FabSwingers.com forum: How do you get the balance right..

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

..between feeling peaceful and calm yet wanting to actively pursue people?

After the flop of lastnight when I was supposed to be meeting a dude from the real world but he never came or messaged, I feel like I do want to have a dabble again with guys but not the drama side of it.

How do you lot do it? Like the casual side of sex but without thinking about it.

I can’t deny that I’m happier, more peaceful, focused and content with my own company when there’s nobody on the scene at all, not even messaging anyone.

I had that small taste of getting back out there again and getting fucked basically but it came with the thinking, the wondering if they’ll turn up, checking my phone. It’s just hassle.

Does this make sense? How do you manage it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Real life dating these days is a massive head fuck

I feel your pain

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

If you can't do the time, don't do the crime. Unfortunately comes with territory. Flakes, no shows, incompatible schedules. You've just got to put up with it and accept it for that. Some you win, some you lose.

Sounds like it'd be good for you to go to a club.

Turn up, find someone decent, fuck, go home. The end.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have more than one playmate maybe?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Have more than one playmate maybe?"

That just sounds like even more work to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have more than one playmate maybe?

That just sounds like even more work to be honest. "

Yeah, I did think that to be honest..but ideally you just need a couple who are sound and reliable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try and make sure the rest of your life is as good as possible, lots of fun hobbies, friends who really value you. Helps with the constant knock backs. Definitely harder to date than get a meet.

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes

I definitely agree it's harder to date thats for sure. I've have more success on here than I do dating. Tells you something not quite right really but still, don't give up hope though

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

But this wasn’t even dating purposes. This was just supposed to be a casual one off fuck but it still took my attention yesterday.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

"Have more than one playmate maybe?

That just sounds like even more work to be honest. "
get yourself a spreadsheet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For a shour thing clubs that way they there other wise you will always have that unknown if they turn up or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But this wasn’t even dating purposes. This was just supposed to be a casual one off fuck but it still took my attention yesterday. "

And he didn't show? WTAF???? Madness hun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"..between feeling peaceful and calm yet wanting to actively pursue people?

How do you lot do it? Like the casual side of sex but without thinking about it.

I can’t deny that I’m happier, more peaceful, focused and content with my own company when there’s nobody on the scene at all, not even messaging anyone.

I had that small taste of getting back out there again and getting fucked basically but it came with the thinking, the wondering if they’ll turn up, checking my phone. It’s just hassle.

Does this make sense? How do you manage it? "

Save all the hard work in searching.

Go to a few socials and clubs.

Meeting people at those and talking face to face saves lots of messing around and disappointment.

It works all round for everyone who has tried it that we know.

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By *oxycouple28Couple
over a year ago

bexley

"For a shour thing clubs that way they there other wise you will always have that unknown if they turn up or not "

Totally agree, we are often short on time so usually go to clubs. We only tend to do private meets with people we have at least met before so its a known quantity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d say have a few friends for semi regular play that you can contact, most guys will make it happen around you

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes

"But this wasn’t even dating purposes. This was just supposed to be a casual one off fuck but it still took my attention yesterday. "

I say his loss then

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By *lackhammer2019Man
over a year ago

Pity you don’t live closer! Can’t see who the their right mind would want to stand you up..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For a shour thing clubs that way they there other wise you will always have that unknown if they turn up or not

Totally agree, we are often short on time so usually go to clubs. We only tend to do private meets with people we have at least met before so its a known quantity.

Yip seems that’s the best way to avoid the unknown off will they flake on me or not

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"..between feeling peaceful and calm yet wanting to actively pursue people?"

Learn from your mistakes, do it differently next time, but don’t get bitter and cynical , I’m sure you won’t you seem quite chilled about a no show which is cool.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

It's like anything in life; you have to sample many to find the best ones for you.

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By *tephanjMan
over a year ago

Kettering

Find the pivot point

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By *heron212Man
over a year ago

London

I practice The Power of Three: and these are the ones that I vet thoroughly and see because we have an understanding that is hard to come by but worth the effort.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd guess a "just a fuck" thing is gonna be the flakiest type of date. So for me, I'd not invest anything into it, be it changing my schedule, saying no to OT, or getting too excited about thinking how he's gonna be in bed.

I get that you still need to invest time in getting ready (your choice how much)... But in trying to keep up with threads, you've invested a lot in this guy. And of I'm honest, I can't see what he's done for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But this wasn’t even dating purposes. This was just supposed to be a casual one off fuck but it still took my attention yesterday.

And he didn't show? WTAF???? Madness hun

I concur, maybe he ghosted as he had to go back to the asylum, he's obviously off his rocker.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Okay so say I have a guy on here, there’s a few I’d meet in my friends list and hotlist who have expressed interest.

I don’t want to invest anything of myself into that person, conversations, building ‘some’ form of connection, not a deep connection but enough to want to have sex.

I feel like even if I care a tiny tiny amount it has the potential to disrupt my peacefulness.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

You should go on a dating show

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Real life dating these days is a massive head fuck

I feel your pain

Pete Tong! Should get a Gold medal.

Why do people think things have changed??

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

"Okay so say I have a guy on here, there’s a few I’d meet in my friends list and hotlist who have expressed interest.

I don’t want to invest anything of myself into that person, conversations, building ‘some’ form of connection, not a deep connection but enough to want to have sex.

I feel like even if I care a tiny tiny amount it has the potential to disrupt my peacefulness. "
just make sure they've been 'meet verified'. Tell them where and when and they'll most likely turn up if they've turned up somewhere else before.

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By *yron69Man
over a year ago

Fareham

Try me Anne. I can rock Wales xx

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"Okay so say I have a guy on here, there’s a few I’d meet in my friends list and hotlist who have expressed interest.

I don’t want to invest anything of myself into that person, conversations, building ‘some’ form of connection, not a deep connection but enough to want to have sex.

I feel like even if I care a tiny tiny amount it has the potential to disrupt my peacefulness. "

If you message a guy , someone you know from here or the real world. Maybe you’ve met and fucked already or are thinking about it. What’s your expectation on how quickly they should reply after reading the message. A few hours, a day, a week, a few weeks? It’ needs to be never. Then you get to keep your peace and fuck when it suits you both , it does work, there’s lots of fab relationships like this

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You should go on a dating show "

Like the undateable’s?

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Okay so say I have a guy on here, there’s a few I’d meet in my friends list and hotlist who have expressed interest.

I don’t want to invest anything of myself into that person, conversations, building ‘some’ form of connection, not a deep connection but enough to want to have sex.

I feel like even if I care a tiny tiny amount it has the potential to disrupt my peacefulness. "

That reads like you have a contradiction you need to resolve. You don't want to care, even a tiny bit as that disrupts your peace, but you need to be interested enough to want to fuck them.

Having read your posts over many years, this is progress. You're not the woman that wanted them, or you, to devote considerable time and effort to be ready for the meet.

If it's just sex then a meet request on the day you're free will fill your inbox and you can pick three in the hope that one will turn up. I don't think you'd enjoy that.

I seek a connection because that makes the sex better for me. But as I've only had one meet since September 2019 I don't create any expectations for myself. If it happens it happens. If it doesn't then I enjoy the clean sheets or the chance to watch a film.

Only you can control your mind and the peace you want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would clubs not be a better option? Turn up when you want, play with who you want on your terms in safety and no emotional investment needed. Once you leave, it's left behind until the next time you decide to go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get yourself hooked up with a couple of booty call type fellas, just for when you need that itch scratching.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Okay so say I have a guy on here, there’s a few I’d meet in my friends list and hotlist who have expressed interest.

I don’t want to invest anything of myself into that person, conversations, building ‘some’ form of connection, not a deep connection but enough to want to have sex.

I feel like even if I care a tiny tiny amount it has the potential to disrupt my peacefulness. just make sure they've been 'meet verified'. Tell them where and when and they'll most likely turn up if they've turned up somewhere else before. "

It's an indicator I use but it's no guarantee. I've had no shows from men I've known for years and have met previously. I've arranged to meet men at socials and they've set themselves up with others on the same arrangement to see who they decide they want at the end of the night (usually none of us).

The same words can mean different things to different people.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Nothing really to add from my point of view. Having been together 30 years I couldn't imagine trying to date again it all seems a lot more complicated these days. The premise might be the same as it always was but dating seems to be the one area where technology is not making it easier.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"Would clubs not be a better option? Turn up when you want, play with who you want on your terms in safety and no emotional investment needed. Once you leave, it's left behind until the next time you decide to go. "

In a club you're limited to whoever is there at the time.

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By *oxycouple28Couple
over a year ago

bexley

In a club you're limited to whoever is there at the time."

True, but people are serious enough to have turned up in the first place

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley

"Have more than one playmate maybe?"

Works for me, until they want the same day!

Normally I wait for the call. As one of my exes memorably said: "I think everyone likes sex now and then".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In a club you're limited to whoever is there at the time.

True, but people are serious enough to have turned up in the first place"

This and there's no chatting and arranging beforehand so no emotional investment or let down if they don't show

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP.

Your profile states you aren't looking for anyone or anything.

Perhaps a rewrite is in order so people understand where you are coming from.

The comments you have left do contradict what you have said in earlier posts.

It seems like you don't really know what you want.

Perhaps taking a break from Fab or posting for a while might help you rethink what you really want

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

In a club you're limited to whoever is there at the time.

True, but people are serious enough to have turned up in the first place"

Assuming that there's physical attraction.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Can imagine me getting myself ready to go to one of these clubs and not finding anyone there that I fancy. Then I’d be double annoyed. Plus I think the only one down here smells like feet.

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley

"...

In a club you're limited to whoever is there at the time."

Mainly desperate blokes, often from not very permissive cultures, poor ***s!

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Can imagine me getting myself ready to go to one of these clubs and not finding anyone there that I fancy. Then I’d be double annoyed. Plus I think the only one down here smells like feet. "

Didn't you like men's feet?

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

"You should go on a dating show

Like the undateable’s? "

You said it, not me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't bother with men, stick to self pleasure. Maybe not quite as satisfying but a hell of a lot easier.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You should go on a dating show

Like the undateable’s?

You said it, not me "

Why wouldn’t you date me?

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

"You should go on a dating show

Like the undateable’s?

You said it, not me

Why wouldn’t you date me?"

My mum always says if you’ve got nothing nice to say, say nothing at all

So, nothing at all

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You should go on a dating show

Like the undateable’s?

You said it, not me

Why wouldn’t you date me?

My mum always says if you’ve got nothing nice to say, say nothing at all

So, nothing at all "

Looks aside I can accept not being attracted to me but what was the pivotal point that made you decide I was horrible?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't bother with men, stick to self pleasure. Maybe not quite as satisfying but a hell of a lot easier. "
the rejection hurts so much more when it's self pleasure ....

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By *uietly_KinkyMan
over a year ago

High Wycombe

I find that being completely undesirable sorts out the balance for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You should go on a dating show

Like the undateable’s?

You said it, not me

Why wouldn’t you date me?

My mum always says if you’ve got nothing nice to say, say nothing at all

So, nothing at all

Looks aside I can accept not being attracted to me but what was the pivotal point that made you decide I was horrible? "

He didn't say you were horrible?

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

Just block of emotional attachment, you need to just remind yourself it's just fun and nothing more.

I use to find it difficult but now I'm not looking for a relationship it's a lot easier.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

"You should go on a dating show

Like the undateable’s?

You said it, not me

Why wouldn’t you date me?

My mum always says if you’ve got nothing nice to say, say nothing at all

So, nothing at all

Looks aside I can accept not being attracted to me but what was the pivotal point that made you decide I was horrible? "

You are attractive, but seem self obsessed, mean and ignorant of the fact. Plus I don’t date people with kids. And you put your tree up way too early

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You should go on a dating show

Like the undateable’s?

You said it, not me

Why wouldn’t you date me?

My mum always says if you’ve got nothing nice to say, say nothing at all

So, nothing at all

Looks aside I can accept not being attracted to me but what was the pivotal point that made you decide I was horrible?

You are attractive, but seem self obsessed, mean and ignorant of the fact. Plus I don’t date people with kids. And you put your tree up way too early "

The tree thing would be a deal breaker for me too

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By *ustme34Man
over a year ago

Bingley

"But this wasn’t even dating purposes. This was just supposed to be a casual one off fuck but it still took my attention yesterday. "
if you 'want' it, it will take attention... its Just finding someone your willing to put the attention with . If its a 1 off youll decide then if it was worth it . There might be a couple of 'not' worth it guys before the guy thats worth it again and again comes along. The 'play' /'life' balance is only for you to decide . And then if the 1 that was worth it , is worth fitting into the life part aswell as the play part.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

"You should go on a dating show

Like the undateable’s?

You said it, not me

Why wouldn’t you date me?

My mum always says if you’ve got nothing nice to say, say nothing at all

So, nothing at all

Looks aside I can accept not being attracted to me but what was the pivotal point that made you decide I was horrible?

You are attractive, but seem self obsessed, mean and ignorant of the fact. Plus I don’t date people with kids. And you put your tree up way too early

The tree thing would be a deal breaker for me too

I almost didn’t mention it, didn’t wanna be too mean. But seriously mariah carey hasn’t even defrosted yet and she’s got the tree up. Red flag

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley

My mum always says if you’ve got nothing nice to say, say nothing at all

... "

That doesn't sound a very nice thing to say!

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Quite simply I just see each one as a spur of the moment meeting a friend for a drink. If it doesn’t happen it doesn’t happen, I wouldn’t be upset with a friend if they couldn’t make it.

It is switching yourself off though afterwards, enjoy the moment for what it was then forget about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You should go on a dating show

Like the undateable’s?

You said it, not me

Why wouldn’t you date me?

My mum always says if you’ve got nothing nice to say, say nothing at all

So, nothing at all

Looks aside I can accept not being attracted to me but what was the pivotal point that made you decide I was horrible?

You are attractive, but seem self obsessed, mean and ignorant of the fact. Plus I don’t date people with kids. And you put your tree up way too early

The tree thing would be a deal breaker for me too

I almost didn’t mention it, didn’t wanna be too mean. But seriously mariah carey hasn’t even defrosted yet and she’s got the tree up. Red flag "

Omg! Really, an early tree is a red flag

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"You should go on a dating show

Like the undateable’s?

You said it, not me

Why wouldn’t you date me?

My mum always says if you’ve got nothing nice to say, say nothing at all

So, nothing at all

Looks aside I can accept not being attracted to me but what was the pivotal point that made you decide I was horrible?

You are attractive, but seem self obsessed, mean and ignorant of the fact. Plus I don’t date people with kids. And you put your tree up way too early "

The early tree is forgivable , it’s even redeeming. Don’t start hating on Christmas decs

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

"You should go on a dating show

Like the undateable’s?

You said it, not me

Why wouldn’t you date me?

My mum always says if you’ve got nothing nice to say, say nothing at all

So, nothing at all

Looks aside I can accept not being attracted to me but what was the pivotal point that made you decide I was horrible?

You are attractive, but seem self obsessed, mean and ignorant of the fact. Plus I don’t date people with kids. And you put your tree up way too early

The tree thing would be a deal breaker for me too

I almost didn’t mention it, didn’t wanna be too mean. But seriously mariah carey hasn’t even defrosted yet and she’s got the tree up. Red flag

Omg! Really, an early tree is a red flag

Spotted the other person that’s got their tree up early

Red flags

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By *amie HantsWoman
over a year ago

Atlantis

…I almost didn’t mention it, didn’t wanna be too mean. But seriously mariah carey hasn’t even defrosted yet and she’s got the tree up. Red flag "

I’m not anti tree but this was funny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You should go on a dating show

Like the undateable’s?

You said it, not me

Why wouldn’t you date me?

My mum always says if you’ve got nothing nice to say, say nothing at all

So, nothing at all

Looks aside I can accept not being attracted to me but what was the pivotal point that made you decide I was horrible?

You are attractive, but seem self obsessed, mean and ignorant of the fact. Plus I don’t date people with kids. And you put your tree up way too early

The tree thing would be a deal breaker for me too

I almost didn’t mention it, didn’t wanna be too mean. But seriously mariah carey hasn’t even defrosted yet and she’s got the tree up. Red flag

Omg! Really, an early tree is a red flag

Spotted the other person that’s got their tree up early

Red flags "

I haven’t, but seriously, calling that a red flag is ridiculous!

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

"You should go on a dating show

Like the undateable’s?

You said it, not me

Why wouldn’t you date me?

My mum always says if you’ve got nothing nice to say, say nothing at all

So, nothing at all

Looks aside I can accept not being attracted to me but what was the pivotal point that made you decide I was horrible?

You are attractive, but seem self obsessed, mean and ignorant of the fact. Plus I don’t date people with kids. And you put your tree up way too early

The tree thing would be a deal breaker for me too

I almost didn’t mention it, didn’t wanna be too mean. But seriously mariah carey hasn’t even defrosted yet and she’s got the tree up. Red flag

Omg! Really, an early tree is a red flag

Spotted the other person that’s got their tree up early

Red flags

I haven’t, but seriously, calling that a red flag is ridiculous!"

Not spotting the humour in the ridiculousness is another red flag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You should go on a dating show

Like the undateable’s?

You said it, not me

Why wouldn’t you date me?

My mum always says if you’ve got nothing nice to say, say nothing at all

So, nothing at all

Looks aside I can accept not being attracted to me but what was the pivotal point that made you decide I was horrible?

You are attractive, but seem self obsessed, mean and ignorant of the fact. Plus I don’t date people with kids. And you put your tree up way too early

The tree thing would be a deal breaker for me too

I almost didn’t mention it, didn’t wanna be too mean. But seriously mariah carey hasn’t even defrosted yet and she’s got the tree up. Red flag

Omg! Really, an early tree is a red flag

Spotted the other person that’s got their tree up early

Red flags

I haven’t, but seriously, calling that a red flag is ridiculous!

Not spotting the humour in the ridiculousness is another red flag "

Sure, ok

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

…I almost didn’t mention it, didn’t wanna be too mean. But seriously mariah carey hasn’t even defrosted yet and she’s got the tree up. Red flag

I’m not anti tree but this was funny "

Wish everyone was switched on enough to see the joke

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only thing a girl can rely upon his her doxy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quite honestly i dont give a fuck thats how i get on, my right hand works, my left hands ad's a certain spice once sat on (for extra numbness for that 3rd person handjob feeling) i just crack on without a care in the world

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By *illbilly47Man
over a year ago

Faversham

"Okay so say I have a guy on here, there’s a few I’d meet in my friends list and hotlist who have expressed interest.

I don’t want to invest anything of myself into that person, conversations, building ‘some’ form of connection, not a deep connection but enough to want to have sex.

I feel like even if I care a tiny tiny amount it has the potential to disrupt my peacefulness. "

It sounds like you need to take some time out and just concentrate on yourself. You might be trying too hard to make something out of a possibility. You’ll meet someone in the most unexpected place at the most unexpected time and that’s when it’ll happen.

Also I say start celebrating Xmas now. The earlier the better for me

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley

…I almost didn’t mention it, didn’t wanna be too mean. But seriously mariah carey hasn’t even defrosted yet and she’s got the tree up. Red flag

I’m not anti tree but this was funny

Wish everyone was switched on enough to see the joke

The consensus would appear to be that having the tree up too early is no joke.

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over a year ago

"You should go on a dating show

Like the undateable’s?

You said it, not me

Why wouldn’t you date me?

My mum always says if you’ve got nothing nice to say, say nothing at all

So, nothing at all

Looks aside I can accept not being attracted to me but what was the pivotal point that made you decide I was horrible?

You are attractive, but seem self obsessed, mean and ignorant of the fact. Plus I don’t date people with kids. And you put your tree up way too early "

Aww I’m not mean man. Honestly if you knew me in real life you’d know I’d give you the moon on a stick. Re: The early tree erecting. It’s purely because I share weekends with my ex so last weekend my daughter was with me. This weekend she was with her Dad and then Amazon peak is 21st nov to 21st December and I’ll be working every weekend so was the only time I could do it with my daughter. Understand the kids thing. Lot of guys without children wouldn’t date those with. All fair points you made. I can take that.

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over a year ago

"Quite honestly i dont give a fuck thats how i get on, my right hand works, my left hands ad's a certain spice once sat on (for extra numbness for that 3rd person handjob feeling) i just crack on without a care in the world

You’ve got a superb willy.

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over a year ago

You’ve got a superb willy.

Thankyou, its a good hammer for the croquet wicket

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over a year ago

You’ve got a superb willy.

Thankyou, its a good hammer for the croquet wicket

Seriously, what’s the circumference on him, looks about 5.5 to 6” and the balls. I can just imagine the sound of flip flops running.

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over a year ago

You’ve got a superb willy.

Thankyou, its a good hammer for the croquet wicket

Seriously, what’s the circumference on him, looks about 5.5 to 6” and the balls. I can just imagine the sound of flip flops running.

It soes make a good slpping noise against a willing vagine, however circumference is disappointing. Camera angles and all that

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

You’ve got a superb willy.

Thankyou, its a good hammer for the croquet wicket

Seriously, what’s the circumference on him, looks about 5.5 to 6” and the balls. I can just imagine the sound of flip flops running.

It soes make a good slpping noise against a willing vagine, however circumference is disappointing. Camera angles and all that

I actually just measured my wrist at 3.5 inches. I don’t want a willy thicker than my wrist. Be trying to stealing my watch off me. Yours looks perfect.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

You’ve got a superb willy.

Thankyou, its a good hammer for the croquet wicket

Seriously, what’s the circumference on him, looks about 5.5 to 6” and the balls. I can just imagine the sound of flip flops running.

It soes make a good slpping noise against a willing vagine, however circumference is disappointing. Camera angles and all that

I actually just measured my wrist at 3.5 inches. I don’t want a willy thicker than my wrist. Be trying to stealing my watch off me. Yours looks perfect. "

That can't be all the way around though because I actually measured my girth using string the other day and then laying that beside a tape measure and I'm 6" at widest point

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over a year ago

"You should go on a dating show

Like the undateable’s?

You said it, not me

Why wouldn’t you date me?

My mum always says if you’ve got nothing nice to say, say nothing at all

So, nothing at all

Looks aside I can accept not being attracted to me but what was the pivotal point that made you decide I was horrible?

You are attractive, but seem self obsessed, mean and ignorant of the fact. Plus I don’t date people with kids. And you put your tree up way too early

The tree thing would be a deal breaker for me too

I almost didn’t mention it, didn’t wanna be too mean. But seriously mariah carey hasn’t even defrosted yet and she’s got the tree up. Red flag "

Poor Mariah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’ve got a superb willy.

Thankyou, its a good hammer for the croquet wicket

Seriously, what’s the circumference on him, looks about 5.5 to 6” and the balls. I can just imagine the sound of flip flops running.

It soes make a good slpping noise against a willing vagine, however circumference is disappointing. Camera angles and all that

I actually just measured my wrist at 3.5 inches. I don’t want a willy thicker than my wrist. Be trying to stealing my watch off me. Yours looks perfect.

That can't be all the way around though because I actually measured my girth using string the other day and then laying that beside a tape measure and I'm 6" at widest point "
I now want to measure stuff to see what 3 5" like like ....

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over a year ago

"..between feeling peaceful and calm yet wanting to actively pursue people?

How do you lot do it? Like the casual side of sex but without thinking about it.

I can’t deny that I’m happier, more peaceful, focused and content with my own company when there’s nobody on the scene at all, not even messaging anyone.

I had that small taste of getting back out there again and getting fucked basically but it came with the thinking, the wondering if they’ll turn up, checking my phone. It’s just hassle.

Does this make sense? How do you manage it? "

Decide what you really want before tou get into it. If it's just a shag then keep it that way, don't let him be friends.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

You’ve got a superb willy.

Thankyou, its a good hammer for the croquet wicket

Seriously, what’s the circumference on him, looks about 5.5 to 6” and the balls. I can just imagine the sound of flip flops running.

It soes make a good slpping noise against a willing vagine, however circumference is disappointing. Camera angles and all that

I actually just measured my wrist at 3.5 inches. I don’t want a willy thicker than my wrist. Be trying to stealing my watch off me. Yours looks perfect. "

3.5 inches? That's like a child's wrist measurement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’ve got a superb willy.

Thankyou, its a good hammer for the croquet wicket

Seriously, what’s the circumference on him, looks about 5.5 to 6” and the balls. I can just imagine the sound of flip flops running.

It soes make a good slpping noise against a willing vagine, however circumference is disappointing. Camera angles and all that

I actually just measured my wrist at 3.5 inches. I don’t want a willy thicker than my wrist. Be trying to stealing my watch off me. Yours looks perfect.

That can't be all the way around though because I actually measured my girth using string the other day and then laying that beside a tape measure and I'm 6" at widest point "

Good girth. no top trumping that

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"OP.

Your profile states you aren't looking for anyone or anything.

Perhaps a rewrite is in order so people understand where you are coming from.

The comments you have left do contradict what you have said in earlier posts.

It seems like you don't really know what you want.

Perhaps taking a break from Fab or posting for a while might help you rethink what you really want

Reminds of this Billy connolly sketch... Not sure if I'm allowed to post YouTube links but we will see...

https://youtu.be/FbweXPVKPxg

If not just search you tube for Billy connolly women's demands...

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By *ollycouple71Couple
over a year ago

manchester

…I almost didn’t mention it, didn’t wanna be too mean. But seriously mariah carey hasn’t even defrosted yet and she’s got the tree up. Red flag

I’m not anti tree but this was funny "

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over a year ago

You’ve got a superb willy.

Thankyou, its a good hammer for the croquet wicket

Seriously, what’s the circumference on him, looks about 5.5 to 6” and the balls. I can just imagine the sound of flip flops running.

It soes make a good slpping noise against a willing vagine, however circumference is disappointing. Camera angles and all that

I actually just measured my wrist at 3.5 inches. I don’t want a willy thicker than my wrist. Be trying to stealing my watch off me. Yours looks perfect.

3.5 inches? That's like a child's wrist measurement

I was going across the top with the metal one. Found my fabric tape measure now and it’s just under 6” circumference.

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over a year ago

You’ve got a superb willy.

Thankyou, its a good hammer for the croquet wicket

Seriously, what’s the circumference on him, looks about 5.5 to 6” and the balls. I can just imagine the sound of flip flops running.

It soes make a good slpping noise against a willing vagine, however circumference is disappointing. Camera angles and all that

I actually just measured my wrist at 3.5 inches. I don’t want a willy thicker than my wrist. Be trying to stealing my watch off me. Yours looks perfect.

3.5 inches? That's like a child's wrist measurement

I was going across the top with the metal one. Found my fabric tape measure now and it’s just under 6” circumference. "

Dangerous, Might slice the helmet off with the metal one, theyre fucking sharp

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over a year ago

"OP.

Your profile states you aren't looking for anyone or anything.

Perhaps a rewrite is in order so people understand where you are coming from.

The comments you have left do contradict what you have said in earlier posts.

It seems like you don't really know what you want.

Perhaps taking a break from Fab or posting for a while might help you rethink what you really want

Reminds of this Billy connolly sketch... Not sure if I'm allowed to post YouTube links but we will see...

https://youtu.be/FbweXPVKPxg

If not just search you tube for Billy connolly women's demands... "

Yep!!

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

You’ve got a superb willy.

Thankyou, its a good hammer for the croquet wicket

Seriously, what’s the circumference on him, looks about 5.5 to 6” and the balls. I can just imagine the sound of flip flops running.

It soes make a good slpping noise against a willing vagine, however circumference is disappointing. Camera angles and all that

I actually just measured my wrist at 3.5 inches. I don’t want a willy thicker than my wrist. Be trying to stealing my watch off me. Yours looks perfect.

3.5 inches? That's like a child's wrist measurement

I was going across the top with the metal one. Found my fabric tape measure now and it’s just under 6” circumference. "

That's more like it

Mine is 6¼ inches in circumference.

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over a year ago

Off to work now. See if that dude has an excuse or apologises or anything at all.

I’m just gonna be civil and friendly but not too friendly like previously, not going to approach him or ask him anything about Saturday.

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over a year ago

It does make sense, yep.

Take time off here, deactivate the account..

Some of my happiest, most peaceful, productive times have been during long bouts of celibacy.

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over a year ago

"Off to work now. See if that dude has an excuse or apologises or anything at all.

I’m just gonna be civil and friendly but not too friendly like previously, not going to approach him or ask him anything about Saturday. "

I know this guy was someone you said you could avoid, in the sense of it's not like you worked together or even on the same shift, but he needs taking down a peg because I suspect he's doing the 'treat 'em mean" BS. Even being nice and polite means he's got away with being an absolute twat. So I'd be either avoiding to show you aren't chasing him like his might want, or artfully blanking him in some way.

To the first post point, many people find that when they are settled, what they want just comes to them. People in a good job get good job offers even if they don't want them. People in good relationships often get hit on more than when they were single. It's as if the act of trying to get something you don't yet have is harder than letting it fall in your lap when you already do. I'm not sure what you can do with that advice, other than maybe try a guy on for size who knows the score, and that you can easily compartmentalise as nothing to overthink, and then see what happens.

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over a year ago

I can’t really choose where to put myself though. When I login it’s completely generated at random where I’m gonna be. As it happens I’ve been put on the floor where he usually is but he doesn’t start till later. If I work fast enough I could be moved to another area but I can only go where my scanner tells me to go.

But as for the law of attraction stuff I didn’t seek this guy out. He sought me. I was happy, peaceful and content and not even thinking about guys.

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By *ustme34Man
over a year ago

Bingley

"I can’t really choose where to put myself though. When I login it’s completely generated at random where I’m gonna be. As it happens I’ve been put on the floor where he usually is but he doesn’t start till later. If I work fast enough I could be moved to another area but I can only go where my scanner tells me to go.

But as for the law of attraction stuff I didn’t seek this guy out. He sought me. I was happy, peaceful and content and not even thinking about guys.

But it’s fine. I don’t need to feel awkward. I did nothing wrong. I’ll be friendly and polite cos I don’t see the need to be anything else or show that it’s an issue cos it hasn’t bothered me. "
thats how you should be . Dont let it get to you, and rise above . What to do if he apologises and tries again though ?

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Bound to be some pathetic excuse about not showing up!

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