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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm someone who's happy to travel to anywhere for meets as I have plenty of spare time due to working for myself.

But what is the furthest distance before it becomes creepy to go for a meet. Like would going from London to Newcastle for sex be seen as weird and desperate?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a Fab thing but I once went to Milan just to meet a woman…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kudos Dangermouse, I think the further you go the more exciting it is, and what a place to meet - fantastic!!

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By *onb21Woman
over a year ago

Cardiff

Creepy or desperate does not come to mind.

I have a rough limit in my head because I prefer convenient meets and the option of a repeat if it's good.

But it really depends on the chemistry and how certain I am that we will be attracted to each other. If there's any doubt then distance just adds to the pressure and that's not fun.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

It’s personal. I’d never go further than about 45 mins.

Now if I’m visiting my friends or family, a meet along the way, or maybe within 30 minute of then. That seems ok

But I just don’t see the point travelling too far

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the person is right there is no limit for me other than the time to be able to make the journey. But when everything falls into place it’s worth it

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

An hour max. We've had people offer to travel hundreds of miles, we're genuinely not worth it.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Well, I have to fly to get anywhere and meet anyone so there's your answer

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral


"Not a Fab thing but I once went to Milan just to meet a woman…"

I went to America to meet someone once. We'd been chatting for several years and I was visiting the US for work so took a detour.

In answer to the OP there are people I've chatted to for a long time, where I'd happily travel the length of the country just to have a cuppa and a natter with them because I'm travelling to spend time with a friend.

If it's a random FAF type of meet then travelling any further than half an hour does smack slightly of desperation to me. I live in a densely populated area, there's no need for me to travel any further just to meet up with a random for a one-off.

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

I very rarely fancy anyone and don’t want one offs so won’t travel more than an hour realistically.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

In the past I’ve travelled but within an hour now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1½ hours is about the limit but saying that I did go to Swansea a few times but made a whole weekend of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hope you have a shower after a long distance meet OP

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

I’ve travelled before and might again, but for now localish (roughly an hour max) is ideal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the past I’ve had fwbs who live a few hours away. When/if u I meet again my travelling distance will be little as I’ll want to be close to home for emergencies

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

An hour max but if there was someone we wanted to meet who lived somewhere we wanted to visit anyway then we would make it a trip away and the meet would just be part of it.

Kx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It was very much a case I was due in France on an unrelated trip, and I managed to blag flying to Milan the day before, hotel and then train to France as being cheaper..(which, genuinely, it nearly was) - reality was meeting with someone I have known virtually for 6-8 months, and it was great, we went to the Gucci store and ate gelato and had a cool date weekend. Never seen her since (still talk).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Crossing the water would be too far.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Distance was never an issue but time factor was. I now travel 130 miles round trip on a regular basis

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Furthest has been 4 hours each way...lately it's 2 hours each way regularly x

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

If it’s worth it I will travel and that’s not out of desperation. But satisfaction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reckon about an hour which includes quite a few places near enough to me to find people.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

I’m lucky enough to reside between two locations so I’m resuming meeting at either one. Happy to travel 2 hours ish ….

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Almost exclusively local or at a club of my choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like the adventure so I’m always happy to travel long distances. In fact I’m going up to Manchester for a naughty weekend this week!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I had no commitments and money allowed me to travel then there's no distance I wouldn't go but that's only if I really clicked with the person and felt they were worth it. I do like an adventure.

I wouldn't travel far for a quick one off fuck. But I wouldn't want anyone local so I'd go out of town, maybe two hours at most.

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By *amie HantsWoman
over a year ago

Atlantis

If I have to travel more than 10 mins outside my front door I would expect to be reimbursed for road snacks

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By *his_Kitty_ScratchesWoman
over a year ago

WSM

If the travel time times up more of my free time than the meet then no chance. I prefer a 30 minute local travel. I’m looking for more than just a random one off meet though so that changes it for me. Personally, having had a few messages from guys 2-300+ miles away my first thought is they are fake time wasters or if they would in fact travel that far then they are really desperate to get their Willy wet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t really travel out of my immediate area for meets. I do make this clear in my profile though. When people contact me who live MILES away, I don’t respond - driving 2 + hours for sex is slightly excessive and borderline desperate IMO.

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

Distance holds no bounds if cake’s on offer

(Other food would work too but, i don’t want to appear easy).

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Over the course of the last few months I’ve done two separate 1 1/2 hour meets. I even picked up a speeding ticket on the first one. Lol.

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

I'm more than happy to drive hundreds of miles to drop in on friends, regardless of any promise of sex or not. In fact I'll go further for a friend in need, just to listen with sympathy and give a hug, than I would for sex with strangers.

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By *heSofaDestroyersCouple
over a year ago

HereAndThere

We are happy to travel to clubs so why not meets,

It’s a 7 hour drive to chams for us or 4hours to Blackpool and we have traveled and returned on the same day before

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"I'm more than happy to drive hundreds of miles to drop in on friends, regardless of any promise of sex or not. In fact I'll go further for a friend in need, just to listen with sympathy and give a hug, than I would for sex with strangers."

Oh god yes I would, and have done, this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd travel to the Midlands for someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I went from Wiltshire to Brighton (3hrs away) to meet a girl once for the first time. Had a travel lodge pre booked, had one drink went back to the room and fucked her all night!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I have to travel more than 10 mins outside my front door I would expect to be reimbursed for road snacks"

Thought you were going to say fuel money!!

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

It's not creepy or weird if you've chatted to them and like them.

I've been chatting to someone for a while and we were getting on really well, so I travelled 3 hours for a social day out with her.

It was a brilliant day and I'd happily do it again.

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick


"If I have to travel more than 10 mins outside my front door I would expect to be reimbursed for road snacks"

I can't find anyone I'm interested in within a 45 minute drive

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By *issYeuxBleusWoman
over a year ago

My boudoir - S Wales

For the right person/people id definitely travel. Or invite them to stay with me. Good connections are worth travelling for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For the right person/people id definitely travel. Or invite them to stay with me. Good connections are worth travelling for. "

Ehhh still waiting.....

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By *issYeuxBleusWoman
over a year ago

My boudoir - S Wales


"For the right person/people id definitely travel. Or invite them to stay with me. Good connections are worth travelling for.

Ehhh still waiting....."

You could probably get a Ryanair flight to Cardiff for less than the price of a Nando’s now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had a guy visit me from England before. We’d established a really good rapport through messaging beforehand though. He came up for one night and it was a lot of fun!

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Camden

I once drove 90 miles for a day rate meet. It was a 90 mile drive for her too, and we had a fantastic day of fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Distance isn't so much an issue, although takes a bit more fore planning, and most certainly wouldn't be just for sex.

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull

I am surprised how many messages I get from men who are over 100 miles away.

I prefer to keep meets local as they are easier for regular play so further than 20-30 is always a no for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve had a guy visit me from England before. We’d established a really good rapport through messaging beforehand though. He came up for one night and it was a lot of fun!"

England to Scotland is just a 1 hour flight. Easy-peasy, did it last month for a whole weekend, I'll do it again this month. Good opportunity to visit Scotland, too

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

In the past, when I was single I've travelled a good couple of hours to meet. We'd chatted for ages beforehand though.

I wouldnt go too far now, I'm not meeting at min, but when I do, it's always a social first and I wouldn't let anyone travel too far to me,for what might only be a drink.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm used to travelling so it doesn't occur to me, but now you've said it I guess it could make folk uncomfortable. I always assume I'll be getting a hotel I love going to places I've not been even if there's fuck all there, because there's always something there! If someone is worth travelling for then they're worth it, sex or just a coffee.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

On Holibobs

Mime is 3 hours, I am limited in my adult spare time so would tie it in for a weekend away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For the right person/people id definitely travel. Or invite them to stay with me. Good connections are worth travelling for. "

Do I need to wait for a formal invitation?

I don’t mind travelling, I sometimes have to drive 4/5 hours for work. So I don’t mind doing it for pleasure

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

For the right person would make a weekend of it do distance is only a small speed bump in the road.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Travelling from London to Newcastle to meet someone you’ve grown fond of and would like to spend time with isn’t creepy. Just for sex? Maybe a bit weird.

I complain about travelling within my own town for a social, imagine if I have to look up a postcode in my satnav?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve traveled 4000 miles to have a photo with Mickey Mouse

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

In my experience convenience is rarely the same thing as good.

I don’t put a limit on distance that I would travel, I’ve driven 300 miles for coffee before now and would do the same for the right person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve had a guy visit me from England before. We’d established a really good rapport through messaging beforehand though. He came up for one night and it was a lot of fun!

England to Scotland is just a 1 hour flight. Easy-peasy, did it last month for a whole weekend, I'll do it again this month. Good opportunity to visit Scotland, too "

I personally couldn’t be arsed though, and tend to date on my doorstep!

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

Generally it’s 30 miles max

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By *issYeuxBleusWoman
over a year ago

My boudoir - S Wales


"For the right person/people id definitely travel. Or invite them to stay with me. Good connections are worth travelling for.

Do I need to wait for a formal invitation?

I don’t mind travelling, I sometimes have to drive 4/5 hours for work. So I don’t mind doing it for pleasure "

Yes. I need at least one weeks notice so I can tidy up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say that seeing how many people seem to be local on fab, if you can't get it within your own immediate area then maybe you're setting your barrier too high....unless you've met them before, they've had to move home and want to meet you again of course

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By *hrough the looking gla55Couple
over a year ago

Epsom

We tend to keep it local within a 40 minute drive however we are planning a trip to Scotland which will including a fab meet.

Wouldn’t mind combining a road trip/weekend break with a meet. That way it’s not a total lost if it falls through

Bx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Echo some of the other posts in here… For the right person I think I’d happily travel any distance.

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