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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

When your comfortable with the Fab life and feel like mingling (love that word) how do you go about it?

Do you stick a meet request in ‘that’ forum, do you send out 100s of messages offering a free coffee from your Costa reward card? Cherry pick from the messages sent to yourself offering a coffee and go?

Organise a social somehow hopefully meet up with lots of people behind the profiles you read and admire?

Or should you wait for a guy in a Hawian shirt to pop a thread up on Wednesday?? It could happen

Asking for a Friend

Anyone else ready to mingle?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just nudging gently people I chat to. Works.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

If I have a free morning I simply put up a status saying 'free for a Costa this morning' and see who replies

Met lots of interesting people this way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I have a free morning I simply put up a status saying 'free for a Costa this morning' and see who replies

Met lots of interesting people this way

"

I never thought of that !

One to try.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I have a free morning I simply put up a status saying 'free for a Costa this morning' and see who replies

Met lots of interesting people this way

"

It's a guy asking so this simple Costa invite probably won't work.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If I have a free morning I simply put up a status saying 'free for a Costa this morning' and see who replies

Met lots of interesting people this way

"

This actually works? I see these updates but think it just attracts strangers. I don’t want a coffee with a stranger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I spend some considerable time checking the local profiles for women who’s interests and likes seem compatible with mine, who I find attractive, and who I think, based on their requirements, that I might be within the parameters of what they are looking for.

I read their profile fully and message them appropriately with the required information, a recent and accurate face pic and a respectful, yet (hopefully?) interesting and enticing note to introduce myself.

I wait patiently for a reply, understanding fully that the ladies on here are inundated with messages so will not be able to read or respond immediately to my approach. They may read my message but choose to wait to respond properly later, that’s fine and understandable.

Hopefully they will respond positively and it’s the start of a wonderful friendship and hopefully meet at some point they are comfortable with in the not too distant future.

Or they may decide I’m not for them and send me a polite “thanks but no thanks message”.

And then I’ll tell them that I never wanted to meet the fat fucking bitch anyway and I hope she dies the stupid fucking entitled cow, I wouldn’t even look twice at you on a night out you slag!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just nudging gently people I chat to. Works."

I don’t nudge gently

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I spend some considerable time checking the local profiles for women who’s interests and likes seem compatible with mine, who I find attractive, and who I think, based on their requirements, that I might be within the parameters of what they are looking for.

I read their profile fully and message them appropriately with the required information, a recent and accurate face pic and a respectful, yet (hopefully?) interesting and enticing note to introduce myself.

I wait patiently for a reply, understanding fully that the ladies on here are inundated with messages so will not be able to read or respond immediately to my approach. They may read my message but choose to wait to respond properly later, that’s fine and understandable.

Hopefully they will respond positively and it’s the start of a wonderful friendship and hopefully meet at some point they are comfortable with in the not too distant future.

Or they may decide I’m not for them and send me a polite “thanks but no thanks message”.

And then I’ll tell them that I never wanted to meet the fat fucking bitch anyway and I hope she dies the stupid fucking entitled cow, I wouldn’t even look twice at you on a night out you slag!!"

You read their profile?

I don’t know what else you wrote, it was too long for me.

*I bet you’ve never had that said to you before?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Find someone who likes gingerbread lattes and it's a winner from there really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I spend some considerable time checking the local profiles for women who’s interests and likes seem compatible with mine, who I find attractive, and who I think, based on their requirements, that I might be within the parameters of what they are looking for.

I read their profile fully and message them appropriately with the required information, a recent and accurate face pic and a respectful, yet (hopefully?) interesting and enticing note to introduce myself.

I wait patiently for a reply, understanding fully that the ladies on here are inundated with messages so will not be able to read or respond immediately to my approach. They may read my message but choose to wait to respond properly later, that’s fine and understandable.

Hopefully they will respond positively and it’s the start of a wonderful friendship and hopefully meet at some point they are comfortable with in the not too distant future.

Or they may decide I’m not for them and send me a polite “thanks but no thanks message”.

And then I’ll tell them that I never wanted to meet the fat fucking bitch anyway and I hope she dies the stupid fucking entitled cow, I wouldn’t even look twice at you on a night out you slag!!

You read their profile?

I don’t know what else you wrote, it was too long for me.

*I bet you’ve never had that said to you before? "

I did message one profile once who wanted a “long and detailed message - no one liners”. Their response was “if we wanted to read a novel we’d have bought a fucking book”.

You can’t win sometimes!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just nudging gently people I chat to. Works.

I don’t nudge gently "

Have coffee with me now or I'll curse you forever? That kind?

On that note I got to get ready for one

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights


"If I have a free morning I simply put up a status saying 'free for a Costa this morning' and see who replies

Met lots of interesting people this way

This actually works? I see these updates but think it just attracts strangers. I don’t want a coffee with a stranger "

Really. Why not? I love meeting new people

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

You read their profile?

I don’t know what else you wrote, it was too long for me.

*I bet you’ve never had that said to you before?

I did message one profile once who wanted a “long and detailed message - no one liners”. Their response was “if we wanted to read a novel we’d have bought a fucking book”.

You can’t win sometimes! "

I love the hypocrisy of some. It amuses me.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights


"If I have a free morning I simply put up a status saying 'free for a Costa this morning' and see who replies

Met lots of interesting people this way

It's a guy asking so this simple Costa invite probably won't work."

Odds are stacked against a male for sure, as people are more wary but does his social have to be with a female. If he fancies some company for half an hour on a morning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually pop up a status along the lines of “can I spaff on ya tits today”

Weirdly, it’s never yielded a result. Perhaps I ought to start a thread asking what I’m doing wrong?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If I have a free morning I simply put up a status saying 'free for a Costa this morning' and see who replies

Met lots of interesting people this way

This actually works? I see these updates but think it just attracts strangers. I don’t want a coffee with a stranger

Really. Why not? I love meeting new people "

For me? Strangers are too much for a 1 to 1 coffee. I need to know I have something common to talk about. Otherwise I burn my mouth on my latte in a rush to cut it short

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Find someone who likes gingerbread lattes and it's a winner from there really. "

I love the seasonal coffees. I’ll keep a lookout for someone else who does

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I give out raffle tickets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Find someone who likes gingerbread lattes and it's a winner from there really.

I love the seasonal coffees. I’ll keep a lookout for someone else who does "

Good plan

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I give out raffle tickets

"

Give out implies they are free. In that case, I’ll take one

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"I give out raffle tickets

"

Can we have two on your next raffle? Feeling rather lucky at the minute

D.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the suggestions everyone. I’m going to try them all.

At the same time

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

If we have chatted and I like the cut of their jib I generally then suggest a coffee.

Might try the "Fancy a Costa"update one day though and see what occurs

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

We only have set weekends or certain days for our play sessions.

So we’ll arrange a club visit around that time and then put a meet request either for the club or after.

We’ll get in touch with people and say we’ll be in the area for a few days.

We change our location to wherever we are.

We’ve also gone out hunting local people if the need arises…

Or sometimes we just go to a club and see who’s around.

K

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"If I have a free morning I simply put up a status saying 'free for a Costa this morning' and see who replies

Met lots of interesting people this way

This actually works? I see these updates but think it just attracts strangers. I don’t want a coffee with a stranger "

That narrows your mingling options on here.

We're all strangers until we meet. Then you discover some are stranger than others.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"If I have a free morning I simply put up a status saying 'free for a Costa this morning' and see who replies

Met lots of interesting people this way

This actually works? I see these updates but think it just attracts strangers. I don’t want a coffee with a stranger

That narrows your mingling options on here.

We're all strangers until we meet. Then you discover some are stranger than others.

"

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Beds (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

I wait until someone mentions cake and then pounce on them

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I go to clubs, organised socials and swingers paries as find it better to meet face to face

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral


"If I have a free morning I simply put up a status saying 'free for a Costa this morning' and see who replies

Met lots of interesting people this way

This actually works? I see these updates but think it just attracts strangers. I don’t want a coffee with a stranger

Really. Why not? I love meeting new people "

I did that for the first time last week and it worked very well. I'll probably do it again next time I find myself at an unexpectedly loose end.

In the normal way of things I'll chat to someone for a while and then suggest meeting for a coffee or a drink. I have a lot of socials with a lot of great people!

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I go to a club

(Hermit since March 2020)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I go to a club

(Hermit since March 2020)"

Never heard of this club, after a year I think it’s wise you leave

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It feels weird to even imagine meeting a new person again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I usually pop up a status along the lines of “can I spaff on ya tits today”

Weirdly, it’s never yielded a result. Perhaps I ought to start a thread asking what I’m doing wrong? "

It’ll probably be the grammar. Try capital C at the beginning and s question mark at the end.

If that still doesn’t work then I’ve got no fucking clue what’s wrong.

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