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By *hunderace... OP   Man
over a year ago

Dudley

The older I get the more challenges and drama I deal with and overcome, thats the same for us all.

Do you feel stronger for dealing with things you have, or feel weaker because each one takes a little piece of you away..?

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"The older I get the more challenges and drama I deal with and overcome, thats the same for us all.

Do you feel stronger for dealing with things you have, or feel weaker because each one takes a little piece of you away..?"

Wow good question! I think I’m going to go with stronger because I really try to remain positive but it is a tough question x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The older I get the more challenges and drama I deal with and overcome, thats the same for us all.

Do you feel stronger for dealing with things you have, or feel weaker because each one takes a little piece of you away..?"

Wiser and stronger

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

With anything that I come up against, whether it's a win or a lose. I only take in things that can make me stronger, everything else is disregarded

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It all depends on what it is I suppose. J

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

A mixture. But as I get older I feel more vulnerable. I’m more wary of people. Less willing to take risks. It’s exhausting having to be strong all the time. Takes it out of you.

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By *hunderace... OP   Man
over a year ago

Dudley


"The older I get the more challenges and drama I deal with and overcome, thats the same for us all.

Do you feel stronger for dealing with things you have, or feel weaker because each one takes a little piece of you away..?

Wow good question! I think I’m going to go with stronger because I really try to remain positive but it is a tough question x"

Positivity is the key to our strength and motivation

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"The older I get the more challenges and drama I deal with and overcome, thats the same for us all.

Do you feel stronger for dealing with things you have, or feel weaker because each one takes a little piece of you away..?

Wow good question! I think I’m going to go with stronger because I really try to remain positive but it is a tough question x

Positivity is the key to our strength and motivation "

Although it can take a hell of a lot of strength to be like that x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stronger and less tolerant and a lot less gullible

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

Wiser and stronger in my core but I’ve lost pieces of me along the way.

It’s not always a case that what doesn’t kill us makes us stronger!

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Stronger, but you can teach an old new tricks, cos at nearly 60, I'm still learning

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I've lost so much of me recently with various things and in all honesty, I don't feel it has made me stronger. I guess my strength will come when the enormity of everything hits x

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Christ that’s a tough one.. stronger in my decisions. Weaker in general though. Things hit a lot harder as I get older.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I'm strong because I'm strong, not because I've had some epic bellends in my life. I'm smarter as I get older so can nip things in the bud quicker. But the energy to deal with crap is lower.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Deffo stronger x

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

That is a great question to ask. Think I would say stronger purely because in most cases I have seen it before or have the mentality to just get on with it. When I was younger sometimes felt overwhelmed.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

My divorce made me a lot stronger. When you live with another person at times you don’t realise what your strengths really are, if suddenly things change immediately.

So when this happened to me and I had to deal with everything from new home, job, finances and the day to day minor hassles that we all deal with. But in this case now alone.

Whatever doesn’t break you makes you.

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

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Stronger, more resilient, and with more experience and knowledge...the dark moments in life can teach you a lot if you pay attention to the lesson.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think every thing I deal with pushes me further away from wanting to do any of it anymore. A house with a big freezer and a ready supply of wood somewhere like Iceland where I have to deal with nothing else ever again but the weather beckons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The older I get the more challenges and drama I deal with and overcome, thats the same for us all.

Do you feel stronger for dealing with things you have, or feel weaker because each one takes a little piece of you away..?"

Stronger 100%... Learned so much about myself and have much healthier, progressive ways to deal with my shit these days.

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth

Probably weaker as the energy required to overcome seems greater each time - ultimately I think I'm heading towards being a hermit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Stronger, more resilient, and with more experience and knowledge...the dark moments in life can teach you a lot if you pay attention to the lesson. "

You been watching Karate kid lol

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By *orraine999Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere

After a life changing health scare and almost loosing my mom, the last two years have made me much stronger. I’m also less tolerant of rude, inconsiderate, egotistical people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am definitely stronger now as I know my own mind a lot more than I used to and the direction I want to go with life. Challenges are just an invitation to find a solution

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"the dark moments in life can teach you a lot if you pay attention to the lesson. "

Pain and suffering are our most important teachers.

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By *hunderace... OP   Man
over a year ago

Dudley

This is a question that I've been giving a lot of thought lately and tbh if somebody asked me 2yrs ago I'd have said unquestionably stronger.

I hesitate to say this as I don't know about you but I can smell a "please look at me" thread a mile away...

I became a type 1 diabetic aged 20, shortly after I survived a stage 4 cancer where doctors only gave me 6 months. This was the beggining of a list of medical drama that would be way too long to list but include 3 threatened leg amputations, eye operations, only my closest fab friends know again my life was in danger in March of this year which has resulted in medication I will take forever.

The trauma of one divorce and one pending plus what happened with my son last year just adds to it, to give you an idea of the size of mess he left behind that I've had to sort out its accumulated legal fees of £42,000 so far.

There's been as many highs as lows over the years, I look walk and talk like I've not had an ill day in my life. Despite the bit of bad luck I've mentioned I'm the most positive guy my friends know, that said I wonder in times of weakness am I really as strong as people think...

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By *opman121Man
over a year ago

stoke on trent

When your older life is more chilling which helps on fab most are time wasting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am stronger, my reactions are calmer and measured during the crisis moment.

I reach out for help now rather than bottle it up, I have a partner who is my rock, he is sensible and balanced with his advice which helps me process the problem in my mind of what I can do and what I should do.

I have grown wiser, I am kinder to myself, I understand how my mind responds to stress and know the measures to put in place to look out for myself to enable me to be strong for others.

NBVN x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think every thing I deal with pushes me further away from wanting to do any of it anymore. A house with a big freezer and a ready supply of wood somewhere like Iceland where I have to deal with nothing else ever again but the weather beckons."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is a question that I've been giving a lot of thought lately and tbh if somebody asked me 2yrs ago I'd have said unquestionably stronger.

I hesitate to say this as I don't know about you but I can smell a "please look at me" thread a mile away...

I became a type 1 diabetic aged 20, shortly after I survived a stage 4 cancer where doctors only gave me 6 months. This was the beggining of a list of medical drama that would be way too long to list but include 3 threatened leg amputations, eye operations, only my closest fab friends know again my life was in danger in March of this year which has resulted in medication I will take forever.

The trauma of one divorce and one pending plus what happened with my son last year just adds to it, to give you an idea of the size of mess he left behind that I've had to sort out its accumulated legal fees of £42,000 so far.

There's been as many highs as lows over the years, I look walk and talk like I've not had an ill day in my life. Despite the bit of bad luck I've mentioned I'm the most positive guy my friends know, that said I wonder in times of weakness am I really as strong as people think..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mentally way stronger , absolutely ,with everything that has happened or gone on in my life but it has come with a price as while l have become mentally stronger to deal with things my own personal confidence,self esteem & self worth in meeting other people has suffered .

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito

Stronger than I've ever been. The pieces I lost were meant to be lost to make room for better things or I gave them away willingly because someone else needed something to help them in life.

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.


"This is a question that I've been giving a lot of thought lately and tbh if somebody asked me 2yrs ago I'd have said unquestionably stronger.

I hesitate to say this as I don't know about you but I can smell a "please look at me" thread a mile away...

I became a type 1 diabetic aged 20, shortly after I survived a stage 4 cancer where doctors only gave me 6 months. This was the beggining of a list of medical drama that would be way too long to list but include 3 threatened leg amputations, eye operations, only my closest fab friends know again my life was in danger in March of this year which has resulted in medication I will take forever.

The trauma of one divorce and one pending plus what happened with my son last year just adds to it, to give you an idea of the size of mess he left behind that I've had to sort out its accumulated legal fees of £42,000 so far.

There's been as many highs as lows over the years, I look walk and talk like I've not had an ill day in my life. Despite the bit of bad luck I've mentioned I'm the most positive guy my friends know, that said I wonder in times of weakness am I really as strong as people think..."

ThunderBotty, you are one of the strongest people I know. And also the nicest.

You're life reads like a catalogue of catastrophes most of us can only hope will never happen to us. You didn't deserve any of that shit - who ever does? - but you've come through it, without resorting to a negative outlook on life.

You ARE stronger. You're a fighter & a survivor & a bloody wonderful human x

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

I know you’ve been through an awful lot Thunderace but you sure as hell came through it stronger.

I’m fairly strong in character, not much gets past me and if it does it’s not there for longer. I always come out more positive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"the dark moments in life can teach you a lot if you pay attention to the lesson.

Pain and suffering are our most important teachers. "

Asking the question, what is this teaching me? is very powerful

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Stronger in many ways, this comes at a cost in some ways because you need to harden yourself to deal with certain things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I'm stronger but exhausted and it takes more out of me.

I do always just get on with stuff but it would be nice for life to be easier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A bit of both and can depend on my outlook at the time.

Right now I’m so exhausted that things play on me more but I’m also pretty determined so don’t let people take the piss anymore.

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By *hunderace... OP   Man
over a year ago

Dudley


"I know you’ve been through an awful lot Thunderace but you sure as hell came through it stronger.

I’m fairly strong in character, not much gets past me and if it does it’s not there for longer. I always come out more positive "

You DC helped me so much with what I went through with my son and I can never thank you enough, can you believe it was 2yrs September just gone since I asked for advice regarding his addictions?

I recounted an event that involved you in a thread I posted a couple of weeks ago, I wonder if you remember it...search for my thread called "Believe it or not..?"

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