FabSwingers.com forum: Buying siblings birthday presents?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So I've just discovered my ex never had to buy presents for her brothers(2) when a child. I did and want our kids to do the same because I think it's important for both giver and recipient. Though she's not against it, she's not exactly encouraging of the idea, and despite her saying it doesn't bother her, it does when her brothers forget to even wish her a happy birthday. Did anyone else do this, or not as the case may be?

Good morning everyone BTW.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mr and my brother always used to give each other money on our bdays. Then we agreed it was pointless in buying a card that we both know will end up in the bin after a few days. And it's also pointless giving each other the same amount of money.

In essence, we were wasting time and money on a card.

So we agreed not to and ever since, we haven't got each other anything.

We still say happy bday and meet up and go out on special occasions but we don't get each other anything

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

I get my brother expensive geekie stuff and jellybeans.

He buys me booze I don't like!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Mr and my brother always used to give each other money on our bdays. Then we agreed it was pointless in buying a card that we both know will end up in the bin after a few days. And it's also pointless giving each other the same amount of money.

In essence, we were wasting time and money on a card.

So we agreed not to and ever since, we haven't got each other anything.

We still say happy bday and meet up and go out on special occasions but we don't get each other anything "

That's fair enough, a mutual decision

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I get my brother expensive geekie stuff and jellybeans.

He buys me booze I don't like! "

Ha, yes my brother does the same and I virtually never drink.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbh me and my brother don’t buy gifts for each other, we just buy for each other’s kids instead although this year I got him something from my baby.

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

As a child we didnt buy each other gifts until we were earning and parents didn’t have much money so wouldn’t have given us money to spend on each other

As adults we all buy each other for birthdays, we put thought into our gifts and if we are looking for a bigger gift we are comfortable enough to ask them to chip in for one gift.

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

OP can you not encourage your children to buy their siblings gifts

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By *adHatter_RestrainedAliceCouple
over a year ago

In The Hills

We did as kids and we do now. My boys do, as do my nieces and nephews (on my side). I have noticed that this very much depends on your own experiences as a child and I know a lot of friends just don't do this.

My youngest at Christmas always had a shopping trip with his Auntie where they would go for lunch and then she would help him pick out all the presents he was buying. He absolutely loved it and always had the day booked in about 10 months in advance. By the way his budget was only £20 for 9/10 people but he always managed to find the perfect gift.

Alice x

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

We did until we had kids. Now we just buy for the kids. Adults do a secret Santa.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OP can you not encourage your children to buy their siblings gifts"

I will be, I enjoyed going shopping for my brothers present, him opening it and receiving his. They were never more than a couple of quid, but were always well received. I think sometimes kids are better at picking stuff for other kids because they are kids. A silly little £1 cap gun keyring would be as joyfully received as a £100 scalextric.

I've clearly wrongfully assumed everybody brought Christmas and birthday presents for their siblings as kids. Live and learn

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

"OP can you not encourage your children to buy their siblings gifts

I've clearly wrongfully assumed everybody brought Christmas and birthday presents for their siblings as kids. Live and learn"

I think it’s a great idea

When we are growing up we think what goes on in our house is the norm then as we get older and find out other families traditions we realise we are all unique

I had a friend who got Xmas gifts from her parents whereas all ours were from Santa

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT

Did when we were kids but haven’t for the last 40 or so years.

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