FabSwingers.com forum: That initial chat .....

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It's hard to get that initial first message across ... To get it read ...

What makes a message you read compared to those you don't? .

I'm thinking wording not pics ... Pics is obvious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s as much about your profile.

Lots of women look there, and then read the message (or not, depending)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Something related to what my profile says.

Something related to z forum post.

Something funny.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s as much about your profile.

Lots of women look there, and then read the message (or not, depending)"

I think a lot of men do too, I know that I will always look at a profile first before reading a message or responding

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By *rangesmartieWoman
over a year ago

Devon

Something that shows they read my profile. Something about them (that's not I'm told I'm a great pussy licker

or other such 'plaudits')

A reason for the message e.g I seaw from your profile xyz, and I am also into xyz from abc side.

I automatically avoid anything that starts hi, how r u or how's you? Or what you doing tonight? Or had a good day?

If I do open the message, anything asking to meet tonight, or with a cock pic is instantly deleted. I'm more likely to respond if there aren't pics on a first message.

I also like interesting subject lines

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By *hubby CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Essex

Only takes a simple hello from us….but we don’t have 100 messages a day to deal with, you could tick all the boxes but are like 1 year older or younger then somebodies looking for.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Be polite, pay me a compliment, refer to something in my profile, give me a reason why we're compatible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn’t have to be anything particularly special or thoughtful, just give us something that will make us want to respond. Ask an engaging question, show you can hold a conversation, even ask something obscure as long as it grabs our attention.

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By *onb21Woman
over a year ago

Cardiff

I will always read and reply to a message that cannot be copied and pasted to someone else.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Something that you have considered whether we are compatible or not (and presumably have decided we are and it's not just a one-way thing).

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By *ussieChrisMan
over a year ago

Walsall

I always start with a polite 'hi' , or 'hello' , 'hey there'.. Then I carry on with my message. It seem rude to just go into the message with something like... 'I saw your profile and I also like...'

Is that where I'm going wrong when messaging people?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't get that many messages, but if the person has took the time to be polite and sends a nice message I always reply.

A bit of common courtesy goes a long way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I generally read all the messages I get, I will delete or send a not for me when it's glaringly obvious they aren't. This can be because of a pic or sentence. Next I'll look at the profile. If the profiles isn't good I go back and send a not for me or delete.

It's a combination of the message and a good profile for me.

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By *ussieChrisMan
over a year ago

Walsall

"I generally read all the messages I get, I will delete or send a not for me when it's glaringly obvious they aren't. This can be because of a pic or sentence. Next I'll look at the profile. If the profiles isn't good I go back and send a not for me or delete.

It's a combination of the message and a good profile for me. "

Wow, it's nice to see that people do actually read the messages. In your case you must spend hours reading messages and looking at pics/profiles, purely due to the number of messages you receive (like most women I guess). More so due to you being quite a good looking woman.

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By *utterypopcornCouple
over a year ago

oxford

It’s so hard to say what’s good so to write it must be even harder.

What we don’t like Just a Single line message but even those we would check out the profile to see if there is anything there.

Ones where it’s question after question with no other substance to the messages that get boring very quickly

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

Be yourself in your first message. Whatever that is. No one liners, unless that’s you. No

P“ima gonna do this” if that’s not you. Have a deep thought if that’s you. Just be you. You tend to hook up with people if you present yourself as who you are.

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By *his_Kitty_ScratchesWoman
over a year ago

WSM

"It's hard to get that initial first message across ... To get it read ...

What makes a message you read compared to those you don't? .

I'm thinking wording not pics ... Pics is obvious"

Wording doesn’t matter so much as what the profile says for me, if it states can’t accommodate and won’t meet smokers I delete as we aren’t going to be compatible. If there’s nothing in the bio then I delete. No public pics or only cock/action shots, I delete.

More than 30 miles away? Delete.

Basically if the profile isn’t what I’m looking for then I delete. You could write the most amazing paragraph but it won’t matter if a meet can’t actually happen or is as simple as not finding that person attractive.

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By *uietly_KinkyMan
over a year ago

High Wycombe

That initial chat: aka the thing that never happens

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

For me I think we might be compatible and send a normal polite message similar to meeting someone in the real world that might catch their attention distance does depend but are few worth the effort.... Anything sexual for me is the last thing to discuss until the conversation is really going somewhere but I don't always do that because I'd prefer to explore this together.

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