FabSwingers.com forum: Why do women never message first

By *usty555 OP Man
over a year ago

pontypool

I’m just curious as I’m not saying women never do it’s just more common for the man to make the first step

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

I would and do if I liked the look and sound of someone..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some woman do

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

My other half did

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By *usty555 OP Man
over a year ago

pontypool

"I would and do if I liked the look and sound of someone..

Maybe I just haven’t been that lucky thanks for replying tho x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've messaged first a few times.

I'd rather be the hunter than the prey

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I do

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I do x

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By *usty555 OP Man
over a year ago

pontypool

"I've messaged first a few times.

I'd rather be the hunter than the prey

Hahah I like the sound of that x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not my experience

(Or am I winding you up ...)

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

Same reason they never approach guys on a night out

Why risk facing rejection when it’s being thrown at you from every direction anyways

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By *usty555 OP Man
over a year ago

pontypool

"I do x"

;-)

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

I do, gotta go for what you want on here

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

Hmm this could be interesting

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By *iss pleasuringWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near

I've messaged a few . I'm just a predator

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not happened yet but there’s always hope after reading this thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rarely msg first, think it's a confidence issue. x

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

Some do..some are proactive, makes sense to me they know better than any words they could use what they find attractive.

I've received many without contacting the ladies initially.

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By *usty555 OP Man
over a year ago

pontypool

"I rarely msg first, think it's a confidence issue. x"

Is men are the same tho some lack confidence or scared of the rejection

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By *unkym34Man
over a year ago

London

I’ve had messages first

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By *each_PittWoman
over a year ago

Belfast

I do. If you don't ask you won't get

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've messaged a few . I'm just a predator "

Think all the predators in my area have been slaughtered or run away!

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Bedford (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

I do too ... probably more Forum girlies do than others?? Maybe?

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By *unkym34Man
over a year ago

London

I do too ... probably more Forum girlies do than others?? Maybe?

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oi where’s my message lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have bouts of searching and messaging!

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By *piderBunnyCouple
over a year ago

Back of Nowhere and Beyond

I have done a few times when I've found the big girl pants. But it takes a long while to find that nerve.

Fear of rejection.

Posh

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By *usty555 OP Man
over a year ago

pontypool

"I have done a few times when I've found the big girl pants. But it takes a long while to find that nerve.

Fear of rejection.

Posh

Same for us men tho

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

"I’m just curious as I’m not saying women never do it’s just more common for the man to make the first step "

Women don't have too. If men didn't do it, women probably would have too.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

I think if a lady has viewed,it's partly like taking the first step.then to send them a message and get a response is an accomplishment have to remember amount of negative effects which women unexpectedly receive so tread carefully so seeing a lovely message is an achievement

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

They do message first.

Every conversation I've had since the beginning of 2020 has been initiated by a woman because I don't send messages.

Some of them have admitted that they never send first contact messages but my bio and forum comments encouraged them to do so.

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

They do. You just have to be approachable

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Most of my meets I messaged first.

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By *yrdsisWoman
over a year ago

Gleam Street

Every message I've sent has been a resounding no...

Does it put me off? Naw... I'll keep trying

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Bedford (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

I do too ... probably more Forum girlies do than others?? Maybe?

oi where’s my message lol

Haha ...damn pigeon lost again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't put it down to a particular sex OP but down to the individual as to whether they would send the first message or not.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

They do, you just have to be what they are looking for.

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By *ean counterMan
over a year ago

Market Harborough/ Kettering

I don't send initial messages as they tend to get binned with the other 250 messages that the lady has received that day so I wait for them to message me and yes it does happen occasionally

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By *scobar67Man
over a year ago

glasgow

Some do... But they get that much mail they can choose who they prefer to chat with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Err. I do. When I want to. Rarely but do.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

The handful of women who have messaged me first have ALWAYS been outside of my locality, i.e. outside of London.

That doesn't mean London women don't message men. But it's been my personal experience.

But look at the empirical evidence of this thread: so far - as I write this - all the responses have been from non-London women.

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By *urora1912Woman
over a year ago

Norfolk East anglia

I do if I like the look of someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The handful of women who have messaged me first have ALWAYS been outside of my locality, i.e. outside of London.

That doesn't mean London women don't message men. But it's been my personal experience.

But look at the empirical evidence of this thread: so far - as I write this - all the responses have been from non-London women.

And got you there haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They do. When a profile has something on it that makes them want to message….. maybe have a look on your own doorstep OP

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By *oublethefunMan
over a year ago

royston

Most couples and single wimen have no need to message first as each day they get inundated with messages.

If any are from someone that they may wish to chat to then I'm sure they will.

It's not often if not ever we have looked for people within our area as get hundreds of messages every day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would if I liked what I read and saw.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So they probably don't message first for the same reason I'm reluctant to message first, it's always that worry of rejection.

Being very selective too doesn't help my case anyway, and I suppose with so much for them to choose from, I always assume they found what they were looking for, which wasn't me

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

They do. Who said they don’t?

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

"The handful of women who have messaged me first have ALWAYS been outside of my locality, i.e. outside of London.

That doesn't mean London women don't message men. But it's been my personal experience.

But look at the empirical evidence of this thread: so far - as I write this - all the responses have been from non-London women.

And got you there haha"

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You did, your Ladyship!!

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Some people also need to remember most women chat with each other about any guy but sure enough if a woman sees something she likes she will message

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By *igJFromSAMan
over a year ago

Woking

I don't think I've ever received a first message from a woman, a few from couples, so might have been a woman.

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By *oublethefunMan
over a year ago

royston

You also need to take into account that most wimen don't concider messaging a profile full of cock pics as they much prefer to see a nice torso and bum and dare I say a face pic as there needs to be an attraction to someone first before they may wish to meet someone.

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By *r SensualMan
over a year ago

London

I’ve had a few women message me first so some definitely do if they like the look and sound of your profile. Always quite refreshing when it does happen

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

I do, if you don’t ask you’ll never know

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I would if I liked someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have messaged first.

I am happy to pay a compliment regarding pics or forum contribution, plus initiate conversation if I am attracted to someone.

NBVN x

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I'm lazy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm lazy."

Nice

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By *usty555 OP Man
over a year ago

pontypool

"I have messaged first.

I am happy to pay a compliment regarding pics or forum contribution, plus initiate conversation if I am attracted to someone.

NBVN x"

It’s nice to hear I’ve been proven wrong mate I just ain’t that lucky lol

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

I don’t think I’ve received a message from a lady

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By *usty555 OP Man
over a year ago

pontypool

"I do, if you don’t ask you’ll never know "

Ooo I’m an Arsenal fan

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By *olex99Man
over a year ago

Hull

Never seen it happen yet but we live in hope

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By *ixedDevilMan
over a year ago

Bootyville

You guys get messages?

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

"I don’t think I’ve received a message from a lady

Your nose is growing…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You guys get messages?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They certainly do, I've had a few very enjoyable regular meets from women who have contacted me first. Doesn't happen much to me but it does happen

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By *inAndTonic21Couple
over a year ago

Merseyside

We would if liked look of someone

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By *ean counterMan
over a year ago

Market Harborough/ Kettering

I get them all day every day normally with naked photos attached and suggestions of kinky sex, I just choose to ignore these sex starved deprived peverted ladies

Honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rarely message first, but when I do, its because I'm feeling brave!!!

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Because I'm not attracted to someone by looking at their dick

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By *errocaWoman
over a year ago

Shropshire

I message guys first all the time.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

"I don’t think I’ve received a message from a lady

Your nose is growing…"

That’s not my nose

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

"You guys get messages?"

"Messages"? "Messages"?? Hang about I thought this was the "Massages" thread! As you were.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too shy...

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

"I don’t think I’ve received a message from a lady

Your nose is growing…

That’s not my nose

Is that why you're picking it?

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By *ixedDevilMan
over a year ago

Bootyville

"You guys get messages?

"Messages"? "Messages"?? Hang about I thought this was the "Massages" thread! As you were.

Easy mistake to make

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always message first. And I'm lazy.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Never have busy replying to incoming messages x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think women msg if they see something they want or like. Yea some might wink at you instead and some might not want to msg first. But from my experience here women msg me first fairly often.

I don't really think women play it coy on this site tbh

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By *panking masterMan
over a year ago

Washington

"I’m just curious as I’m not saying women never do it’s just more common for the man to make the first step "
more than likely its because they are too busy replying the the stack or messages they receive for loads of guys,,

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By *uddy laneMan
over a year ago

dudley

"I’m just curious as I’m not saying women never do it’s just more common for the man to make the first step "

It's madness I know it's like it's all.. one step beyond.. duu duu duu ..

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By *rsPricklePantsWoman
over a year ago

Room 237 at The Overlook Hotel, Suffolk

I've messaged first when the mood takes me

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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago

Orpington

Some do

... and those women are awsome

BUT, if you would get hundreds if not thousand of messages every single day, that you can have your pick from, would you still message first?

...common, I know you wouldn't

If cocks would be less easy to obtain...I reckon more women on fab would make an effort and start messaging first

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I do, usually to new men to welcome them to the site. They generally think they will do better, if they respond to my message, so it rarely goes far.

Or, I get blocked.

Basically, I have the male experience of Fab when I message first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some of my best meets (from those long gone days when I actually had meets) were from women who messaged me first, some from random areas of the country who lurked in the forum without ever posting. So it can happen.

No bugger ever chats me up these days mind. And that was bloody years ago when I was just a mere pup in Fab terms!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone has sparked my interest with a post or even a picture I’ve been inclined to comment show appreciation but only if attracted to

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

If C seen a profile that intrigued her she’d message them no problem…and that would be fine by me…I enjoy her going hunting

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

I think it depends for me. If it’s one of my bi fem female profiles they normally answer me back quite quickly.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I do if I'm genuinely interested in someone. I'd go so far as to say all of my successful meets (so all bar one) have stemmed from me messaging first - whether that's from a forum post or a status or idle searching.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I think it depends for me. If it’s one of my bi fem female profiles they normally answer me back quite quickly.

I know I messaged you first!

Before I was Lickety and before I was on the forum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it depends for me. If it’s one of my bi fem female profiles they normally answer me back quite quickly.

How nice to see your name pop up in The Forums again Funky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Likewise

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

"I think it depends for me. If it’s one of my bi fem female profiles they normally answer me back quite quickly.

I know I messaged you first!

Before I was Lickety and before I was on the forum.

Ah yes that rings my/a bell. You figment!

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

"I think it depends for me. If it’s one of my bi fem female profiles they normally answer me back quite quickly.

How nice to see your name pop up in The Forums again Funky

Cheers brah nice to see a few peeps I know! Xoxo

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley

I'm not sure it actually happens I've had some from couples.

The irony is there's a woman on this thread I messaged about 2 years ago but got no response!

However a few weeks ago I bumped into her and her friend in a club. Got on really well and went to a room twice!.

Since then sadly things have soured due to events she set up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who said that??!! I’ve sent a cheeky first message a few times

For the exceptionals

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes they do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t need to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do if a someone catches my eye

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

I woke up to a message from an older woman this morning.

Then after I replied to my Nan and when I logged onto fab I had a message from a very sexy lady which has come out of the blue.

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By *c5th XXXMan
over a year ago

boston

I have had a few message me first make a cracking day when I get one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not sure it actually happens I've had some from couples.

The irony is there's a woman on this thread I messaged about 2 years ago but got no response!

However a few weeks ago I bumped into her and her friend in a club. Got on really well and went to a room twice!.

Since then sadly things have soured due to events she set up. "

What events?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have had a few messages from woman first also!!

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By *BootyfulDayWoman
over a year ago

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I do....it might be I've noticed them on the forums or if they have interesting pics that make me intrigued or a well thought out profile that stands out from the generic single male boring profile I'll message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get an ego boost when my inbox is bulging with messages from desperate men. I won't get that boost if I message them first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They don't need to. Most are overwhelmed with messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was messaged first by one extremely attractive forumite last week, they offered to do a social meet cos we live quite close to each other. Didnt go ahead though cos i had nothing off them about what time to meet

It happens, theres just a lot women already have to go through before your ticket is up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some do

... and those women are awsome

BUT, if you would get hundreds if not thousand of messages every single day, that you can have your pick from, would you still message first?

...common, I know you wouldn't

If cocks would be less easy to obtain...I reckon more women on fab would make an effort and start messaging first

Well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't, I just prefer the men messaging first. They know where I am if they're interested x

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

I’ve had a few from women first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They do message first! I’d say with my profile it’s pretty 50:50.

I haven’t seen your profile, but start with you - what can you change? What can you add in? Sometimes leaving more up to the imagination can get you those messages.

Also chat rooms are good too x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get an ego boost when my inbox is bulging with messages from desperate men. I won't get that boost if I message them first."

Don’t ever change

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By *ensual-dominant-passionMan
over a year ago

sheffield

Lol because it is a buffet of men for women on here… put yourselves in their shoes… if you received 900 messages a day from women… would you even search through profiles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been known to message first..

I also chat up men in bars..

If you see something you like, I figure why wait for them..

But then I’m a forward, outgoing kinda chick.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"Lol because it is a buffet of men for women on here… put yourselves in their shoes… if you received 900 messages a day from women… would you even search through profiles "

Exactly this! X

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By *eardedman7Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

In,

To message me if you want haha

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley

"I'm not sure it actually happens I've had some from couples.

The irony is there's a woman on this thread I messaged about 2 years ago but got no response!

However a few weeks ago I bumped into her and her friend in a club. Got on really well and went to a room twice!.

Since then sadly things have soured due to events she set up.

What events?"

I got played that's all I can say.

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By *anae21Woman
over a year ago

Nearer than you think

I have. I do. I will.

It's often from contact made here in the forums, but I certainly don't always wait for the man to message first.

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By *rchitectMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

How amazing it would be to get a message from a female.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"I’m just curious as I’m not saying women never do it’s just more common for the man to make the first step "

It may be that you haven't been contacted by a woman who isn't actually a man, doesn't mean it doesn't happen though.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"How amazing it would be to get a message from a female."

Female what? Or do you mean women?

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By *ussle SproutMan
over a year ago

the middle

I look at it like this, if they look at your profile and it doesn’t make them want to send a message they won’t.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure a woman will message first if they see something they like. Suppose there has to be a wanting, just the same as I wouldn't message first if I wasn't interested.

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

They do! We got a message from a "Woman", "Her" 2nd message asked what we were in to. When we replied it's on our profile the message got deleted and we never heard from her again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They do! We got a message from a "Woman", "Her" 2nd message asked what we were in to. When we replied it's on our profile the message got deleted and we never heard from her again

Yeah… they don’t like it up um.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not sure it actually happens I've had some from couples.

The irony is there's a woman on this thread I messaged about 2 years ago but got no response!

However a few weeks ago I bumped into her and her friend in a club. Got on really well and went to a room twice!.

Since then sadly things have soured due to events she set up.

What events?

I got played that's all I can say. "

You got played after hooking up in a club, wow some people are aweful

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley

"I'm not sure it actually happens I've had some from couples.

The irony is there's a woman on this thread I messaged about 2 years ago but got no response!

However a few weeks ago I bumped into her and her friend in a club. Got on really well and went to a room twice!.

Since then sadly things have soured due to events she set up.

What events?

I got played that's all I can say.

You got played after hooking up in a club, wow some people are aweful

There was a bit more to it than that!. But yes I should have realised earlier tbh

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By *onesome swingerMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I've been winked first so i followed it up with a message and it turned out to be a very fun morning, chatting and swapping photos and videos.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

"I have been known to message first..

I also chat up men in bars.."

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I had to do a double-take on that - I thought you said "men in bras".

And I was about to place an order at Rigby & Peller!

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By *moothshaftMan
over a year ago

Coventry

This is a woman's world on here. We are outnumbered thousands to one, so I always feel it's a woman's prerogative to message first, and for us not to make a nuisance of ourselves. Probably why my inbox rarely lights up!

Just my take on it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This past week I have made the first contact several times after seeing a meet post and success club socials so can happen with successful outcome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I look at it like this, if they look at your profile and it doesn’t make them want to send a message they won’t.

You win today's Internet!!

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Bedford (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

"I look at it like this, if they look at your profile and it doesn’t make them want to send a message they won’t.

You win today's Internet!!

Yep, he's got it!

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

"I look at it like this, if they look at your profile and it doesn’t make them want to send a message they won’t."

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Hmmm, not necessarily so...

On a couple of occasions I've contacted women who looked at my profile:

The first one was too shy to message me. The rest is history.

The second one admitted she looked at mine along with 100 others in a fleeting moment without taking it all in. Her intention was to go back to mine and a couple of others and take it from there...

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By *issYeuxBleusWoman
over a year ago

My boudoir - S Wales

I send messages to people I’m attracted to.

Or people I get on well with in the forums.

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By *rMojoRisinMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

I’ve been messaged first, on more than one occasion?!

Perhaps I imagined it though…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I send messages to people I’m attracted to.

Or people I get on well with in the forums.

Exactly this, if you have some kind of interest then most likely you will message them

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I have quite often messaged first on here .It could be from a comment on the forums or a profile that I like but I don't have an issue with sending a first message.It also made me realise how hard it can be to send a first message to someone.

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By *ussle SproutMan
over a year ago

the middle

"I look at it like this, if they look at your profile and it doesn’t make them want to send a message they won’t.

You win today's Internet!!

Can I win the crisps instead please?

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By *moothGrooveWoman
over a year ago

Durham

I have done..... Twice

One told me I he liked 'real women' (I am assuming he meant I didn't have a full enough figure for his tastes, which is absolutely fine but there is a way of putting it!) The other one was so surprised a woman had messaged him first he wanted me to jump through hoops to prove I was real

Now I just sit back and let the guys do the hard work and try to reply as respectfully as I can x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The handful of women who have messaged me first have ALWAYS been outside of my locality, i.e. outside of London.

That doesn't mean London women don't message men. But it's been my personal experience.

But look at the empirical evidence of this thread: so far - as I write this - all the responses have been from non-London women.

^ This!!!

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By *ooBulMan
over a year ago

Missin’ Yo’ Kissin’

Convention - it's just the way it is....?

Cos she can?

Testing to see if you have balls?

I dunno...???

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By *ylonloverxxMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

Maybe because there's a greater ratio of men to women...... I'm still getting used to this site and alot of female profiles say how they get "100s of messages a day" and too "make your message stand out.

Of course this is just my observation, I guess the only people who can give a good answer are the ladies

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By *..FirstMan
over a year ago

london

They can sit on the backsides and the boys come sniffing and act in any way they choose and will still have enough cocks hovering after those with pride have left them alone.

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By *rMojoRisinMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

"I have done..... Twice

Now I just sit back and let the guys do the hard work and try to reply as respectfully as I can x"

Silly sods!

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Nowhere

Im checking my filters because i think i may have missed 100’s maybe 1000’s of ‘Hey - Captain Stud - come here and give me a ride on that loverocket you have there!!’ Messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

[Removed by poster at 24/11/21 14:13:33]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do people post a thread title and then contradict the title with the opening post

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"The handful of women who have messaged me first have ALWAYS been outside of my locality, i.e. outside of London.

That doesn't mean London women don't message men. But it's been my personal experience.

But look at the empirical evidence of this thread: so far - as I write this - all the responses have been from non-London women.

^ This!!!"

I've done the Fab-man thing and messaged men in areas I'm about to visit. I do all the work, it will be my hotel room and after agreeing it all I have had only ever had one man turn up.

In London, the travel to visit time determines whether I would bother to try and arrange something. I'm not crossing the River to be ghosted.

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley

"This past week I have made the first contact several times after seeing a meet post and success club socials so can happen with successful outcome

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yes it can have a successful outcome sadly it can also be the opposite. Depending on whether the other person is treated with respect and decency!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do, quite often.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can be rare but it does definitely happen. Sometimes wonder if it’s a cultural thing more than a confidence thing.

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By *eviant KnightMan
over a year ago

Norton

I would love a message first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My favourite long(ish) term chat came from being messaged first out of the blue. It happens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a profile piques my interest I always message first

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

"In London, the travel to visit time determines whether I would bother to try and arrange something. I'm not crossing the River to be ghosted.

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Not even to escape the wanton Ringwraiths via Buckleberry Ferry?

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"In London, the travel to visit time determines whether I would bother to try and arrange something. I'm not crossing the River to be ghosted.

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Not even to escape the wanton Ringwraiths via Buckleberry Ferry?

Buckland is overrated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would and do if I liked the look and sound of someone..

Well, I'm still waiting.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because they don’t have to. Women outnumber men by such a huge amount even the female profiles with an age of 87 and no pics and no text probably get 50 mails a day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely people will only message if somebody catches their eye...

Regardless of gender..

No reply, no big deal !!

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By *his_Kitty_ScratchesWoman
over a year ago

WSM

If I found the pictures attractive, the write up interesting and leaving me to want to know more AND I match the age range/other preferences etc then I would send a message. However with so many profiles of just disembodied cocks and nothing of interest in a profile I’ll just keep moving along. Wouldn’t you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some women do. Even if it’s just a general chit chat

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

""Why do women never message first"

I’m just curious as I’m not saying women never do"

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

I received few today from those I've never chatted with before

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By *heonix_flamesWoman
over a year ago

Midlands

No confidence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dunno. Not just on here though, it took years to teach her ladyship that if she was missing me she was quite welcome to send me a message rather than wait for me to do so

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By *he_Wite_NiteMan
over a year ago

Usually Dundee and around

"It’s nice to hear I’ve been proven wrong mate I just ain’t that lucky lol "

Maybe ladies don't message first to guys with a dick-pic as their profile pic!

Probably 50% of the conversations I have are started by the ladies!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m just curious as I’m not saying women never do it’s just more common for the man to make the first step "

I actually believe this is historical. Men make the first move thing. Women at allowed to ask to marry only on a leap year. You know, the usual stuff, and that’s stayed and is in here too.

Plus, they are all busy replying to 1000s of messages from 1000s of men on here. No time to send any 1st ones out.

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By *orkshrCplCouple
over a year ago

Ripon

If I have time to browse and see someone I like I'm happy to message first

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By *onb21Woman
over a year ago

Cardiff

Because I never feel attracted to someone before they speak to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because they don't need to mostly, when you have a lot to choose from already you don't have to seek it out like guys do. I will send the first message if I'm into their profile but usually wait for a wink to be returned first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've sent maybe 2 messages out. The reality is whenever I log on I spend so long going through the ones that are coming in that I can't be bothered to or need to by the time I've done that

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