FabSwingers.com forum: Mental health

By *ustcurious1000 OP Couple
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

I know it’s a tough subject but I feel very relevant, what does everyone do to try and cheer them selves up this time of year, longer nights cold, I know I am struggling.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

On a very practical note, taking a vitim D supplement can help with winter blues.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I run so it gets me out and about away from the home. Especially if you're a home worker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keeping active. Taking to people who lift me up rather than drain me. Watching comedies. Doing things which bring a positive change to someone else. Cakes with friends out and about. Long walks. Duvet cocoons. Cuddling my cat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think there's a way to cheer anyone up, once a episode of mental health is triggered, you have to ride the storm. We focus too much on making ourselves happy again quickly but it's important to let yourself feel whatever it is your feeling. It's more that everyone has different ways of coping and for me exercise and keeping busy helps a lot, I need that distraction sometimes.

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By *tephenBunChowMan
over a year ago

Haywards heath/Waterlooville

Get out the house, find a group on meetup.com and do things that make your cheerful

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By *iscreetfuncpl12Couple
over a year ago

Somerset

Have plans for the future. They don’t have to be life changing, they could seem quite mundane to others. For example, how can I improve at a hobby, where can I visit next month/year. Then start making lists and and researching. I often drift off to sleep thinking about how I can improve my golf swing and my partner thinks about her hobbies. It puts all that more difficult stuff out of your head. They conversely could be life changing. A decade ago I was feeling down after some personal and professional setbacks and planned a complete career change. I think it is that feeling of moving forward and taking control of your life, whether minor or major that helps. I know from personal experience and there is lots of research to back this up, exercise and increasing the number of human contacts helps too.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Get out during the day, when it's sunny like it is here.

I've baked, I find it challenges me and other people always appreciate being taste testers.

Putting on my favourite music, even if it's not upbeat, I can just sing along badly.

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By *r-8-BBCMan
over a year ago

LONDON

"I know it’s a tough subject but I feel very relevant, what does everyone do to try and cheer them selves up this time of year, longer nights cold, I know I am struggling. "

Comedy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know it’s a tough subject but I feel very relevant, what does everyone do to try and cheer them selves up this time of year, longer nights cold, I know I am struggling. "

I try and push to exercise, read or escape from media platforms.

Maybe a change of scenery, a visit to a newer place or one I haven't visited for a while.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being busy and or with other people really helps. If you're feeling low then having time alone and not doing things gives you time to dwell on problems and turn things over in your head which can drag you down.

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By *uck-RogersMan
over a year ago

Tarka trail

Exercise. Get your blood a pumping to release the adrenaline . That will make you feel good. Plus have positive thoughts not negative. Laugh and smile. Oh and lots of sex.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I warm up and meditate using Tai Chi in the winter, helps me process negative thoughts when I cannot get to a beach

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Therapy

Medication

Therapy

.....and so on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use exercise and hobbies to occupy my mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cook loads of hearty winter soup. Both the cooking of, and the eating of a good broth or tattie soup really cheers me up in the winter! I think it kind of makes me feel safe as it brings back loads of childhood memories.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wrap myself in a big blanket, hot chocolate in hand and watch rubbish tele!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I paddleboard which helps me so much, I cycle too but find paddling so much better as you need full concentration to stay in the board.

Keeping busy and for me vitamin sea is the answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try and keep busy set your mind on goals you want to achieve in life, talking to people is so good when you get down

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By *ettaManMan
over a year ago

Kerry and Dublin

Meditation and sea swimming

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By *xtrafun4youMan
over a year ago

Dunstable

"On a very practical note, taking a vitim D supplement can help with winter blues."
Definitely worth taking.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

I mainly make up silly songs to entertain myself and then do things that I know I enjoy.

If I find myself getting drawn in deep then I bust out some lego and distract myself for a few hours.

I realised a long time ago that I’m the only person who can get me out of a slump, so I try to focus on known triggers to avoid feeling down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"On a very practical note, taking a vitim D supplement can help with winter blues. Definitely worth taking. "

Totally agree

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By *ooBulMan
over a year ago

Missin’ Yo’ Kissin’

Playing different styles of music!

It nourishes your soul and changes your mood.

Make up your favourite lists in youtube & play away till yer had enough.

Occasionally I play loud stuff like Carl Orff or a bit of Metallica to get rid of turbid chi in yer house.

I have metallic wind chimes & wooden ones in door too!

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By *rMojoRisinMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

I try and get warm and cosy, listen to music that makes me happy, read, cook, get out as much as I can.

That sort of shizz

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By *shoreMan
over a year ago

cork

Exercise and chat with people that make you feel good...

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By *ersey GirlCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

There is loads of things on on the run up to Xmas. Love to see what markets are always go a gig in Dec (libertines this year) Always go down to Manchester or Dublin for a few nights between Xmas and New year. Xmas has never been a time when you're stuck for things to do

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By *usty555Man
over a year ago

pontypool

I think talking helps I know it’s easier said than done but it actually does and being a man having I’ll admit having a good cry can also help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My personal therapy was buying a ton of house plants, now I pretty much have a "wellness" home.

The problem is finding someone that'll water them when I'm away =/ (I didn't say it was going to fix All my issues)

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By *aulj69Man
over a year ago

dunstable

OP I've tried sending you a PM but I'm outside your age range, I suffered from depression on and off for yrs and lived with an ex partner who had bi polar, you need to try and find what caused this and what triggers the low moods. PM me if you wanted a chat. No alterior motives I promise. Paul X

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By *not123Couple
over a year ago

sp1

"Get out the house, find a group on meetup.com and do things that make your cheerful"

What's meetup.com?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know it’s a tough subject but I feel very relevant, what does everyone do to try and cheer them selves up this time of year, longer nights cold, I know I am struggling. "

Gym sauna and an amazing wife

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By *not123Couple
over a year ago

sp1

Hide under duvet, go for a walk if I can motivate myself use.to have my dogs to take out walk miles but now.14 n 16 with arthritis so go alone clear my head cry if I need it noone about so I can.

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By *uicy 2020Woman
over a year ago

London

Definitely getting out of the house for a bit every day, brisk walking to get the blood pumping, enjoy the little things you see as you walk. Most important is having people you can talk to, even if its just for a random chat rather than about anything thats bothering you. Just being reminded that you are loved. Sending lots of hugs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sunrise clock. It turns on with a low light that brightens like a sunrise so it's bright when you wake up. Nicer than waking to a dark room.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know it’s a tough subject but I feel very relevant, what does everyone do to try and cheer them selves up this time of year, longer nights cold, I know I am struggling. "

Without wishing to belittle your reason for asking, “cheering yourself up” is a short term fix whereas “good mental health” is a long term goal. And I do say this as someone who has suffered and who’s marriage breakdown was both a symptom and part of the solution.

Physical exercise of any description will help, even regular walks.

Have something to look forward to. A holiday, a day out , a meet-up with an old friend.

Work towards a goal , even if it’s just a hobby, it gives you a target in the future and stops it being all about the now.

Don’t sit alone in silence. Even having the radio on will stop your mind working overtime.

Sleep, can’t stress how important getting enough sleep is. And if you struggle cut out any stimulants , coffee, energy drinks, alcohol etc.

Have somebody to talk to. Somebody nonjudgmental. But somebody you can trust to give you an honest opinion.

And if you’re really really struggling seek help, a doctor, a nurse , a health clinic anything. Admitting to someone else you have a problem is the first step.

Sensitive subject . If anybody does need somebody to listen my inbox is always open. I’ve been there and it’s not easy.

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By *G999Man
over a year ago

Everywhere & Nowhere

"Get out the house, find a group on meetup.com and do things that make your cheerful

What's meetup.com?"

A social networking platform that actually encourages people to meet up in their community. It's very good. You can find an sorts of interesting groups on there, and if you can't find what you're looking for, start your own group.

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