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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Its that time again for me where i start to enter a low state of being, the highs have worn off and i find myself self-deprecating, harshly pointing out my flaws, tormenting myself over ever little detail, a rigorous torture of my being

It sounds bad at first, but for me i welcome this stage, its a necessary part of the cycle for maintaining balance in my life, bringing myself back down to earth as not to suffer the same fate as Icarus. And just as you would tear a muscle as you exercise your body, i am tearing my soul with self-inflicted mental and emotional pain, so that my soul, much like my muscle fibers, can grow stronger over time

So, who else criticises themselves? Whether its your career, hobbies, social interactions and relationships etc. Do you find it helps? Or do you bring yourself down too far?

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By *hosewhomgonakedCouple
over a year ago

Scotland

It's an ongoing battle with body and mind. Seasonal changes are huge for me and I have to earth myself to keep my spirits up. I started winter swimming last year in skins, and truly feel better for it. Apart from that I go rolling in the mud and pine needles naked, what puts my energy back up!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone is their own worst critic.

Except Boris.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's an ongoing battle with body and mind. Seasonal changes are huge for me and I have to earth myself to keep my spirits up. I started winter swimming last year in skins, and truly feel better for it. Apart from that I go rolling in the mud and pine needles naked, what puts my energy back up! "

Ive heard that the sudden shock of cold water is meant to kick start your mind and body, Wim Hof has made a name for himself for world record holding of ice water swimming and meditation and written a book about it

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By *hosewhomgonakedCouple
over a year ago

Scotland

Yes I follow wim hof, not because he's Dutch like me but I really think it's amazing for your immunity and mental health to do the cold submerging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone's doing it for me this time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes I follow wim hof, not because he's Dutch like me but I really think it's amazing for your immunity and mental health to do the cold submerging"

Honestly youre brave to do it, i absolutely hate being cold with a passion, i can barely do a cold shower nevermind submerse myself in freezing cold water

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Someone's doing it for me this time."

Can you block them? Ignore them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its that time again for me where i start to enter a low state of being, the highs have worn off and i find myself self-deprecating, harshly pointing out my flaws, tormenting myself over ever little detail, a rigorous torture of my being

It sounds bad at first, but for me i welcome this stage, its a necessary part of the cycle for maintaining balance in my life, bringing myself back down to earth as not to suffer the same fate as Icarus. And just as you would tear a muscle as you exercise your body, i am tearing my soul with self-inflicted mental and emotional pain, so that my soul, much like my muscle fibers, can grow stronger over time

So, who else criticises themselves? Whether its your career, hobbies, social interactions and relationships etc. Do you find it helps? Or do you bring yourself down too far?"

Do you do it on purpose? What's the trigger?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Its that time again for me where i start to enter a low state of being, the highs have worn off and i find myself self-deprecating, harshly pointing out my flaws, tormenting myself over ever little detail, a rigorous torture of my being

It sounds bad at first, but for me i welcome this stage, its a necessary part of the cycle for maintaining balance in my life, bringing myself back down to earth as not to suffer the same fate as Icarus. And just as you would tear a muscle as you exercise your body, i am tearing my soul with self-inflicted mental and emotional pain, so that my soul, much like my muscle fibers, can grow stronger over time

So, who else criticises themselves? Whether its your career, hobbies, social interactions and relationships etc. Do you find it helps? Or do you bring yourself down too far?

Do you do it on purpose? What's the trigger?"

Well its part of the ebb and flow thats part of the human psyche, especially with depression. Its like a soundwave with peaks and troughs, there are ups and down, and i am currently entering into the inevitable down period

Rather than trying to fight it, i fuel it, i purposely torment myself so i can accept and embrace this down period as a part of my being. Just as an artist will criticise his work so they can become a better painter, i criticise myself in various aspects of my life to do better in them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its that time again for me where i start to enter a low state of being, the highs have worn off and i find myself self-deprecating, harshly pointing out my flaws, tormenting myself over ever little detail, a rigorous torture of my being

It sounds bad at first, but for me i welcome this stage, its a necessary part of the cycle for maintaining balance in my life, bringing myself back down to earth as not to suffer the same fate as Icarus. And just as you would tear a muscle as you exercise your body, i am tearing my soul with self-inflicted mental and emotional pain, so that my soul, much like my muscle fibers, can grow stronger over time

So, who else criticises themselves? Whether its your career, hobbies, social interactions and relationships etc. Do you find it helps? Or do you bring yourself down too far?

Do you do it on purpose? What's the trigger?

Well its part of the ebb and flow thats part of the human psyche, especially with depression. Its like a soundwave with peaks and troughs, there are ups and down, and i am currently entering into the inevitable down period

Rather than trying to fight it, i fuel it, i purposely torment myself so i can accept and embrace this down period as a part of my being. Just as an artist will criticise his work so they can become a better painter, i criticise myself in various aspects of my life to do better in them"

That makes sense. Can't appreciate the ups if there aren't any downs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Didn't see it this way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Someone's doing it for me this time.

Can you block them? Ignore them?

"

The damage been done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn't sound a very nice way to treat yourself

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It doesn't sound a very nice way to treat yourself "

Yes it sounds like it, but its done more good for me than if i tried to fight or ignore it

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

It's a big part of me, part of my healing process I am my own worst critic. So if others try to put me down it means nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I am my own worst critic. If I’m feeling low it’s something I do all the time. But there are times I can look at myself and think I’m not too bad for an old fat bird x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes I follow wim hof, not because he's Dutch like me but I really think it's amazing for your immunity and mental health to do the cold submerging

Honestly youre brave to do it, i absolutely hate being cold with a passion, i can barely do a cold shower nevermind submerse myself in freezing cold water "

You build up to it, you start with short periods and increase them gradually.

Do you journal?

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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Its that time again for me where i start to enter a low state of being, the highs have worn off and i find myself self-deprecating, harshly pointing out my flaws, tormenting myself over ever little detail, a rigorous torture of my being

It sounds bad at first, but for me i welcome this stage, its a necessary part of the cycle for maintaining balance in my life, bringing myself back down to earth as not to suffer the same fate as Icarus. And just as you would tear a muscle as you exercise your body, i am tearing my soul with self-inflicted mental and emotional pain, so that my soul, much like my muscle fibers, can grow stronger over time

So, who else criticises themselves? Whether its your career, hobbies, social interactions and relationships etc. Do you find it helps? Or do you bring yourself down too far?"

That's an interesting post. I think I'm fairly self positive with limited down periods. But within that I think I inhibit my personal growth.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes I follow wim hof, not because he's Dutch like me but I really think it's amazing for your immunity and mental health to do the cold submerging

Honestly youre brave to do it, i absolutely hate being cold with a passion, i can barely do a cold shower nevermind submerse myself in freezing cold water

You build up to it, you start with short periods and increase them gradually.

Do you journal?"

No ive never kept a journal, in terms of processing my emotions and feelings ive always reflected inward and used my imagination. Sort of like meditation but in my own way

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