FabSwingers.com forum: What's your toxic trait?

By *drian Hardthrob OP Man
over a year ago

Worcester

I'm far too facetious, I just can't help it. I'm always cracking jokes in really bad situations... I just don't know why I do it, I suppose I'm always trying to lighten the mood even though I know people will assume I'm being inappropriate. It's a blessing and a curse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am a lazy twat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

Overthinking

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By *drian Hardthrob OP Man
over a year ago

Worcester

"Overthinking

Guilty of that too! Overthink to a point where I can't make a bloody decision

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got loads now im too competitive too loyal too stubborn have manic moments too up and down overthinking over reacting numbness to compliments self sabotage high stress hyperfucussed i have developed many since the world ended

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By *organ and rob zombieCouple
over a year ago

bradford

Honesty, we say what we think

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

Compartmentalising or getting hyper focused on one thing.

LvM

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By *ncemoreroundthesunCouple
over a year ago

on the move

Blocking dangerously stupid people for comments they post about covid at the moment.

That and cheese cake.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see the best in everyone, its a horrible trait I have to live with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To nice for my own good

Dose me harm trying to be nice to everyone even though I reconside they toxic behaviour and influence on people

Ie don’t converse with you at all when you post nice things or general chit chat

But post something controversial and they the first people to reply to you

Shows me they only here for a agreement and not nice people at all

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By *drian Hardthrob OP Man
over a year ago

Worcester

"Blocking dangerously stupid people for comments they post about covid at the moment.

That and cheese cake."

I also suffer with a gü chocolate salted caramel cheesecake addiction

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By *drian Hardthrob OP Man
over a year ago

Worcester

"To nice for my own good

Dose me harm trying to be nice to everyone even though I reconside they toxic behaviour and influence on people

Ie don’t converse with you at all when you post nice things or general chit chat

But post something controversial and they the first people to reply to you

Shows me they only here for a agreement and not nice people at all "

Don't let them trolls bring you down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Impatience. Especially when I hold people to a standard that they don't or possibly can't reach

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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Don't like when I feel there's a lack of clarity on where things stand. Always feel I need to have a "plan" in place to feel relaxed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To nice for my own good

Dose me harm trying to be nice to everyone even though I reconside they toxic behaviour and influence on people

Ie don’t converse with you at all when you post nice things or general chit chat

But post something controversial and they the first people to reply to you

Shows me they only here for a agreement and not nice people at all

Don't let them trolls bring you down

Thanks I try not to but it’s hard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To nice for my own good

Dose me harm trying to be nice to everyone even though I reconside they toxic behaviour and influence on people

Ie don’t converse with you at all when you post nice things or general chit chat

But post something controversial and they the first people to reply to you

Shows me they only here for a agreement and not nice people at all

Don't let them trolls bring you down

Thanks I try not to but it’s hard

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Being straight forward and nice is not a great trait for fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To nice for my own good

Dose me harm trying to be nice to everyone even though I reconside they toxic behaviour and influence on people

Ie don’t converse with you at all when you post nice things or general chit chat

But post something controversial and they the first people to reply to you

Shows me they only here for a agreement and not nice people at all

Don't let them trolls bring you down

Thanks I try not to but it’s hard

Being straight forward and nice is not a great trait for fab "

Can’t change who I am

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Sarcastic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Over analyse situations and I’m my own harshest critic (which I find exhausting)

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle

Takes me time to be fully trusting and can overthink at times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Flirting even if he’s there x

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I overthink, I don’t trust easily and I give too much of myself to people

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down

Forthrightness; it has got me into bother throughout my life!

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Capricious...

If I'm in a escapism mood I'm really bad with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am not forgiving.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I have so many….

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By *omRachCouple
over a year ago

Wirral

I love banter - can take it as well as dish it out - but sometimes I do it with people I should really get to know first which can be a little bit silly at times.

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By *each_PittWoman
over a year ago

Belfast

I procrastinate and and chronically lazy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My tolerance is low, people generally annoy me.

I'm very cynical about everyone.

I overthink everything.

Basically, I'm great to be around!

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes

I wear my heart on my sleeve sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv a new tendency to winge like a dog waiting to be put down from time to time

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down

Faux-epicaricacy!

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By *r SproutMan
over a year ago

the middle

Sometimes I don’t think before I say something. Then once I’ve said it I over think what I said

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

"Iv a new tendency to winge like a dog waiting to be put down from time to time "

that properly made me laugh

Overthinking. It really is quite tiring and it’s not overthinking the big things, it’s anything. I had a Victoria sponge cake but should I have had a Red Velvet - you get the picture

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By *anther81Man
over a year ago

Drogheda

I always have to say something no matter the situation or company.

Ah no did it again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Irritability.. sometimes my moods make me irritated by the smallest things.

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

I’m way too literal and need absolute honesty or I’ll literally close a door. I can’t be doing with my mind overthinking so I ask what I need to and expect the truth. Often disappointed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Listening to Santa Radio in July. True

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By *entative_steps7781Couple
over a year ago

Home

Trying to predict what people will say or do in any given situation - like I create scenes in my head and try to work out what someone will say, how I will respond etc etc and end up having a completely imaginary conversation. That then ends up with me not doing or saying what I want to do/say because they reacted badly in my head

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patience. I don't have it, none at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I can be thoughtless and judgmental

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I think I can be thoughtless and judgmental "

Oh now that's just not true

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

We've all got traits......

I don't think any of mine are toxic.

Some days some traits surface more than others but none of them toxic and all of the helpful tools.....

btw.... O.P. being facetious is not toxic - not in my book.

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By *irtydevil666Man
over a year ago

bristol

I can be a bit of a c......t sometimes.....

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By *herry OnatopWoman
over a year ago

Just over there

My need for open communication which is mostly a positive but if there's a disagreement then I need a full honest discussion to be able to process and move on.

What I've found is that a lot of people need a bit of time alone with their thoughts before clearing the air. Whereas I need to immediately discuss, restore peace and process. I can see now how annoying I must be!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think I can be thoughtless and judgmental

Oh now that's just not true

I certainly can be! Not traits I like about myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im too chaotic. Comes in many forms as some of you may have already noticed. I actually have to hold back and refrain from making certain comments or getting involved in certain discussions cos i know ppl will get triggered. Im definitely not the most orthodox or predictable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Patience. I don't have it, none at all."

I can relate to that, I have very little patience. I'm naturally upright, so can lose it at the slightest thing that others happily let fly. It's genuinely something I'm working to fix.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Blocking dangerously stupid people for comments they post about covid at the moment.

That and cheese cake.

I also suffer with a gü chocolate salted caramel cheesecake addiction

I'm so sorry. That must be hard to live with. Also, where does one buy them? Asking for a (toxic) friend

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Stubborn

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I think I can be thoughtless and judgmental

Oh now that's just not true

I certainly can be! Not traits I like about myself "

I was exercising my facetious , sarky trait.....

Put 'impervious' on your list

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Patience. I don't have it, none at all.

I can relate to that, I have very little patience. I'm naturally upright, so can lose it at the slightest thing that others happily let fly. It's genuinely something I'm working to fix. "

Did you mean 'upright' ?

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Jealousy, just can't help it

Stubborn

Blunt

But I do warn people that's what I'm like lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think I can be thoughtless and judgmental

Oh now that's just not true

I certainly can be! Not traits I like about myself

I was exercising my facetious , sarky trait.....

Put 'impervious' on your list

I think I shall put gullible on there...

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Jealousy, just can't help it

Stubborn

Blunt

But I do warn people that's what I'm like lol"

Do you like being jealous, stubborn and blunt ?

( btw the last two I see as non toxic in any case )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't like myself. Has to stop

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Toxic to yourself or to others.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Don't like myself. Has to stop "

Yes it does !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being so god damn handsome.

It gets me into much toxicity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like bullshit.

Get to the point or move on..

No patience I suppose

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By *amie HantsWoman
over a year ago

Atlantis

All of them.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I don't like bullshit.

Get to the point or move on..

No patience I suppose

Bullshit or being over verbose ?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Being so god damn handsome.

It gets me into much toxicity."

It's a burden you bear well ...... so saintly.

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By *otsoSnowWhiteWoman
over a year ago

My Ice Castle! South Wales

Saying what others are too frightened to say

Overthinking and being paranoid, which I am trying to work on.

Being Stubborn.

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By *aiseiMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Self-doubt

Internal perfectionism

Irritability

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not being able to take compliments

Feeling I’m not good enough or attractive

Think it stems from being bullied and called names and I was at school

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't like bullshit.

Get to the point or move on..

No patience I suppose

Bullshit or being over verbose ?

Just in a few simple words what's required. Not a few simple paragraphs.

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

I have a temper once it hits tipping point I don’t care what’s happening around me I explode.

Fortunately that tipping point is becoming further and further away with help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Patience. I don't have it, none at all.

I can relate to that, I have very little patience. I'm naturally upright, so can lose it at the slightest thing that others happily let fly. It's genuinely something I'm working to fix.

Did you mean 'upright' ?"

Haha, I'm certainly not naturally upright, though I am fair bit of the time!!! Sorry, r is next to t on the keyboard.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve a few, self deprecation, overthinking, self sabotage. X

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Sometimes will do things because others won’t

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't like bullshit.

Get to the point or move on..

No patience I suppose

Bullshit or being over verbose ?

Just in a few simple words what's required. Not a few simple paragraphs.

Sometimes things need more elaborate explanation so there is no misunderstanding. On that note.. what is dry shite?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My tolerance is low, people generally annoy me.

I'm very cynical about everyone.

I overthink everything.

Basically, I'm great to be around!

^^This plus I am a super hot head

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Well some random online toxic trait test labelled me as The Mansplainer...

I'm a Mansplainer. I live to illuminate those around me, often without evidence I know what I'm talking about. Self-awareness is the first step!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I don't have any toxic traits. Nothing I do is poisonous to myself or other people.

Obviously I have traits that are less acceptable to me and other people but doesn't everyone?

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