FabSwingers.com forum: Local fwb - am I asking too much?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So this is hard work! Haha honestly, all I want is a regular fuck and sometimes a cuddle! Seems like I’m wanting the impossible

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"So this is hard work! Haha honestly, all I want is a regular fuck and sometimes a cuddle! Seems like I’m wanting the impossible "

I hear ya!

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By *yclindaveMan
over a year ago

Leicester

"So this is hard work! Haha honestly, all I want is a regular fuck and sometimes a cuddle! Seems like I’m wanting the impossible "

I don't think it's that difficult to get and I do think a lot of blokes want the same thing. The problem is getting that message through can be really difficult particularly when you are getting bombarded with messages no doubt.

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By *oeBeansMan
over a year ago

Derby

"So this is hard work! Haha honestly, all I want is a regular fuck and sometimes a cuddle! Seems like I’m wanting the impossible "

A fuck AND a cuddle? Might as well ask them to lasso the moon down for you too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's very hard to find that perfect person but so so worth the effort and patience.

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Yes it’s hard

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By *.R.MMan
over a year ago

Norfolk

*sigh* I feel your pain

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By *atricia ParnelWoman
over a year ago

In a town full of colours

He will pop up when you are least expecting it

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

The holy grail for many on here. I’ve been looking for 18 months.

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By *teve48ukMan
over a year ago

Ware

In all fairness, what your looking for is like rocking horse shit! Bloody impossible to find!

As Bono would say, I still haven’t found what I looking for!!

Lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's because people view FWB as a situ where one could get feelings quite often. Hence the 'this ain't tinder' comments you see on here.

Or because they'll feel tied in to a regular thing when they worry their freedom will be affected, they worry they'll upset the FWB if they aren't free to meet too and it'll become more complicated.

In short it comes with a level of commitment.

Local says more for as and when meets being more likely so that also creates an impression that it'll be more of an infringement on their day to life.

FWB can also come with the worry of jealousy or possessiveness or a need to be exclusive which some will struggle with.

So no it's not easy to find.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely the fab holy grail..

Have made some great connections on here but they all live miles away..

To have someone local(who I fancy) that I could see weekly would be ideal.

Much harder to find than I ever expected.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

It’s hard to find but I also think it is one of those things that happens naturally rather than looking for it.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Definitely the fab holy grail..

Have made some great connections on here but they all live miles away..

To have someone local(who I fancy) that I could see weekly would be ideal.

Much harder to find than I ever expected.

Exactly this. I have friends I meet every now and then if I/we travel which is great but someone local and regular would be perfect! X

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

I know right, we set the bar sooooo high. And they still fail

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"It's because people view FWB as a situ where one could get feelings quite often. Hence the 'this ain't tinder' comments you see on here.

Or because they'll feel tied in to a regular thing when they worry their freedom will be affected, they worry they'll upset the FWB if they aren't free to meet too and it'll become more complicated.

In short it comes with a level of commitment.

Local says more for as and when meets being more likely so that also creates an impression that it'll be more of an infringement on their day to life.

FWB can also come with the worry of jealousy or possessiveness or a need to be exclusive which some will struggle with.

So no it's not easy to find.

I've had alot of guys expect to be exclusive if it's fwb. Definitely not what I'm looking for.

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By *aughtyandhandsomeMan
over a year ago

button moon

The phrase rare as rocking horse shit comes to mind!

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By *irtyboy 21Man
over a year ago

skelmersdale

Try being 5ft white an a smoker

Every one want 6ft black none smokers

Think am fucked

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

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By *tagmeupMan
over a year ago

wirral

Me too very much so

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By *all Guy 00Man
over a year ago

Dumfries

"So this is hard work! Haha honestly, all I want is a regular fuck and sometimes a cuddle! Seems like I’m wanting the impossible "

100% agree with ya, I give great cuddles

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"So this is hard work! Haha honestly, all I want is a regular fuck and sometimes a cuddle! Seems like I’m wanting the impossible "

I wouldn’t want one local. I’m not likely to find my calibre of FWB in my area. I have been really lucky in finding more than one but both live a distance away which suits the cause perfectly. I’m not in their pocket, they’re not in mine.

Change the pressure point from from FWB to just seeking a meeting and date … one may lead to the other! You never know

Hope you find someone nice lovely. You so deserve it xx

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"The phrase rare as rocking horse shit comes to mind! "

I thought you had a queue of lovelies waiting in the wings!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So this is hard work! Haha honestly, all I want is a regular fuck and sometimes a cuddle! Seems like I’m wanting the impossible "

That’s Fab for you, but with luck, perseverance and a good dickhead radar the impossible happens for some

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe one day….

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By *atricia ParnelWoman
over a year ago

In a town full of colours

I like mine not so local, at least 30 mins away is preferable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I totally get this OP. I did have someone to fuck and cuddle a while back. It seems to be more difficult now, probably because of the pandemic but we live in hope it will happen again one day x

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By *adboi9inchMan
over a year ago

manchester

Just got to keep trying and I guess chat more make it clear what u want and find the right person who's up for it....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

seems to be very illusive for me too

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan
over a year ago

Rochester, Kent

I’ve hoped for exactly that.

But I’ve decided to channel my efforts into a seemingly easier quest: to find some rocking horse shit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t even want the cuddle. Just want to be able to fuck someone on a regular basis, who is local. Ideally we both wfh so can sneak in those afternoon fucks too - save me getting the vibrator out!

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Mine is over 2 hours away...thats local enough

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By *inda May SimmonsTV/TS
over a year ago

hexham

"So this is hard work! Haha honestly, all I want is a regular fuck and sometimes a cuddle! Seems like I’m wanting the impossible

A fuck AND a cuddle? Might as well ask them to lasso the moon down for you too

Oooh “lasso the moon down”

Have you been watching “A Wonderful Life”

Anyone who watches that film and can quote from it has to be a fab person in my book !

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By *MCMan
over a year ago

London/EA

How dare you ask for such extravagant things Peach!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im after the same thing. Maybe its my profile, but finding it hard on here.

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By *entBarryUKMan
over a year ago

Ashford

"So this is hard work! Haha honestly, all I want is a regular fuck and sometimes a cuddle! Seems like I’m wanting the impossible "

It is hard finding that these days, but I always preferred doing rhe awkward chat up bit online and rhen you get straight to the chats about likes, dislikes, and flirting (my favourite bit)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looking for the same, but as someone else has said, the bar appears to be set high for guys on here; add to that the shear volume of single males profiles, I imagine makes it easy for possible good matches to be lost in the tsunami of replies whenever a single woman or couple states they are looking.

I think it is more and more just based on luck as to whether a profile gets viewed, and then whether it matches requirements.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

"So this is hard work! Haha honestly, all I want is a regular fuck and sometimes a cuddle! Seems like I’m wanting the impossible "

If that’s all you want I’m sure there’s 1000s of guys that would fuck and cuddle you regularly

Is that all you want?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So this is hard work! Haha honestly, all I want is a regular fuck and sometimes a cuddle! Seems like I’m wanting the impossible "

Yes it's a struggle, I'm the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So this is hard work! Haha honestly, all I want is a regular fuck and sometimes a cuddle! Seems like I’m wanting the impossible "

Same here, maybe one day…..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought it was just men that struggle with this

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

I don't know why it's so hard. I've had several and at one time. If you get along with someone or would meet them again, then you've likely already met a fwb. If you have met and slept with someone, then they have in some way met part of your tick list, so why not meet again?

If you meet again and they are still as good say sexually, persona, outlook, possibly interests why not meet them again? From that 'booty call' there is the potential to develop into fwb. If everyone is on the same page you can still have meets, though explore or chill with someone you get along with outside of a relationship.

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By *rivateparts!Man
over a year ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!

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By *rivateparts!Man
over a year ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!

Getting a fuck every now and then would be nice

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito

"So this is hard work! Haha honestly, all I want is a regular fuck and sometimes a cuddle! Seems like I’m wanting the impossible "

This. Also sometimes I think people’s idea of regular is way off mine…once every three years isn’t what I consider regular Neville no matter how busy your life is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a fab law that the ones you really fancy, and fancy you back, are too far way..

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I thought, I don't fucking remember starting this thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought, I don't fucking remember starting this thread

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean

I thought, I don't fucking remember starting this thread

Don't ! I thought you'd moved..... and got a tad booby darling.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I thought, I don't fucking remember starting this thread

Don't ! I thought you'd moved..... and got a tad booby darling."

I wish I had knockers like that!

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I thought, I don't fucking remember starting this thread

Must admit I did think yay! She’s looking for someone again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would be nice aye

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I thought, I don't fucking remember starting this thread

Must admit I did think yay! She’s looking for someone again

Nope, still a dry minged hag.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I thought, I don't fucking remember starting this thread

Must admit I did think yay! She’s looking for someone again

Nope, still a dry minged hag."

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

I had to check out the OP as well as I thought I was seeing seeing things Peach

Two of you.....not sure Fab could cope

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean

Always interests me ......

Why do people bring up old threads ?

So much could have changed for the O.P. since this started and people are responding to someone who is totally unaware this is here.....

I'm curious

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By *m389Man
over a year ago

Bromley

"Always interests me ......

Why do people bring up old threads ?

So much could have changed for the O.P. since this started and people are responding to someone who is totally unaware this is here.....

I'm curious"

Thread necromancer can be fun

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By *entBarryUKMan
over a year ago

Ashford

"So this is hard work! Haha honestly, all I want is a regular fuck and sometimes a cuddle! Seems like I’m wanting the impossible

This. Also sometimes I think people’s idea of regular is way off mine…once every three years isn’t what I consider regular Neville no matter how busy your life is

Oh gosh. Neville needs to be dumped!

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Always interests me ......

Why do people bring up old threads ?

So much could have changed for the O.P. since this started and people are responding to someone who is totally unaware this is here.....

I'm curious"

People are often told search the forums when they bring up subjects that are discussed a lot. Could be that reason x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had one or two in the past but nothing that has ever wowed me.....until recently. My current FWB is amazing and I'm so glad I got on top of my nerves to follow it through

Stick with it OP, you won't regret it

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean

"I've had one or two in the past but nothing that has ever wowed me.....until recently. My current FWB is amazing and I'm so glad I got on top of my nerves to follow it through

Stick with it OP, you won't regret it

How could anything as beautiful as you be nervous

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean

"Always interests me ......

Why do people bring up old threads ?

So much could have changed for the O.P. since this started and people are responding to someone who is totally unaware this is here.....

I'm curious

People are often told search the forums when they bring up subjects that are discussed a lot. Could be that reason x"

Could be. I such a cynic.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean

Excuse the shit grammar.......

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean

Scuse the bad language

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a lovely FB just a couple miles away, he’s taking a break just now but I’m sure he’ll be back in touch when he’s ready. They are out there…

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"I had to check out the OP as well as I thought I was seeing seeing things Peach

Two of you.....not sure Fab could cope

I was all confused

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By *ewBurtonMan
over a year ago

Derby

"So this is hard work! Haha honestly, all I want is a regular fuck and sometimes a cuddle! Seems like I’m wanting the impossible "

Yes same here. Not the easiest thing to find on here.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean

Dear Dry Flange.

I messaged you 20 mins ago.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Scuse the bad language"

What if I don't fucking want to?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean

"Scuse the bad language

What if I don't fucking want to?"

Then please overlook my abysmal abbreviations as an alternative textual transgression.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had one or two in the past but nothing that has ever wowed me.....until recently. My current FWB is amazing and I'm so glad I got on top of my nerves to follow it through

Stick with it OP, you won't regret it

How could anything as beautiful as you be nervous "

Thank you

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By *ewBurtonMan
over a year ago

Derby

"Dear Dry Flange.

I messaged you 20 mins ago."

Happy to help Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Always interests me ......

Why do people bring up old threads ?

So much could have changed for the O.P. since this started and people are responding to someone who is totally unaware this is here.....

I'm curious"

It’s only 8 weeks old… hardly “old” lol maybe if it had been dragged up from over a year ago I’d agree with ya…

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By *rFunBoyMan
over a year ago

Longridge

"So this is hard work! Haha honestly, all I want is a regular fuck and sometimes a cuddle! Seems like I’m wanting the impossible "

Sounds perfect, don't forget spooning too..

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

I thought, I don't fucking remember starting this thread

Haha it threw me too...I thought has she changed how her name is displayed

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean

"Always interests me ......

Why do people bring up old threads ?

So much could have changed for the O.P. since this started and people are responding to someone who is totally unaware this is here.....

I'm curious

It’s only 8 weeks old… hardly “old” lol maybe if it had been dragged up from over a year ago I’d agree with ya…"

Old in thread terms not dog years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would love a fwb and a cuddle buddy, it is so hard to find that.

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By *uby StarCouple
over a year ago

Durham

I think lots of us struggle to find what we are looking for. You're not on your own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't think im on my own with this one its just getting that first message

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By *irestorm 500Couple
over a year ago

coventry

"So this is hard work! Haha honestly, all I want is a regular fuck and sometimes a cuddle! Seems like I’m wanting the impossible "

It does feel that way sometimes x storm x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ll second this!!

"Definitely the fab holy grail..

Have made some great connections on here but they all live miles away..

To have someone local(who I fancy) that I could see weekly would be ideal.

Much harder to find than I ever expected.

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

2 goods rule of fab..

The more niche your requirements the longer you'll search.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Send many messages, hardly ever get a reply

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"2 goods rule of fab..

The more niche your requirements the longer you'll search.

True dat

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By *hunderace...Man
over a year ago

Dudley

I guess like most of us I'd love to make this connection, local is good but distance no drama.

Its one of those things that others seem achieve with ease but the truth is a relationship on any level is so hard to find...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So this is hard work! Haha honestly, all I want is a regular fuck and sometimes a cuddle! Seems like I’m wanting the impossible "

I’ve always used Fab to find exactly that but it’s been much harder the last few years.

So many guys say they want that but many of them are lying and just use it as a sales pitch so they can f and go when it suits them.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I hope all you lovely people find this. I have been so lucky to find a few wonderful men that have become good friends as well as lovers.

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By *enn68Man
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

I think I live in the wrong part of the country but I will keep seeking that elusive lady

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hear you,live in West Wales hardly any women on here

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By *aiseiMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

"He will pop up when you are least expecting it

Probably during the cuddle….

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I’d be happy with the cuddle. Forget the fuck.

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By *not123Couple
over a year ago

sp1

"It's because people view FWB as a situ where one could get feelings quite often. Hence the 'this ain't tinder' comments you see on here.

Or because they'll feel tied in to a regular thing when they worry their freedom will be affected, they worry they'll upset the FWB if they aren't free to meet too and it'll become more complicated.

In short it comes with a level of commitment.

Local says more for as and when meets being more likely so that also creates an impression that it'll be more of an infringement on their day to life.

FWB can also come with the worry of jealousy or possessiveness or a need to be exclusive which some will struggle with.

So no it's not easy to find.

I agree with what your saying we are fwb we are suppose to be exclusive purely as its sometimesca struggle to meet yes dangers are you get feelings but I had feeling for him 30 yrs ago n yes a but of jealousy /insecurity after meeting single female n them chatting privately

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Gravely not in Gravesend

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By *rMojoRisinMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

It’s the ideal, but no one *sniff, wants me anymore, *sniff.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Dear Dry Flange.

I messaged you 20 mins ago."

So you did. I did the whole going to work malarkey. Urgh.

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