FabSwingers.com forum: Broken hearts

By *wesomeprofilename OP Man
over a year ago

Cornwall

I've been noticing a few status updates recently where women are posting that a guy from fab has broken their hearts.

They've got themselves into relationships from here (which yes, I know happens) & have fallen in love (again, yes...it happens).

Is this fabswingers or Tinder?

I know that it happens & with happy endings (no, not that kind you filthy beast!) but really? What do people expect?

Thoughts?

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

I think people are free to do as they please on here and within their relations to other people and you shouldn’t judge them based on… well, nothing

Here’s my thoughts : why does this bother you?

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

If you know it happens, are the updates really that surprising?

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

It happens and having a partner to share your kink with is amazing, connections are made and are not easily broken by all parties, fab couples do come and go but some do last for forever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People from all walks of life meet in some unconventional places, fab is no different.

Some people get emotionally involved/attached through sex so no point being hung up about how others go about their life on here

They might not even be searching for their life partner but if you click then you click.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been noticing a few status updates recently where women are posting that a guy from fab has broken their hearts."

Too many broken hearts in the world if you ask me.

There's just too many dreams to be broken in two.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I've been noticing a few status updates recently where women are posting that a guy from fab has broken their hearts.

Too many broken hearts in the world if you ask me.

There's just too many dreams to be broken in two. "

What becomes of them?

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

Just because this is advertised as a swinging site doesn’t mean everyone on here is a swinger, some people meet and are quite happy to meet one person who they can share there kinks with and explore and some enjoy exploring with there partner adding others into that dynamic.

Relationships can develop from anywhere, people can be hurt just as easily here as they can on a conventional dating site - there’s no rule book for what people desire from here. You can meet someone and just click, being on fab doesn’t make you devoid of feelings, nor does it mean you won’t develop some for another

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

"I've been noticing a few status updates recently where women are posting that a guy from fab has broken their hearts.

Too many broken hearts in the world if you ask me.

There's just too many dreams to be broken in two. "

So I won't give up the fight for you

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

"I've been noticing a few status updates recently where women are posting that a guy from fab has broken their hearts.

Too many broken hearts in the world if you ask me.

There's just too many dreams to be broken in two. "

Bloody earworm now!!!!

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By *urplechesterCouple
over a year ago

chester

"I've been noticing a few status updates recently where women are posting that a guy from fab has broken their hearts.

Too many broken hearts in the world if you ask me.

There's just too many dreams to be broken in two. "

Noooooo! I’m going to have that stuck in my head all day now

Miss pc

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By *ir SupremacyMan
over a year ago

Bolton

A good heart these days is hard to find x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can be on here and be bloody adamant that you don't want a relationship and then.... You're in one.

I was adamant I didn't want one!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You can be on here and be bloody adamant that you don't want a relationship and then.... You're in one.

I was adamant I didn't want one!"

Respect yourself and all of those around you.

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By *wesomeprofilename OP Man
over a year ago

Cornwall

"I've been noticing a few status updates recently where women are posting that a guy from fab has broken their hearts.

Too many broken hearts in the world if you ask me.

There's just too many dreams to be broken in two. "

Wise words

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just because this is advertised as a swinging site doesn’t mean everyone on here is a swinger, some people meet and are quite happy to meet one person who they can share there kinks with and explore and some enjoy exploring with there partner adding others into that dynamic.

Xx"

It's contributions like this that make me wish we could drop a GIF into the forum; you'd be getting 'Orson Wells applause' for that one!

#EachToTheirOwn

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Xx"

Well said Miss

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

"You can be on here and be bloody adamant that you don't want a relationship and then.... You're in one.

I was adamant I didn't want one!"

Snap

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By *wesomeprofilename OP Man
over a year ago

Cornwall

I'm not hating on anyone here, as I said...I know it happens.

I'm just asking the question & exploring it.

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By *issYeuxBleusWoman
over a year ago

My boudoir - S Wales

There’s a lot of dishonesty and misleading on here also.

Maybe that’s why there’s so many broken hearts

I’ve been there a few times myself but not from looking for it. Just fell into a few traps. Now my wall is virtually unbreakable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes it helps sharing your feelings... I think everyone knows what they are getting onto... But emotions are funny old things

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Xx"

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"I've been noticing a few status updates recently where women are posting that a guy from fab has broken their hearts.

They've got themselves into relationships from here (which yes, I know happens) & have fallen in love (again, yes...it happens).

Is this fabswingers or Tinder?

I know that it happens & with happy endings (no, not that kind you filthy beast!) but really? What do people expect?

Thoughts?"

What do people expect? You know, the standard stuff when in a relationship. Honesty, respect, consideration etc.

Most don't expect to be lied to, find out their partner is living a double life or whatever standard seems to be deemed acceptable seeing as they met here. WHERE you met should have zero baring on how you behave when in a relationship.

Why do you think they should expect any different? Do you think people here are unworthy of the "normal" relationship expectations?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You can be on here and be bloody adamant that you don't want a relationship and then.... You're in one.

I was adamant I didn't want one!"

What she said!

Just because it's a swinging site doesn't mean relationships don't happen and just like anywhere else, they don't always last but sometimes they do.

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By *oyalmarine64Man
over a year ago

Central

Too easy to get hurt and broken any where. That's why I joined this site, I still want the fun but I can't get attached

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people say they want a relationship just to get a shag.

Some people meet their partner and are happy for all time.

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Context is everything.. often there’s a much bigger picture. People can be hurt by a multitude of things here. Lies being the most common factor. Just because people have casual sex here it doesn’t mean they should be treated less respectfully, or be expected to brush off hurt like it doesn’t matter. Basic values apply everywhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been noticing a few status updates recently where women are posting that a guy from fab has broken their hearts.

They've got themselves into relationships from here (which yes, I know happens) & have fallen in love (again, yes...it happens).

Is this fabswingers or Tinder?

I know that it happens & with happy endings (no, not that kind you filthy beast!) but really? What do people expect?

Thoughts?"

It clearly states at the the top of the page this is fabswingers, if you’re still confused the one where you swipe left or right, isn’t fabswingers.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Context is everything.. often there’s a much bigger picture. People can be hurt by a multitude of things here. Lies being the most common factor. Just because people have casual sex here it doesn’t mean they should be treated less respectfully, or be expected to brush off hurt like it doesn’t matter. Basic values apply everywhere.

This in a nutshell

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

It's contributions like this that make me wish we could drop a GIF into the forum; you'd be getting 'Orson Wells applause' for that one!

#EachToTheirOwn

Aw thanks Dai

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

Well said Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you have an idea of what you'd like in a person sexually and personality wise, and you convey that in your profile or chats with people, why is it questioned so much when you find it and stick with that person? If it's a match then it's a match.

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over a year ago

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By *esthetic21Man
over a year ago

Birmingham/Bristol

Can't help who you fall in love with. Personally I can't have sex with some with no connection and connections usually lead to feeling and sometimes love. That's life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got into a relationship off here don't think I would again tho but never say never who knows what could happen sex is a intermate thing and if repeated with the same person then feelings may get involved

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I think that there *some* people fall in love and trust very easily. I'm not by any means saying that the women whose hearts have been broken fall in to this category neither am I saying that the people who do are to blame. However the internet has opened up a vast playground for users, con artists and preyers on the vulnerable of every gender and I for one think it pays to be very wary.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"A good heart these days is hard to find x"

Nearly Forgot My Broken Heart - Chris Cornell

www.youtube.com/watch?v=zpMfZPAc1kg

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Hello O.P.

Here are my thoughts. You asked for thoughts .......

You say you've noticed 'a guy broke my heart' display ( I use that word deliberately ) on women's profiles but you don't mention men who also say it now and then. I see it mostly in the forum in posts and it is in the context of an answer to a question so I wouldn't use the word display in those cases.

Asking if this is fabswingers or Tinder, implies that different expectations should be held of each website. That's a little naïve. Even using 'Friend' style sites brings unsolicited cock pics and i'd place a bet that some looking for 'friends only ' unwittingly end up in someone's sites and head for the hills.

People are human. Humans have emotions. Some humans go with their emotions. Some humans can fuck and go. Some humans think it means they possess the other. All humans are arseholes at times.

You ask - But really ? What do people expect ?

People expect what ever they are led to expect. Be that by their foolish heart, their empty head, their gurgling loins or just the moment being seized. Just as you expect a certain kind of outcome as this is what led to your curiosity and question.

That is why it is always best to lay ALL cards on the table before any meet.

One final thought ..... Sometimes you break your own heart or make a good contribution toward it.

No one likes responsibility do they

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Final thought .........

'from here' ..... 'off here' .... why do people say that...

Your 'from here' is the same person you might have met in Aldi when you bumped at the trolley queue....

Wouldn't you feel just a tad stupid saying ...... Well I should have known better. They were shopping in Aldi. Can't trust those Aldi ones.

Like I said ....... You do it to yourself you do. ( thanks Mr. York )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Xx"

this.

And you hit the nail on the head with stating this is a swinger site. This means that connection and relationships are and will continue to be formed. Some of those will naturally develop into something much more.

I understand that many people also use it as a sex site to up their body count and look for some form of relationship elsewhere.

This does ask the question, are you viewing people on fab differently to how you would view someone you met in a bar for example? And is that why people will forever discount the possibility of a relationship with someone they have met through Fab?

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By *wesomeprofilename OP Man
over a year ago

Cornwall

Hey everyone, this is a massive generalisation, I know so don't take personal experiences into account here.

And please...chill out every one. This is meant to just be a conversation, not a fight to the death.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Final thought .........

'from here' ..... 'off here' .... why do people say that...

Your 'from here' is the same person you might have met in Aldi when you bumped at the trolley queue....

Wouldn't you feel just a tad stupid saying ...... Well I should have known better. They were shopping in Aldi. Can't trust those Aldi ones.

Like I said ....... You do it to yourself you do. ( thanks Mr. York ) "

Good point, well made. It is easier to target a more vulnerable person on the net though. They might display vulnerabilities more readily than while browsing the step ladders and trombones in the middle aisle.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Hey everyone, this is a massive generalisation, I know so don't take personal experiences into account here.

And please...chill out every one. This is meant to just be a conversation, not a fight to the death.

Everyone appears to be sharing their thoughts in a pretty chilled and open way to me.

I don't see any fighting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think Granny hints at what I'm thinking. Broken hearts come from unrealised expectations. A person may not come on here looking for love, they may not want it but once they've caught the feels their behaviour and the behaviour of the other person leads to the broken heart. If the other person remains adamant that they don't want a relationship then I understand your question - really why would you expect a different outcome when you meet a swinger who says they want NSA?

On the other hand, if the other person claims to also have the same feelings then it is reasonable to expect more from the relationship. They may not have come here expecting this, nor even hoping for it but as you say, it happens. Once it's happened then the place of meeting becomes irrelevant, the relationship is defined by the couples behaviour to each other. For this type of situation your question makes no sense, what they may or may not have expected from Fab has no effect whatsoever on what they expect from a partner.

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

we got married in January after meeting on here

and clearly if we were to end it we would be broken hearted

nobody else has the right to judge anothers relationship,

what people get into once they have met here is for those people involved, not the community to talk about

the issue comes when somebody falls for somebody else that they meet here who isn't free and up for an exclusive committed relationship

affairs and unfaithfulness and being "the secret other person" is messy and not to be advised.

NSA is what it is...

so long as both people meeting keep it that way.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Hey everyone, this is a massive generalisation, I know so don't take personal experiences into account here.

And please...chill out every one. This is meant to just be a conversation, not a fight to the death.

There's zero shouty, no cuntiness being displayed. It's very chill from what I've read.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Hey everyone, this is a massive generalisation, I know so don't take personal experiences into account here.

And please...chill out every one. This is meant to just be a conversation, not a fight to the death.

There's zero shouty, no cuntiness being displayed. It's very chill from what I've read."

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I've been noticing a few status updates recently where women are posting that a guy from fab has broken their hearts.

They've got themselves into relationships from here (which yes, I know happens) & have fallen in love (again, yes...it happens).

Is this fabswingers or Tinder?

I know that it happens & with happy endings (no, not that kind you filthy beast!) but really? What do people expect?

Thoughts?"

I think that people are free to do what they want, how they want with whoever they want.

If you don’t want to date, that’s up to you. You do you.

Others find that this is a good place to find likeminded folks to continue their journey

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"we got married in January after meeting on here

and clearly if we were to end it we would be broken hearted

nobody else has the right to judge anothers relationship,

what people get into once they have met here is for those people involved, not the community to talk about

the issue comes when somebody falls for somebody else that they meet here who isn't free and up for an exclusive committed relationship

affairs and unfaithfulness and being "the secret other person" is messy and not to be advised.

NSA is what it is...

so long as both people meeting keep it that way."

I agree it's no one elses business. You are so right. But then I don't like it when people HEADLINE their breakup which I can't unread later.

Not interested in a strangers ended relationship ...... Why do folk think they have the monopoly on relationships endings?

Is this Fabswingers or Facebook !!

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By *wesomeprofilename OP Man
over a year ago

Cornwall

"Hey everyone, this is a massive generalisation, I know so don't take personal experiences into account here.

And please...chill out every one. This is meant to just be a conversation, not a fight to the death.

There's zero shouty, no cuntiness being displayed. It's very chill from what I've read."

I've had a few guys inbox me some abuse, lols

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

Unfortunately people do end up with a broken heart. People want to believe they are on the same page with the person they like but when it boils down to it they’re not - in some cases.

I do think you can find love anywhere but I also feel that lust, attraction and regular sex with a person you’re comfortable with is confused for love.

I wouldn’t wish a broken heart on anyone though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Levels of oxytocin increase during orgasm, especially for women. If you're having that on a regular basis, with the same person, it's difficult not to get attached in some way...unless you're closed off emotionally..then imagine it'd be hard to enjoy sex???

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

People find love in tesco..... Is that tinder or a supermarket?!

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I think people probably just expect the basics, honesty and a bit of respect.

Sadly like anywhere some people on here are more duplicitous than others, so there are hurt feelings along the way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People find love in tesco..... Is that tinder or a supermarket?!

You might find love but you won't find any sodding dog food in there at the moment.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"Final thought ......... "

Granny is actually Jerry Springer in disguise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love can bloom anywhere it finds itself. Cupid and his blasted arrows.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Final thought .........

Granny is actually Jerry Springer in disguise

Hey, Only in looks and attitude and income..........

What you trying to say ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Final thought .........

Granny is actually Jerry Springer in disguise

Hey, Only in looks and attitude and income..........

What you trying to say ?"

He wants the rights to Granny Crumpet: The Musical.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"Final thought .........

Granny is actually Jerry Springer in disguise

Hey, Only in looks and attitude and income..........

What you trying to say ?

He wants the rights to Granny Crumpet: The Musical."

I wonder what St Winifred's School Choir are doing now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been noticing a few status updates recently where women are posting that a guy from fab has broken their hearts.

Too many broken hearts in the world if you ask me.

There's just too many dreams to be broken in two. "

I had a big crush on Jason Donovan

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