up for adoption the child.

It was around this time of year too, so it hits her hard.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That my grandparents & parents were immigrants to the uk after the Turkish invasion of famagusta Cyprus in 74, they left cyprus with the clothes on there back and little savings.

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By *reasyMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

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By *reasyMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

"That my father is not my biological father and by the time I found out my mother had died and I had a family of my own...

NBVN x

I hope that hasn’t caused you distress. I guess however you have many possible questions some which never may be answered.

It did affect me for quite a while but I have since connected with my biological father and have a beautiful relationship with him.

NBVN x

That’s fantastic I’m so pleased a happy result found it’s way to you

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By *reasyMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

"We found a written receipt for £10 for a baby amongst my Grandma's belongings

Oh wow that set brains thinking I bet. It was commonplace here in Wales apparently if you couldn’t manage a new baby into a hard pressed family it was handed over the fence to a good neighbour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was told that my father wasn't my older brothers father, not because I was old enough but because an aunty that my mother had fallen out with was threatening to tell me first.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

My grandad (who died before I was born) had actually left my grandmother for a very wealthy women from Kensington. My grandmother had never accepted this and even after he died she talked about him as if they had never parted. When my grandmother died it was her wishes to go in the same grave as him. Quite sad really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Step by step process of how my parents got the presents into the house on Xmas Eve.

....It didn't involve Santa.

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

6 months after I got kicked out of my family home my dad came round to my friends begging me to come back as he’s discovered my mum was an alcoholic and needed looking after..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I discovered that on Christmas Eve 1991 dad eat my lump of coal and used my chocolate orange to keep his feet warm while I dreamed that of a white bearded man sliding down the chimney

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

I've kept my own secrets due to the impact and importance I wouldn't want to let my parents down that they wasn't able to protect me.it wouldn't be fair for me or them to disclose....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That the lady I thought was my Aunty was actually my Cousin. My Aunty fell pregnant to a an American soldier based in our area.

She was shipped off with my Nain for 9 months to Nanny Flints house in North Wales and when they arrived home they told everyone the baby was Nains and her and Taid raised her as their own

My 'cousin' only found out when she went to get a copy of her birth certificate to arrange her wedding and was told by the registrar that the details didn't match the details she gave. Nain and Taid are long gone so a lot of stuff went unanswered.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That my sister was only my half sister…

Or rather I was the last to find out.

My sister was told when she was 18. She didn’t talk to me for 2 years, assuming that I, being the older sibling knew.

I found out when my girl friend (now ex-wife) got pregnant. I mentioned to her something I remembered about my sisters pregnancy 3 years earlier.

Oh I was also working away, a 3 hour drive from home at the time.

Anyway, next day on the phone my I ask the g/f if she followed up on the thing, and I remember what she said more or less exactly

Gf:“oh no, it’s fine, it’s only in (my sister)‘s dad’s side, so won’t be an issue”

Me:”what?”

Gf:”yeah your mum said cos you’re only half siblings it’s not something you have to worry about cos it’s only on (sister)’s dad side.”

Me:”what?!?”

Pause

Me:”what do you mean half siblings…”

That was 2008 and I was 25 years old.

My mother had always told me her and dad separated because of my dads infidelity. They didn’t separate till my sister was 3…

One thing has led to another, and for the last 7 years I’ve had nothing to do with my mother. She’s toxic.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

My Uncle in Dubai was code for he's in prison for being homosexual.

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By *enuine MikeMan
over a year ago

Guildford

"That my grandparents & parents were immigrants to the uk after the Turkish invasion of famagusta Cyprus in 74, they left cyprus with the clothes on there back and little savings.

Parents told me the same thing. 48 years on and the island is still devided

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By *othicslaveCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

Didnt want to know and didnt go about finding or asking lol

Kept my 'beak' out of it

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

"That the woman who I grew up to know as my auntie was actually my sister

My mum was not married when she got pregnant and so her mum and dad adopted the baby…and so got bought up as my mums sister

My family are weird like that

This happened to my grandad too.

Me & my dad both did an Ancestry DNA test & found out he has a half brother via his dad. He was a friend of my dad’s younger brother & always claimed my grandad was his dad. We just laughed at him. How wrong we were….

I also found out when I was 20 that my mum had another child who she was forced to have adopted because my mum was very young (14/15 I think

) She’d been picked to play for the Olympic Football team in Munich & my grandad said no as they were due to move abroad (RAF). If he’d said yes it would have been a different story…

J x

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