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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

In work Monday night. I was by my managers desk turned round and he was walking towards me. Definitely saw me but he did a quick swerve into one of the aisles.

I thought okay he’s avoiding me. I walked back to where I needed to be, turned a corner and he was talking to some girl. So I just continued to walk passed.

Hour later they were giving out early finishes so I took it.

Now this is the most important part where I was super proud of myself. Now I know I shouldn’t be congratulating myself for doing things that come easily to normal well rounded people but it’s a huge thing for me.

I always feel like I have two choices and old me always knows the consequences yet chooses the wrong option.

ALL of me wanted to go find him and say what was all that about then Saturday, what happened, but I thought what’s the point. It won’t achieve anything, will just make me look stupid and bothered when I’m not even bothered about it.

Even though it’s a huuuuge place to find one person theres literally 2,630 aisles he could’ve been in across 5 floors an A side and B side, old me would have found him to confront him about Saturday. Plus the messages. I could have text him multiple times but I haven’t. Apart from the 1 text I sent him on Saturday afternoon asking if he was awake yet(before he stood me up) I haven’t messaged him since.

I’m know I’m making it sound like a big deal but to me it is a big deal. It would have been so easy for me to confront him, I don’t care about kicking off or making a scene, the harder thing to do is do nothing but it feels soo much better.

I haven’t done anything wrong. All I did was agree to his request to meet him, arranged the times the night before even gave my postcode and address cos he asked for it, I tidied my whole house, showered, shaved, done my hair and makeup then he didn’t turn up, no message or anything.

I haven’t conducted myself in any kind of way so nothing to feel ashamed about. He was acting dodgy, if he wanted to approach me, apologise or explain he had plenty of opportunity to do that. Normally when he’s bumped into me he follows me round or will message me to come to where he is or text me to ask where I am so he can come to me. He knew I was in work so if he wanted to speak to me or see me at all he could. That’s what I was telling myself when I was deciding not to go find him to confront him.

So I’ve done the right thing haven’t I and not made myself look even more stupid? I feel a bit stupid that he stood me up in the first place, it’s embarrassing. But thing I’m most impressed with is the fact I didn’t react. I KNOW in the past I would’ve wanted to at least ask him why he didn’t turn up but I just don’t care. He must have had his reasons but I don’t care what they are.

I’m interested in opinions going forward cos I will cross paths with him at some point soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My only suggestion really is, to avoid these kind of awkward moments and for your own sanity, cos it’s strings no matter how chill you are… just try see guys outside of your work. So you can bin them off if you don’t want to see them anymore , guilt free. And also there’s no tip toeing around things.

I think work is a place where people spend a lot of time at, the last thing someone needs is that dread feeling cos of a colleague

Just my 2 cents

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good on you for not reacting the way you would have in the past. In my opinion on going forward would be to just carry on like you have, forget about him in the sense of the sex aspect. You don’t want any fallouts or it anymore awkward with him. I suppose it could be a lot worse forget and move on…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't feel stupid at all. The fact he swerved to avoid you says it all. He has no reasonable excuse.

Maybe he has a girlfriend somewhere or a tiny dick.

Don't give him another thought. It's nearly Christmas.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds you did the right thing. If he had a genuine reason for not showing up then he wouldve approached you like a man and explained what happened, he didnt, so it sounds like you dodged a bullet

I dont know what his motives were, but from the sounds of things hes just playing around the field and lost interest in meeting you, so you dont want to waste your time with ppl like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I totally get where you're coming from by wanting some sort of answers. I have been in a similar scenario of wanting to know answers. I asked for answers and never got a satisfying enough one and it haunts me 8 years later. Yes, still!

If it was me I'd just ignore him going forward. Be nice, say hi he if does first but I wouldn't give him my time.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"In work Monday night. I was by my managers desk turned round and he was walking towards me. Definitely saw me but he did a quick swerve into one of the aisles.

I thought okay he’s avoiding me. I walked back to where I needed to be, turned a corner and he was talking to some girl. So I just continued to walk passed.

Hour later they were giving out early finishes so I took it.

Now this is the most important part where I was super proud of myself. Now I know I shouldn’t be congratulating myself for doing things that come easily to normal well rounded people but it’s a huge thing for me.

I always feel like I have two choices and old me always knows the consequences yet chooses the wrong option.

ALL of me wanted to go find him and say what was all that about then Saturday, what happened, but I thought what’s the point. It won’t achieve anything, will just make me look stupid and bothered when I’m not even bothered about it.

Even though it’s a huuuuge place to find one person theres literally 2,630 aisles he could’ve been in across 5 floors an A side and B side, old me would have found him to confront him about Saturday. Plus the messages. I could have text him multiple times but I haven’t. Apart from the 1 text I sent him on Saturday afternoon asking if he was awake yet(before he stood me up) I haven’t messaged him since.

I’m know I’m making it sound like a big deal but to me it is a big deal. It would have been so easy for me to confront him, I don’t care about kicking off or making a scene, the harder thing to do is do nothing but it feels soo much better.

I haven’t done anything wrong. All I did was agree to his request to meet him, arranged the times the night before even gave my postcode and address cos he asked for it, I tidied my whole house, showered, shaved, done my hair and makeup then he didn’t turn up, no message or anything.

I haven’t conducted myself in any kind of way so nothing to feel ashamed about. He was acting dodgy, if he wanted to approach me, apologise or explain he had plenty of opportunity to do that. Normally when he’s bumped into me he follows me round or will message me to come to where he is or text me to ask where I am so he can come to me. He knew I was in work so if he wanted to speak to me or see me at all he could. That’s what I was telling myself when I was deciding not to go find him to confront him.

So I’ve done the right thing haven’t I and not made myself look even more stupid? I feel a bit stupid that he stood me up in the first place, it’s embarrassing. But thing I’m most impressed with is the fact I didn’t react. I KNOW in the past I would’ve wanted to at least ask him why he didn’t turn up but I just don’t care. He must have had his reasons but I don’t care what they are.

I’m interested in opinions going forward cos I will cross paths with him at some point soon. "

Good for you, you should just mentally file him away under "you had your chance, you won't get another".

Cal

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I’d have chopped him up into pieces and sent him in the Amazon packages as pork.

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle

No reaction and move on like he doesn't even exist! You actually done the right thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’d have chopped him up into pieces and sent him in the Amazon packages as pork. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

100% that was his only window of opportunity and yeah if I saw him and he says hello, I’ll say hello back but won’t engage like I used to.

I’m glad nothing happened now cos if he’s like this when we almost did he would most likely be a dick after sex. That would’ve just tainted what could have been a good night yet makes you feel regretful if they treat you like a knob afterwards.

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York

I wish I could post the crazy over attached girlfriend meme here, alas you'll have to just imagine it

And I am only saying it in jest! Well done for not going chicken oriental

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

I hear what you are saying and applaud you my dear x

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By *S2004Man
over a year ago

Bromsgrove

You have absolutely done the right thing. I don’t think I could have totally let it go. I would have had to at least register my annoyance. You are clearly the bigger person and well done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've done totally the right thing. Be super proud of yourself!

You have certainly changed your way of thinking and your behaviour in such a positive way.

You are making incredible progress on your journey, go you

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

This is why we don’t shit where we eat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In these situations doing nothing is the hardest thing.

Except if you're a man.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

It's a shitter when the realisation hits you that there really is no point in following up coz they have such little respect for you that they'd likely lie anyway.

When you're an internaliser it's weird changing the mindset from "wtf? How can he act like I'm insignificant, what's wrong with me, why can't he just treat me like a human?" to, "meh, he's insignificant"

Well done you xx

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

If you can swallow the need for closure then you are on the right path Annie, walk proud with your head held high

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

On here you'd be told delete block move on..

At work.

Civil and move on.

Myself.. I never mix business and pleasure.. I was told years ago don't shit on your own doorstep.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Yeah that avoidance walk down another aisle speaks volumes

Whether he’s now a stereotypical polish guy is up for debate

K

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

Excellent way of dealing with him.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's a shitter when the realisation hits you that there really is no point in following up coz they have such little respect for you that they'd likely lie anyway.

When you're an internaliser it's weird changing the mindset from "wtf? How can he act like I'm insignificant, what's wrong with me, why can't he just treat me like a human?" to, "meh, he's insignificant"

Well done you xx"

It was weird though cos the urge to just leave the premises and go was stronger than the urge to go up to him and say what the fuck like, and I’ve never had that before. It was strange cos I’ve always known nothing good comes from kicking off I’ve just never been able to stop myself before. That night I bought myself a box of Guylian Belgian chocolate seashells as a well done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you've done completely the right thing, and I agree with your comment above about how would he have been afterwards if he had turned up on Saturday.

I also agree with the posters above... stay away from interested guys at work OP, it'll make your life even easier

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Well done for not reacting like you would have done previously, that shows growth.

Him avoiding you shows me he has a bit of a guilty conscience.

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

Awesome. You did great

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’m likely to see him again tomorrow in work and as of next Monday I’ll be doing 3 shifts same time as him so will cross paths.

Also agree not a good idea to mix work with casual encounters, just so many good looking men there!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fantastic Annie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Blimey first message was an essay I didn’t get to the end

In short did he get told off?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stick to your plan of playing it cool and not even acknowledging him unless it for work purposes.

Meet guys you’re not gonna have to deal with on a daily basis, and ones who will actually turn up.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

You've done the right thing and kept your dignity.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Question Annie Wilkes. When they are giving out early finishes, do you still get paid for the lost hours?

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"Blimey first message was an essay I didn’t get to the end

In short did he get told off?"

You can't be bothered to read a few paragraphs but want to know the outcome?

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Well done be super proud of yourself! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or you could have just calmly told him that you don't much care for the way he treated you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was stood up once. It wasn't nice, but I'd be livid if I went to the effort you went to. I'm blessed with the biggest decision I have is whether to trim my beard a little bit or not.

But you're right to not show you were annoyed. Don't ever give anyone the satisfaction of thinking they have the power.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Well done.

Side note is working for Amazon like what they say on Tv?

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham


"I’d have chopped him up into pieces and sent him in the Amazon packages as pork. "

Hey, don't try to ruin my Amazon orders.

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By *omnlynneCouple
over a year ago

milton keynes

you def did the right thing and he must have be a total prat standing you up you look drop dead gorgeous in your pics ....his loss for sure

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

Definitely done the right thing, he's been a twat and had the opportunity to say something but made a b line to go talk to someone else.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

When you have an early finish you can choose if you want to take it paid or unpaid. Paid means it comes out of your holiday allowance.

Also I’ve been there for a year now so I find it pleasant to work there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How do they decide you can go early? Surely the orders never stop? Are there quotas?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Congratulations my beautiful friend, you’ve got the situation spot on.

Never ever give him the time of day again and continue with your life.

I’m really pleased for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let it go and hold your head up high. Be proud of the growth you’ve achieved. He’s been a dickhead and shown himself up. His loss. Move on and let the water pass under the bridge. He’ll no doubt regret it more than you will

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow I'm kinda stunned in honesty... I think you have made tremendous progress.

Keep it up!

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

Well done you!!

Perfect response although I would have been tempted to confront him myself but you did the right thing

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By *estmids71Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

To be honest, I'm surprised he even stood you up.... Good for you girl for not biting and being a bigger person than he is

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By *uck-RogersMan
over a year ago

Tarka trail

You know the saying Miss Wilkes. Don't shit on your own doorstep.

And you know not to ask his reason for a NO show. As you know it will be bullshit.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Progress! Keep it up

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah I’m not so much bothered about him not turning up or trying to figure out the why’s or whatever. It’s more the fact that I didn’t react.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He's not worth the thought you're giving him.

He will regret the decision to meet, if not already. By which point you will have happily moved on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My only suggestion really is, to avoid these kind of awkward moments and for your own sanity, cos it’s strings no matter how chill you are… just try see guys outside of your work. So you can bin them off if you don’t want to see them anymore , guilt free. And also there’s no tip toeing around things.

I think work is a place where people spend a lot of time at, the last thing someone needs is that dread feeling cos of a colleague

Just my 2 cents "

This.... After reading yours Annie, I don't find it a giggle anymore....ignore and forget, what a wanker he is....find a fella on here ffs love

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham


"Yeah I’m not so much bothered about him not turning up or trying to figure out the why’s or whatever. It’s more the fact that I didn’t react. "

6 months ago you'd have been hiding on the back seat in his car waiting for him to finish work. You're doing great.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

Fantastic response, good on you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yeah I’m not so much bothered about him not turning up or trying to figure out the why’s or whatever. It’s more the fact that I didn’t react.

6 months ago you'd have been hiding on the back seat in his car waiting for him to finish work. You're doing great. "

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

I applaud you. I would have been raging and wanting to do exactly the same thing.

It's hard being the bigger person sometimes and not rising to it. Well done x

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield


"I applaud you. I would have been raging and wanting to do exactly the same thing.

It's hard being the bigger person sometimes and not rising to it. Well done x"

Revenge is a dish best served cold.

Was it the Polish guy?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I applaud you. I would have been raging and wanting to do exactly the same thing.

It's hard being the bigger person sometimes and not rising to it. Well done x

Revenge is a dish best served cold.

Was it the Polish guy? "

Yeah. Don’t need revenge. Don’t need anything. He’ll probably try it on again and I’ll say no thanks. That’s enough revenge.

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By *coobyBoobyDooWoman
over a year ago

Markfield


"Yeah. Don’t need revenge. Don’t need anything. He’ll probably try it on again and I’ll say no thanks. That’s enough revenge. "

Hiya, I don’t know you Annie as I am very new to fab and the forum but I’ve read a few of your recent posts and definitely admire your actions here, you’ve done absolutely the right thing to just ignore the idiot and move on. As they say, his loss! I tend to agree with the “don't shit where you eat” sentiment and “don’t shit on your own door step” well done for being cool calm and collected about dealing with that waste of time and space. Don’t give him any more head room x

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By *ooo wet tight hornyWoman
over a year ago

lancashire


"In work Monday night. I was by my managers desk turned round and he was walking towards me. Definitely saw me but he did a quick swerve into one of the aisles.

I thought okay he’s avoiding me. I walked back to where I needed to be, turned a corner and he was talking to some girl. So I just continued to walk passed.

Hour later they were giving out early finishes so I took it.

Now this is the most important part where I was super proud of myself. Now I know I shouldn’t be congratulating myself for doing things that come easily to normal well rounded people but it’s a huge thing for me.

I always feel like I have two choices and old me always knows the consequences yet chooses the wrong option.

ALL of me wanted to go find him and say what was all that about then Saturday, what happened, but I thought what’s the point. It won’t achieve anything, will just make me look stupid and bothered when I’m not even bothered about it.

Even though it’s a huuuuge place to find one person theres literally 2,630 aisles he could’ve been in across 5 floors an A side and B side, old me would have found him to confront him about Saturday. Plus the messages. I could have text him multiple times but I haven’t. Apart from the 1 text I sent him on Saturday afternoon asking if he was awake yet(before he stood me up) I haven’t messaged him since.

I’m know I’m making it sound like a big deal but to me it is a big deal. It would have been so easy for me to confront him, I don’t care about kicking off or making a scene, the harder thing to do is do nothing but it feels soo much better.

I haven’t done anything wrong. All I did was agree to his request to meet him, arranged the times the night before even gave my postcode and address cos he asked for it, I tidied my whole house, showered, shaved, done my hair and makeup then he didn’t turn up, no message or anything.

I haven’t conducted myself in any kind of way so nothing to feel ashamed about. He was acting dodgy, if he wanted to approach me, apologise or explain he had plenty of opportunity to do that. Normally when he’s bumped into me he follows me round or will message me to come to where he is or text me to ask where I am so he can come to me. He knew I was in work so if he wanted to speak to me or see me at all he could. That’s what I was telling myself when I was deciding not to go find him to confront him.

So I’ve done the right thing haven’t I and not made myself look even more stupid? I feel a bit stupid that he stood me up in the first place, it’s embarrassing. But thing I’m most impressed with is the fact I didn’t react. I KNOW in the past I would’ve wanted to at least ask him why he didn’t turn up but I just don’t care. He must have had his reasons but I don’t care what they are.

I’m interested in opinions going forward cos I will cross paths with him at some point soon. "

Good for you not approaching him, I think he will have been a tad embarrassed and winced every time you come in to each others space, hahaha, you hold your head high girl..he will come running back with his tail between his legs..when he does knock him back. Big hugs to you

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By *ooking4othersMan
over a year ago

Here ...

What floor, zone, aisle did you say you were in again

Only kidding ... but sounds like you have had a realisation that you can take forward ... go you

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Carlisle


"In work Monday night. I was by my managers desk turned round and he was walking towards me. Definitely saw me but he did a quick swerve into one of the aisles.

I thought okay he’s avoiding me. I walked back to where I needed to be, turned a corner and he was talking to some girl. So I just continued to walk passed.

Hour later they were giving out early finishes so I took it.

Now this is the most important part where I was super proud of myself. Now I know I shouldn’t be congratulating myself for doing things that come easily to normal well rounded people but it’s a huge thing for me.

I always feel like I have two choices and old me always knows the consequences yet chooses the wrong option.

ALL of me wanted to go find him and say what was all that about then Saturday, what happened, but I thought what’s the point. It won’t achieve anything, will just make me look stupid and bothered when I’m not even bothered about it.

Even though it’s a huuuuge place to find one person theres literally 2,630 aisles he could’ve been in across 5 floors an A side and B side, old me would have found him to confront him about Saturday. Plus the messages. I could have text him multiple times but I haven’t. Apart from the 1 text I sent him on Saturday afternoon asking if he was awake yet(before he stood me up) I haven’t messaged him since.

I’m know I’m making it sound like a big deal but to me it is a big deal. It would have been so easy for me to confront him, I don’t care about kicking off or making a scene, the harder thing to do is do nothing but it feels soo much better.

I haven’t done anything wrong. All I did was agree to his request to meet him, arranged the times the night before even gave my postcode and address cos he asked for it, I tidied my whole house, showered, shaved, done my hair and makeup then he didn’t turn up, no message or anything.

I haven’t conducted myself in any kind of way so nothing to feel ashamed about. He was acting dodgy, if he wanted to approach me, apologise or explain he had plenty of opportunity to do that. Normally when he’s bumped into me he follows me round or will message me to come to where he is or text me to ask where I am so he can come to me. He knew I was in work so if he wanted to speak to me or see me at all he could. That’s what I was telling myself when I was deciding not to go find him to confront him.

So I’ve done the right thing haven’t I and not made myself look even more stupid? I feel a bit stupid that he stood me up in the first place, it’s embarrassing. But thing I’m most impressed with is the fact I didn’t react. I KNOW in the past I would’ve wanted to at least ask him why he didn’t turn up but I just don’t care. He must have had his reasons but I don’t care what they are.

I’m interested in opinions going forward cos I will cross paths with him at some point soon. "

Definitely the right thing! Xx just move on without another thought of him and if he does approach you in future just say no thanks not interested - bye!! Xxxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

My best mate had her baby a couple of hours ago and just been video calling her. The baby waved at me I’m calling it a wave anyway, he was just moving his hand! There’s way more important things going on in life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have behaved with the utmost dignity, and you should so be proud of yourself for that.

However it does fuck me off that his shitty behaviour remains unchecked. He’s got away with it, so to speak.

But your head is definitely held high

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You have behaved with the utmost dignity, and you should so be proud of yourself for that.

However it does fuck me off that his shitty behaviour remains unchecked. He’s got away with it, so to speak.

But your head is definitely held high "

I know but what can you, it’s not my place to punish him or anything. In the grand scheme of things what did he do, give it the big one for 4 months asking me to meet him and then when I said yes and made firm arrangements, he didn’t turn up.

The practically running away from me Monday night and not even apologising or acknowledging what he did just shows me that he does feel either ashamed or guilty.

When he tries it on again and he will, I have a feeling, I’ll just decline.

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By *al kalMan
over a year ago

london


"You have behaved with the utmost dignity, and you should so be proud of yourself for that.

However it does fuck me off that his shitty behaviour remains unchecked. He’s got away with it, so to speak.

But your head is definitely held high

I know but what can you, it’s not my place to punish him or anything. In the grand scheme of things what did he do, give it the big one for 4 months asking me to meet him and then when I said yes and made firm arrangements, he didn’t turn up.

The practically running away from me Monday night and not even apologising or acknowledging what he did just shows me that he does feel either ashamed or guilty.

When he tries it on again and he will, I have a feeling, I’ll just decline.

"

To master the world, one must first master oneself....

You acted gracefully and are a credit to this forum. To not let your feelings get the better of you shows your social and emotional intelligence and re-enforces that you are a classy one.

Forget the looser, who in their right mind would have behaved that way. Some guys are purely in it for the chase and gives us fellas a bad name when they ghost and behave like this. The fact he gave no one iota of response, not even explanation after setting the seen for 4 months, and walking away shows the fantasist he is likely to be.

Karma will teach him. If not then the universe will...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Disappointment is a natural part of life. Learning to accept it and move forward is one of the first steps to living a better life.

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
over a year ago

Wales/ All over UK

I’ve read a few of your posts in the past Annie and I’d like to congratulate you on how well you’ve dealt with this idiot’s behaviour.

It can be soul destroying when someone bails on you are stands you up and it’s natural to want to know a reason why and make yourself think you’ve done something wrong to make it happen…

Your response to this guy shows that you’re learning that it’s not actually you with the problem, it’s the dickhead who let you down who has the issue.

You’re an absolutely stunning woman, and from your posts on here a very empathic and introspective person….. any man should be lucky to have you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well done Annie

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By *heLaserGuyMan
over a year ago

Coventry


"In work Monday night. I was by my managers desk turned round and he was walking towards me. Definitely saw me but he did a quick swerve into one of the aisles.

I thought okay he’s avoiding me. I walked back to where I needed to be, turned a corner and he was talking to some girl. So I just continued to walk passed.

Hour later they were giving out early finishes so I took it.

Now this is the most important part where I was super proud of myself. Now I know I shouldn’t be congratulating myself for doing things that come easily to normal well rounded people but it’s a huge thing for me.

I always feel like I have two choices and old me always knows the consequences yet chooses the wrong option.

ALL of me wanted to go find him and say what was all that about then Saturday, what happened, but I thought what’s the point. It won’t achieve anything, will just make me look stupid and bothered when I’m not even bothered about it.

Even though it’s a huuuuge place to find one person theres literally 2,630 aisles he could’ve been in across 5 floors an A side and B side, old me would have found him to confront him about Saturday. Plus the messages. I could have text him multiple times but I haven’t. Apart from the 1 text I sent him on Saturday afternoon asking if he was awake yet(before he stood me up) I haven’t messaged him since.

I’m know I’m making it sound like a big deal but to me it is a big deal. It would have been so easy for me to confront him, I don’t care about kicking off or making a scene, the harder thing to do is do nothing but it feels soo much better.

I haven’t done anything wrong. All I did was agree to his request to meet him, arranged the times the night before even gave my postcode and address cos he asked for it, I tidied my whole house, showered, shaved, done my hair and makeup then he didn’t turn up, no message or anything.

I haven’t conducted myself in any kind of way so nothing to feel ashamed about. He was acting dodgy, if he wanted to approach me, apologise or explain he had plenty of opportunity to do that. Normally when he’s bumped into me he follows me round or will message me to come to where he is or text me to ask where I am so he can come to me. He knew I was in work so if he wanted to speak to me or see me at all he could. That’s what I was telling myself when I was deciding not to go find him to confront him.

So I’ve done the right thing haven’t I and not made myself look even more stupid? I feel a bit stupid that he stood me up in the first place, it’s embarrassing. But thing I’m most impressed with is the fact I didn’t react. I KNOW in the past I would’ve wanted to at least ask him why he didn’t turn up but I just don’t care. He must have had his reasons but I don’t care what they are.

I’m interested in opinions going forward cos I will cross paths with him at some point soon. "

The guy must be a prize plum. Most men here would be over the moon with a reply, let alone a date with you.

Your far too nice to get worked up over being stood up. You can honestly smile confidently to yourself knowing you literally have the pick of who you fancy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good work in not reacting, that is probably what he expects.

Also the guy must be a moron to stand you up IMO.

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By *unloversCouple
over a year ago

rotherham

I wouldn’t have even bothered to put it in here Luv as it’s obviously still on your mind

Forget about it and move on

He’s nothing but a knob end

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Omg. I put his chat in archives on WhatsApp so don’t get the notification but just noticed he messaged me at 1:06 this morning saying hey are you in work then another one saying are you okay babes, heart eyes emoji x2!

Should I just ignore it and leave it on read or just say yeah I’m good thanks. But then leave it.

I wanna do the second option just so it doesn’t look like I’m pissed off or have any kind of issue cos I don’t.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ahhh the booty call, mail etc!

I'll leave it for others to give you the advice you'd wanna read ...

Pride is strong with me and the taking the piss men ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

....this guy is definitely not single!

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By *onb21Woman
over a year ago

Cardiff

Keep him hanging like he left you hanging. That's why he was archived.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Omg. I put his chat in archives on WhatsApp so don’t get the notification but just noticed he messaged me at 1:06 this morning saying hey are you in work then another one saying are you okay babes, heart eyes emoji x2!

Should I just ignore it and leave it on read or just say yeah I’m good thanks. But then leave it.

I wanna do the second option just so it doesn’t look like I’m pissed off or have any kind of issue cos I don’t. "

Send him a nude pic and say look what you coulda won

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most definitely his loss Annie ,onwards and upwards. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ahhh the booty call, mail etc!

I'll leave it for others to give you the advice you'd wanna read ...

Pride is strong with me and the taking the piss men ..."

Not really a booty call cos we work nights and he was messaging to see if I was in work. I’m not making excuses but that was just a text to see if I was in the building.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He if still hasn't given you a valid reason as to why he ghosted you on your date night, then just say 'you missed your chance, please don't approach me in that way again.'

Job done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ahhh the booty call, mail etc!

I'll leave it for others to give you the advice you'd wanna read ...

Pride is strong with me and the taking the piss men ...

Not really a booty call cos we work nights and he was messaging to see if I was in work. I’m not making excuses but that was just a text to see if I was in the building. "

Strange why he couldn't say sorry whilst at work. What's he doing now, tip toeing around the idea.......and you thought he was dominant Annie

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
over a year ago

Wales/ All over UK


"Omg. I put his chat in archives on WhatsApp so don’t get the notification but just noticed he messaged me at 1:06 this morning saying hey are you in work then another one saying are you okay babes, heart eyes emoji x2!

Should I just ignore it and leave it on read or just say yeah I’m good thanks. But then leave it.

I wanna do the second option just so it doesn’t look like I’m pissed off or have any kind of issue cos I don’t. "

Option 1. He’s not worth your time or effort

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville


"Omg. I put his chat in archives on WhatsApp so don’t get the notification but just noticed he messaged me at 1:06 this morning saying hey are you in work then another one saying are you okay babes, heart eyes emoji x2!

Should I just ignore it and leave it on read or just say yeah I’m good thanks. But then leave it.

I wanna do the second option just so it doesn’t look like I’m pissed off or have any kind of issue cos I don’t. "

'I'm great thanks, whilst you didn't show it gave me the opportunity to meet someone truly nice'

Honestly though, I'd just reply 'I'm good thanks' and pop him back to archived x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ahhh the booty call, mail etc!

I'll leave it for others to give you the advice you'd wanna read ...

Pride is strong with me and the taking the piss men ...

Not really a booty call cos we work nights and he was messaging to see if I was in work. I’m not making excuses but that was just a text to see if I was in the building. "

Don't reply. He's not a friend. If he needs to speak to you on a work basis he should go find you, not message your personal phone.

If it was me I'd read it but ignore and archive it again.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Omg. I put his chat in archives on WhatsApp so don’t get the notification but just noticed he messaged me at 1:06 this morning saying hey are you in work then another one saying are you okay babes, heart eyes emoji x2!

Should I just ignore it and leave it on read or just say yeah I’m good thanks. But then leave it.

I wanna do the second option just so it doesn’t look like I’m pissed off or have any kind of issue cos I don’t.

'I'm great thanks, whilst you didn't show it gave me the opportunity to meet someone truly nice'

Honestly though, I'd just reply 'I'm good thanks' and pop him back to archived x"

Yeah I’d do that too. Just say I’m good thanks. If you ignore he’ll think he’s got to you.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth


"You have behaved with the utmost dignity, and you should so be proud of yourself for that.

However it does fuck me off that his shitty behaviour remains unchecked. He’s got away with it, so to speak.

But your head is definitely held high

I know but what can you, it’s not my place to punish him or anything. In the grand scheme of things what did he do, give it the big one for 4 months asking me to meet him and then when I said yes and made firm arrangements, he didn’t turn up.

The practically running away from me Monday night and not even apologising or acknowledging what he did just shows me that he does feel either ashamed or guilty.

When he tries it on again and he will, I have a feeling, I’ll just decline.

"

They always come crawling back.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Oh he did already, and not even a sorry. Back to the archives for you mate!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm good. just so you know, I have a one strike rule. So you're officially in the friend zone. Probably shouldn't even be there, but hey, I'm a nice gal. See you around (hard not to eh?). Annie"

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"Omg. I put his chat in archives on WhatsApp so don’t get the notification but just noticed he messaged me at 1:06 this morning saying hey are you in work then another one saying are you okay babes, heart eyes emoji x2!

Should I just ignore it and leave it on read or just say yeah I’m good thanks. But then leave it.

I wanna do the second option just so it doesn’t look like I’m pissed off or have any kind of issue cos I don’t. "

I know everyone is saying ignore him, but after reading this I would have to have a word with him so he knows his behaviour is not acceptable.

If you don't cut him dead now, he might keep trying it on.

Sending late night texts with hearts tells me he thinks he's done no wrong, and might be trying it on again.

He sounds immature and I would speak to him.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

If you aren't "bothered" why haven't you deleted his number?? Let him come to you in person if he has anything to say!!!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


""I'm good. just so you know, I have a one strike rule. So you're officially in the friend zone. Probably shouldn't even be there, but hey, I'm a nice gal. See you around (hard not to eh?). Annie"

"

Teen behaviour. Passive Agressive. Narcissistic. Arrogant. Petty ..... The total opposite to what a person who outwardly demonstrates this behaviour is experiencing internally.

Just my thoughts on this advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Annie,

I go from laughing, to rolling my eyes and even frustration with you my lovely. I rarely respond to your threads as my contribution would just mirror many other people's advice or sometimes intolerance.

But yet I really do think that you more so than many others need the advice from the forum folk and value their constructive criticism as much or if not more than the ego boosting comments. You quite openly and honestly pour your personal love life out for dissection. Now some may say its TMI, some may criticise and think it's attention seeking and others may care and give advice.

This particular situation with the guy from work excited you, and there's nothing wrong with that at all. The decision to have a meet with him would not have been my decision as I don't mix business with pleasure as I prefer to be lusted after in their minds rather than office gossip after I have slept with someone...but that's just me.

You then went through emotions that you haven't experienced for some time and with those emotions came a personal first test of whether your new coping strategies, counselling and self help is effective.

Annie the past week for us has been like a storyline of a soap opera and we can switch off if we want or not read the threads but this is your life and you are sharing and wanting advice, so at this point I am prepared to spend my own few minutes writing a response for you.

You Annie have made huge improvements, you still have a way to go but you're going along the right path. You are using your mindfulness tools and coping strategies and you reacted to that guy at work with dignity and self worth, of which if you were stood here now I would be smiling at you like a proud big sister.

What you do now regarding the message is your call, by replying or not you can't really get it wrong. It's just whether you want to close that chapter with him and if so how to do it in the right way for you.

I hope you see from this that although sometimes I may also get frustrated by some of your posts I do try to see the person behind the screen that is typing away and today I have seen you.

Take care and keep going

NBVN x

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
over a year ago

Wales/ All over UK


"Annie,

I go from laughing, to rolling my eyes and even frustration with you my lovely. I rarely respond to your threads as my contribution would just mirror many other people's advice or sometimes intolerance.

But yet I really do think that you more so than many others need the advice from the forum folk and value their constructive criticism as much or if not more than the ego boosting comments. You quite openly and honestly pour your personal love life out for dissection. Now some may say its TMI, some may criticise and think it's attention seeking and others may care and give advice.

This particular situation with the guy from work excited you, and there's nothing wrong with that at all. The decision to have a meet with him would not have been my decision as I don't mix business with pleasure as I prefer to be lusted after in their minds rather than office gossip after I have slept with someone...but that's just me.

You then went through emotions that you haven't experienced for some time and with those emotions came a personal first test of whether your new coping strategies, counselling and self help is effective.

Annie the past week for us has been like a storyline of a soap opera and we can switch off if we want or not read the threads but this is your life and you are sharing and wanting advice, so at this point I am prepared to spend my own few minutes writing a response for you.

You Annie have made huge improvements, you still have a way to go but you're going along the right path. You are using your mindfulness tools and coping strategies and you reacted to that guy at work with dignity and self worth, of which if you were stood here now I would be smiling at you like a proud big sister.

What you do now regarding the message is your call, by replying or not you can't really get it wrong. It's just whether you want to close that chapter with him and if so how to do it in the right way for you.

I hope you see from this that although sometimes I may also get frustrated by some of your posts I do try to see the person behind the screen that is typing away and today I have seen you.

Take care and keep going

NBVN x

"

All of this!

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By *onnyJohnMan
over a year ago

Doncaster


"In work Monday night. I was by my managers desk turned round and he was walking towards me. Definitely saw me but he did a quick swerve into one of the aisles.

I thought okay he’s avoiding me. I walked back to where I needed to be, turned a corner and he was talking to some girl. So I just continued to walk passed.

Hour later they were giving out early finishes so I took it.

Now this is the most important part where I was super proud of myself. Now I know I shouldn’t be congratulating myself for doing things that come easily to normal well rounded people but it’s a huge thing for me.

I always feel like I have two choices and old me always knows the consequences yet chooses the wrong option.

ALL of me wanted to go find him and say what was all that about then Saturday, what happened, but I thought what’s the point. It won’t achieve anything, will just make me look stupid and bothered when I’m not even bothered about it.

Even though it’s a huuuuge place to find one person theres literally 2,630 aisles he could’ve been in across 5 floors an A side and B side, old me would have found him to confront him about Saturday. Plus the messages. I could have text him multiple times but I haven’t. Apart from the 1 text I sent him on Saturday afternoon asking if he was awake yet(before he stood me up) I haven’t messaged him since.

I’m know I’m making it sound like a big deal but to me it is a big deal. It would have been so easy for me to confront him, I don’t care about kicking off or making a scene, the harder thing to do is do nothing but it feels soo much better.

I haven’t done anything wrong. All I did was agree to his request to meet him, arranged the times the night before even gave my postcode and address cos he asked for it, I tidied my whole house, showered, shaved, done my hair and makeup then he didn’t turn up, no message or anything.

I haven’t conducted myself in any kind of way so nothing to feel ashamed about. He was acting dodgy, if he wanted to approach me, apologise or explain he had plenty of opportunity to do that. Normally when he’s bumped into me he follows me round or will message me to come to where he is or text me to ask where I am so he can come to me. He knew I was in work so if he wanted to speak to me or see me at all he could. That’s what I was telling myself when I was deciding not to go find him to confront him.

So I’ve done the right thing haven’t I and not made myself look even more stupid? I feel a bit stupid that he stood me up in the first place, it’s embarrassing. But thing I’m most impressed with is the fact I didn’t react. I KNOW in the past I would’ve wanted to at least ask him why he didn’t turn up but I just don’t care. He must have had his reasons but I don’t care what they are.

I’m interested in opinions going forward cos I will cross paths with him at some point soon. "

I think you have conducted yourself admirably.. people who don't turn up are a real pain, personally I give people the benefit of doubt twice, some would say that's once too often but we all have to remember that sometimes normal life gets in the way occasionally, and sods law it'll always be at the most awkward moment hence why I give two chances. But on the whole I think you've done admirably.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reply "who is this?"

It'll freak him out that he thinks you've deleted his number!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It must be hard Annie - you didn't arrange to meet him because you hated him, he was ugly, and you have no lust for him. No, you wanted him, so it's understandable you're hurt and confused as you thought he had the same feelings and same intentions. Your reaction initially was perfect, but now he's messaged again you really have to decide what to do to put an end to it. I think asking him why he ghosted you could lead to you losing the plot as his answer will probably be a lie, and that's infuriating. My guess is he's scared of you. The chase was great, but actually going through with it scares him in case he can't live up to his own hype - that's the only explanation I can come up with unless he's married. I think the polite but non engaging answers when he speaks in future approach is best. But don't ask me, I haven't a clue what I'm talking about!!! You won't have any other ghosters to worry about in future, thats a cast iron guarantee!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

With regards to the message I’m just gonna say yeah I’m good thanks.

I am good. I feel fine. I don’t want to ignore him cos then I’m making it look like it’s an issue when it’s not, plus I have to see him around work.

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley

Similar thing happened to me a few weeks ago. Got stood up and then met the guy (pretty sure it was him) in a club a couple of weeks ago. Awkward to say the least!

I tried to talk to her but got told as she's a woman she's entitled to change her mind without asking or even saying sorry!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Similar thing happened to me a few weeks ago. Got stood up and then met the guy (pretty sure it was him) in a club a couple of weeks ago. Awkward to say the least!

I tried to talk to her but got told as she's a woman she's entitled to change her mind without asking or even saying sorry! "

Quickest Gender Change in history ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Similar thing happened to me a few weeks ago. Got stood up and then met the guy (pretty sure it was him) in a club a couple of weeks ago. Awkward to say the least!

I tried to talk to her but got told as she's a woman she's entitled to change her mind without asking or even saying sorry! "

This confuses me: guy, him, she, her, woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Similar thing happened to me a few weeks ago. Got stood up and then met the guy (pretty sure it was him) in a club a couple of weeks ago. Awkward to say the least!

I tried to talk to her but got told as she's a woman she's entitled to change her mind without asking or even saying sorry!

Quickest Gender Change in history ?"

this made me spit my coffee

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley


"Similar thing happened to me a few weeks ago. Got stood up and then met the guy (pretty sure it was him) in a club a couple of weeks ago. Awkward to say the least!

I tried to talk to her but got told as she's a woman she's entitled to change her mind without asking or even saying sorry!

This confuses me: guy, him, she, her, woman"

Lol no I had arranged to meet this woman who stood me up for some guy, who I then I think bumped into in a club!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Similar thing happened to me a few weeks ago. Got stood up and then met the guy (pretty sure it was him) in a club a couple of weeks ago. Awkward to say the least!

I tried to talk to her but got told as she's a woman she's entitled to change her mind without asking or even saying sorry!

This confuses me: guy, him, she, her, woman

Lol no I had arranged to meet this woman who stood me up for some guy, who I then I think bumped into in a club! "

Just admit you're "fab straight"

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By *entileschiWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

Think of it this way OP. He has afforded you an important moment of personal growth. We cannot control how other people behave but we can choose how to react to it. Pick your battles. On a personal level you have won this battle. Where is he by comparison? Still a coward with essentially no manners who does not regard the feelings of others. You can see that you are worth so much more than that so you are ahead of the game.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple


"I applaud you. I would have been raging and wanting to do exactly the same thing.

It's hard being the bigger person sometimes and not rising to it. Well done x

Revenge is a dish best served cold.

Was it the Polish guy?

Yeah. Don’t need revenge. Don’t need anything. He’ll probably try it on again and I’ll say no thanks. That’s enough revenge. "

Exactly and, he will Ms Beautiful

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"With regards to the message I’m just gonna say yeah I’m good thanks.

I am good. I feel fine. I don’t want to ignore him cos then I’m making it look like it’s an issue when it’s not, plus I have to see him around work. "

Just don't let him wheedle his way back in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Reply "who is this?"

It'll freak him out that he thinks you've deleted his number!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well done on ignoring him.

He had his chance. keep ignoring him unless you physically have to work with him on something. ignore any other advances he makes. its his loss

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"With regards to the message I’m just gonna say yeah I’m good thanks.

I am good. I feel fine. I don’t want to ignore him cos then I’m making it look like it’s an issue when it’s not, plus I have to see him around work.

Just don't let him wheedle his way back in.

"

Nope. Absolutely not. I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t happy that he’s messaged. I am glad but only in a sense like, well you had your opportunity now it’s gone kind of way.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield


"Ahhh the booty call, mail etc!

I'll leave it for others to give you the advice you'd wanna read ...

Pride is strong with me and the taking the piss men ...

Not really a booty call cos we work nights and he was messaging to see if I was in work. I’m not making excuses but that was just a text to see if I was in the building. "

Why couldn’t he text you to say he wasn’t coming in Saturday?

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield


"Reply "who is this?"

It'll freak him out that he thinks you've deleted his number!"

I did that once when she came back after a month. Her response was brilliant.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ahhh the booty call, mail etc!

I'll leave it for others to give you the advice you'd wanna read ...

Pride is strong with me and the taking the piss men ...

Not really a booty call cos we work nights and he was messaging to see if I was in work. I’m not making excuses but that was just a text to see if I was in the building.

Why couldn’t he text you to say he wasn’t coming in Saturday? "

I don’t know and as I’m not interested in agreeing to meet him again I don’t really care what his excuse is. Whatever his reason was will feel justified to him. All I’m interested in is saving face at work cos I will see him around.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Reply "who is this?"

It'll freak him out that he thinks you've deleted his number!

I did that once when she came back after a month. Her response was brilliant. "

Spill the beans. Don't leave us with cliffhangers!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Reply "who is this?"

It'll freak him out that he thinks you've deleted his number!"

I love this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well done you for not rising to him!!!

He sounds like a sick and a classic player!!! He probably swerved from you because he’s embarrassed and can’t face you!

Looks to me like you’ve had a lucky escape!!

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

Bad manners is the one thing that enrages me so if something like this happened to me I would have definitely boned the fucker about it face to face .

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Bad manners is the one thing that enrages me so if something like this happened to me I would have definitely boned the fucker about it face to face . "

In my world if I was getting boned we wouldn't be having a tete a tete

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire


"Bad manners is the one thing that enrages me so if something like this happened to me I would have definitely boned the fucker about it face to face .

In my world if I was getting boned we wouldn't be having a tete a tete"

Geordie phrase

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Omg. I put his chat in archives on WhatsApp so don’t get the notification but just noticed he messaged me at 1:06 this morning saying hey are you in work then another one saying are you okay babes, heart eyes emoji x2!

Should I just ignore it and leave it on read or just say yeah I’m good thanks. But then leave it.

I wanna do the second option just so it doesn’t look like I’m pissed off or have any kind of issue cos I don’t.

I know everyone is saying ignore him, but after reading this I would have to have a word with him so he knows his behaviour is not acceptable.

If you don't cut him dead now, he might keep trying it on.

Sending late night texts with hearts tells me he thinks he's done no wrong, and might be trying it on again.

He sounds immature and I would speak to him. "

He hasn't even had the grace to at least wait until you *might* have forgotten that he failed to turn up.

Concentrate on the new baby waving.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I don’t know and as I’m not interested in agreeing to meet him again I don’t really care what his excuse is. Whatever his reason was will feel justified to him. All I’m interested in is saving face at work cos I will see him around. "

I don't know you well Annie and I normally don't comment much in forums but I treasure your openness it's very endearing.

My only little thought is we all have a certain amount of emotional energy, some people can add to our energy some can take it away and past experiences can deplete or top up our reservoir. If you are at a stage in your life where you want peace and positivity. Take the lead and show him that by putting him in his place not wasting much emotional energy on him and sending a fine no issues text and moving on.

He will more likely find it super attractive and hound you more but you know what you need and the energy you can afford to give. I think your present actions already have shown a mature understanding of that. I think you'll act well. I'm super pleased for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


""I'm good. just so you know, I have a one strike rule. So you're officially in the friend zone. Probably shouldn't even be there, but hey, I'm a nice gal. See you around (hard not to eh?). Annie"

Teen behaviour. Passive Agressive. Narcissistic. Arrogant. Petty ..... The total opposite to what a person who outwardly demonstrates this behaviour is experiencing internally.

Just my thoughts on this advice. "

This. Sparkle’s advice to delete number and force him to ‘man up’ in person rather than hide behind emojis is the best advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Omg. I put his chat in archives on WhatsApp so don’t get the notification but just noticed he messaged me at 1:06 this morning saying hey are you in work then another one saying are you okay babes, heart eyes emoji x2!

Should I just ignore it and leave it on read or just say yeah I’m good thanks. But then leave it.

I wanna do the second option just so it doesn’t look like I’m pissed off or have any kind of issue cos I don’t. "

You do get notifications from chats that have been archived. You only don’t get notifications if you mute them.

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By *amie HantsWoman
over a year ago

Atlantis


"Omg. I put his chat in archives on WhatsApp so don’t get the notification but just noticed he messaged me at 1:06 this morning saying hey are you in work then another one saying are you okay babes, heart eyes emoji x2!

Should I just ignore it and leave it on read or just say yeah I’m good thanks. But then leave it.

I wanna do the second option just so it doesn’t look like I’m pissed off or have any kind of issue cos I don’t.

You do get notifications from chats that have been archived. You only don’t get notifications if you mute them. "

It’s changed. Archived you don’t get any notifications

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He's blatantly in a relationship..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Omg. I put his chat in archives on WhatsApp so don’t get the notification but just noticed he messaged me at 1:06 this morning saying hey are you in work then another one saying are you okay babes, heart eyes emoji x2!

Should I just ignore it and leave it on read or just say yeah I’m good thanks. But then leave it.

I wanna do the second option just so it doesn’t look like I’m pissed off or have any kind of issue cos I don’t.

You do get notifications from chats that have been archived. You only don’t get notifications if you mute them.

It’s changed. Archived you don’t get any notifications "

Oh yeah, I didn’t notice that they’ve changed that. Sorry Annie, I was wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP’s gone UNLOS. Hope she’s ok.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure she will be back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anni hope everything ok just know we you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably just doing her annual memory test trials.. she'll be back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Another one gone .

Good luck Annie, I enjoyed reading your posts.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Annie Wilkes 2.0 will be along shortly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm wondering what her name will be this time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just hope she is OK?

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York


"I'm wondering what her name will be this time "

Will ClusterFucktress be back I wonder..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the best to her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm wondering what her name will be this time "

Alex Forrest probably.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well that forum member I was following has gone Unlos.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bye Annie. UNLOS in peace.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Will miss annie x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bye Annie, for now, we will miss you and your thought provoking / hilarious / controversial posts!

But we know you’ve left and returned many times before, as do the majority of people who leave on here, so we look forward to the smiles and the pics again when you feel it’s the right time for you to return!

See ya then!

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By *instonandLadyAstorCouple
over a year ago

Not where we seem to be...


"Annie Wilkes 2.0 will be along shortly."

That was her 5th profile that I know of, I'm sure there's been more.

She'll be back.

Winston.

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