FabSwingers.com forum: No labels and exclusivity

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Okay, random question…

This is all allegedly by the way. I’m not gonna commit or take responsibility to anything I’m about to write… so I’m pre-washing my hands

Say if I’ve been seeing someone, and it’s been a while now. And *allegedly* we kinda like each other… and he’s been dropping hints saying how I’m the only girl he’s been seeing *allegedly* and only has sex with me and he’s deleted fab and mentions it..

But we haven’t discussed labels or exclusivity in the open as *allegedly* I’m not sure what I want.

Tho I *allegedly* might like the guy and I know he might like me in return.

How do you interpret this and his behaviour. Is he trying to hint at something, or is it just random information ? Am I supposed to read into them. Or ….

Am I *allegedly* crazy? Should we have an open conversation about it? Should I just continue playing it cool? What is this Slutey ought to do!!!

Disclaimer: allegedly

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

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You should just have an open conversation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask him outright about the 'hints'. Sounds like he is interested but cautious. Sounds like you are also interested but cautious.

Allegedly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Okay, random question…

This is all allegedly by the way. I’m not gonna commit or take responsibility to anything I’m about to write… so I’m pre-washing my hands

But we haven’t discussed labels or exclusivity in the open as *allegedly* I’m not sure what I want.

Tho I *allegedly* might like the guy and I know he might like me in return.

How do you interpret this and his behaviour. Is he trying to hint at something, or is it just random information ? Am I supposed to read into them. Or ….

Am I *allegedly* crazy? Should we have an open conversation about it? Should I just continue playing it cool? What is this Slutey ought to do!!!

Disclaimer: allegedly "

Go with it but keep fucking other people. I like my guys to be exclusive with me, but not me with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I definitely wouldn't say your *allegedly* crazy at all. He's hinting. Broach the subject and discuss both of yours and his expectations re your involvement with each other. You need clarity so nothing gets misconstrued or messy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What these two ^^^^ just said.

For they are wise......

Lady Astor

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best to just have the talk, you'll tie yourself in knots if you try and guess.

Allegedly

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ask him outright about the 'hints'. Sounds like he is interested but cautious. Sounds like you are also interested but cautious.

Allegedly.

At the moment I’m literally like pretending to be blind and not sure what to say when he hints those things… cos I don’t know how to interpret them.

And at the moment from my side, I’d *ALLEGEDLY* be lying if I said you are the only guy I see

Tho *allegedly* things could change

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say come play with me and we'll discuss your post afterwards, but I might be biased...

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Okay, random question…

This is all allegedly by the way. I’m not gonna commit or take responsibility to anything I’m about to write… so I’m pre-washing my hands

But we haven’t discussed labels or exclusivity in the open as *allegedly* I’m not sure what I want.

Tho I *allegedly* might like the guy and I know he might like me in return.

How do you interpret this and his behaviour. Is he trying to hint at something, or is it just random information ? Am I supposed to read into them. Or ….

Am I *allegedly* crazy? Should we have an open conversation about it? Should I just continue playing it cool? What is this Slutey ought to do!!!

Disclaimer: allegedly

Go with it but keep fucking other people. I like my guys to be exclusive with me, but not me with them. "

Without telling him you’re fucking other people?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He has made a choice and unless he has put an expectations on you to do the same then take it as the gesture that it is.

I would suggest that you have that open conversation with him but be prepared for the answers he may give.

Any form or relationship that is formed after meeting on here comes with certain conversations that must be had. It is only though open and honest communication that the basis of any form or relationship can be formed.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Okay, random question…

This is all allegedly by the way. I’m not gonna commit or take responsibility to anything I’m about to write… so I’m pre-washing my hands

But we haven’t discussed labels or exclusivity in the open as *allegedly* I’m not sure what I want.

Tho I *allegedly* might like the guy and I know he might like me in return.

How do you interpret this and his behaviour. Is he trying to hint at something, or is it just random information ? Am I supposed to read into them. Or ….

Am I *allegedly* crazy? Should we have an open conversation about it? Should I just continue playing it cool? What is this Slutey ought to do!!!

Disclaimer: allegedly

Go with it but keep fucking other people. I like my guys to be exclusive with me, but not me with them. "

There. Do we happen to share the same brain?

Jokes aside, if we had an open talk, I’d be open to discuss potential exclusivity with no labels. Maybe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd allegedly tell him how I feel and what I want.

If he wants same, great

If not, its disappointing but atleSt I'm not wasting my time, so I can just go ahead chattong and shagging 45yr old men from Norwich.

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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago

Orpington

Don't assume anything and just have an open conversation...communicate and make a mutual decision about everything. Human beings are complicated...Don't assume anything!

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

This type of emotional constipation would drive me nuts.

If you like someone, then it’s fairly simple to say and to own it. If you want to be around them and are willing to make room for them in your life, that’s a good thing.

Ifing and buting about “possibly” and “allegedly” just gives mixed signals and says to me that they’re looking for wiggle room in the future.

The truth is never complicated and whilst situations and emotions can be complex, the actual core of them are simple; do you want to be with me; yes or no?

If it’s yes, then be an adult and say it. Prevarication only leaves people hurt and I don’t trust anyone that does it with feelings

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'd allegedly tell him how I feel and what I want.

If he wants same, great

If not, its disappointing but atleSt I'm not wasting my time, so I can just go ahead chattong and shagging 45yr old men from Norwich.

That’s where we have a problem Sherlock. I don’t KNOW WHAT I WANT

I’m shifted right in the middle … true Gemini me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just because he has deleted fab, it doesn’t mean you should. You ‘could’, but not should.

Have an open and honest conversation, it’s the only way you’ll know.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

"Okay, random question…

This is all allegedly by the way. I’m not gonna commit or take responsibility to anything I’m about to write… so I’m pre-washing my hands

But we haven’t discussed labels or exclusivity in the open as *allegedly* I’m not sure what I want.

Tho I *allegedly* might like the guy and I know he might like me in return.

How do you interpret this and his behaviour. Is he trying to hint at something, or is it just random information ? Am I supposed to read into them. Or ….

Am I *allegedly* crazy? Should we have an open conversation about it? Should I just continue playing it cool? What is this Slutey ought to do!!!

Disclaimer: allegedly "

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Just take him out for a coffee and discuss it with him, openly, without reservations and agenda.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t KNOW WHAT I WANT

STRONGLY relate to this lmao

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"This type of emotional constipation would drive me nuts.

If you like someone, then it’s fairly simple to say and to own it. If you want to be around them and are willing to make room for them in your life, that’s a good thing.

Ifing and buting about “possibly” and “allegedly” just gives mixed signals and says to me that they’re looking for wiggle room in the future.

The truth is never complicated and whilst situations and emotions can be complex, the actual core of them are simple; do you want to be with me; yes or no?

If it’s yes, then be an adult and say it. Prevarication only leaves people hurt and I don’t trust anyone that does it with feelings "

I’d say I’m more the one who’s giving uncertainty and maybe he doesn’t know how I feel about the whole situation as he’s not getting a peep when it comes to labels or exclusivity. But that’s because I really like the guy but I don’t know what I want.

He did mention he doesn’t like sharing.

We just don’t talk about my situations by the way

This is all ALLEGEDLY of course.

Fan fiction

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I don’t KNOW WHAT I WANT

STRONGLY relate to this lmao

Me too

. In the meantime just have fun!

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I'd allegedly tell him how I feel and what I want.

If he wants same, great

If not, its disappointing but atleSt I'm not wasting my time, so I can just go ahead chattong and shagging 45yr old men from Norwich.

That’s where we have a problem Sherlock. I don’t KNOW WHAT I WANT

I’m shifted right in the middle … true Gemini me

In my opinion, if someone that I was ‘seeing’, when presented with an opportunity, didn’t know what they wanted, then it’s clear that they don’t want me. If the answer isn’t without pause, then that’s the answer

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just because he has deleted fab, it doesn’t mean you should. You ‘could’, but not should.

Have an open and honest conversation, it’s the only way you’ll know. "

I think you are probably right about this. But I’m scared it could open other conversations that might be like… so what are we then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry lovely, you need to 'allegedly' have THAT CHAT' yup, and talk about those feelings, lay it out and allegedly tell him your expectations and listen openly to his. Communication is key

I am in similar, apparently he feels I am worth dating properly, so we had THE CHAT' early days, we've both been hurt prior so taking it slowly. But we know each others expectations and needs.

Good luck! Could be the start of something amazing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always ask a man about potential relationships after sex. He might lie if it's before so he gets one final fling before becoming a ghost.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'd allegedly tell him how I feel and what I want.

If he wants same, great

If not, its disappointing but atleSt I'm not wasting my time, so I can just go ahead chattong and shagging 45yr old men from Norwich.

That’s where we have a problem Sherlock. I don’t KNOW WHAT I WANT

I’m shifted right in the middle … true Gemini me

It’s not that I don’t feel strongly about him. Because I used to shag a lot more guys and now I’ve really mellowed down. I’m a shadow of my former slute self

But it’s more like… my brain is saying: BE SINGLE. Don’t get in the dicksands you need to focus on yourself girl.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just because he has deleted fab, it doesn’t mean you should. You ‘could’, but not should.

Have an open and honest conversation, it’s the only way you’ll know.

I think you are probably right about this. But I’m scared it could open other conversations that might be like… so what are we then

And that’s ok my lovely, because then you both know where you are.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"This type of emotional constipation would drive me nuts.

If you like someone, then it’s fairly simple to say and to own it. If you want to be around them and are willing to make room for them in your life, that’s a good thing.

Ifing and buting about “possibly” and “allegedly” just gives mixed signals and says to me that they’re looking for wiggle room in the future.

The truth is never complicated and whilst situations and emotions can be complex, the actual core of them are simple; do you want to be with me; yes or no?

If it’s yes, then be an adult and say it. Prevarication only leaves people hurt and I don’t trust anyone that does it with feelings

He did mention he doesn’t like sharing.

We just don’t talk about my situations by the way

This is all ALLEGEDLY of course.

Fan fiction

Mmhhmmm… ‘asking for a friend’ gotcha.

You’re an adult, doing adult things, have the conversation. Emotions can be messy and need clarity otherwise people get hurt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Okay, random question…

This is all allegedly by the way. I’m not gonna commit or take responsibility to anything I’m about to write… so I’m pre-washing my hands

But we haven’t discussed labels or exclusivity in the open as *allegedly* I’m not sure what I want.

Tho I *allegedly* might like the guy and I know he might like me in return.

How do you interpret this and his behaviour. Is he trying to hint at something, or is it just random information ? Am I supposed to read into them. Or ….

Am I *allegedly* crazy? Should we have an open conversation about it? Should I just continue playing it cool? What is this Slutey ought to do!!!

Disclaimer: allegedly

Go with it but keep fucking other people. I like my guys to be exclusive with me, but not me with them.

Without telling him you’re fucking other people?"

If they ask, I don’t lie. But they don’t ask

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd allegedly tell him how I feel and what I want.

If he wants same, great

If not, its disappointing but atleSt I'm not wasting my time, so I can just go ahead chattong and shagging 45yr old men from Norwich.

That’s where we have a problem Sherlock. I don’t KNOW WHAT I WANT

I’m shifted right in the middle … true Gemini me

Decide what you want, then act on it. All the time you dither you're without direction and focus.

Tentative you have no power.

Winston

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I'd allegedly tell him how I feel and what I want.

If he wants same, great

If not, its disappointing but atleSt I'm not wasting my time, so I can just go ahead chattong and shagging 45yr old men from Norwich.

That’s where we have a problem Sherlock. I don’t KNOW WHAT I WANT

I’m shifted right in the middle … true Gemini me

It’s not that I don’t feel strongly about him. Because I used to shag a lot more guys and now I’ve really mellowed down. I’m a shadow of my former slute self

But it’s more like… my brain is saying: BE SINGLE. Don’t get in the dicksands you need to focus on yourself girl.

Then that’s your answer, if you’re not into it 100% then don’t

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just because he has deleted fab, it doesn’t mean you should. You ‘could’, but not should.

Have an open and honest conversation, it’s the only way you’ll know.

I think you are probably right about this. But I’m scared it could open other conversations that might be like… so what are we then

And that’s ok my lovely, because then you both know where you are."

But I wonder if I’m spoiling something in either direction. I don’t know, I’m just confused about it all. To say the least

And obviously I’m scared if I’m the one catching feelings really and he’s like… NAH.

God I’m all over the place and I sound deranged

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"Okay, random question…

This is all allegedly by the way. I’m not gonna commit or take responsibility to anything I’m about to write… so I’m pre-washing my hands

But we haven’t discussed labels or exclusivity in the open as *allegedly* I’m not sure what I want.

Tho I *allegedly* might like the guy and I know he might like me in return.

How do you interpret this and his behaviour. Is he trying to hint at something, or is it just random information ? Am I supposed to read into them. Or ….

Am I *allegedly* crazy? Should we have an open conversation about it? Should I just continue playing it cool? What is this Slutey ought to do!!!

Disclaimer: allegedly

Go with it but keep fucking other people. I like my guys to be exclusive with me, but not me with them.

Without telling him you’re fucking other people?

If they ask, I don’t lie. But they don’t ask

Lying by omission is still a lie…

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By *melia DominaTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

Sounds like he wants to force exclusivity.

Its Your life. What do You do want?

It's not for him to determine your life path or choices.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why worry about “alledgedly” and interpretation? Just ask!

You’re currently in a casual relationship. You think he might want to be more committed. You’re unsure if you want the same. You’re unsure how things will pan out should you both want something different.

It is more likely to have a good outcome if you both talk directly about it than if both are 2nd guessing what the other wants and needs.

However it goes, good luck and have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just because he has deleted fab, it doesn’t mean you should. You ‘could’, but not should.

Have an open and honest conversation, it’s the only way you’ll know.

I think you are probably right about this. But I’m scared it could open other conversations that might be like… so what are we then

And that’s ok my lovely, because then you both know where you are.

But I wonder if I’m spoiling something in either direction. I don’t know, I’m just confused about it all. To say the least

And obviously I’m scared if I’m the one catching feelings really and he’s like… NAH.

God I’m all over the place and I sound deranged

You don’t sound deranged, you sound confused.

The only way out of the confusion is to talk to him, neither if you can know how the other is feeling. Then you can make your decision based on facts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go with it but keep fucking other people. I like my guys to be exclusive with me, but not me with them.

Without telling him you’re fucking other people?

If they ask, I don’t lie. But they don’t ask

Lying by omission is still a lie… "

This isn’t about me. But it isn’t a lie. The fact I’m on Fab probs speaks volumes.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

"You should just have an open conversation.

Basically. And if he's not mature enough and/capable of a completely open adult conversation forget about him. Life's too short for Bullshit, guessing games and smoke and mirrors.

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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago

Orpington

Go with it but keep fucking other people. I like my guys to be exclusive with me, but not me with them.

Without telling him you’re fucking other people?

If they ask, I don’t lie. But they don’t ask

Lying by omission is still a lie…

This isn’t about me. But it isn’t a lie. The fact I’m on Fab probs speaks volumes. "

But you asking them to be exclusive with you without telling them you are not willing to do the same is kinda hypocritical

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Go with it but keep fucking other people. I like my guys to be exclusive with me, but not me with them.

Without telling him you’re fucking other people?

If they ask, I don’t lie. But they don’t ask

Lying by omission is still a lie…

This isn’t about me. But it isn’t a lie. The fact I’m on Fab probs speaks volumes. "

I know it’s not about you but it’s a conversation in a forum and you commented, after just seeing your other thread I was curious to see your answer. Fair enough if they don’t ask.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Go with it but keep fucking other people. I like my guys to be exclusive with me, but not me with them.

Without telling him you’re fucking other people?

If they ask, I don’t lie. But they don’t ask

Lying by omission is still a lie…

This isn’t about me. But it isn’t a lie. The fact I’m on Fab probs speaks volumes. "

Also I’m kinda not talking about it

but I don’t feel like I’m lying. Especially if we haven’t talked openly about actual exclusivity

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You should just have an open conversation.

Basically. And if he's not mature enough and/capable of a completely open adult conversation forget about him. Life's too short for Bullshit, guessing games and smoke and mirrors. "

I don’t know maybe he was trying to fish by dropping hints because I’m the one being a bit coy.

But I feel like I’m actually drawn to him. I’m just a bit scared of being hurt once again and surrendering my “freedom”

I don’t know maybe I’m making it all up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go with it but keep fucking other people. I like my guys to be exclusive with me, but not me with them.

Without telling him you’re fucking other people?

If they ask, I don’t lie. But they don’t ask

Lying by omission is still a lie…

This isn’t about me. But it isn’t a lie. The fact I’m on Fab probs speaks volumes.

Also I’m kinda not talking about it

but I don’t feel like I’m lying. Especially if we haven’t talked openly about actual exclusivity

From your original post it sounds like they have *allegedly* made a decision themselves, but you havent discussed or agreed to anything, so you arent deceiving anyone at the moment.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Go with it but keep fucking other people. I like my guys to be exclusive with me, but not me with them.

Without telling him you’re fucking other people?

If they ask, I don’t lie. But they don’t ask

Lying by omission is still a lie…

This isn’t about me. But it isn’t a lie. The fact I’m on Fab probs speaks volumes.

Also I’m kinda not talking about it

but I don’t feel like I’m lying. Especially if we haven’t talked openly about actual exclusivity

Is it Jack? You know you can tell us. We won’t spill

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd allegedly tell him how I feel and what I want.

If he wants same, great

If not, its disappointing but atleSt I'm not wasting my time, so I can just go ahead chattong and shagging 45yr old men from Norwich.

That’s where we have a problem Sherlock. I don’t KNOW WHAT I WANT

I’m shifted right in the middle … true Gemini me

Well then, if you don't know what you want, just carry on enjoying what you have.

Feelings or love etc just happen, so just go with the flow. Be water.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Go with it but keep fucking other people. I like my guys to be exclusive with me, but not me with them.

Without telling him you’re fucking other people?

If they ask, I don’t lie. But they don’t ask

Lying by omission is still a lie…

This isn’t about me. But it isn’t a lie. The fact I’m on Fab probs speaks volumes.

Also I’m kinda not talking about it

but I don’t feel like I’m lying. Especially if we haven’t talked openly about actual exclusivity

Is it Jack? You know you can tell us. We won’t spill

He found a new woman. He can fuck off, I’m gonna rinse every last penny out of him like a good WAG!!

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Go with it but keep fucking other people. I like my guys to be exclusive with me, but not me with them.

Without telling him you’re fucking other people?

If they ask, I don’t lie. But they don’t ask

Lying by omission is still a lie…

This isn’t about me. But it isn’t a lie. The fact I’m on Fab probs speaks volumes.

Also I’m kinda not talking about it

but I don’t feel like I’m lying. Especially if we haven’t talked openly about actual exclusivity

Is it Jack? You know you can tell us. We won’t spill

He found a new woman. He can fuck off, I’m gonna rinse every last penny out of him like a good WAG!!

. Go girl!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Go with it but keep fucking other people. I like my guys to be exclusive with me, but not me with them.

Without telling him you’re fucking other people?

If they ask, I don’t lie. But they don’t ask

Lying by omission is still a lie…

This isn’t about me. But it isn’t a lie. The fact I’m on Fab probs speaks volumes.

Also I’m kinda not talking about it

but I don’t feel like I’m lying. Especially if we haven’t talked openly about actual exclusivity

Is it Jack? You know you can tell us. We won’t spill

He found a new woman. He can fuck off, I’m gonna rinse every last penny out of him like a good WAG!!

. Go girl!"

I’ll take you shoe shopping in Bond Street.

with his credit card

We aren’t gonna come away from that street unless we spent £50K

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'd allegedly tell him how I feel and what I want.

If he wants same, great

If not, its disappointing but atleSt I'm not wasting my time, so I can just go ahead chattong and shagging 45yr old men from Norwich.

That’s where we have a problem Sherlock. I don’t KNOW WHAT I WANT

I’m shifted right in the middle … true Gemini me

Well then, if you don't know what you want, just carry on enjoying what you have.

Feelings or love etc just happen, so just go with the flow. Be water."

I feel like I don’t wanna rock the boat either way. But also I don’t know what he means by what he says with those things. If I should read into them or not

Bet he’s just being a certified fuck boy

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

"Ask him outright about the 'hints'. Sounds like he is interested but cautious. Sounds like you are also interested but cautious.

Allegedly.

This

Just talk to each other and stop dancing around the subject.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Go with it but keep fucking other people. I like my guys to be exclusive with me, but not me with them.

Without telling him you’re fucking other people?

If they ask, I don’t lie. But they don’t ask

Lying by omission is still a lie…

This isn’t about me. But it isn’t a lie. The fact I’m on Fab probs speaks volumes.

Also I’m kinda not talking about it

but I don’t feel like I’m lying. Especially if we haven’t talked openly about actual exclusivity

Is it Jack? You know you can tell us. We won’t spill

He found a new woman. He can fuck off, I’m gonna rinse every last penny out of him like a good WAG!!

. Go girl!

I’ll take you shoe shopping in Bond Street.

with his credit card

We aren’t gonna come away from that street unless we spent £50K "

In!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ask him outright about the 'hints'. Sounds like he is interested but cautious. Sounds like you are also interested but cautious.

Allegedly.

This

Just talk to each other and stop dancing around the subject."

Might eventually have to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go with it but keep fucking other people. I like my guys to be exclusive with me, but not me with them.

Without telling him you’re fucking other people?

If they ask, I don’t lie. But they don’t ask

Lying by omission is still a lie…

This isn’t about me. But it isn’t a lie. The fact I’m on Fab probs speaks volumes.

But you asking them to be exclusive with you without telling them you are not willing to do the same is kinda hypocritical

At no point did I say that I ask them, did I?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go with it but keep fucking other people. I like my guys to be exclusive with me, but not me with them.

Without telling him you’re fucking other people?

If they ask, I don’t lie. But they don’t ask

Lying by omission is still a lie…

This isn’t about me. But it isn’t a lie. The fact I’m on Fab probs speaks volumes.

Also I’m kinda not talking about it

but I don’t feel like I’m lying. Especially if we haven’t talked openly about actual exclusivity

I don’t actually like the idea of being exclusive. Are we in a relationship or not!? Lol. And if we aren’t, then we are both entitled to do what we want with who we want! I feel men dangle this “exclusive” line to try and keep women where they want them! Just have fun until it gets serious!! Fuck him! And others

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By *jorkishMan
over a year ago

Seaforth

"Okay, random question…

This is all allegedly by the way. I’m not gonna commit or take responsibility to anything I’m about to write… so I’m pre-washing my hands

But we haven’t discussed labels or exclusivity in the open as *allegedly* I’m not sure what I want.

Tho I *allegedly* might like the guy and I know he might like me in return.

How do you interpret this and his behaviour. Is he trying to hint at something, or is it just random information ? Am I supposed to read into them. Or ….

Am I *allegedly* crazy? Should we have an open conversation about it? Should I just continue playing it cool? What is this Slutey ought to do!!!

Disclaimer: allegedly "

Take a break from swingers

Tell him you've taken a break or maybe you need a break from him?

Figure out how you truly feel! Can you be exclusive with him or anyone? What do you want? Do you really want a relationship exclusive or not? Is he pressuring you? Are you pressuring yourself or him? Are you scared? If so, what is there to be scared of? If you want a relationship is he the one, only you can answer that question.

Relax and don't put pressure on yourself

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Go with it but keep fucking other people. I like my guys to be exclusive with me, but not me with them.

Without telling him you’re fucking other people?

If they ask, I don’t lie. But they don’t ask

Lying by omission is still a lie…

This isn’t about me. But it isn’t a lie. The fact I’m on Fab probs speaks volumes.

But you asking them to be exclusive with you without telling them you are not willing to do the same is kinda hypocritical

At no point did I say that I ask them, did I?! "

Also in your defence, I was open and honest to another guy I see sort of regularly. And he got VERY pissy when I mentioned this guy and really got arsey with me saying how I’m spoiling things and spoiling what we have by mentioning this other “boy”

Can’t really win. Can we!!!

Honestly, men… I don’t understand them…

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over a year ago

"Okay, random question…

This is all allegedly by the way. I’m not gonna commit or take responsibility to anything I’m about to write… so I’m pre-washing my hands

But we haven’t discussed labels or exclusivity in the open as *allegedly* I’m not sure what I want.

Tho I *allegedly* might like the guy and I know he might like me in return.

How do you interpret this and his behaviour. Is he trying to hint at something, or is it just random information ? Am I supposed to read into them. Or ….

Am I *allegedly* crazy? Should we have an open conversation about it? Should I just continue playing it cool? What is this Slutey ought to do!!!

Disclaimer: allegedly

Take a break from swingers

Tell him you've taken a break or maybe you need a break from him?

Relax and don't put pressure on yourself"

I don’t know the answers to be honest

I like him tho that’s what I know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't worry, il wait until you know how you feel about me xx

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

What’s so hard these days about just saying what you want

Stop trying to interpret his “hints” and just tell him what you want

You’ll both settle this 1000x quicker

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over a year ago

"Don't worry, il wait until you know how you feel about me xx"

God, u too? I got so many men in the pipeline , I’m feeling like I’m a professional juggler

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What’s so hard these days about just saying what you want

Stop trying to interpret his “hints” and just tell him what you want

You’ll both settle this 1000x quicker "

Errr I don’t know exactly what I want!!! I just know I like him and I like the time we spend together. And I’m sort of trying not to rock the boat too much and be chill..

But I don’t know what he wants from me and what he is seeing out of it all.

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over a year ago

"Don't worry, il wait until you know how you feel about me xx

God, u too? I got so many men in the pipeline , I’m feeling like I’m a professional juggler

'In the pipeline'

oh aye?! Not literally. Ouch

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Don't worry, il wait until you know how you feel about me xx

God, u too? I got so many men in the pipeline , I’m feeling like I’m a professional juggler

'In the pipeline'

oh aye?! Not literally. Ouch"

literally too

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

In my defence, I MELLOWED DOWN A LOT!

My slute/hoe phase at its peak was… errr messy

I can’t talk even about it

….so having boiled down to 3 guys only that I see sort of regularly, with this guy, let’s call him Caleb.. as being the primary one , as the other two I wouldn’t see the potential for more than having a nice time together . I’m quite proud of myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All I read is fear on both parts

*allegedly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What’s so hard these days about just saying what you want

Stop trying to interpret his “hints” and just tell him what you want

You’ll both settle this 1000x quicker

Errr I don’t know exactly what I want!!! I just know I like him and I like the time we spend together. And I’m sort of trying not to rock the boat too much and be chill..

But I don’t know what he wants from me and what he is seeing out of it all.

Gosh, this is so relatable!!!

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

"What’s so hard these days about just saying what you want

Stop trying to interpret his “hints” and just tell him what you want

You’ll both settle this 1000x quicker

Errr I don’t know exactly what I want!!! I just know I like him and I like the time we spend together. And I’m sort of trying not to rock the boat too much and be chill..

But I don’t know what he wants from me and what he is seeing out of it all.

Say that! Honesty is best

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By *jorkishMan
over a year ago

Seaforth

"Okay, random question…

This is all allegedly by the way. I’m not gonna commit or take responsibility to anything I’m about to write… so I’m pre-washing my hands

But we haven’t discussed labels or exclusivity in the open as *allegedly* I’m not sure what I want.

Tho I *allegedly* might like the guy and I know he might like me in return.

How do you interpret this and his behaviour. Is he trying to hint at something, or is it just random information ? Am I supposed to read into them. Or ….

Am I *allegedly* crazy? Should we have an open conversation about it? Should I just continue playing it cool? What is this Slutey ought to do!!!

Disclaimer: allegedly

Take a break from swingers

Tell him you've taken a break or maybe you need a break from him?

Relax and don't put pressure on yourself

I don’t know the answers to be honest

I like him tho that’s what I know

If you like him tell him so. Be open and honest. Stop the hinting. He may be going through what you're going through right now. Stop the dilly rallying. Life's too short

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

You can only discuss things together and then take decisions on that basis. Plus take each day as it comes, ss you will both then be in new territory together. Ideas may not match the reality, on either side.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"All I read is fear on both parts

*allegedly "

I do wonder if the fact that he knows that I’m quite sexually open “scares” him so that’s where the hint dropping may come from.

And he might wonder If I could commit and is trying to fish by telling me he only sees me that way.

I’m like “Oh Chile…. moving on”

Or he could be totally chill too. I just don’t know what I’m supposed to do with the information that he’s deleted fab and that he’s only seeing me and only has sex with me.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I'd want clarity from the outset.

If a man said to me I'm the only one he was seeing and deleted his profile anywhere I'd have to ask what he wanted from me.

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over a year ago

"All I read is fear on both parts

*allegedly

I do wonder if the fact that he knows that I’m quite sexually open “scares” him so that’s where the hint dropping may come from.

And he might wonder If I could commit and is trying to fish by telling me he only sees me that way.

I’m like “Oh Chile…. moving on”

Or he could be totally chill too. I just don’t know what I’m supposed to do with the information that he’s deleted fab and that he’s only seeing me and only has sex with me.

I think it's often difficult to trust those we meet online initially, moreso if you find each other on an adult site

Sometimes you gotta take the leap of faith and go for it

Open communication all the way

Don't fear things going tits up, that's a sure fire way of talking your way of any relationship x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'd want clarity from the outset.

If a man said to me I'm the only one he was seeing and deleted his profile anywhere I'd have to ask what he wanted from me.

To be fair you might have given me an answer. That seems to be quite a legitimate thing to ask like

“What do you want from me”

Is this like a too direct? Am I sitting on the fence? Instead of saying. So what are we looking to take things ?

Confused.com to say the least

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

I’d just ask the question Chuck

You’ve met as singles on a casual basis.. if he’s looking to change that situation you need to know so that you can respond.. or at least consider if that’s something that’s right for you.

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By *jorkishMan
over a year ago

Seaforth

"I'd want clarity from the outset.

If a man said to me I'm the only one he was seeing and deleted his profile anywhere I'd have to ask what he wanted from me.

To be fair you might have given me an answer. That seems to be quite a legitimate thing to ask like

“What do you want from me”

Is this like a too direct? Am I sitting on the fence? Instead of saying. So what are we looking to take things ?

Confused.com to say the least

I think you two should meet, not for sex, on neutral grounds and have a heart to heart. Be open and honest. Ask him what he wants from you but he might just tell you that anyway. Lots of views and points posted here but at the end of the day there are inky 2 people who count - you and him

I wish you luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'd want clarity from the outset.

If a man said to me I'm the only one he was seeing and deleted his profile anywhere I'd have to ask what he wanted from me.

To be fair you might have given me an answer. That seems to be quite a legitimate thing to ask like

“What do you want from me”

Is this like a too direct? Am I sitting on the fence? Instead of saying. So what are we looking to take things ?

Confused.com to say the least

I wish you luck "

We don’t usually have the intention to meet FOR SEX. We start off with the best intentions but yeah I mean…

it’s hard isn’t it!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What’s so hard these days about just saying what you want

Stop trying to interpret his “hints” and just tell him what you want

You’ll both settle this 1000x quicker

Errr I don’t know exactly what I want!!! I just know I like him and I like the time we spend together. And I’m sort of trying not to rock the boat too much and be chill..

But I don’t know what he wants from me and what he is seeing out of it all.

Gosh, this is so relatable!!! "

Haha I’m glad to hear! Sometimes I feel like I’m crazy

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

Been there,got the t-shirt and all I can say is have a frank and honest open conversation about it and what you want and keep talking when it's needed, not saying it makes things easy, but a bit of clarity certainly goes a long way.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Been there,got the t-shirt and all I can say is have a frank and honest open conversation about it and what you want and keep talking when it's needed, not saying it makes things easy, but a bit of clarity certainly goes a long way."

How did it pan out for you, if I may ask?

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By *jorkishMan
over a year ago

Seaforth

"I'd want clarity from the outset.

If a man said to me I'm the only one he was seeing and deleted his profile anywhere I'd have to ask what he wanted from me.

To be fair you might have given me an answer. That seems to be quite a legitimate thing to ask like

“What do you want from me”

Is this like a too direct? Am I sitting on the fence? Instead of saying. So what are we looking to take things ?

Confused.com to say the least

I wish you luck

We don’t usually have the intention to meet FOR SEX. We start off with the best intentions but yeah I mean…

it’s hard isn’t it!!!"

Is that halo slipping lol whatever happens I hope your ok and happiness comes your way

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'd want clarity from the outset.

If a man said to me I'm the only one he was seeing and deleted his profile anywhere I'd have to ask what he wanted from me.

To be fair you might have given me an answer. That seems to be quite a legitimate thing to ask like

“What do you want from me”

Is this like a too direct? Am I sitting on the fence? Instead of saying. So what are we looking to take things ?

Confused.com to say the least

I wish you luck

We don’t usually have the intention to meet FOR SEX. We start off with the best intentions but yeah I mean…

it’s hard isn’t it!!!

Is that halo slipping lol whatever happens I hope your ok and happiness comes your way"

Thanks

I wish I could post gifs here cos there’s one of a guy in a pink child car racing down this sloppy street and crashing when he tried to turn at the end .

Well, that’s how my life feels

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest...there is nothing worse in a blossoming relationship than hearing the "where are we at?" Question! Making assumptions/interpretations or second guessing is not a good idea...If you dont know where your at and communication between you hasn't become clear and easy then either you're not ready to move to the next stage of a relationship so don't rush it... or your compatibility ends at sex so just enjoy the excitement you have because that conversation could be the beginning of the end! But I am 36 and single so what do I know haha

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By *jorkishMan
over a year ago

Seaforth

"I'd want clarity from the outset.

If a man said to me I'm the only one he was seeing and deleted his profile anywhere I'd have to ask what he wanted from me.

To be fair you might have given me an answer. That seems to be quite a legitimate thing to ask like

“What do you want from me”

Is this like a too direct? Am I sitting on the fence? Instead of saying. So what are we looking to take things ?

Confused.com to say the least

I wish you luck

We don’t usually have the intention to meet FOR SEX. We start off with the best intentions but yeah I mean…

it’s hard isn’t it!!!

Is that halo slipping lol whatever happens I hope your ok and happiness comes your way

Thanks

I wish I could post gifs here cos there’s one of a guy in a pink child car racing down this sloppy street and crashing when he tried to turn at the end .

Well, that’s how my life feels

Life is full of ups and downs and sometimes we plot a course that takes a sharp bend. It's experience and we should take the positives out of it and build. I have a feeling you're a survivor

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"To be honest...there is nothing worse in a blossoming relationship than hearing the "where are we at?" Question! Making assumptions/interpretations or second guessing is not a good idea...If you dont know where your at and communication between you hasn't become clear and easy then either you're not ready to move to the next stage of a relationship so don't rush it... or your compatibility ends at sex so just enjoy the excitement you have because that conversation could be the beginning of the end! But I am 36 and single so what do I know haha "

To be honest sex is amazing but what struck me is how compatible we are as people.

it’s more like the dynamite when together. I swear it goes beyond sex and it’s more like in and out the bedroom.

At least that’s my perception of it anyway. But then again I do realise that boys like to talk. And we eat shit up sometimes…

I wanna point out, I’m very jaded because of past relationships that turned out to be wrong on different levels.

Also his life situation is kinda complex.

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

How did it pan out for you, if I may ask?

Really well... ask the bearded guy what he thinks too

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How did it pan out for you, if I may ask?

Really well... ask the bearded guy what he thinks too

I feel like intruding omg

what’s going onnnn

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Also last time we were chilling, and he played a specific song and told me to listen carefully ( as made him think of me ), he knew what he was doing…!!!!

And stuff like that. I EAT THAT SHIT UP. Literally gulp it down like it’s cool aid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sit down have a talk with them and figure out if he wants open or closed it really is that simple

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

How did it pan out for you, if I may ask?

Really well... ask the bearded guy what he thinks too

I feel like intruding omg

what’s going onnnn "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need to talk to him. I've had to do it in the past. I told him how what he says and does makes me feel. How confused I was. How I deserved to know where he thought our relationship was at that point. Where I thought our relationship was at the point. It wasn't an easy discussion, but it needed to be done. Thankfully, things are much better, but I was ready for it to not be.

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

I've always thought a fab relationship going vanilla can be tricky (allegedly)

Esp if 1 wants to settle & be exclusive but the other still wants to sow their seeds

think a talk is due b4 someone gets hurt

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How did it pan out for you, if I may ask?

Really well... ask the bearded guy what he thinks too

I feel like intruding omg

what’s going onnnn

Omg

!!! Congratsssss

Btw I’m melting at ur profile pic

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sit down have a talk with them and figure out if he wants open or closed it really is that simple "

He did drop the hint with , if I become his woman, he isn’t gonna share

So if we become a thing I know I’ll know already that there’s no open situation

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By *ilverjagMan
over a year ago

swansea

If it's early days, and you are unsure about what direction you want things to go in, then play it cool, and if that means carrying on exploring the depths of erotisism in the way that you have become accustomed to then why not. After all nobody misses a slice off a cut loaf, and what the eye doesn't see, the heart doesn't grieve until you are ready to make any commitment. It's also what's known as self preservation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sit down have a talk with them and figure out if he wants open or closed it really is that simple

He did drop the hint with , if I become his woman, he isn’t gonna share

So if we become a thing I know I’ll know already that there’s no open situation "

Ok well sit back and take a think to your self is that what you want and if it is go for it happyness is everything

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I’m really terrible at communication especially when it comes to these things! X one of my previous relationship we were seeing each other loads and one time in the car… I muttered the words “so … what are we then”

And he said casually… “we are together no?… and I’m your boyfriend , at least that’s like that from my side.. are you having doubts??” (Something along those lines)

I felt like a twat!

Of course it worked out as it reassured me as I wanted to be with him but I mean, it shows that people are different and I’m shit at talking these things

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I realise I’m barely making any sense!!!

I’m sorry everyone

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What is it called when you have something with someone and become sexually exclusive with that person but NO LABELS? So you don’t call yourself boyfriend and girlfriend / couple

Is it a thing? Situationship??

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over a year ago

Doesn't need to have a label. Just an understanding of any expectations. Although an agreed label for social situations is helpful so you're never in the position of him saying "this is Kylie, she's... What are you again?"

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By *jorkishMan
over a year ago

Seaforth

"What is it called when you have something with someone and become sexually exclusive with that person but NO LABELS? So you don’t call yourself boyfriend and girlfriend / couple

Is it a thing? Situationship?? "

Yes my youngest daughter is in a relationship with a guy without the label of being girlfriend/boyfriend. She's told him out right that if he won't put a label on it then it's over after Xmas. Tbh don't blame her

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"What is it called when you have something with someone and become sexually exclusive with that person but NO LABELS? So you don’t call yourself boyfriend and girlfriend / couple

Is it a thing? Situationship?? "

FWB?

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over a year ago

"Doesn't need to have a label. Just an understanding of any expectations. Although an agreed label for social situations is helpful so you're never in the position of him saying "this is Kylie, she's... What are you again?"

My palms are sweating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is it called when you have something with someone and become sexually exclusive with that person but NO LABELS? So you don’t call yourself boyfriend and girlfriend / couple

Is it a thing? Situationship??

Labels are handy or you might end up unwrapping some else’s present

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What is it called when you have something with someone and become sexually exclusive with that person but NO LABELS? So you don’t call yourself boyfriend and girlfriend / couple

Is it a thing? Situationship??

Makes sense!! I hope she’s gonna be official soon x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know what label you want to put on him, but I'm labelling him "lucky bastard"

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over a year ago

"What is it called when you have something with someone and become sexually exclusive with that person but NO LABELS? So you don’t call yourself boyfriend and girlfriend / couple

Is it a thing? Situationship??

FWB?

I think this is what we are at the moment . FWB

If we take it a notch further then we’d be like in a situationship

Like not quite a relationship yet but the fact of exclusivity but no labels make it more than just friends with benefits …

God damn fucking labels

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"What is it called when you have something with someone and become sexually exclusive with that person but NO LABELS? So you don’t call yourself boyfriend and girlfriend / couple

Is it a thing? Situationship??

FWB?

I think this is what we are at the moment . FWB

If we take it a notch further then we’d be like in a situationship

Like not quite a relationship yet but the fact of exclusivity but no labels make it more than just friends with benefits …

God damn fucking labels "

. You crack me up

I love a cockalathionship

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't know what label you want to put on him, but I'm labelling him "lucky bastard"

Yes he is. Last time I saw him , I made sure I looked like 10/10 and told him “see, I still make an effort for you”

Only because the time before then, I literally was in yoga pants and a bralette … not quite gremlin mode, but definitely casual and comfortable

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By *iltopbearMan
over a year ago

Norfolk

After reading about Jack's double dealings behind your back, is this the beginnings of a meltdown Kylie?

Bitter split and possibility of a tabloid divorce on the cards?

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over a year ago

"I don't know what label you want to put on him, but I'm labelling him "lucky bastard"

Yes he is. Last time I saw him , I made sure I looked like 10/10 and told him “see, I still make an effort for you”

Only because the time before then, I literally was in yoga pants and a bralette … not quite gremlin mode, but definitely casual and comfortable

Sporty look is sexy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This type of emotional constipation would drive me nuts.

If you like someone, then it’s fairly simple to say and to own it. If you want to be around them and are willing to make room for them in your life, that’s a good thing.

Ifing and buting about “possibly” and “allegedly” just gives mixed signals and says to me that they’re looking for wiggle room in the future.

The truth is never complicated and whilst situations and emotions can be complex, the actual core of them are simple; do you want to be with me; yes or no?

If it’s yes, then be an adult and say it. Prevarication only leaves people hurt and I don’t trust anyone that does it with feelings "

This is my view point also. You are wasting energy on if buts and maybes, quite frankly that would do my head in. Get clarity and if it's not forthright and sits with what you want you have a decision to make.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"I'd want clarity from the outset.

If a man said to me I'm the only one he was seeing and deleted his profile anywhere I'd have to ask what he wanted from me.

To be fair you might have given me an answer. That seems to be quite a legitimate thing to ask like

“What do you want from me”

Is this like a too direct? Am I sitting on the fence? Instead of saying. So what are we looking to take things ?

Confused.com to say the least

Direct is the only way I know.

No misunderstandings that way.

Although, on more than one occasion, their idea of exclusivity is me not seeing anyone but they want me to find other women for 3sums.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"What is it called when you have something with someone and become sexually exclusive with that person but NO LABELS? So you don’t call yourself boyfriend and girlfriend / couple

Is it a thing? Situationship??

FWB?

I think this is what we are at the moment . FWB

If we take it a notch further then we’d be like in a situationship

Like not quite a relationship yet but the fact of exclusivity but no labels make it more than just friends with benefits …

God damn fucking labels "

How would you introduce him to friends and family?

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By *jorkishMan
over a year ago

Seaforth

"What is it called when you have something with someone and become sexually exclusive with that person but NO LABELS? So you don’t call yourself boyfriend and girlfriend / couple

Is it a thing? Situationship??

Makes sense!! I hope she’s gonna be official soon x

So do I and thanks xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"After reading about Jack's double dealings behind your back, is this the beginnings of a meltdown Kylie?

Bitter split and possibility of a tabloid divorce on the cards?

Yes! Kylie the deranged woman was spotted in Bond Street with Nora the explorer, raiding Cartier and Saint Laurent and caught OFF THEIR TITS (DRUNK) in Soho, arse up and knickers round their ankles.

Obviously all courtesy of my husband

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What is it called when you have something with someone and become sexually exclusive with that person but NO LABELS? So you don’t call yourself boyfriend and girlfriend / couple

Is it a thing? Situationship??

FWB?

I think this is what we are at the moment . FWB

If we take it a notch further then we’d be like in a situationship

Like not quite a relationship yet but the fact of exclusivity but no labels make it more than just friends with benefits …

God damn fucking labels

How would you introduce him to friends and family?"

Let me rain check on that

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What is it called when you have something with someone and become sexually exclusive with that person but NO LABELS? So you don’t call yourself boyfriend and girlfriend / couple

Is it a thing? Situationship??

FWB?

I think this is what we are at the moment . FWB

If we take it a notch further then we’d be like in a situationship

Like not quite a relationship yet but the fact of exclusivity but no labels make it more than just friends with benefits …

God damn fucking labels

How would you introduce him to friends and family?

Let me rain check on that

Only because that’s already feeling real. My 2 best friends know he exist.

But I mean, family? Aren’t we speeding things? (Not that I’m ashamed of him, on the contrary I’d let him hold my hand anywhere)

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By *iltopbearMan
over a year ago

Norfolk

"After reading about Jack's double dealings behind your back, is this the beginnings of a meltdown Kylie?

Bitter split and possibility of a tabloid divorce on the cards?

Yes! Kylie the deranged woman was spotted in Bond Street with Nora the explorer, raiding Cartier and Saint Laurent and caught OFF THEIR TITS (DRUNK) in Soho, arse up and knickers round their ankles.

Obviously all courtesy of my husband

Glam Gangsters Cause Storm in City, read the exclusive here folks!

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"After reading about Jack's double dealings behind your back, is this the beginnings of a meltdown Kylie?

Bitter split and possibility of a tabloid divorce on the cards?

Yes! Kylie the deranged woman was spotted in Bond Street with Nora the explorer, raiding Cartier and Saint Laurent and caught OFF THEIR TITS (DRUNK) in Soho, arse up and knickers round their ankles.

Obviously all courtesy of my husband

. That would so happen though. You know it!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"After reading about Jack's double dealings behind your back, is this the beginnings of a meltdown Kylie?

Bitter split and possibility of a tabloid divorce on the cards?

Yes! Kylie the deranged woman was spotted in Bond Street with Nora the explorer, raiding Cartier and Saint Laurent and caught OFF THEIR TITS (DRUNK) in Soho, arse up and knickers round their ankles.

Obviously all courtesy of my husband

. That would so happen though. You know it!

How dare he look into that Emily when he clearly has got a full steak in front of his eyes.

We be draining his credit cards to teach that fuck not a lesson

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

*fuck boy

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Just talk to him....or better still show him this thread. Tell him exactly how you feel and take it from there.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just talk to him....or better still show him this thread. Tell him exactly how you feel and take it from there. "

Show him this thread???? Do you want me dead?

I’m disassociating , I am going to claim that I was off my head

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