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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How do you deal with them?

Do you ignore them, stuff them down and pretend they aren’t there?

Do you have a process for releasing them?

Do you have any activities that help?

What do you class as negative emotions, anger, hate, jealousy, sadness? Or can they be positive sometimes too?

(This is not personal, just a curiosity)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take it out on my self in the gym

Find it’s a good motivational tool and leave all those negative thoughts behind for a little while

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Another vote for a hard workout at the gym. It’s my safe place away from the mayhem. My mindset changes as soon as I walk through the door. By the time I crawl out, I’ve forgotten about the bad shit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't dwell on them

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

I try to use some negative emotions in a positive way....

Anger in some cases makes me get my arse in gear and I get things done without distractions.

Fear in the right circumstances can give you a high that you need to do what you have to do.

The one to watch for is enforced jealousy being directed at you, the kind that makes you see red flags or makes you feel like you're being played with....listen very carefully to that one as it's often there for good reason when you've had experience of it before, get ready to run the fuck away as it's often the thin end of the wedge.

Hate....been there done that and learned that it festers inside you and the only person it harms is yourself. I've no time to hate anyone anymore, I'd rather use my emotions to like other people instead

Sadness is hard as it comes for a myriad of different reasons, let it come, work your way through it bit by bit and happier times will come.

Always take time out to deal with your emotions if and when you can, you'll feel better for it and remember, sometimes the best thing you can do for yourself is to tell some people to fuck off and leave them in your past

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same thing I do with positive emotions and everything in between... let them be. If the balance isn't right then I know there is something I need to work on in my life! Often it doesn't matter what... the effort seems to be the reward, not the outcome.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have sex with random men from Fab and/or get d*unk. Those are my top coping mechanisms.

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By *his_Kitty_ScratchesWoman
over a year ago

WSM

Used to ignore till they would explode and take over, now I let them have their moment, acknowledging what I’m feeling and if I need a good cry I let it happen instead of trying to force myself past it, I’ll deep clean the house if it’s anger rather than sadness and blast some good heavy music to shout along to. Ignoring us the worst thing I can do so I’ve found ways to work with it.

I’ve got borderline personality disorder so I kind of have to deal with a multitude of emotions daily

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I normally cry because I have to, let the emotion do its thing, then deal with it. I'm not one for wallowing but I am a believer that you have to allow emotions their place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As someone who struggles on a daily basis with depression, I prefer not to be round negative people let alone think negatively. I'm mainly a positive person so any negative or dark thoughts are quickly faded away by getting out for a walk or I meditate. It helps up to a point x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I normally cry because I have to, let the emotion do its thing, then deal with it. I'm not one for wallowing but I am a believer that you have to allow emotions their place. "

I agree, I believe in allowing them to have their place too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I normally cry because I have to, let the emotion do its thing, then deal with it. I'm not one for wallowing but I am a believer that you have to allow emotions their place.

I agree, I believe in allowing them to have their place too. "

I'd pay good money to never cry again though x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I show them to happen. Suppressing or blocking any emotion isn’t healthy. There are there for a reason.

I then take some time to understand what had triggered them and how I could of reacted differently.

Emotions are in our subconscious mind. They are built in reactions and we can learn to control them better.

I use negative emotions to drive myself forwards at times

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I run. Running is the best thing for dealing with my emotions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I normally cry because I have to, let the emotion do its thing, then deal with it. I'm not one for wallowing but I am a believer that you have to allow emotions their place. "

Me also

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I normally cry because I have to, let the emotion do its thing, then deal with it. I'm not one for wallowing but I am a believer that you have to allow emotions their place.

I agree, I believe in allowing them to have their place too.

I'd pay good money to never cry again though x"

I feel cried out right now... but it does help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I normally cry because I have to, let the emotion do its thing, then deal with it. I'm not one for wallowing but I am a believer that you have to allow emotions their place.

I agree, I believe in allowing them to have their place too.

I'd pay good money to never cry again though x

I feel cried out right now... but it does help. "

I've done nothing but cry over the last three years. I'm fed up with it!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I normally cry because I have to, let the emotion do its thing, then deal with it. I'm not one for wallowing but I am a believer that you have to allow emotions their place.

I agree, I believe in allowing them to have their place too.

I'd pay good money to never cry again though x

I feel cried out right now... but it does help.

I've done nothing but cry over the last three years. I'm fed up with it! "

I’m sorry to hear that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I normally cry because I have to, let the emotion do its thing, then deal with it. I'm not one for wallowing but I am a believer that you have to allow emotions their place.

I agree, I believe in allowing them to have their place too.

I'd pay good money to never cry again though x

I feel cried out right now... but it does help.

I've done nothing but cry over the last three years. I'm fed up with it!

I’m sorry to hear that "

Oh don't worry about me but thanks. I'm not going to be a narcissist about it, that's not my style x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sent a meme to someone here recently.. which illustrated it in a very relatable way to me:

I treat them like visitors. They pass through me.

But that is now when I do feel strong. Maybe ask me when I'm not. Which I hope doesn't happen for a good while!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I sent a meme to someone here recently.. which illustrated it in a very relatable way to me:

I treat them like visitors. They pass through me.

But that is now when I do feel strong. Maybe ask me when I'm not. Which I hope doesn't happen for a good while!

"

I like that, I’ve used that analogy. Thoughts are passing through. You observe them and watch them pass.

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By *hunderace...Man
over a year ago

Dudley

Not what some might expect from me but if I'm honest the negative thoughts I have are severe when they hit and this makes me cry at times. It won't resolve my issue but it releases the stress.

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby


"Not what some might expect from me but if I'm honest the negative thoughts I have are severe when they hit and this makes me cry at times. It won't resolve my issue but it releases the stress. "

Absolutely nothing wrong at all with crying, anyone who says otherwise is a cunt.

Its known to relieve stress so just let it come out of its own free will, if you can talk your problems through with someone who can listen even if they can't understand then it can help too.

Fuck what others expect of you, you just do what you need to do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually hit the wine first, listen to melancholic music and brood.

Then I pull my shit together, go on long walks, listen to upbeat music and sometimes go to the gym and lift heavy weights..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I usually hit the wine first, listen to melancholic music and brood.

Then I pull my shit together, go on long walks, listen to upbeat music and sometimes go to the gym and lift heavy weights.."

Cranberries ?!?

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

I occupy myself. Work more. Do my wheelchair sports and gym. Volunteer in the vaccine clinics etc. I'm the one who is expected to emotionally support others and so it's often very hard to find people to reciprocate. I'm expected to be this impervious bastion of strength and just get on with things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I let my emotions run their course and I always confide in my husband about how I'm feeling as bottling them up is self destructive.

Exercise always helps, either a walk, or bootcamp, and laughter is one of the best tonics there is. Find something to laugh about with someone really chases away any negative feelings.

Thankfully it's not often I have negative feelings as I try to always look at the positives in life. It's not always easy but thinking negative thoughts really doesn't help. Been there, done that.

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By *rucking-HellMan
over a year ago

Northampton

I find dwelling on them only reinforces them, and continues their effect for long periods.

I just sit with them and ride them out, treating them as a fact, rather than attaching any meaning to them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I find dwelling on them only reinforces them, and continues their effect for long periods.

I just sit with them and ride them out, treating them as a fact, rather than attaching any meaning to them.

"

I like the way you look at it, and it’s similar to what others said. Allow them, don’t resist them, and let them pass.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's no such thing as negative emotions, people feel how they feel. It's important to let yourself feel everything and go through the process of healing. We all react differently to various things and that's okay.. we all need to give ourselves a break sometimes. There's no right or wrong way to process things, do whats best for you.

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By *urls and DressesWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near here

I walk, walk so much. I’m in a slump at the moment made worse by not having time to go out, it’s frustrating

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By *he_Last_TitanMan
over a year ago

Bristol


"Take it out on my self in the gym

Find it’s a good motivational tool and leave all those negative thoughts behind for a little while "

Agree. Gym is very cathartic.. a cave in which to sort through emotions of all kinds. And, wee bit of perving, of course!

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

I process them with Tai Chi.

Being in touch with my feelings is very important to me and central to me having good mental health

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not what some might expect from me but if I'm honest the negative thoughts I have are severe when they hit and this makes me cry at times. It won't resolve my issue but it releases the stress. "

I need to make a man cry. He won't open up and talk. He's bottling it all up.

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By *heGentleman1888Man
over a year ago

Halstead

This is gonna sound like a strange one, but I sometimes use a form of masturbation to help me relieve stress.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"I normally cry because I have to, let the emotion do its thing, then deal with it. I'm not one for wallowing but I am a believer that you have to allow emotions their place.

I agree, I believe in allowing them to have their place too.

I'd pay good money to never cry again though x

I feel cried out right now... but it does help. "

Sorry to read this Scarlet, I hope the cathartic cry has helped a lot and things are better soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive found from my journey through spirituality that its best for me to embrace them, giving them a space to occupy my soul, accepting theyre a part of me as much as positive emotions

If you try to fight them you create an imbalance, it prevents you from truly growing as an individual. Chinese philosophy regarding yin yang tries to teach this as a method for finding balance within yourself, and understanding that negative emotions can be complementary to positive emotions too

I know im capable of evil, i know im capable of feeling such negative and destructive emotions, embracing them allows me to feel those negative emotions in their purest form. Once the fires of have burnt through the fuel of those negative emotions, i can settle down, returning to a balanced state

Equally, it allows me to do good, the more powerful negative emotions can become, the more powerful the positive emotions can be too. The universe has always operated on the principle of every force having an equal and opposite reaction, and this principle also applies to our emotions, theyre a tidal wave of equal and opposite states of being

Sure you can try repress the negativity, but it prevents you from growing further, the positive growth slows or doesnt grow at all. You cannot be a saint without also being a sinner

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I process them with Tai Chi.

Being in touch with my feelings is very important to me and central to me having good mental health "

Healing and releasing through movement is very underrated.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ive found from my journey through spirituality that its best for me to embrace them, giving them a space to occupy my soul, accepting theyre a part of me as much as positive emotions

If you try to fight them you create an imbalance, it prevents you from truly growing as an individual. Chinese philosophy regarding yin yang tries to teach this as a method for finding balance within yourself, and understanding that negative emotions can be complementary to positive emotions too

I know im capable of evil, i know im capable of feeling such negative and destructive emotions, embracing them allows me to feel those negative emotions in their purest form. Once the fires of have burnt through the fuel of those negative emotions, i can settle down, returning to a balanced state

Equally, it allows me to do good, the more powerful negative emotions can become, the more powerful the positive emotions can be too. The universe has always operated on the principle of every force having an equal and opposite reaction, and this principle also applies to our emotions, theyre a tidal wave of equal and opposite states of being

Sure you can try repress the negativity, but it prevents you from growing further, the positive growth slows or doesnt grow at all. You cannot be a saint without also being a sinner"

I like that. Have you read Existential Kink?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel Best way embrace them cry, talk to someone and remember it will pass too keeping inside hurts and also builds up, exercise, meditation and reading helps me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me. I ignore them, I know they are there, but they will do me little good dwelling on them. So I try my best to find good positive activities, talk to good positive people and the good vibes will triumph….aaaaand. I feel good again.

Negativity can really bring me down, I vibe off and from other people, so when I feel great, and they bring a downer, I drop down with them, it’s a shitty deal.

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By *he_Last_TitanMan
over a year ago

Bristol


"Not what some might expect from me but if I'm honest the negative thoughts I have are severe when they hit and this makes me cry at times. It won't resolve my issue but it releases the stress.

I need to make a man cry. He won't open up and talk. He's bottling it all up. "

You’re making an assumption that men process emotions in the same way as women do. We don’t. Women talk (and cry) men go to their cave (to think through solutions). It’s a bit of simplification, but pretty generalisable.

M

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive found from my journey through spirituality that its best for me to embrace them, giving them a space to occupy my soul, accepting theyre a part of me as much as positive emotions

If you try to fight them you create an imbalance, it prevents you from truly growing as an individual. Chinese philosophy regarding yin yang tries to teach this as a method for finding balance within yourself, and understanding that negative emotions can be complementary to positive emotions too

I know im capable of evil, i know im capable of feeling such negative and destructive emotions, embracing them allows me to feel those negative emotions in their purest form. Once the fires of have burnt through the fuel of those negative emotions, i can settle down, returning to a balanced state

Equally, it allows me to do good, the more powerful negative emotions can become, the more powerful the positive emotions can be too. The universe has always operated on the principle of every force having an equal and opposite reaction, and this principle also applies to our emotions, theyre a tidal wave of equal and opposite states of being

Sure you can try repress the negativity, but it prevents you from growing further, the positive growth slows or doesnt grow at all. You cannot be a saint without also being a sinner

I like that. Have you read Existential Kink?"

No i have not, im not much of a reader, im more auditory when it comes to learning so ill listen to lectures and such

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By *he_Last_TitanMan
over a year ago

Bristol


"This is gonna sound like a strange one, but I sometimes use a form of masturbation to help me relieve stress. "

Nothing strange about that. It’s well documented and understood that orgasms relieve stress.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I’ve come to look at them as a wave and treat them as such, they’re inevitable. We all stand in the sea of our emotions and waves will come. You can either try to resist and be battered by them or move with them and ride them out.

I tend to let them move through me, know that it will pass and try to understand where it came from and why.

If I need to talk, I will, if I need to get it out, I do. Holding on to negative emotions is a toxic exercise and ultimately only destructive to ourselves.

I’ve found that finding something positive and moving forward is the best way to let go, not to forget but to know that we’re not sl*ves to the past or whatever is bringing the current negative emotions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not what some might expect from me but if I'm honest the negative thoughts I have are severe when they hit and this makes me cry at times. It won't resolve my issue but it releases the stress.

I need to make a man cry. He won't open up and talk. He's bottling it all up.

You’re making an assumption that men process emotions in the same way as women do. We don’t. Women talk (and cry) men go to their cave (to think through solutions). It’s a bit of simplification, but pretty generalisable.

M "

That helps, thank you.

But he feels trapped and unhappy and lost.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Labelling emotions negative or positive is part of the problem. When we consider something negative, we typically want to get rid of it or push it away. But so-called negative emotions are an inevitable, unavoidable part of life’s rich experience. By welcoming these difficult emotions, acknowledging them and respecting them we can start to use them as a means of learning about ourselves while also, hopefully, refining our ability to regulate them effectively.

My meditation practice has been essential to working with emotions in this way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always try to counter it with a positive one..

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I don't see any emotions as negative.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I can, I'll go with it for a bit, let it have a seat at the table as it were. Then I'll do something constructive, if I'm working on some furniture at the time I'll do that, if not, something simple like doing the washing up and put on some tunes. Basically achieving something beneficial or beautiful that wasn't like that before.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ive found from my journey through spirituality that its best for me to embrace them, giving them a space to occupy my soul, accepting theyre a part of me as much as positive emotions

If you try to fight them you create an imbalance, it prevents you from truly growing as an individual. Chinese philosophy regarding yin yang tries to teach this as a method for finding balance within yourself, and understanding that negative emotions can be complementary to positive emotions too

I know im capable of evil, i know im capable of feeling such negative and destructive emotions, embracing them allows me to feel those negative emotions in their purest form. Once the fires of have burnt through the fuel of those negative emotions, i can settle down, returning to a balanced state

Equally, it allows me to do good, the more powerful negative emotions can become, the more powerful the positive emotions can be too. The universe has always operated on the principle of every force having an equal and opposite reaction, and this principle also applies to our emotions, theyre a tidal wave of equal and opposite states of being

Sure you can try repress the negativity, but it prevents you from growing further, the positive growth slows or doesnt grow at all. You cannot be a saint without also being a sinner

I like that. Have you read Existential Kink?

No i have not, im not much of a reader, im more auditory when it comes to learning so ill listen to lectures and such"

I listened to it on audible

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Not what some might expect from me but if I'm honest the negative thoughts I have are severe when they hit and this makes me cry at times. It won't resolve my issue but it releases the stress.

I need to make a man cry. He won't open up and talk. He's bottling it all up.

You’re making an assumption that men process emotions in the same way as women do. We don’t. Women talk (and cry) men go to their cave (to think through solutions). It’s a bit of simplification, but pretty generalisable.

M "

Totally disagree. The belief that women cry and men think is a social construct that unfortunately is taking too long to disappear.

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By *ausage1970Man
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

I live with it daily and yes it gets you down but their negativity comes from jealousy and for that reason it turn into a positive for me..

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By *ausage1970Man
over a year ago

Shrewsbury


"This is gonna sound like a strange one, but I sometimes use a form of masturbation to help me relieve stress. "

Not strange perfectly normal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was in hospital last week for a reason I will not discuss on hear while it’s considered a negative emotion I think I’m normal but doctors don’t think so hence meds and weekly one to ones find it difficult to talk about emotions think that’s why mine tend to be taken out at gym

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not what some might expect from me but if I'm honest the negative thoughts I have are severe when they hit and this makes me cry at times. It won't resolve my issue but it releases the stress.

I need to make a man cry. He won't open up and talk. He's bottling it all up.

You’re making an assumption that men process emotions in the same way as women do. We don’t. Women talk (and cry) men go to their cave (to think through solutions). It’s a bit of simplification, but pretty generalisable.

M

Totally disagree. The belief that women cry and men think is a social construct that unfortunately is taking too long to disappear."

But if he wants to sit alone in his cave and fester, what can a person do to help if he won't talk?

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley

I've tried positive thinking exercises at night time, but still have to take sleeping tablets.

Also through myself into doing more exercises and my music after recent events.

Also realised that shagging about all the time isn't the answer.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not what some might expect from me but if I'm honest the negative thoughts I have are severe when they hit and this makes me cry at times. It won't resolve my issue but it releases the stress.

I need to make a man cry. He won't open up and talk. He's bottling it all up.

You’re making an assumption that men process emotions in the same way as women do. We don’t. Women talk (and cry) men go to their cave (to think through solutions). It’s a bit of simplification, but pretty generalisable.

M

Totally disagree. The belief that women cry and men think is a social construct that unfortunately is taking too long to disappear.

But if he wants to sit alone in his cave and fester, what can a person do to help if he won't talk?"

Let him know you are there, if and when he wants/needs to talk. It’s all you can do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not what some might expect from me but if I'm honest the negative thoughts I have are severe when they hit and this makes me cry at times. It won't resolve my issue but it releases the stress.

I need to make a man cry. He won't open up and talk. He's bottling it all up.

You’re making an assumption that men process emotions in the same way as women do. We don’t. Women talk (and cry) men go to their cave (to think through solutions). It’s a bit of simplification, but pretty generalisable.

M

Totally disagree. The belief that women cry and men think is a social construct that unfortunately is taking too long to disappear.

But if he wants to sit alone in his cave and fester, what can a person do to help if he won't talk?"

You can’t make people do anything. All you can do is tell them you’re there if they need to… It’s got to come from their own free will, not from someone else trying to wrangle emotional expression out of them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not what some might expect from me but if I'm honest the negative thoughts I have are severe when they hit and this makes me cry at times. It won't resolve my issue but it releases the stress.

I need to make a man cry. He won't open up and talk. He's bottling it all up.

You’re making an assumption that men process emotions in the same way as women do. We don’t. Women talk (and cry) men go to their cave (to think through solutions). It’s a bit of simplification, but pretty generalisable.

M

Totally disagree. The belief that women cry and men think is a social construct that unfortunately is taking too long to disappear.

But if he wants to sit alone in his cave and fester, what can a person do to help if he won't talk?

Let him know you are there, if and when he wants/needs to talk. It’s all you can do. "

Great minds!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not what some might expect from me but if I'm honest the negative thoughts I have are severe when they hit and this makes me cry at times. It won't resolve my issue but it releases the stress.

I need to make a man cry. He won't open up and talk. He's bottling it all up.

You’re making an assumption that men process emotions in the same way as women do. We don’t. Women talk (and cry) men go to their cave (to think through solutions). It’s a bit of simplification, but pretty generalisable.

M

Totally disagree. The belief that women cry and men think is a social construct that unfortunately is taking too long to disappear.

But if he wants to sit alone in his cave and fester, what can a person do to help if he won't talk?

Let him know you are there, if and when he wants/needs to talk. It’s all you can do. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not what some might expect from me but if I'm honest the negative thoughts I have are severe when they hit and this makes me cry at times. It won't resolve my issue but it releases the stress.

I need to make a man cry. He won't open up and talk. He's bottling it all up.

You’re making an assumption that men process emotions in the same way as women do. We don’t. Women talk (and cry) men go to their cave (to think through solutions). It’s a bit of simplification, but pretty generalisable.

M

Totally disagree. The belief that women cry and men think is a social construct that unfortunately is taking too long to disappear.

But if he wants to sit alone in his cave and fester, what can a person do to help if he won't talk?

You can’t make people do anything. All you can do is tell them you’re there if they need to… It’s got to come from their own free will, not from someone else trying to wrangle emotional expression out of them. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Labelling emotions negative or positive is part of the problem. When we consider something negative, we typically want to get rid of it or push it away. But so-called negative emotions are an inevitable, unavoidable part of life’s rich experience. By welcoming these difficult emotions, acknowledging them and respecting them we can start to use them as a means of learning about ourselves while also, hopefully, refining our ability to regulate them effectively.

My meditation practice has been essential to working with emotions in this way. "

Agree with this entirely, there is no such thing as a negative emotion, we have human emotions, some of which can be response by negative experiences... or circumstances

To be sad, to cry, to feel angry is not negative is human. The respones we use to channel that can be negative....

Maybe if more people saw emotions as human and not in a category there would be more people opening up

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"Labelling emotions negative or positive is part of the problem. When we consider something negative, we typically want to get rid of it or push it away. But so-called negative emotions are an inevitable, unavoidable part of life’s rich experience. By welcoming these difficult emotions, acknowledging them and respecting them we can start to use them as a means of learning about ourselves while also, hopefully, refining our ability to regulate them effectively.

My meditation practice has been essential to working with emotions in this way.

Agree with this entirely, there is no such thing as a negative emotion, we have human emotions, some of which can be response by negative experiences... or circumstances

To be sad, to cry, to feel angry is not negative is human. The respones we use to channel that can be negative....

Maybe if more people saw emotions as human and not in a category there would be more people opening up "

I think that the term ‘negative emotion’ is a very common one, generally used by society and also by medial professionals as it labels those emotions that can be destructive to ourselves or other, hence the term negative, they bring us down and are (in most parts) unwelcome.

We label the emotions that bring us up as positive, those that bring us below our equilibrium as negative. It’s the beauty of language.

Yes, they’re all part of the human whole but they’re not something that anyone wants to dwell on or live in a place of, hence the term.

I think that some people are getting caught up on semantics.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Not what some might expect from me but if I'm honest the negative thoughts I have are severe when they hit and this makes me cry at times. It won't resolve my issue but it releases the stress.

I need to make a man cry. He won't open up and talk. He's bottling it all up.

You’re making an assumption that men process emotions in the same way as women do. We don’t. Women talk (and cry) men go to their cave (to think through solutions). It’s a bit of simplification, but pretty generalisable.

M

Totally disagree. The belief that women cry and men think is a social construct that unfortunately is taking too long to disappear.

But if he wants to sit alone in his cave and fester, what can a person do to help if he won't talk?"

Just be there. Just wait. Don't pester or push. Monitor. Make sure you get support.......

Difficult.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Labelling emotions negative or positive is part of the problem. When we consider something negative, we typically want to get rid of it or push it away. But so-called negative emotions are an inevitable, unavoidable part of life’s rich experience. By welcoming these difficult emotions, acknowledging them and respecting them we can start to use them as a means of learning about ourselves while also, hopefully, refining our ability to regulate them effectively.

My meditation practice has been essential to working with emotions in this way.

Agree with this entirely, there is no such thing as a negative emotion, we have human emotions, some of which can be response by negative experiences... or circumstances

To be sad, to cry, to feel angry is not negative is human. The respones we use to channel that can be negative....

Maybe if more people saw emotions as human and not in a category there would be more people opening up

I think that the term ‘negative emotion’ is a very common one, generally used by society and also by medial professionals as it labels those emotions that can be destructive to ourselves or other, hence the term negative, they bring us down and are (in most parts) unwelcome.

We label the emotions that bring us up as positive, those that bring us below our equilibrium as negative. It’s the beauty of language.

Yes, they’re all part of the human whole but they’re not something that anyone wants to dwell on or live in a place of, hence the term.

I think that some people are getting caught up on semantics."

I don't think I am getting caught up in semantics at all. Just saying how I see it regardless of what society or medical professionals think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have sex with random men from Fab and/or get d*unk. Those are my top coping mechanisms. "

Hello, how can I help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I run. Running is the best thing for dealing with my emotions. "

Agreed, I always feel so much better after a run.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Labelling emotions negative or positive is part of the problem. When we consider something negative, we typically want to get rid of it or push it away. But so-called negative emotions are an inevitable, unavoidable part of life’s rich experience. By welcoming these difficult emotions, acknowledging them and respecting them we can start to use them as a means of learning about ourselves while also, hopefully, refining our ability to regulate them effectively.

My meditation practice has been essential to working with emotions in this way.

Agree with this entirely, there is no such thing as a negative emotion, we have human emotions, some of which can be response by negative experiences... or circumstances

To be sad, to cry, to feel angry is not negative is human. The respones we use to channel that can be negative....

Maybe if more people saw emotions as human and not in a category there would be more people opening up

I think that the term ‘negative emotion’ is a very common one, generally used by society and also by medial professionals as it labels those emotions that can be destructive to ourselves or other, hence the term negative, they bring us down and are (in most parts) unwelcome.

We label the emotions that bring us up as positive, those that bring us below our equilibrium as negative. It’s the beauty of language.

Yes, they’re all part of the human whole but they’re not something that anyone wants to dwell on or live in a place of, hence the term.

I think that some people are getting caught up on semantics.

I don't think I am getting caught up in semantics at all. Just saying how I see it regardless of what society or medical professionals think"

+1

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By *ilverjagMan
over a year ago

swansea


"I try to use some negative emotions in a positive way....

Anger in some cases makes me get my arse in gear and I get things done without distractions.

Fear in the right circumstances can give you a high that you need to do what you have to do.

The one to watch for is enforced jealousy being directed at you, the kind that makes you see red flags or makes you feel like you're being played with....listen very carefully to that one as it's often there for good reason when you've had experience of it before, get ready to run the fuck away as it's often the thin end of the wedge.

Hate....been there done that and learned that it festers inside you and the only person it harms is yourself. I've no time to hate anyone anymore, I'd rather use my emotions to like other people instead

Sadness is hard as it comes for a myriad of different reasons, let it come, work your way through it bit by bit and happier times will come.

Always take time out to deal with your emotions if and when you can, you'll feel better for it and remember, sometimes the best thing you can do for yourself is to tell some people to fuck off and leave them in your past "

Very well said! I couldn't have put it better myself. Not sure if I totally agree with you about hate as feelings of hatred have never harmed me. On the contrary, I'm a very nice guy, but if someone, or even some organisation puts one over on me, they have to be avenged, otherwise I see it as a weakness in myself. Revenge is sweet reward especially when you give someone a pain in the arse pocket. I was only recently disguising the subject of hate with a pal of mine who is actually a Jehovah's witness, and he told that it's written in the good book, "Vengeance is mine sayeth THE LORD," My answer to that was, "Maybe so, but now and again THE LORD needs a helping hand."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Another vote for a hard workout at the gym. It’s my safe place away from the mayhem. My mindset changes as soon as I walk through the door. By the time I crawl out, I’ve forgotten about the bad shit. "

I do this too

If i can't escape them, I'll let them flow through me and acknowledge the source and then see how i can rationally flip it to a positive. I'm very good at this generally. If i have a part in it (say jealousy), then i try to work on that. I do think it makes me more immune to others feeling tho and so i come across as quite cold

I sometimes get gnawing anxiety at night, for no apparent reason .. Like the pit of the stomach type flips that radiate out through the rest of my body. As i type I've induced it and that feeling is very difficult to shake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Another vote for a hard workout at the gym. It’s my safe place away from the mayhem. My mindset changes as soon as I walk through the door. By the time I crawl out, I’ve forgotten about the bad shit. "

3rd vote for this.

With age I've came to realise that no matter the cause of the emotion (work, another person) I'm ultimately hurting myself by carrying negative shit about. So practice a wee bit of self love and let the negative stuff go.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Another vote for a hard workout at the gym. It’s my safe place away from the mayhem. My mindset changes as soon as I walk through the door. By the time I crawl out, I’ve forgotten about the bad shit.

3rd vote for this.

With age I've came to realise that no matter the cause of the emotion (work, another person) I'm ultimately hurting myself by carrying negative shit about. So practice a wee bit of self love and let the negative stuff go."

Agree that exercise can be super beneficial for our mental health.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anything that makes me feel really low I would say is a negative emotion. I allow myself to cry, eat rubbish food and talk to my Sir.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Anything that makes me feel really low I would say is a negative emotion. I allow myself to cry, eat rubbish food and talk to my Sir."

It’s good to have someone to support you

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By *esthetic21Man
over a year ago

Birmingham/Bristol

Breathing techniques work

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Negative energy it depends on what is the cause.

Was I angry at the world when someone dear to me passed away yes. And I dealt with it and processed my emotions.

Envy I've used positively and used to to push myself forward.

Sometimes I think I can come across as negative on here, but if you actually knew me. You'd know I've dealt with a heck of a lot of trauma in my life and I used to bottle it all in and try and ignore it. Now I see it as my truth and my life it is what it is, I'm content with my life and how it is progressing.

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay

I'm trying to unlearn the idea that any emotions are 'negative'. To accept even the challenging feelings as simply part of our human experience.

Let them wash over or have a sense into what's behind it, if anything at all.

Transformational stuff like dance, breathe, share, walk, nature, sex, connection are all good ointments.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anything that makes me feel really low I would say is a negative emotion. I allow myself to cry, eat rubbish food and talk to my Sir.

It’s good to have someone to support you "

It is

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay

I love this poem..

The Guest House, Rumi

This being human is a guest house.

Every morning a new arrival.

A joy, a depression, a meanness,

some momentary awareness comes

as an unexpected visitor.

Welcome and entertain them all!

Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows,

who violently sweep your house

empty of its furniture,

still, treat each guest honorably.

He may be clearing you out

for some new delight.

The dark thought, the shame, the malice,

meet them at the door laughing,

and invite them in.

Be grateful for whoever comes,

because each has been sent

as a guide from beyond.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"I'm trying to unlearn the idea that any emotions are 'negative'. To accept even the challenging feelings as simply part of our human experience.

Let them wash over or have a sense into what's behind it, if anything at all.

Transformational stuff like dance, breathe, share, walk, nature, sex, connection are all good ointments.

"

So agree with emotions aren't a bad thing. If you can't feel sad how can you feel happy?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm trying to unlearn the idea that any emotions are 'negative'. To accept even the challenging feelings as simply part of our human experience.

Let them wash over or have a sense into what's behind it, if anything at all.

Transformational stuff like dance, breathe, share, walk, nature, sex, connection are all good ointments.

"

I love the way you’ve worded this

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