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By *ustdaveHants OP   Man
over a year ago

chippenham

I've for the last 6 months been a very lucky guy.... Amazing sex with an amazing woman, but she is married he's now back and the meets have ended. Is it unfair of me to think she should of told me she was married? and what should I do when he goes away again and the texts start coming back for meets etc? Slightly confused

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally couldn’t be with someone who wasn’t open with me.

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By *olymalelincsMan
over a year ago

southend


"I've for the last 6 months been a very lucky guy.... Amazing sex with an amazing woman, but she is married he's now back and the meets have ended. Is it unfair of me to think she should of told me she was married? and what should I do when he goes away again and the texts start coming back for meets etc? Slightly confused "

She should have been honest and told you from the start so you could make your own choice if you wanted to go down that route or not, as for what to do next that is your choice as you now know the situation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If he doesnt know about what was going on and she was cheating on him, ditch her, dont let her use you like that just so you can get a little nookie... youre a man, not a side bitch

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By *ustdaveHants OP   Man
over a year ago

chippenham

Thanks guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup, you definitely deserve better.

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By *ustdaveHants OP   Man
over a year ago

chippenham


"Yup, you definitely deserve better."

Thank you that actually means alot.

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle

She's a user and not been totally honest with you. Don't be a mug

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The fact that she ditched you when the husband came back… big red flag!

Just block her , and you probably dodged a bullet there as it seems like you started to like her

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By *ustdaveHants OP   Man
over a year ago

chippenham

I feel like a mug tbh. We went out all over Portsmouth bars restaurants her/there flat and never an inkling.

The problem now hence the "to close for comfort" is we both work on the same naval base.

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle


"I feel like a mug tbh. We went out all over Portsmouth bars restaurants her/there flat and never an inkling.

The problem now hence the "to close for comfort" is we both work on the same naval base. "
You ain't a mug just trusted the wrong person. But you have the choice whether you choose to be one now! One thing i've learned myself is you teach people how to treat you. Well that is awks and not a good situation!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've for the last 6 months been a very lucky guy.... Amazing sex with an amazing woman, but she is married he's now back and the meets have ended. Is it unfair of me to think she should of told me she was married? and what should I do when he goes away again and the texts start coming back for meets etc? Slightly confused "

Sorry mate gonna be blunt here give your head a wobble seriously!!!

Maybe !!!

Maybe if she was up front I’d see some reason behind your thinking !???

Are you happy being anyone’s plan B ???

You had a laugh leave on your terms not the cheating hoe !

No offense !

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Unknowingly being used sucks

You have two choices really, partake in a affair with her and all the drama that potentially come with that

Or just don't. Walk away and find someone else

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Just say no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel like a mug tbh. We went out all over Portsmouth bars restaurants her/there flat and never an inkling.

The problem now hence the "to close for comfort" is we both work on the same naval base. "

She should have told you, you could have at least made a decision whether to continue. Bearing in mind you both live and work in Pompey, you are bound to get spotted by mutual acquaintances sooner or later, if you haven't already. Can you deal with that?

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I dislike deceit, so that would be a deal breaker for me, it depends how strongly you feel about her lying to you.

Also if you do meet up again, what if her hubby some how finds out? Not worth the hassle in my opinion.

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By *rivateparts!Man
over a year ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!

You're a squaddie you know the rules!

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"I feel like a mug tbh. We went out all over Portsmouth bars restaurants her/there flat and never an inkling.

The problem now hence the "to close for comfort" is we both work on the same naval base. "

I assume the husband doesn’t work there to ?

It’s not great what’s happened, should have been honest up front. Personally, I’d walk and block. If you can’t avoid at work, just be professional and don’t get dragged in, your job isn’t worth it.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Leave the door closed and learn from it.

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By *yclindaveMan
over a year ago

Leicester

Military wife dude, come on should have known the score.

Other half deployed 6 months wife needs a bit. When he is deployed again she'll come knocking or find some other bloke to fill in.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I've for the last 6 months been a very lucky guy.... Amazing sex with an amazing woman, but she is married he's now back and the meets have ended. Is it unfair of me to think she should of told me she was married? and what should I do when he goes away again and the texts start coming back for meets etc? Slightly confused "

Block her number then the texts won't come.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've for the last 6 months been a very lucky guy.... Amazing sex with an amazing woman, but she is married he's now back and the meets have ended. Is it unfair of me to think she should of told me she was married? and what should I do when he goes away again and the texts start coming back for meets etc? Slightly confused "

Do yourself a favour and tell her to bugger off..do you really want that sort of drama in your life.

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

Nope, not unfair of you at all! She’s clearly wanted to have her cake and eat it, the dishonesty would be a complete red flag for me!

Never come 2nd best, no your own worth OP xx

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth


"I feel like a mug tbh. We went out all over Portsmouth bars restaurants her/there flat and never an inkling.

The problem now hence the "to close for comfort" is we both work on the same naval base.

She should have told you, you could have at least made a decision whether to continue. Bearing in mind you both live and work in Pompey, you are bound to get spotted by mutual acquaintances sooner or later, if you haven't already. Can you deal with that?"

Portsmouth is like a village, I'd be waiting for the husband to text, not her.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

She should absolutely have told you she was married so you could make an informed decision.

I have learnt that some people don't offer up the relevant information and you indeed, have to ask.

Some you will offend instantly by asking and that will be the last you hear from them. But, rather than than ruin some unsuspecting spouses life.

What do you do when he's gone?

You imagine how you'd feel if you were him and your life was a fucking charade

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree a time-share with her and her husband. Make sure to draw up a contract first and remember to enjoy the free buffet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What about her husband and his right to know about what she does behind his back?

He should know about this.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth


"What about her husband and his right to know about what she does behind his back?

He should know about this.

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It's Portsmouth... If he doesn't already know, he soon will. Maybe then she'll come back as a single woman?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've for the last 6 months been a very lucky guy.... Amazing sex with an amazing woman, but she is married he's now back and the meets have ended. Is it unfair of me to think she should of told me she was married? and what should I do when he goes away again and the texts start coming back for meets etc? Slightly confused "

If you feel uncomfortable about it, get out for good!

Like a post said further up, block her on every platform X

Wishing you well ...

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By *0astMan
over a year ago

Discovering

Portsmouth…… brings back memories..

If she’s married and wasn’t up front with you, then yeah you have a right to be annoyed, but in the time you spent together going out all over the place no one else mentioned this to you, especially on base, really. Keep your distance now and in the future.

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you


"I've for the last 6 months been a very lucky guy.... Amazing sex with an amazing woman, but she is married he's now back and the meets have ended. Is it unfair of me to think she should of told me she was married? and what should I do when he goes away again and the texts start coming back for meets etc? Slightly confused "

She should have told you mate, imagine if the roles had been reversed

And unless you like drama, block her & move on plenty more fish in the sea

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley


"I've for the last 6 months been a very lucky guy.... Amazing sex with an amazing woman, but she is married he's now back and the meets have ended. Is it unfair of me to think she should of told me she was married? and what should I do when he goes away again and the texts start coming back for meets etc? Slightly confused "

No it's not unfair of you, she should have told you. You've been lied to for 6 months and that's enough for anyone. You deserve someone better than that and should have no further contact. Good luck finding someone decent.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"I personally couldn’t be with someone who wasn’t open with me."

This entirely

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Nah that’s crappy. I usually don’t mind if someone’s married but if they didn’t tell me I’d be majorly pissed off. Get rid

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By *ustdaveHants OP   Man
over a year ago

chippenham


"What about her husband and his right to know about what she does behind his back?

He should know about this.

It's Portsmouth... If he doesn't already know, he soon will. Maybe then she'll come back as a single woman?"

Safe to say we are done and agreed about the village that is Portsmouth. It's just not worth it is it.

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By *ustdaveHants OP   Man
over a year ago

chippenham

Do you know what guys I just want to say a massive thank you to all the replies in this forum. You've literally turned a frown the right way around, thanks to each and every one of you xx

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle


"Do you know what guys I just want to say a massive thank you to all the replies in this forum. You've literally turned a frown the right way around, thanks to each and every one of you xx "
x

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By *antasyrealmCouple
over a year ago

Congleton

A slightly different angle. Just fuck her.x

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