FabSwingers.com forum: Don't give up

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

A year ago I was in a very miserable place, I thought I was stuck in a horrible controlling relationship, had a job I despised and incredibly lonely.

I accepted the reality of the relationship and ended it back in January and so the quest for a new job and home began.

Last week the house I was moving into at the weekend fell through and the job I'd been offered had gone silent.

This week I viewed a really nice flat, so didn't think I'd get it, on Monday and had a job interview this morning after applying then bumping into, unbeknown to me, the company owner last week.

I only got both

So don't give up people, I was just about ready to throw my cards in, but the reality is you can't, no matter how dark it seems. Even if you can't see any light, it's there and as is said this time will pass. Your light can and will shine again. I really hope it does soon if you're struggling, I know how hard it can be. In the words of another forumite love and peace everybody

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Ah that’s great to hear! You deserve some good news

true believer in this too. From a place of darkness always comes light eventually.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

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By *enm83Man
over a year ago

Stockport

Aww man, great bit of positivity

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By *-sas-sinWoman
over a year ago

Arse end of the universe

Really pleased to read things are on the up for you, hope it all drops into place for you x

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

Congratulations op, I could definitely use a break like that. All the best in new home and job

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Congrats

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm so pleased for you.

It takes a lot to pull yourself out of the darkness. You should feel very happy with yourself for having done that. Hope life continues to treat you well x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am going through something similar.

I have been fighting depression and anxiety for a long time, but I have now been seen by the NHS mental health team. I am on antidepressants and have therapy starting soon. I have Persistent Depressive Disorder, means I am hardwired for depression, so I now have to learn to live with it.

I am also looking for a new place to live, and may have found something, just need the checks to go ok.

I am feeling a hell of a lot more positive about life, and will soon be looking for a new job, once the bloody DVLA gets my licence back to me.

If anyone is suffering, I can say that asking for help is not a bad thing. There are lots of resources out there and with a little help, and a push now and then you will be OK.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks everyone, I'm a bit of a miserable bugger sometimes and would never have said I'd sort two big problems out in the space of 3 days. It just never happens like that, but it only bloody did. So yeah, never give up, it does happen.

While I'm on a roll, who wants to suck my.........never mind, there's such a thing as pushing your luck

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By *enm83Man
over a year ago

Stockport

"Thanks everyone, I'm a bit of a miserable bugger sometimes and would never have said I'd sort two big problems out in the space of 3 days. It just never happens like that, but it only bloody did. So yeah, never give up, it does happen.

While I'm on a roll, who wants to suck my.........never mind, there's such a thing as pushing your luck

Glad you've got yourself sorted starting my own course of e-CBT soon.

And no sorry, but if you know any Stockport lasses that will, let me know!

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

Its brilliant to hear of things working out well in the end OP and I'm glad you've got a great story to tell going from dark times to finding your feet and starting to enjoy life again.

Its an age old cliché but one I've learned so well is that time passes and things most often do get better when you least expect it.

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By *urplechesterCouple
over a year ago

chester

That’s great news op, so pleased to hear some positive news! Thanks for sharing the positivity and great message, I’m sure a lot of us can associate

Miss pc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

True story.surround yourself with people that support you as well

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I am going through something similar.

I am also looking for a new place to live, and may have found something, just need the checks to go ok.

I am feeling a hell of a lot more positive about life, and will soon be looking for a new job, once the bloody DVLA gets my licence back to me.

If anyone is suffering, I can say that asking for help is not a bad thing. There are lots of resources out there and with a little help, and a push now and then you will be OK."

Good to hear you're on the up fella and taking control. Things changed a lot for me when I finally took meds after shunning them for years because of a bad experience on them in my teens. They seemed to lift the fog and enabling me to put energy into living and getting in the right direction, not just existing day to day. Good luck on your journey dude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yaayyy

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By *axtenMan
over a year ago

Stokesley

Well done, stay focussed!

The longer we stay in empty voids, the stronger the pull of the CBA cant-be-arsedness vacuum

We salute you sir!

This is your life, there are many lives like it, but this one is yours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Excellent mate really pleased things have worked out

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

The man Stan Bush said it best:

"You Were Born A Fighter

In The Blood A Mighty Warrior

Driven By Desire

Glory Calls, It's Waitn' For Ya

When They Try To Break You Down

You Can Take It, That Don't Shake You

When Your Back's Against The Wall

The Thrill Of The Fight's Got Ya Standin' Tall

Never Surrender

Never Say Die

You Got The Heart Of A Hero

Never Surrender

The Will To Survive

You're Standin' Strong In The Eye Of A Storm

Something Keeps Pushing You On

Never Surrender

There's A Burnin' Passion

Deep Inside, A Silent Power

With A Quick Reaction

Lightening Strikes Your Fight For Honour

Winners Have A Price To Pay

You Can Taste It

That Don't Change It

You're Not There To Take The Fall

You'll Fight To The End And You'll Take It All

Never Surrender

Never Say Die

You Got The Heart Of A Hero

Never Surrender

Keep It Alive

You're Standin' Strong In The Eye Of A Storm

Something Keeps Pushing You On

Never Surrender

You'll Never Stop 'Til You're Number One

It's Only A Matter Of Time

You'll Never Give Up

You'll Never Run

You're Layin' Your Life On The Line

Never Surrender (Never Surrender)

Never Say Die (Don't Stop)

(Never Surrender) Got The Will to Survive

Never Surrender (Don't Stop)

(Never Surrender) Yeah Yeah Yeah Yeah

(Don't Stop) (Never Surrender)

(Don't Stop) (Never Surrender)"

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

That's fantastic to read OP, I hope the light continues shining for you and you're happy in the days to come.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Congratulations OP! Been in the job hunting situation one too many times myself and people underestimate how lonely and isolating it can be. All the best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fabulous news OP, really chuffed for you, I do love it when a plan comes together. Onwards and upwards, 2022 will be a great one for you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A year ago I was in a very miserable place, I thought I was stuck in a horrible controlling relationship, had a job I despised and incredibly lonely.

I accepted the reality of the relationship and ended it back in January and so the quest for a new job and home began.

Last week the house I was moving into at the weekend fell through and the job I'd been offered had gone silent.

This week I viewed a really nice flat, so didn't think I'd get it, on Monday and had a job interview this morning after applying then bumping into, unbeknown to me, the company owner last week.

I only got both

Aww I'm so glad to see your journey took a slightly different route and worked out for you!

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By *not123Couple
over a year ago

sp1

Such good news for you very glad to hear things have turned a corner and sounding optimistic for you.

Hopefully my life will change for the better soon, stuck so.far in a rut. Feel so crap.but I keep the fake smile n laughter going and caring about every one else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This really is lovely news for you OP and huge congratulations and best wishes on your new life adventure.

NBVN x

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Love this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What a great uplifting message good positivity for everybody and wish you all the best and everybody else reading! peace and love!

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Great news

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By *anilla switchWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire

"A year ago I was in a very miserable place, I thought I was stuck in a horrible controlling relationship, had a job I despised and incredibly lonely.

I accepted the reality of the relationship and ended it back in January and so the quest for a new job and home began.

Last week the house I was moving into at the weekend fell through and the job I'd been offered had gone silent.

This week I viewed a really nice flat, so didn't think I'd get it, on Monday and had a job interview this morning after applying then bumping into, unbeknown to me, the company owner last week.

I only got both

Glad to hear this op… please send some positive vibes my way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Congratulations and good luck with the new exciting chapter. Its nice when things start falling into place..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Such good news for you very glad to hear things have turned a corner and sounding optimistic for you.

Hopefully my life will change for the better soon, stuck so.far in a rut. Feel so crap.but I keep the fake smile n laughter going and caring about every one else. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Such good news for you very glad to hear things have turned a corner and sounding optimistic for you.

Hopefully my life will change for the better soon, stuck so.far in a rut. Feel so crap.but I keep the fake smile n laughter going and caring about every one else. "

Keep plugging away, over all it's been about 5-6 years since I started loosing myself, as it were. It's been pretty bleak at times, started with a Councillor, facing some truths, then meds. Keep your rudder straight and true and you will reach the shore. I hope you see it soon

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's good to hear your positives x

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Good to hear, all the best for the next chapter

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

"A year ago I was in a very miserable place, I thought I was stuck in a horrible controlling relationship, had a job I despised and incredibly lonely.

I accepted the reality of the relationship and ended it back in January and so the quest for a new job and home began.

Last week the house I was moving into at the weekend fell through and the job I'd been offered had gone silent.

This week I viewed a really nice flat, so didn't think I'd get it, on Monday and had a job interview this morning after applying then bumping into, unbeknown to me, the company owner last week.

I only got both

Happy to hear this and so pleased thinks are looking up for you.

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

This is so lovely

congratulations OP! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There’s only one person can make a change and it’s yourself

Others can offer support but you have to get up dust off and get going

So we’ll done!

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

That is fantastic to hear OP

Life can change so much so quickly.

I lost my job last year and was forced to move to a smaller place and ended a relationship that was going nowhere.

Within the space of a month I found a lovely little place to live, I got offered a job, which I took reluctantly as it wasn’t what I wanted but then within the training period got offered the TL role and I joined FAB and within 2 weeks I started speaking to C….

It just shows that life can turn around so fast. Like you say, keep the glimmer of light going…

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