FabSwingers.com forum: Rejection

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

When you message someone and they say no how would you react? Do you feel sad, frustrated, thinking about ways to change yourself?

Let's see what your answers are. Maybe we can help others understand how you might feel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks for your time happy swingeing

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Meh, doesn't fuss me if they don't like me on the outside but what does sting is being rejected on who I am as a person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When you message someone and they say no how would you react? Do you feel sad, frustrated, thinking about ways to change yourself?

Let's see what your answers are. Maybe we can help others understand how you might feel."

How dare they turn down the Ass Eating King.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not bothered in the slightest. I know that not everyone can fancy everyone. That would just be weird.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can't feel sad about being rejected by someone you don't know or have never met.

I hate when you think you have come up with a whitty articulate first message, and the recipient deletes without reading..

I always think that fucker owes me back that fifteen minutes.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

I say happy fabbing x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When you message someone and they say no how would you react? Do you feel sad, frustrated, thinking about ways to change yourself?

Let's see what your answers are. Maybe we can help others understand how you might feel."

I just think, oh how sad, they missed a rock hard thing they could have had immense fun with...

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By *adetMan
over a year ago

South of Ipswich

Not bothered. I'd never want to sleep with someone who didn't want to sleep with me

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

When I first joined fab yes it did OP but now I understand it’s just how it works on here. It’s not personal and everyone is entitled to persue there own attraction preferences. Just move on because there will be people for you on here. If an old fart like me can do well on here you will for sure

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

You are sending an unsolicited message to someone - they aren’t expecting it so whilst you might want it to be a positive response, there’s no point building your hopes up.

What you are best doing before sending a message to increase your chances of a positive response is to make sure your profile and pics are decent and to be engaging in your message.

Don’t worry about rejection…you can’t appeal to everyone.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"When you message someone and they say no how would you react? Do you feel sad, frustrated, thinking about ways to change yourself?

Let's see what your answers are. Maybe we can help others understand how you might feel.

How dare they turn down the Ass Eating King. "

Translation - cries himself to sleep.

I've never messaged anyone and had them say no OP. Don't get me wrong, I message people if I'm interested. If I was turned down I'd probably write a sad, sad song about it while eating ice cream and crafting a voodoo doll.

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By *inkunicorn2021Woman
over a year ago

Downham Market

The world would be a boring place if we all liked the same things

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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago

Dublin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Life is full of disappointments , where does a no or no reply on fab rate… it doesn’t …

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is why I don’t ask.

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

I just delete. Couldn’t care less. Each to their own, can’t be for everyone

Call it a pet hate but the “happy swinging” or “good luck” reply proper winds me up when I say no thanks haha!

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By *lofeldMan
over a year ago

Redhill

I don't mind rejection at all, better that than being strung along, and as others have said, you have to take the site for what it is. It does help that I don't message many people, admittedly

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

You do need to take into account that it could be something as simple as timing. I've rejected people I could have been interested in had the timing been different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just take each rejection philosophically. Don't get upset or angry. Just wait for another interesting person to come along and then go from there.

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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Seething with rage.

Joking, obviously. I take rejection really well and have no issue with it, just like every guy will say in this thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When you message someone and they say no how would you react? Do you feel sad, frustrated, thinking about ways to change yourself?

Let's see what your answers are. Maybe we can help others understand how you might feel.

How dare they turn down the Ass Eating King.

Translation - cries himself to sleep."

I don't need to cry myself to sleep. I just read your ramblings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I reacted in any of those ways to somebody not being interested in a message I sent on here I would know it was time to leave.

They aren't interested in me its not in anyway hurtful.

Ans no I wouldnt change my approach or myself because of that

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

Nobody is universally appealing, including myself...it's inevitable that we'll all face rejection at some point in our lives. If you honestly believe that you're presenting yourself in the best light, I really can't see what else there is to do apart from accept it gracefully and move on, they're not the person for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is why I don’t ask.

But seriously, I would ask again tomorrow, and then the day after. Hopefully bug her until she gives in.

*it appears that I can’t answer this question seriously.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whats rejection? i'm a woman on fab, guys always say yes! lol

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By *urplechesterCouple
over a year ago

chester

We’ve faced some rejection both on this profile and my single profile, and I have to say it doesn’t bother me personally! I’m a believer in things happening for a reason (haha Mr will be rolling his eyes)! One size doesn’t fit all, and we can’t be for everyone, so I keep my expectations low and anything else is a bonus

Miss pc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When you message someone and they say no how would you react? Do you feel sad, frustrated, thinking about ways to change yourself?

Let's see what your answers are. Maybe we can help others understand how you might feel."

Grateful that they said no clearly, and I thank them for it and wish them well.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Constant rejection would make me feel bad. I don't think it's good for the soul. Although I'm pretty robust and have good self esteem I know not to put myself in positions where a lot of rejection is likely. I would need to adjust my reaction to it I think

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

"If I was turned down I'd probably write a sad, sad song about it while eating ice cream and crafting a voodoo doll - ALL AT THE SAME TIME."

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Melí, I never knew that you could multi-task!

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

Nothing out of the ordinary.

Facing rejection is like taxes for guys. No getting away from it

The sooner you get used to it and let it roll off your back, the better you’ll do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But does a 55 year old bloke have the right to be upset and angry because 22 year old women are not replying to him or turning him down regularly?

Everybody kind of has an intrinsic build in measure of what is in and out of their league.

If you are going to keep aiming high all the time, you should be able to expect the fallout.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just accept and move on, but then I don't like me much either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well i alway’s get rejection so nothing new!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But does a 55 year old bloke have the right to be upset and angry because 22 year old women are not replying to him or turning him down regularly?

Everybody kind of has an intrinsic build in measure of what is in and out of their league.

If you are going to keep aiming high all the time, you should be able to expect the fallout."

This question now has more depth than just how do you handle rejection…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rejection is part of life. The only time we’ve had a problem with it was when someone said “you’re a bit too curvy for me”

We didn’t have a problem with their reasoning there was just no need to say it. No response, a delete or a polite no thanks would have done

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By *lasphemousGirlWoman
over a year ago

Cambs

Happy fabbing and move on, we can't be everyone's cup of tea, a polite no thanks is always appreciated but not necessary.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rejection from messages have never really bothered me. We can’t be everyone cuppa so as kind as no one’s time is wasted by being Lead on without any intention of meeting, I’m good with that.

There are other ways that people feel rejected on fab other than through messages and we could all do better with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But does a 55 year old bloke have the right to be upset and angry because 22 year old women are not replying to him or turning him down regularly?

Everybody kind of has an intrinsic build in measure of what is in and out of their league.

If you are going to keep aiming high all the time, you should be able to expect the fallout.

This question now has more depth than just how do you handle rejection…

Rejected = I may need change myself to fit other people's requirements.

Don't think so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But does a 55 year old bloke have the right to be upset and angry because 22 year old women are not replying to him or turning him down regularly?

Everybody kind of has an intrinsic build in measure of what is in and out of their league.

If you are going to keep aiming high all the time, you should be able to expect the fallout.

This question now has more depth than just how do you handle rejection…

Rejected = I may need change myself to fit other people's requirements.

Don't think so

I don’t think I would either.

Rejected = someone said no.

But the 55 year old is specific to an individual and an experience, not really a general question like the opening post. Don’t you think ?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"But does a 55 year old bloke have the right to be upset and angry because 22 year old women are not replying to him or turning him down regularly?

Everybody kind of has an intrinsic build in measure of what is in and out of their league.

If you are going to keep aiming high all the time, you should be able to expect the fallout."

Everyone has a right to how they feel. What they don't have the right to is taking those feelings out on other people.

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By *3nsesMan
over a year ago

Dublin

"But does a 55 year old bloke have the right to be upset and angry because 22 year old women are not replying to him or turning him down regularly?

Everybody kind of has an intrinsic build in measure of what is in and out of their league.

If you are going to keep aiming high all the time, you should be able to expect the fallout."

Does a 23 year old bloke have a right to be upset and angry? Everyone is entitled to their own feelings but that doesn't make the entitled to express them either.

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth

Probably introspective for a little while, then start over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just sent best of luck to the last one I had. You don't fancy everyone you come across so you can't expect everyone to like you.

It's a preference, onto the next one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I say - "No worries, good luck"

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I dont know bout most ppl but for me I get a very strong urge to be mature about it and not throw a tantrum like some ppl do on here

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

There may be some dissapointment but it doesn't really affect my life so I just move on.

I've had to turn people down because there's no attraction for me and they've mostly been understanding.

You either fancy someone or you don't, it's just the way life goes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It was overwhelming and raising all my insecurities before

But now I realise that I am not everyones cup of tea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are all different and a case of good luck happy fabbing simple

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By *ewCoupleHXCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Doesn't bother us really, there is plenty more fish in sea of fab. We can hardly manage the few friends we have so we tend to move on fairly quick.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But does a 55 year old bloke have the right to be upset and angry because 22 year old women are not replying to him or turning him down regularly?

Everybody kind of has an intrinsic build in measure of what is in and out of their league.

If you are going to keep aiming

high all the time, you should be able to expect the fallout.

This question now has more depth than just how do you handle rejection…

Rejected = I may need change myself to fit other people's requirements.

Don't think so

I don’t think I would either.

Rejected = someone said no.

But the 55 year old is specific to an individual and an experience, not really a general question like the opening post. Don’t you think ? "

General question is does rejection bring you down and possibly make you think you might need to changes.

My reckoning is if people managed their expectations better they would bypass all the frustration and sadness. Which in turn leads to bitterness and abusive messages etc..

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By *ourNextAddictionMan
over a year ago

Somerset

There’s nothing you really can do - if you take it personal you’d be having a hard time on here!

It’s simply about finding someone with mutual attraction. Just like in person, off this site.

I always end my messages with - “if not for you, no worries at all! Happy fabbing”

Then they don’t have to reply - if they simply delete the message. I’ll block them as I know we aren’t compatible, so it saves a second message being sent in the future

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When you message someone and they say no how would you react? Do you feel sad, frustrated, thinking about ways to change yourself?

Let's see what your answers are. Maybe we can help others understand how you might feel."

I don’t feel sad, frustrated or do I think of ways to change myself… We are all attracted and seeking different things

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

I have to admit I've never sent anyone a first message! But if someone messages I dont really fancy look of I allways decline in a nice way x

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By *ooBulMan
over a year ago

Missin’ Yo’ Kissin’

I'm polite, respectful & then go on to play the All American Rejects song "Move Along" at a very loud volume to get it out of my system.

The lyrics are:

"... When all you got to keep is strong,

Move along, move along like I know you do,

And even when your hope is gone,

Move along, move along just to make it through ...."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd feel a bit sad, disappointed. I only message people I'd like to meet and unlike many on here I am a human being.

I find the ones who just 'move on and don't care', treat people like a meat conveyor.

The meat is only worthwhile if it will fuck. That's how they are able to move on to the next meat stick/ meat hole so easily.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends who it is, usually I don’t care as I’ve got a lot of choice so it doesn’t matter.

If it’s someone I really fancy, it stings for 5 mins haha x but I’ll get over it fairly quickly to be honest ..

Sometimes tho a rejection in that sense, can lead into a nice friendship. And that is more valuable to me than another “shag” x

He knows who he is

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

"I'd feel a bit sad, disappointed. I only message people I'd like to meet and unlike many on here I am a human being.

I find the ones who just 'move on and don't care', treat people like a meat conveyor.

The meat is only worthwhile if it will fuck. That's how they are able to move on to the next meat stick/ meat hole so easily."

I’m also a human being.

People’s worth isn’t based on who they have sex with.

However I move on and don’t care. Why should I care that some randomer online doesn’t want to have sex with me.

I don’t treat people bad some of us just actually don’t let other people bother us.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"If I was turned down I'd probably write a sad, sad song about it while eating ice cream and crafting a voodoo doll - ALL AT THE SAME TIME.

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Melí, I never knew that you could multi-task!

It's the heartbroken woman superpower.

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

It’s not great. But it is a fact of life exactly in here

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Indifferent. I know I'm not going to be everyone's cup of tea. Plenty more people on the site x

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Nowhere

"Indifferent. I know I'm not going to be everyone's cup of tea. Plenty more people on the site x"
id teabag you - just saying xx

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

It wouldn't bother me as I'm a fat, middle aged woman with health problems.

If I was constantly being turned down I would probably leave and stick to knitting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It wouldn't bother me as I'm a fat, middle aged woman with health problems.

If I was constantly being turned down I would probably leave and stick to knitting. "

Alot to be said for knitting..

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

"I'd feel a bit sad, disappointed. I only message people I'd like to meet and unlike many on here I am a human being.

I find the ones who just 'move on and don't care', treat people like a meat conveyor.

The meat is only worthwhile if it will fuck. That's how they are able to move on to the next meat stick/ meat hole so easily."

I feel that’s a little misleading. Especially for us guys.

We can move on so quickly because 99% of interactions result in rejection. Most messages don’t even get opened.

It’s not quite the same for us. We can’t grieve and get upset over ever rejection. We wouldn’t have time to live

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

"I'd feel a bit sad, disappointed. I only message people I'd like to meet and unlike many on here I am a human being.

I find the ones who just 'move on and don't care', treat people like a meat conveyor.

The meat is only worthwhile if it will fuck. That's how they are able to move on to the next meat stick/ meat hole so easily."

I send first messages. I send them because I've seen something in the profile that I respond to. I say hi, I make conversation, I explain what prompted me to message.

I get rejected more often than I get a positive response. I choose to respect their decision and move on, understanding that everyone has their preference and nobody appeals to everyone.

I don't think of the people I message as meat sticks and I don't think of the site as a conveyor, but I can't get upset that someone who knows so very little about me doesn't want to know me better. It's very far from being a personal rejection as they just don't know enough about me for it to be personal, so I choose not to take it personally and I can't bring myself to invest huge emotion in it.

If I've been chatting to someone for a while and we've built a friendship and then they reject me, then yes I'd be very disappointed, but someone I'm effectively sending unsolicited mail to? Nope, I'll just move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A message saying thank you and good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's everyone's perogative to say no. I suck it up and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't take it personal, we don't know what people have going on in their personal lives. And everyone has their own things they look for in people.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

It’s happened hundreds of times to me. I actually had to say the same to someone last week.

It’s part and parcel of the dating game.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

On a Tinder first date and prior to it we were getting on like a house on fire. Regular messages and joking about things.

However when I met her at a coffee shop I could tell she was disappointed. It was like I was meeting a completely different person. We had a chat but I knew (actually on both sides) we were not compatible. I don’t think my pictures gave a true reflection of what I really looked like.

So I deleted all pictures that I thought just captured my best features and took some more….honest ones

After that I never had any issues with dates.

So she rejected me as I obviously didn’t look like my pictures, but on the positive side it did allow me to learn from the experience.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

There are many reasons why people get rejected, just try not to take it personally. It could be bad timing, too young/too old, too far away, if we all liked everything the same life would be very boring.

Just take it for what it is, a no from a complete stranger who knows nothing about you but that first interaction.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

It is in our profile, not to message us but still gets 15/20 a week think some people like getting told No.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

I feeling is 'next'.

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By *ohn-alt89Man
over a year ago

Southampton

I don’t think I’ve ever had anyone who is not interested actually message back! So I’d be pretty grateful that they had taken the time to do so. Either ways fine though, if they’re not interested then it’s cool

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

It doesn't mean anything other than an incompatibility. There is no one who is appealing universally.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

I just say thank you and make a incompatible private note on his profile, its no biggy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Online, I wouldn’t take it personally.

In real life, I gotta be honest, I kinda would!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like my car and you may not. Doesn't mean its a bad car. However, how do you know unless you've driven it. I may let you drive it, I may not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can’t massively influence if someone is going to like me or not, other than being polite and sending a photo. Rejections slide of my back, so I can focus my positive energy on those whose interest I have piqued.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"I like my car and you may not. Doesn't mean its a bad car. However, how do you know unless you've driven it. I may let you drive it, I may not. "

But I don’t want to , I steady have 2 cars and a bike. Do you have a bus or a train ? No, I’m not interested then

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

"When you message someone and they say no how would you react? Do you feel sad, frustrated, thinking about ways to change yourself?

Let's see what your answers are. Maybe we can help others understand how you might feel."

Change.. I refuse to chop inches off of my cock for anyone.

Myself I Delete move on.

I focus my attention on those who include me rather than those who exclude..its a far better and more productive use of my time.

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By *eardedman7Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

I don’t take offence, you can’t be everyone’s cup of tea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn’t bother me if they are polite but there a a few opinionated trolls on here

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"When you message someone and they say no how would you react? Do you feel sad, frustrated, thinking about ways to change yourself?

Let's see what your answers are. Maybe we can help others understand how you might feel."

If anyone here is offended by the words “no thank you “ they should not be swinging in the first place…. Period!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would and have said... okay thanks for reading out message and have lots of fun.

Then we move on.

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

I accept it. I’m not entitled to anything from anyway and vice versa I don’t owe anyone anything.

It’s easy to take it personally but it’s not. Everyone is here for their own reasons. We meet some criteria and we don’t meet the criteria of closer to 95% IMHO.

Hope that they find what they are after and chill out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

part n parcel of swinging as well as normal life if you cant handle it then id suggest swinging is not for you

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By *he_Last_TitanMan
over a year ago

Bristol

"When you message someone and they say no how would you react? Do you feel sad, frustrated, thinking about ways to change yourself?

Let's see what your answers are. Maybe we can help others understand how you might feel."

I’ve never had a no - just a delete.

When used to send messages, I had about a 1/20 hit rate, I would say. Possibly even less. Now I rarely send a message. Just here for forums, unless someone messages first. Don’t even respond to winks, as the hit rate of responses to winks was equally bad.

It’s a strange place Fab, but the forums are a good place to enjoy a connection with others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not nice to be rejected but you just have to grin and bare it. I know im not everyones taste on here but you keep trying dont you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meh. I can't say it would bother me too much. I'd be a bit bummed if I really liked the person but I'd get over it quickly. But from purely appearance alone it's not really something that will have an impact on me.

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By *oublesixesMan
over a year ago

Corby

Rather have a rejection than simply deleted and blocked. But the result is the same, just move along, plus it keeps the hotlist under control

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You can't feel sad about being rejected by someone you don't know or have never met.

I hate when you think you have come up with a whitty articulate first message, and the recipient deletes without reading..

I always think that fucker owes me back that fifteen minutes."

I agree with the 1st part as essentially it's just a picture (often not even of someone's face) and a few words in a bio saying no thank you. For me that's a world of difference compared to say going on 3 dates with someone, you think it's going great and are really into them, only for them to decide against taking things further.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My reply is ‘ok, appreciate the reply, hope you find. Take care’

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By *he_Last_TitanMan
over a year ago

Bristol

"My reply is ‘ok, appreciate the reply, hope you find. Take care’"

Take care can be perceived as passive aggressive.

Always nice to close a round with a PAR.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s not really rejection though, so much as a difference in preferences.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

"It wouldn't bother me as I'm a fat, middle aged woman with health problems.

If I was constantly being turned down I would probably leave and stick to knitting.

Alot to be said for knitting.."

Yes. Quite. Hence why it's mentioned in my profile twice!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It wouldn't bother me as I'm a fat, middle aged woman with health problems.

If I was constantly being turned down I would probably leave and stick to knitting.

Alot to be said for knitting..

Yes. Quite. Hence why it's mentioned in my profile twice!

I'd never noticed that Nero

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like my car and you may not. Doesn't mean its a bad car. However, how do you know unless you've driven it. I may let you drive it, I may not.

But I don’t want to , I steady have 2 cars and a bike. Do you have a bus or a train ? No, I’m not interested then "

Ahh but you don't know me. I do actually own a bus (ok minibus) and 2 bikes. And that's what it's all about. Getting to know people more.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

"A lot to be said for knitting..

Yes. Quite. Hence why it's mentioned in my profile twice!

I'd never noticed that Nero

You were too busy ogling at my Embroidery?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A lot to be said for knitting..

Yes. Quite. Hence why it's mentioned in my profile twice!

I'd never noticed that Nero

You were too busy ogling at my Embroidery?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd feel a bit sad, disappointed. I only message people I'd like to meet and unlike many on here I am a human being.

I find the ones who just 'move on and don't care', treat people like a meat conveyor.

The meat is only worthwhile if it will fuck. That's how they are able to move on to the next meat stick/ meat hole so easily.

I feel that’s a little misleading. Especially for us guys.

We can move on so quickly because 99% of interactions result in rejection. Most messages don’t even get opened.

It’s not quite the same for us. We can’t grieve and get upset over ever rejection. We wouldn’t have time to live "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd feel a bit sad, disappointed. I only message people I'd like to meet and unlike many on here I am a human being.

I find the ones who just 'move on and don't care', treat people like a meat conveyor.

The meat is only worthwhile if it will fuck. That's how they are able to move on to the next meat stick/ meat hole so easily.

I send first messages. I send them because I've seen something in the profile that I respond to. I say hi, I make conversation, I explain what prompted me to message.

I get rejected more often than I get a positive response. I choose to respect their decision and move on, understanding that everyone has their preference and nobody appeals to everyone.

Fair point

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