FabSwingers.com forum: Ever had this?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hooking up with someone on here, then without warning, you're deleted as a friend. Guess that's the end of that then

Why not just have the balls to at least finish it by text at the very least?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That’s can’t be a very nice feeling

Sorry this happened.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What a shame, and doesn't give us guys a good rep. His loss though

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Yep he ghosted me the day after. Then told me a month later that he was actually married and she found out he was playing away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haven’t had it yet, but dare say I will at some point.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"That’s can’t be a very nice feeling

Sorry this happened."

It's not, thank you. Just dont understand that sort of mentality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The fickle world of fab unfortunately

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Awful. I will never, ever understand this rude and cowardly behaviour.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What a shame, and doesn't give us guys a good rep. His loss though"

Just dont understand why a supposed good guy wouldnt at least send a message?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had it a couple of times.

Not the end of the world, not ideal but what can you do

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yep he ghosted me the day after. Then told me a month later that he was actually married and she found out he was playing away

Oh no, Im sorry that happened. Why cant men (and women) just be honest about things? It's left me feeling rather shit, held him in higher regard than that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because a lot of guys pretend to be good guys to get sex.

Don't define your worth on some loser.

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By *annyDanielleMan
over a year ago

Street, Somerset

"Hooking up with someone on here, then without warning, you're deleted as a friend. Guess that's the end of that then

Why not just have the balls to at least finish it by text at the very least?!"

They're missing out, the numpty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry this happened and yip

They say they want to build trust and stuff to push things futher then get home and unfriendand block

Don’t know why they do it if they want a one night thing that’s all they had to say if I like them that way it’s going to happen no matter if it’s a one nighter or they want more

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Haven’t had it yet, but dare say I will at some point. "

It shouldn't come at some point though should it. Just basic bloody manners to end things politely. Or was I expecting too much?

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Sorry to hear this has happened to you OP. Touch wood I've not had it happen yet but I expect it will at some point x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The fickle world of fab unfortunately "

So it seems. Bloody harsh though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hooking up with someone on here, then without warning, you're deleted as a friend. Guess that's the end of that then

Why not just have the balls to at least finish it by text at the very least?!"

Dead right.

There seems to be a fairly general acceptance on here that most accepted rules of politeness and basic decency just don't apply.

I don't agree.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Awful. I will never, ever understand this rude and cowardly behaviour."

Exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The fickle world of fab unfortunately

So it seems. Bloody harsh though"

Very harsh hun but try not to take it to heart, ppl like that ain’t worth it x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've had it a couple of times.

Not the end of the world, not ideal but what can you do"

Sorry youve experienced this. Feels shitty doesnt it.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

"Yep he ghosted me the day after. Then told me a month later that he was actually married and she found out he was playing away

Well that's why!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Because a lot of guys pretend to be good guys to get sex.

Don't define your worth on some loser. "

Harsh but true I fear.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been ghosted before but I've often met a better more appreciative lady after it. With crisis comes opportunity. You'll meet a better dude. Chin up, his loss

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The fickle world of fab unfortunately

So it seems. Bloody harsh though

Very harsh hun but try not to take it to heart, ppl like that ain’t worth it x"

Thing is if he'd have just said he didnt want to see me anymore I'd have been fine with it. Ive never experienced a "dumping" of that kind before, its kinda thrown me. I mean come on, we're not 12 are we

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By *ottom charlieMan
over a year ago

washington

they probably never intended to meet anyway but just wanted to see your private pics of your sexy boobs and body and sit and play with his little cock,,, there are loads on here like that,,, its such a shame they have to mess other people about

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hooking up with someone on here, then without warning, you're deleted as a friend. Guess that's the end of that then

Why not just have the balls to at least finish it by text at the very least?!

They're missing out, the numpty."

Ive called him worse today

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"they probably never intended to meet anyway but just wanted to see your private pics of your sexy boobs and body and sit and play with his little cock,,, there are loads on here like that,,, its such a shame they have to mess other people about

ive met him, we've hooked up. granted that doesnt make me significant to him but basic manners should be a given surely

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've been ghosted before but I've often met a better more appreciative lady after it. With crisis comes opportunity. You'll meet a better dude. Chin up, his loss

Nexxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxt!

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By *hubby CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Essex

If you was more local you could of popped round for a drink to drown your sorrows.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yep happens a lot think some people should stay on Tinder lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry this happened to you. I got ghosted recently it’s shit. But you just have to put it down as experience and move on. Nexxxxt lol. Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hooking up with someone on here, then without warning, you're deleted as a friend. Guess that's the end of that then

Why not just have the balls to at least finish it by text at the very least?!

Dead right.

There seems to be a fairly general acceptance on here that most accepted rules of politeness and basic decency just don't apply.

I don't agree."

I dont agree either

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you was more local you could of popped round for a drink to drown your sorrows.

I'll see you in about............7 hours?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"yep happens a lot think some people should stay on Tinder lol "

Never been on it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sorry this happened to you. I got ghosted recently it’s shit. But you just have to put it down as experience and move on. Nexxxxt lol. Xx"

thank you. its not a nice feeling is it.

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

Far too many times over the years, on here several times too. Rush yourself off and move on... who knows what may be around the corner x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah... we arranged to meet and then she ghosted me... however I noticed the other day she was still on my friends list lol I just figure that we all have our own lives going on and we can all be fickle fabbers at times so I never let it bother me

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By *issYeuxBleusWoman
over a year ago

My boudoir - S Wales

OP that’s really rubbish, but turn it into a positive, if he’s not capable of doing the decent thing, would you really want to meet him again? I’d say you lucked out. And also he clearly wasn’t good enough for you

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

That’s the wonder of Fab.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Far too many times over the years, on here several times too. Rush yourself off and move on... who knows what may be around the corner x"

I didn't realise this seems to be common practice on here

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By *annyDanielleMan
over a year ago

Street, Somerset

"Hooking up with someone on here, then without warning, you're deleted as a friend. Guess that's the end of that then

Why not just have the balls to at least finish it by text at the very least?!

They're missing out, the numpty.

Ive called him worse today

Don't blame you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hooking up with someone on here, then without warning, you're deleted as a friend. Guess that's the end of that then

Why not just have the balls to at least finish it by text at the very least?!"

Woman are are far more brutal at this on here and after a while on here the men get the same.

If you got fed up or bore of him what would you do ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yeah... we arranged to meet and then she ghosted me... however I noticed the other day she was still on my friends list lol I just figure that we all have our own lives going on and we can all be fickle fabbers at times so I never let it bother me

now if that was me and we'd arranged to meet, then i was ghosted, id have deleted them!

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By *hubby CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Essex

"If you was more local you could of popped round for a drink to drown your sorrows.

I'll see you in about............7 hours?

Where there’s a will there’s a way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See the potential positives from it. You’ve dodged a bullet and the next person will be f’kin awesome.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Iv met guys on here look again they have left

Only to return a week later

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By *eardedman7Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

So sorry this happened, disgusting behaviour x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hooking up with someone on here, then without warning, you're deleted as a friend. Guess that's the end of that then

Why not just have the balls to at least finish it by text at the very least?!"
if I’d have been closer I’d have offered to step into his place the man’s a fool

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hooking up with someone on here, then without warning, you're deleted as a friend. Guess that's the end of that then

Why not just have the balls to at least finish it by text at the very least?!

Woman are are far more brutal at this on here and after a while on here the men get the same.

If you got fed up or bore of him what would you do ?"

I have never treated anyone with that amount of lack of respect. Ever. When I have ended things its either by call/text or face to face.

Have you ghosted someone?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens.

This is going to sound harsh but sometimes you just aren't an important part of someone's life and are just someone to get some sexual relief off. So they see you as dispensable.

It's not always easy to spot these people.

It's just a risk of the lifestyle.

Sorry OP

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Hooking up with someone on here, then without warning, you're deleted as a friend. Guess that's the end of that then

Why not just have the balls to at least finish it by text at the very least?!

Woman are are far more brutal at this on here and after a while on here the men get the same.

If you got fed up or bore of him what would you do ?"

Its not a competition is it?

Who can blank who

The OP is clearly feeling some kind of way

Be kind please

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By *randMrsNorthernCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire

Gonna get lynched for this but here goes…

It sounds like you’re upset about being unfriended and it’s not nice/courteous of him at all, but if your ‘relationship’ to him just casual in a ‘Fab’ kind of way, as rude as he is, does he owe you an explanation?

If you were dating then of course, but we have unfriended folk on here without explanation as we have lost interest, felt perhaps they have too and realise there would be no future meets on the cards. We don’t message them to alert them of the unfriending as we don’t want to have any drama or appear dramatic.

Dare I say it, if it were a male unfriended by a female, would the gents on here be so unsympathetic? (“it’s Fab. Her choice. Leave her be and deal with ir!”)

Just offering another possible perspective. Sincerely though, plenty more fish in the sea and don’t take it personally.

His loss!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hooking up with someone on here, then without warning, you're deleted as a friend. Guess that's the end of that then

Why not just have the balls to at least finish it by text at the very least?!

Woman are are far more brutal at this on here and after a while on here the men get the same.

If you got fed up or bore of him what would you do ?

I have never treated anyone with that amount of lack of respect. Ever. When I have ended things its either by call/text or face to face.

Have you ghosted someone?"

I use to be on the club seen so a lot of people I hooked up with never even new there name or them mine so was no need to ghost

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It happens.

This is going to sound harsh but sometimes you just aren't an important part of someone's life and are just someone to get some sexual relief off. So they see you as dispensable.

It's not always easy to spot these people.

It's just a risk of the lifestyle.

Sorry OP"

that may be true but i was brought up with manners. I cant see any justifiable reason to do this.

maybe some men see it differently

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By *randMrsNorthernCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire

Just to clarify, sorry to hear you feel crap about it but don’t take it personally. I imagine people get unfriended and knocked back on here all the time. Plenty more fish in the sea! X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hooking up with someone on here, then without warning, you're deleted as a friend. Guess that's the end of that then

Why not just have the balls to at least finish it by text at the very least?!

Woman are are far more brutal at this on here and after a while on here the men get the same.

If you got fed up or bore of him what would you do ?

I have never treated anyone with that amount of lack of respect. Ever. When I have ended things its either by call/text or face to face.

Have you ghosted someone?

I use to be on the club seen so a lot of people I hooked up with never even new there name or them mine so was no need to ghost

thats slightly different to someone who youve been talking to for over 6 months on a daily basis

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It happens.

This is going to sound harsh but sometimes you just aren't an important part of someone's life and are just someone to get some sexual relief off. So they see you as dispensable.

It's not always easy to spot these people.

It's just a risk of the lifestyle.

Sorry OP

that may be true but i was brought up with manners. I cant see any justifiable reason to do this.

maybe some men see it differently"

I wasn't looking to justify it.

Merely explain the possible rational behind it, which I think was what your OP was looking for.

It's also not just men that do it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP you can’t account for other peoples behaviour. If they think it’s acceptable, then you’re probably best away from them, who knows what would’ve come next. And I always say, what goes around comes around, karma will take of it!

As for, be true and move on to some one who deserves you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Gonna get lynched for this but here goes…

Dare I say it, if it were a male unfriended by a female, would the gents on here be so unsympathetic? (“it’s Fab. Her choice. Leave her be and deal with ir!”)

Just offering another possible perspective. Sincerely though, plenty more fish in the sea and don’t take it personally.

His loss! "

I hear you. Its not like I havent spoken to him recently, we text/chat every day. So an hour after a text I get unfriended. That's just rude in my book. Totally out of the blue.

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By *nto the LouWoman
over a year ago

Preston

I hit it off with someone and we met twice in a week. He asked me what I’d do if I caught feelings and told me how women always fall for him, blah blah. After I got home from the second meet he messaged, laid it on thick about how much he liked me etc, wanted to know if I liked him. I said I thought he was nice. Messaged him a couple of days later to let him know how something we’d discussed had gone, he never replied and hasn’t been back on here either (although he hasn’t deleted his profile). I just unfriended and moved on, I’m convinced he was a game player and that’s not what I’m here for.

Sorry you’ve been hurt by your experience, hopefully you’ll be able to get over it xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It happens.

This is going to sound harsh but sometimes you just aren't an important part of someone's life and are just someone to get some sexual relief off. So they see you as dispensable.

It's not always easy to spot these people.

It's just a risk of the lifestyle.

Sorry OP

that may be true but i was brought up with manners. I cant see any justifiable reason to do this.

maybe some men see it differently

I wasn't looking to justify it.

Merely explain the possible rational behind it, which I think was what your OP was looking for.

It's also not just men that do it "

yes, "some" men and "some" women can be total shits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’d think that on a site dedicated to swinging and casual sex/hookups a person would be able to say thanks for a good night was nice to meet you, take care and goodbye. You won’t know the reasons why he choose the option to just delete you essentially, that’s what it is. He could have had a bad experience telling someone he no longer wants to continue a friendship or hooking up.

Now any nice memory you had of that night is tainted because of how he’s acted now.

What was the discussion prior to hooking up? Did you agree it would be a one off thing or did he state he was looking for regular?

Either way you’re gonna feel used. Seek comfort knowing that it’s happened to other people. Don’t stay too long in this shitty feeling. Do your dishes or do a bit of tidying. Have a bath or shower, get yourself in water. Have a cuppa tea and if you’re still feeling shit ask your higher self/spirit or source to take away the feeling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Gonna get lynched for this but here goes…

Dare I say it, if it were a male unfriended by a female, would the gents on here be so unsympathetic? (“it’s Fab. Her choice. Leave her be and deal with ir!”)

Just offering another possible perspective. Sincerely though, plenty more fish in the sea and don’t take it personally.

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hooking up with someone on here, then without warning, you're deleted as a friend. Guess that's the end of that then

Why not just have the balls to at least finish it by text at the very least?!

Woman are are far more brutal at this on here and after a while on here the men get the same.

If you got fed up or bore of him what would you do ?

I have never treated anyone with that amount of lack of respect. Ever. When I have ended things its either by call/text or face to face.

Have you ghosted someone?

I use to be on the club seen so a lot of people I hooked up with never even new there name or them mine so was no need to ghost

thats slightly different to someone who youve been talking to for over 6 months on a daily basis"

That might of been why he unfriended you.

Little less conversation Little more action

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You’d think that on a site dedicated to swinging and casual sex/hookups a person would be able to say thanks for a good night was nice to meet you, take care and goodbye. You won’t know the reasons why he choose the option to just delete you essentially, that’s what it is. He could have had a bad experience telling someone he no longer wants to continue a friendship or hooking up.

Now any nice memory you had of that night is tainted because of how he’s acted now.

What was the discussion prior to hooking up? Did you agree it would be a one off thing or did he state he was looking for regular?

he said he wanted regular, we were in contact daily. jesus i even had a text from him an hour prior. so this just comes out of the blue.

but yeh it sucks but im going to try and not let this get to me. need to put my big girls pants on and suck it up.

thanks everyone, it sucks youve experienced this too, gonna log off before i get really angry and message him telling him what i think!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now any nice memory you had of that night is tainted because of how he’s acted now.

What was the discussion prior to hooking up? Did you agree it would be a one off thing or did he state he was looking for regular?

he said he wanted regular, we were in contact daily. jesus i even had a text from him an hour prior. so this just comes out of the blue.

but yeh it sucks but im going to try and not let this get to me. need to put my big girls pants on and suck it up.

thanks everyone, it sucks youve experienced this too, gonna log off before i get really angry and message him telling him what i think!"

That’s a pisser him saying he wanted regular. Also read that you spoke everyday for 6 months prior so you’ll miss that temporarily. What you’re feeling will pass though. Also I have a 100% return rate on guys that have ever done this kinda shit with me before. They ALWAYS come back. Know that!! In a few weeks or months he’ll try and slink back in but by then you won’t want to know him.

Don’t message him anything or kick off because you’ll just be justifying whatever bull shit reason he’s given himself to cut things off with you. I am the QUEEN of kicking off in the past, it doesn’t help. Silence will hit him harder. I’m sending you healing.

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