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Bullies and how you deal

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How do you usually deal with bullies? Whether they are in real life or online?

Do you face them head on? Or are you more someone who shies away?

What about the ones from childhood, have you managed to relinquish the hold they might have had on ur psyche?

I have had some (one is a family member and she’s been horrible throughout my life and had to cut her off but she resurfaces every now and then…) , and bullying behaviour is really one of the worst!! I always try to raise above it and/or deal with them when exhausted

Do you have good stories of how you eventually risen through it all? I’d like to keep this positive and to show that no matter what, we definitely get to hold our head well high in such a situation and that they are the ones that have to be ashamed of their behaviour.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I stand my ground.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I scrap with them.

That’s how I dealt with a lass in School anyway. She never bothered me again.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I stand my ground."

Yes! I think this is very important

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

Face them head on

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I put my one in hospital!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Does anyone here stand up for others who get picked on or get some shocking behaviour thrown at them? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Uhh I punched in bully of an ex boyfriend in the nose and broke it..

The others I ignored and then have excelled past them in our profession when they said I'd never do anything!

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Stand up to them. I’ve always hated bullying. I was always the one who stuck up for the ones being bullied at school. I can’t abide it and if I see it on here I can’t help but get involved either.

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By *ndysmithMan
over a year ago

north cyprus

depends if sexual bullying or physical. My wife was bullied into various sexual activities with old bf. No beatings, just bullied into doing things she would have prefer not to do

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Does anyone here stand up for others who get picked on or get some shocking behaviour thrown at them? X "

If I don’t agree with it or I think it’s bullying then yes I would.

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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago

Dublin

I'd always stick up for someone else being bullied. For myself I've always just avoided it as i was never that bothered about it.

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

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"Does anyone here stand up for others who get picked on or get some shocking behaviour thrown at them? X "

In a fast food place a few years ago I saw a teenage girl go over to another sat with a friend and gave her a mouthful, really horrible it was

I went over to check if she was ok, she was crying, I tried to reassure her. I knew how it felt and it just made me so sad for her

I absolutely despise bullies.

Love how ones from school try and get in touch again on fb.

Oh and bully my kids and you’ll see lion mama.

Has happened already and I won’t stand for it at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends. Sometimes they want a reaction, so the best thing to do is show complete indifference. That they're so insignificant, there opinion has absolutely no affect on you. That's best suited for the passive aggressive shite that family members come out with.

In the case of an overt bully, stand your ground and a simple "who the fuck do you think you're talking to?" usually does the trick.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I challenge people and will discuss it showing what is clearly unacceptable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good slap in the head usually sorts it out.

Reasoning and trying to work out your difference's will work with the majority of people.

But some people just get off on being the aggressor. And those lot need a good smack to resolve it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Stand up to them. I’ve always hated bullying. I was always the one who stuck up for the ones being bullied at school. I can’t abide it and if I see it on here I can’t help but get involved either. "

You are amazing

My family member is kinda psychotic in all fairness, and also pretty jealous of me. Im glad I cut her off my life, but every now and then I basically have to have screaming matches with her, because she sticks her nose where it doesn’t belong … and spreads rumors about me

Literally the worst

Could write a novel about my life and it’d actually turn out quite “entertaining”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends. Sometimes they want a reaction, so the best thing to do is show complete indifference. That they're so insignificant, there opinion has absolutely no affect on you. That's best suited for the passive aggressive shite that family members come out with.

In the case of an overt bully, stand your ground and a simple "who the fuck do you think you're talking to?" usually does the trick."

Oh and my story from the past....a girl who made my life a misery at school. I remember being physically sick and shaking. Saw her on the train about 15 yrs ago. She looked rough as fuck and miserable. Oh how I laughed

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

I stand up for others that are bullied more than myself tbh! One of my daughters was bullied alot growing up as she was different! I hate injustice! Bullies are essentialy cowards! I was bullied alot at school I never stood up to them just tried my best to avoid them walking miles the long way home from school etc x

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Stand up to them. I’ve always hated bullying. I was always the one who stuck up for the ones being bullied at school. I can’t abide it and if I see it on here I can’t help but get involved either.

You are amazing

My family member is kinda psychotic in all fairness, and also pretty jealous of me. Im glad I cut her off my life, but every now and then I basically have to have screaming matches with her, because she sticks her nose where it doesn’t belong … and spreads rumors about me

Literally the worst

Could write a novel about my life and it’d actually turn out quite “entertaining”"
must be so difficult with family though Kylie. I haven’t experienced that. Must be really hard xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Depends. Sometimes they want a reaction, so the best thing to do is show complete indifference. That they're so insignificant, there opinion has absolutely no affect on you. That's best suited for the passive aggressive shite that family members come out with.

In the case of an overt bully, stand your ground and a simple "who the fuck do you think you're talking to?" usually does the trick."

That’s how I treat my family member. As if she’s nothing and that drives her insane.

If we have a confrontation it’s because she corners me and then it becomes impossible . But otherwise , she gets the indifferent treatment

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Stand up to them. I’ve always hated bullying. I was always the one who stuck up for the ones being bullied at school. I can’t abide it and if I see it on here I can’t help but get involved either.

You are amazing

My family member is kinda psychotic in all fairness, and also pretty jealous of me. Im glad I cut her off my life, but every now and then I basically have to have screaming matches with her, because she sticks her nose where it doesn’t belong … and spreads rumors about me

Literally the worst

Could write a novel about my life and it’d actually turn out quite “entertaining” must be so difficult with family though Kylie. I haven’t experienced that. Must be really hard xx"

She’s luckily not immediate family!! So it’s not as hard. Plus I’ve really grown to loathe that witch

But I know people who behave similarly and I just wanna throw up x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends. Sometimes they want a reaction, so the best thing to do is show complete indifference. That they're so insignificant, there opinion has absolutely no affect on you. That's best suited for the passive aggressive shite that family members come out with.

In the case of an overt bully, stand your ground and a simple "who the fuck do you think you're talking to?" usually does the trick.

That’s how I treat my family member. As if she’s nothing and that drives her insane.

If we have a confrontation it’s because she corners me and then it becomes impossible . But otherwise , she gets the indifferent treatment "

Tell her to get to fuck then. Your life, you're living it how you want to. You owe her nothing.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

I was the one at school that went head to head with them, even turned on friends if I caught them doing it.

I’m not shy in pulling someone up on it and in adult life, a few bosses have had both barrels on how they treat people.

Some don’t realise their actions are bullying tactics and won’t know any different unless they are told.

I’ve no time for them and very easy to cut them out of my life, even family.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

One of my school bullies a boy moved in over the road years ago! I said to him u used to bully me he just looked sheepish and apologised he then moved away but sent me a request on f book which I accepted! But have since unfriended as he was allways posting racist stuff the final straw was when he updated his profile pic to a school pic made me feel physically sick seeing that x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"One of my school bullies a boy moved in over the road years ago! I said to him u used to bully me he just looked sheepish and apologised he then moved away but sent me a request on f book which I accepted! But have since unfriended as he was allways posting racist stuff the final straw was when he updated his profile pic to a school pic made me feel physically sick seeing that x"

Literally says all about them and how awful they are as people.

Calling them people is even kind . I’d use a word that begins with C and ends with T

But I won’t go there

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I stand my ground and stick up for those less able to stand up for themselves.

I hate bullies

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford


"One of my school bullies a boy moved in over the road years ago! I said to him u used to bully me he just looked sheepish and apologised he then moved away but sent me a request on f book which I accepted! But have since unfriended as he was allways posting racist stuff the final straw was when he updated his profile pic to a school pic made me feel physically sick seeing that x

Literally says all about them and how awful they are as people.

Calling them people is even kind . I’d use a word that begins with C and ends with T

But I won’t go there "

Xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My sister in law has always been a cunt to me, not spoken to her since my Mum died because she was nothing but a cunt before during an after the Funeral

And yep, I stick up for people here, loyal to my friends who sometimes just need a bit of belief and support

I have and will call out behaviours, not made me popular but I've always stayed true to me. I'd rather be liked by a genuine few....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my experiences bullies thrive off you facing them head on, your reaction tends to fuel their fire.

I used to be quite hot headed and fly back at them, the older I’ve got the less arsed I’ve concerned myself with other peoples words & actions. Telling them they need to sort their own insecurities tends to work well also

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By *orksRockerMan
over a year ago

Bradford

Online bullies need your attention. Just best to ignore and they'll be more frustrated you're not reacting.

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"In my experiences bullies thrive off you facing them head on, your reaction tends to fuel their fire.

I used to be quite hot headed and fly back at them, the older I’ve got the less arsed I’ve concerned myself with other peoples words & actions. Telling them they need to sort their own insecurities tends to work well also "

I've found the opposite.

Bullies tend to pick on people they perceive as soft and unlikely to stand up for themselves. Stand up to them and they back off.

However, they're often also lacking in self-esteem.

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Online is a different thing...

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"In my experiences bullies thrive off you facing them head on, your reaction tends to fuel their fire.

I used to be quite hot headed and fly back at them, the older I’ve got the less arsed I’ve concerned myself with other peoples words & actions. Telling them they need to sort their own insecurities tends to work well also

I've found the opposite.

Bullies tend to pick on people they perceive as soft and unlikely to stand up for themselves. Stand up to them and they back off.

However, they're often also lacking in self-esteem. "

I was just going to say similar

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

school bully didn't know I was karate black belt for a year and after a year I had enough and well he never bullied me again

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Does anyone here stand up for others who get picked on or get some shocking behaviour thrown at them? X "

I’ve always stood up for others and pointed out to bullies the errors of their ways. They always go for the weakest link, well not on my watch. Bullying has evolved over the years, it’s now so easy for them to do from behind a keyboard. I think it makes it more difficult to stop without an angry mob bullying the bully. Forums such as this are the perfect platform unfortunately and it all becomes a vicious circle

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Online is a different thing..."

Those are very real

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suffered physical bullying all through my school years. Finally I stood up to one of them. Now I wouldn’t stand for it, and call people out who do it. But I’m not confrontational so will put up with so much before I snap x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My sister in law has always been a cunt to me, not spoken to her since my Mum died because she was nothing but a cunt before during an after the Funeral

And yep, I stick up for people here, loyal to my friends who sometimes just need a bit of belief and support

I have and will call out behaviours, not made me popular but I've always stayed true to me. I'd rather be liked by a genuine few...."

You are amazing MissD

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

The bully at work I have a meeting about her on Friday.

The childhood bully I said my piece many years later and made her cry, I was not rude or nasty just told her she hadn't changed over the years and I wasn't going to let her bully others the way she did me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t know if this is the same as bullying but my neighbours moved in at the end of 2010, then the nastiness started in the January of 2011, had dog poo put through my door, smashed windows, eggs thrown at windows, dog food stolen (it was delivered by courier) cut open and dumped upside down in a bin, a friend saw an “advert” warning people not to use me as a dog walker as I didn’t walk the dogs, utter BS, she attacked me at my door step, then called the police and said I’d attacked her in the stairwell, I was even arrested for “elbowing him out the way when he stood his ground at the main door entrance and refused to move” the truth of that is I brushed his arm so lightly, you could hardly feel it, he turned and said “that’s abuse” best of that was the police took 3 months to catch up with me hahaha, procurator fiscal threw it out, as there was nothing to see on him! I eventually ended up on antidepressants. They are still there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh yeah and they slashed my tyres on my car, so much that I was allowed to park it out of sight in a neighbours car port, I’m disabled and had a disabled bay. They then told the council I wasn’t using it and had it removed…. When I told the council I did still use it but had to hide my car at night, they not only put it back, but made it bigger!

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Do do bullies

And I do stand up for my self and

Others x

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"Online is a different thing...

Those are very real "

I didn't say or even suggest they aren't.

However, you can't deal with it in the same way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be a bigger bully.

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By *issYeuxBleusWoman
over a year ago

My boudoir - S Wales

I didn’t face my bully in school. She was a silent assassin and didn’t hang around in a crowd, and for some reason she was obsessed with me. I had eczema all through school and she would make awful comments when I was alone.

Years later when I was about 20 I saw her in town, my skin had cleared right up and she was covered in acne. I felt bad for her but I couldn’t resist making her feel shit. I walked over to her, smiled and said “ain’t karma a bitch”.

That was the last I saw of her.

Sometimes it’s worth waiting.

If anyone tried to bully me now I’d chin them!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Online is a different thing...

Those are very real

I didn't say or even suggest they aren't.

However, you can't deal with it in the same way. "

Haha it wasn’t be being annoyed at you , sorry if that’s how it came across

It was more like, yes you mentioned online bullies and are super annoying

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"Online is a different thing...

Those are very real

I didn't say or even suggest they aren't.

However, you can't deal with it in the same way.

Haha it wasn’t be being annoyed at you , sorry if that’s how it came across

It was more like, yes you mentioned online bullies and are super annoying "

No worries

I think that online bullies should just be banned frim whatever platform they're using. No second chances.

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By *aughty but nice...Man
over a year ago

Staffs

I tend to fight back intellectually

In my experience most bullies are thick ....now I'm not saying Im super smart but I've got a damn site more brains that most of the fuckwit bullies that plod there way through life on earth so I tend to run rings around them until they show there true colours in public

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Do do bullies

And I do stand up for my self and

Others x"

Dont *

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Online is a different thing...

Those are very real

I didn't say or even suggest they aren't.

However, you can't deal with it in the same way.

Haha it wasn’t be being annoyed at you , sorry if that’s how it came across

It was more like, yes you mentioned online bullies and are super annoying

No worries

I think that online bullies should just be banned frim whatever platform they're using. No second chances. "

AGREED!!! They are the worst and pathetic

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"I tend to fight back intellectually

In my experience most bullies are thick ....now I'm not saying Im super smart but I've got a damn site more brains that most of the fuckwit bullies that plod there way through life on earth so I tend to run rings around them until they show there true colours in public "

Yes this too

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Online I will not engage with them

Real life bullies will receive some spoken education lessons from me, if that doesn't work then I resort to plain sarcasm and out wit them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Online bullies are absolutely pointless cos there’s nothing you can do about it. If anyone bullies me online I just let them enjoy it. In real life I can’t say I’ve ever been bullied luckily but I would have no issue smacking someone if I knew nothing would come of it with regards to charges and the law. I am confrontational always have been but never instigated it, more a defender or if my friends have been fighting with someone and other people get involved I’ve jumped in. I can imagine the amount of people that may have seen my fanny and arse on a night out if I’ve ever had a scrap wearing a dress or skirt, would be pretty high.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

Genuinely can’t remember facing a bully since like year 9 in school

Do people still get bullied into adulthood

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Genuinely can’t remember facing a bully since like year 9 in school

Do people still get bullied into adulthood "

Yeh.

It's kind of a problem at the moment. Been in a few papers

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham


"Genuinely can’t remember facing a bully since like year 9 in school

Do people still get bullied into adulthood

Yeh.

It's kind of a problem at the moment. Been in a few papers "

Damn guess I’ve completely missed out on that. Lucky me, I just assumed it all stopped once you got out of school

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Throw cream filled flans at them

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Throw cream filled flans at them "

Cream As in filled with dog sperm or something?

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One of my school bullies a boy moved in over the road years ago! I said to him u used to bully me he just looked sheepish and apologised he then moved away but sent me a request on f book which I accepted! But have since unfriended as he was allways posting racist stuff the final straw was when he updated his profile pic to a school pic made me feel physically sick seeing that x"

Facebook has a tendency to enable closet racists to "out" themselves doesn't it..

Certainly something I noticed when I used to be on there..

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"Genuinely can’t remember facing a bully since like year 9 in school

Do people still get bullied into adulthood

Yeh.

It's kind of a problem at the moment. Been in a few papers

Damn guess I’ve completely missed out on that. Lucky me, I just assumed it all stopped once you got out of school "

Sadly not.

An ex boss of mine tried it along with other tactics... wrong team to attempt that with. It was made very clear that behaviour was unacceptable and what the consequences would be.

He got sacked for bullying from his next job, so he clearly didn't learn.

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

I have been known to chase a bully, he pissed me off one time too much. I saw red and picked up the knife I was using for rope work, I chased him for a good half hour. I got a few very close calls on him, thankfully I never caught up to him fully.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Throw cream filled flans at them

Cream As in filled with dog sperm or something?

"

Will i was thinking squirty cream.. but yes suppose dog sperm could work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bullies are scum they have nothing better to do I saw a group of lads other day 4 of them onto 1 which was totally wrong I walked over and split the fight up they tried to turn on me I just laughed said heard it all before time you grew up and take a long look in the mirror because not 1 of you is anything special then I walked off laughing as they didn’t know what to reply .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone here stand up for others who get picked on or get some shocking behaviour thrown at them? X "

Totally stand up for injustice on all levels. No matter whom it is directed towards.

As the full blown cricket case going on. Esp using the " P#k# word of hate & bullying at its finest.

I personally do not stand 1 inch for it. No matter how big the perpetrator seems or thinks they are!

It takes a strong heart and strong mind to deal with Bullies and Any Injustice from whom ever at anytime, in person,or online..

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By *929Man
over a year ago

newcastle

Stopping caring in the slightest about others opining of us or what they say about us really is the key to anyone else suffering online bullying it’s just meaningless words from someone who has zero bearing on your life. Normally it clicks in place when leaving school but not for all

Physical is different story not something I’ve dealt with personally being nearly 6’2” and 17 stone sort of puts most off as bullied always target those they perceive as weaker than themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Stand up to them. I’ve always hated bullying. I was always the one who stuck up for the ones being bullied at school. I can’t abide it and if I see it on here I can’t help but get involved either. "

Bravo bravo. Well done..

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT

Bullies invariably have low self esteem and are insecure, I find it very easy to turn the tables on them and belittle them, but then what does that make me ?

I have learnt to rise above them and show indifference, that really winds them up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just ignore them. Bullies are usually horribly insecure people who aren't happy in their own lives for whatever reason and so they try to drag other people down to regain some sense of control. Not rising to it means they don't get the attention/feedback and positive reinforcement for their actions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good slap in the head usually sorts it out.

Reasoning and trying to work out your difference's will work with the majority of people.

But some people just get off on being the aggressor. And those lot need a good smack to resolve it."

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone here stand up for others who get picked on or get some shocking behaviour thrown at them? X

I’ve always stood up for others and pointed out to bullies the errors of their ways. They always go for the weakest link, well not on my watch. Bullying has evolved over the years, it’s now so easy for them to do from behind a keyboard. I think it makes it more difficult to stop without an angry mob bullying the bully. Forums such as this are the perfect platform unfortunately and it all becomes a vicious circle "

rightly said..

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By *ilfCrumpet9Man
over a year ago

Wirral

I stand up to them, best way, bullies are cowards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was bullied at school, not physically but verbally and I used to just take it on the chin and not rarely retaliate, mostly because I was pretty shy and didn't know how to respond but would cry a lot.

It caused a bit of an issue when I first started working with another apprentice my age because his type of banter did involve a bit of taking the piss out of people and I thought it was the same cycle repeating itself but oddly, the more I was with him, the more I got on with him because I knew him enough to give it back and also not take myself too seriously. He's one of my best friends now

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

Stand up and call it out

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By *oxyFemme72Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Not sure if it counts and I wasn't bullied at school, but I was bullied by a grown man at Tebay Services a few months ago. I accidently (honestly) parked in a caravan space. When I returned to my car he was psyched up and ready to give me verbal. I apologised, he said it wasn't good enough. So I told him I didn't have a time machine to right my wrongs. By this time we had a bit of an audience. He then called me a cretin (blast from the past) and told me and my pup that he hoped he crashed our car on the motorway.

My controlled response was to tell him to walk to the gents and have a good old wank as he clearly needed to destress. He was clamped. I then took a photo of him and posted it on social media. I simply won't stand for bullying behaviour to me or others and will always intervene if I can.

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle

I've seen your comments about weight i feel it could be classed as bullying? Also putting down Katie just because she is a celebrity with an addiction who is human too. I experienced it badly at school! Hmm so i will drag bullies because i ain't at school now.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've seen your comments about weight i feel it could be classed as bullying? Also putting down Katie just because she is a celebrity with an addiction who is human too. I experienced it badly at school! Hmm so i will drag bullies because i ain't at school now. "

I don’t know if this was referred to me, either way I’m pretty sure Katie P wouldn’t read what I said and It’s not like I directed the message to her or to her fan base to hurt her or her feelings…

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

I like to challenge bullies. I enjoy watching them cower and crawl back under their rock.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Throw cream filled flans at them

Cream As in filled with dog sperm or something?

Will i was thinking squirty cream.. but yes suppose dog sperm could work "

*writes “dog sperm COULD work” note in my diary*

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle


"I've seen your comments about weight i feel it could be classed as bullying? Also putting down Katie just because she is a celebrity with an addiction who is human too. I experienced it badly at school! Hmm so i will drag bullies because i ain't at school now.

I don’t know if this was referred to me, either way I’m pretty sure Katie P wouldn’t read what I said and It’s not like I directed the message to her or to her fan base to hurt her or her feelings…

"
Doesn't matter who it is? That is what you said. Why assume fan base think you will find that's a person you are mocking though whether a fan or not. Shouldn't look down on others you are better than that haha

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"I've seen your comments about weight i feel it could be classed as bullying? Also putting down Katie just because she is a celebrity with an addiction who is human too. I experienced it badly at school! Hmm so i will drag bullies because i ain't at school now.

I don’t know if this was referred to me, either way I’m pretty sure Katie P wouldn’t read what I said and It’s not like I directed the message to her or to her fan base to hurt her or her feelings…

Doesn't matter who it is? That is what you said. Why assume fan base think you will find that's a person you are mocking though whether a fan or not. Shouldn't look down on others you are better than that haha "

Agree with you sis

Mocking is mocking

Be kind xxx

I am sarcastic but would never mock and Katie is brilliant xxx

X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my childhood I responded with violence and it worked.

As an adult I tried a rational, mature approach, and it didn't. Go figure.

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle


"I've seen your comments about weight i feel it could be classed as bullying? Also putting down Katie just because she is a celebrity with an addiction who is human too. I experienced it badly at school! Hmm so i will drag bullies because i ain't at school now.

I don’t know if this was referred to me, either way I’m pretty sure Katie P wouldn’t read what I said and It’s not like I directed the message to her or to her fan base to hurt her or her feelings…

Doesn't matter who it is? That is what you said. Why assume fan base think you will find that's a person you are mocking though whether a fan or not. Shouldn't look down on others you are better than that haha

Agree with you sis

Mocking is mocking

Be kind xxx

I am sarcastic but would never mock and Katie is brilliant xxx

X"
Aww thank you! So true Xxx

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle


"I've seen your comments about weight i feel it could be classed as bullying? Also putting down Katie just because she is a celebrity with an addiction who is human too. I experienced it badly at school! Hmm so i will drag bullies because i ain't at school now.

I don’t know if this was referred to me, either way I’m pretty sure Katie P wouldn’t read what I said and It’s not like I directed the message to her or to her fan base to hurt her or her feelings…

Doesn't matter who it is? That is what you said. Why assume fan base think you will find that's a person you are mocking though whether a fan or not. Shouldn't look down on others you are better than that haha

Agree with you sis

Mocking is mocking

Be kind xxx

I am sarcastic but would never mock and Katie is brilliant xxx

X"
Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you usually deal with bullies? Whether they are in real life or online?

Do you face them head on? Or are you more someone who shies away?

What about the ones from childhood, have you managed to relinquish the hold they might have had on ur psyche?

I have had some (one is a family member and she’s been horrible throughout my life and had to cut her off but she resurfaces every now and then…) , and bullying behaviour is really one of the worst!! I always try to raise above it and/or deal with them when exhausted

Do you have good stories of how you eventually risen through it all? I’d like to keep this positive and to show that no matter what, we definitely get to hold our head well high in such a situation and that they are the ones that have to be ashamed of their behaviour.

"

A strange irony in my case but I'll get to the point after. I was bullied at secondary school. Almost every day I was in a fight. And they were brutal. But the reason was unbeknownst to me I was rated as the toughest boy in the school and they wanted that title. Me I just wanted to be left alone. But I'm now tough enough to take on any and all bullies.

In relation to your bully. You need to find her weakness. They all have one. Then plan around that weakness.

1)Bullies in my experience lack something that they gain from bullying. Ie confidence, strength etc. That will be their weakness.

You have to plan to attack that point.

2) Don't do what they expect.

I worked as a doorman for many years. When I got called a black cunt. My response was "yes I'm black and yes I'm a cunt." Anything else sir? He didn't have a response so I followed it up with well you go and enjoy your evening sir. He didn't expect that.

3) Always be prepared to walk away. But don't run. Most bullies want to be seen as the one in control. By walking away you take control. This is especially important if they are getting to you. It gives you a dignified exit and time to calm down and calculate your response.

I used to work as a pub manager and this person had a complaint. When I went to assist his response was. " I want to speak to the organ grinder not the monkey."

So I walked away had a chat with myself then came back and approached the guy again. This time I was prepared.

Me: hello sir. I gather you want to speak to the organ grinder. Well given that I'm the manager that would be me. So how can I assist you sir?

Him: Your the manager?

Me: yes sir.

While he took him jaw off the table

Me: well sir, This might be a good time for you to head home. Perhaps I'll see you tomorrow sir.

He went without saying a word

4) Never be rude or aggressive. Assertive and aggressive are not the same at all. I aways call people I don't like sir or madam purely because they can never say I was rude. And it depersonalises them. You could call your bully miss ... whatever her name is when she has pissed you off.

Alway remember your smarter than any bully. Because if a bully was smart. They'd be smart enough not to be a bully.

Sorry such a long post but I hope it helps

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"I've seen your comments about weight i feel it could be classed as bullying? Also putting down Katie just because she is a celebrity with an addiction who is human too. I experienced it badly at school! Hmm so i will drag bullies because i ain't at school now.

I don’t know if this was referred to me, either way I’m pretty sure Katie P wouldn’t read what I said and It’s not like I directed the message to her or to her fan base to hurt her or her feelings…

Doesn't matter who it is? That is what you said. Why assume fan base think you will find that's a person you are mocking though whether a fan or not. Shouldn't look down on others you are better than that haha

Agree with you sis

Mocking is mocking

Be kind xxx

I am sarcastic but would never mock and Katie is brilliant xxx

X Aww thank you! So true Xxx"

Xxxx

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle


"I've seen your comments about weight i feel it could be classed as bullying? Also putting down Katie just because she is a celebrity with an addiction who is human too. I experienced it badly at school! Hmm so i will drag bullies because i ain't at school now.

I don’t know if this was referred to me, either way I’m pretty sure Katie P wouldn’t read what I said and It’s not like I directed the message to her or to her fan base to hurt her or her feelings…

Doesn't matter who it is? That is what you said. Why assume fan base think you will find that's a person you are mocking though whether a fan or not. Shouldn't look down on others you are better than that haha

Agree with you sis

Mocking is mocking

Be kind xxx

I am sarcastic but would never mock and Katie is brilliant xxx

X Aww thank you! So true Xxx

Xxxx"
Be kind! You never know what anyone is going through or been through. I think we can all be more kinder and sprinkle that shit. Haha The thing with bullies they are insecure and hurting really. Xxxx

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"I've seen your comments about weight i feel it could be classed as bullying? Also putting down Katie just because she is a celebrity with an addiction who is human too. I experienced it badly at school! Hmm so i will drag bullies because i ain't at school now.

I don’t know if this was referred to me, either way I’m pretty sure Katie P wouldn’t read what I said and It’s not like I directed the message to her or to her fan base to hurt her or her feelings…

Doesn't matter who it is? That is what you said. Why assume fan base think you will find that's a person you are mocking though whether a fan or not. Shouldn't look down on others you are better than that haha

Agree with you sis

Mocking is mocking

Be kind xxx

I am sarcastic but would never mock and Katie is brilliant xxx

X Aww thank you! So true Xxx

Xxxx Be kind! You never know what anyone is going through or been through. I think we can all be more kinder and sprinkle that shit. Haha The thing with bullies they are insecure and hurting really. Xxxx"
xxx

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle


"I've seen your comments about weight i feel it could be classed as bullying? Also putting down Katie just because she is a celebrity with an addiction who is human too. I experienced it badly at school! Hmm so i will drag bullies because i ain't at school now.

I don’t know if this was referred to me, either way I’m pretty sure Katie P wouldn’t read what I said and It’s not like I directed the message to her or to her fan base to hurt her or her feelings…

Doesn't matter who it is? That is what you said. Why assume fan base think you will find that's a person you are mocking though whether a fan or not. Shouldn't look down on others you are better than that haha

Agree with you sis

Mocking is mocking

Be kind xxx

I am sarcastic but would never mock and Katie is brilliant xxx

X Aww thank you! So true Xxx

Xxxx Be kind! You never know what anyone is going through or been through. I think we can all be more kinder and sprinkle that shit. Haha The thing with bullies they are insecure and hurting really. Xxxx xxx

"
xxx

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Good slap in the head usually sorts it out.

Reasoning and trying to work out your difference's will work with the majority of people.

But some people just get off on being the aggressor. And those lot need a good smack to resolve it."

I think you should start a podcast about this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Smack the bully in the gob....I was bullied all my school life terrified to walk home every day

I joined the royal navy trained hard.....one day the school bullies came into the pub I went in they started on me I walked outside knocked all 3 on their ass never bothered me again

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By *alguyMan
over a year ago

Gibraltar & Manchester

Ok, have to be careful due to numerous laws particularly appertaining to assault of another individual.

But seeing as though the question talks of bullies as in plural then the tried and tested way is to single out the 'leader' of the pack. And take them out. As I say what method you use - be it simply blocking them on social media to the old smack on the nose - if the leader is usurped of their status and power the group fragments.

Military leaders have defeated much larger armies with their much humbler forces using this tactic.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights


"Bullies invariably have low self esteem and are insecure, I find it very easy to turn the tables on them and belittle them, but then what does that make me ?

I have learnt to rise above them and show indifference, that really winds them up. "

Some of them are asking for help but don't know how to say it in normal circumstances as their life is far from normal, they want to change but they just need guidance on how to do it, learning emotional intelligence is a big step

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone has a definition of a bully most see it as a obvious attack on others. Sometimes it's very subtle, underhanded and so petty you struggle to call someone out on it. These are the worst types of bullies and the ones that usually preach they aren't a bully in public.

As you get older you understand it's not about you, it's about them. They have a type of misery in their life that should make you feel pity not anger. Rise above it and handle the situation with dignity. Dont lower yourself to their level, there's bullies everywhere in life it doesnt stop at the school playground.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I look back at my school life and feel bad. I bullied people, awful to admit but there you are, kids will scramble and survive how they can, they are immature, that’s life.

How do I feel about bullies? Sorry for them, and they annoy me.

How do I deal with bullies? I butt heads with them probably, take them on if I see bullying against someone else, I give them a new focus, one they will never win, that’ll annoy them

I think bullying in adulthood and the work place one of the most ridiculous things, we should be lifting each other up, we all benefit that way

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle


"I look back at my school life and feel bad. I bullied people, awful to admit but there you are, kids will scramble and survive how they can, they are immature, that’s life.

How do I feel about bullies? Sorry for them, and they annoy me.

How do I deal with bullies? I butt heads with them probably, take them on if I see bullying against someone else, I give them a new focus, one they will never win, that’ll annoy them

I think bullying in adulthood and the work place one of the most ridiculous things, we should be lifting each other up, we all benefit that way "
Secondary school you know what you are doing at that age. Easy to say if you weren't the one being badly bullied and attacked, It can affect you as an adult with certain things too. You should feel bad, But it sounds like you regret it. What you mean that's life?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing you can do if it's a parent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Back in school i got bullied a shit ton, even ppl i called my friends ended up turning on me so they could keep a target off themselves, fake rumours, my scrawny size, things i said getting twisted, you name it, but i couldnt do much to fight back, a lot of ppl were a lot bigger than me too, and if i scrapped with them id be the one getting in trouble. Teachers were fucking useless they practically let it continue.

There were a couple instances, first time a so-called "friend" in the group kept snatching my break time cakes cos he never had dinner money for his own, i punched him in the side of the head which put a stop to it. Second time one kid in my form class a year below me kept smacking my head when it was shaved, he eventually did it one too many times so i pelted him in the head too as hard as i could, he ran off by himself but he wasnt laughing like he was previously.

These days im bigger and more able to handle myself physically, if ppl step up to me ill bite back and i can get extremely vicious, verbally and physically if it comes to it. Ppl who are full on cunts for no reason need a good beating to put them back in line. Unfortunately a little violence is a necessary evil, some ppl just wont change or think twice before acting like utter pricks so they need to be physically put in their place. We shouldnt have to resort to it but thats just how life tends to be, otherwise these assholes continue making other ppls lives misery and they wont stop simply because you asked them politely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I look back at my school life and feel bad. I bullied people, awful to admit but there you are, kids will scramble and survive how they can, they are immature, that’s life.

How do I feel about bullies? Sorry for them, and they annoy me.

……

Secondary school you know what you are doing at that age. Easy to say if you weren't the one being badly bullied and attacked, It can affect you as an adult with certain things too. You should feel bad, But it sounds like you regret it. What you mean that's life? "

Rubbish, secondary schools were teaching bullying 20yr ago, and they will be tackling it 20urs from now….and that’s not just the kids

Secondary school age is where real bullying starts, *just my opinion. If you haven’t grown out of it when you leave, you become a twat. *again, just my opinion.

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