FabSwingers.com forum: Ghosted and no show on my birthday. Fem.

By *uckslut and M OP Couple
over a year ago

Poole

Just had my birthday. Advertised a meet a week before. Trawled through 100's of offers, and settled on a well verifeid chap. Confirmed on the day he was coming. Worked my birthday plans around getting back to the hotel, bathed and ready ect.

We messaged at the meet time to confirm he was coming. We had a message he was running an hour late. Then ghosted.

Normally - yes we get stood up quite a bit. It would not of been a problem. But it was my birthday!

Why am I posting this? Not for birthday well wishes. It's now past. But if just one person reads this, and is considering time wasting. Please have the curtisy to cancel. Don't just ghost. Thank you. Fem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hugs op sorry this happened it always saddens me when I see posts like this as it drives the good genuine people away from the site x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happy birthday x

I wouldn't ever meet a stranger on my birthday. I wouldn't trust them not to fuck it up.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Was he a forum user ?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Happy birthday x

I wouldn't ever meet a stranger on my birthday. I wouldn't trust them not to fuck it up. "

Yes but you are old and sensible dear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Happy birthday x

I wouldn't ever meet a stranger on my birthday. I wouldn't trust them not to fuck it up.

Yes but you are old and sensible dear"

I'm not sensible. How dare you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A happy belated birthday.

I share your sentiments. Ghosting is horrid and the perpetrator doesn't seem to know how it can affect another.

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By *uckslut and M OP Couple
over a year ago

Poole

"Happy birthday x

I wouldn't ever meet a stranger on my birthday. I wouldn't trust them not to fuck it up. "

Our rule is not to do meets on birthdays or holidays. But due to covid and lack of meets for 18 months, we decided to. Gose to prove not to break our rules. One guy has now messaed it up for others in the futer.

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By *eviant KnightMan
over a year ago

Norton

Awww that's annoying, I feel like there should be a strike rule, (maybe three is too many) where you then report their ghosting and then they lose their verification,

Or a shows that they have failed to attend in the past as a negative verification as if Terry have done it before they will do it again.

Then that gives those of us that are reliable a chance to stand out

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By *eardedman7Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

I’m really sorry to hear this. How frustrating! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP Fem, have another birthday. It's only fair as he messed up that one. Great day but stay the same age. Perfect.

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By *uckslut and M OP Couple
over a year ago

Poole

"Was he a forum user ?"

Don't have a clue. He was blocked by us last night. Don't care if he reads this. He obversly didn't give a dam last night. So won't give a second thought today.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Happy birthday x

I wouldn't ever meet a stranger on my birthday. I wouldn't trust them not to fuck it up.

Sounds like he made his own 'mess' at just the thought of meeting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Happy birthday x

I wouldn't ever meet a stranger on my birthday. I wouldn't trust them not to fuck it up.

Sounds like he made his own 'mess' at just the thought of meeting

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By *aughty but nice...Man
over a year ago

Staffs

"Just had my birthday. Advertised a meet a week before. Trawled through 100's of offers, and settled on a well verifeid chap. Confirmed on the day he was coming. Worked my birthday plans around getting back to the hotel, bathed and ready ect.

We messaged at the meet time to confirm he was coming. We had a message he was running an hour late. Then ghosted.

Normally - yes we get stood up quite a bit. It would not of been a problem. But it was my birthday!

It's knob heads like this that give us single guys a bad rep

Rest assured reliable guys are still on this site

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By *unandgamegeekMan
over a year ago

Bolton

That's awful.

I got ghosted once 2 years ago. I was gonna meet someone at a hotel but she never turned up. She didn't even message me or anything to let me know what was happening.

I was quite upset that I was gonna be stuck at a hotel all evening on my own but luckily, when I told a couple of friends what happened, they invited me to come along with them to a club and so I did and ended up having a good evening.

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle

Happy belated birthday! Lot's of best wishes to you. Bless you that's horrid what a cockwomble it's their loss Xox

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Belated happy birthday.. what a bugger.. out of all days eh?!

I hope you manage to put it behind and reward yourself with another wonderful meet. Fingers crossed this time with someone reliable.

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By *yron69Man
over a year ago

Fareham

The capacity of guys to timewaste is staggering.

I was once sat with a sexually clad goddess for one to claim to be outside. Gave him house number then he ghosted us. Total prick but his loss.

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By *heDesiCandiTV/TS
over a year ago

Leicester

Sorry to hear that - if there was only a system where you could report no shows so that they appear on the persons profile

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By *iberatedduoCouple
over a year ago

Ashbourne

If we travel for a meet we make sure we have another reason for being there so if there is a no show time isn’t completely wasted.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

People wasting your time is annoying as it is, but when its meant to be a fun or special occasion it’s even worse.

It’s easy to say block and move on, but that won’t get your time back.

Perhaps next time, if there is a next time, limit it to people you have met before and so are more confident they will show up.

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By *uckslut and M OP Couple
over a year ago

Poole

"People wasting your time is annoying as it is, but when its meant to be a fun or special occasion it’s even worse.

It’s easy to say block and move on, but that won’t get your time back.

Perhaps next time, if there is a next time, limit it to people you have met before and so are more confident they will show up.

Good idea, however we genrally book a hotel away for the night. Which we had dine this time. Not, that we'd booked this area to meet him. The meet was a second thought to our plans. But annoying that it was my birthday, so a real let down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That sucks. Sorry to hear that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Time wasters are annoying , you can normally tell who the genuine ones are to the ones just looking for a quick wank too on the messages but some still slip through .

Sorry to see that it messed with your plans for your birthday , I hope you still had a good day though

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

Oh how frustrating for you OP. I hope your next meet is splendid enough to make up for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi,

Sorry this has happened. I’ve had a few meets planned in the past and a couple have ghosted, after they made me pay for the hotel, I had travelled, and they disappeared completely and blocked me.

I think there is a lot of non genuine people on here, but then there are many genuine people..

Thanks for posting this - hopefully it make at least one person on this site think and not mess people around.

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

No wonder us blokes can never get meets when folk do that

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By *-4pleasureCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

"Awww that's annoying, I feel like there should be a strike rule, (maybe three is too many) where you then report their ghosting and then they lose their verification,

Or a shows that they have failed to attend in the past as a negative verification as if Terry have done it before they will do it again.

Then that gives those of us that are reliable a chance to stand out"

Such a system would be open to far too much abuse.

For example.

A girl refuses to meet you? Report her for a “fail to attend”.

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