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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How many of you block a profile after you have a negative reply or no reply?

I love the block, saves on the cluttered uninterested in me profiles

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

No reply = block in my book. Just clears up your search page, nothing malicious about it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Glad it's not just me

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

I rarely block..I rarely read messages and just ignore those I have read but don't like.

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By *inkylipsWoman
over a year ago

Debauchery

I go through stages of blocking loads in a short space of time to not blocking for months. Some of those who refuse to take no for an answer or get rude are the usual casualty’s. But once’s a month I seem to get days of trolling messages which are instant block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I spoke to a women on here who said she hates it when a man blocks her after she replies to say she isn’t interested because it feels like an aggressive reaction and she thinks he’s blocked her because she’s upset or annoyed him. I did explain to her that it’s probably just their way of making sure they know not to contact you again but it didn’t make her feel better about it. Since that conversation I’ve stopped blocking people....it does mean scrolling through profiles is a bit more laborious but I don’t want to make people feel how she felt when she got blocked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I spoke to a women on here who said she hates it when a man blocks her after she replies to say she isn’t interested because it feels like an aggressive reaction and she thinks he’s blocked her because she’s upset or annoyed him. I did explain to her that it’s probably just their way of making sure they know not to contact you again but it didn’t make her feel better about it. Since that conversation I’ve stopped blocking people....it does mean scrolling through profiles is a bit more laborious but I don’t want to make people feel how she felt when she got blocked. "

I get why youve decided to make that change but tbh, it shouldnt matter to you how they feel when you block them if you know there isnt going to be any contact in the future. Guys are constantly being told they shouldnt let this site get them down due to X and Y reasons, same should apply to women here too. We all do things differently and if we do something that isnt intended to be negative, aggressive or hurtful, but someone still gets upset by it, thats their problem. You shouldnt have to change how you operate just to please someone youll never interact with outside of the forum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I spoke to a women on here who said she hates it when a man blocks her after she replies to say she isn’t interested because it feels like an aggressive reaction and she thinks he’s blocked her because she’s upset or annoyed him. I did explain to her that it’s probably just their way of making sure they know not to contact you again but it didn’t make her feel better about it. Since that conversation I’ve stopped blocking people....it does mean scrolling through profiles is a bit more laborious but I don’t want to make people feel how she felt when she got blocked.

I get why youve decided to make that change but tbh, it shouldnt matter to you how they feel when you block them if you know there isnt going to be any contact in the future. Guys are constantly being told they shouldnt let this site get them down due to X and Y reasons, same should apply to women here too. We all do things differently and if we do something that isnt intended to be negative, aggressive or hurtful, but someone still gets upset by it, thats their problem. You shouldnt have to change how you operate just to please someone youll never interact with outside of the forum."

Well I guess it’s just because I have empathy and consider the feelings of others whether I’m going to have contact with them in the future or not. It’s the same reason I don’t go up to strangers and punch them and walk away without feeling any guilt or remorse because I’ll never have contact with that person again. It’s the same reason I donate to charities that help people I’ll never meet or have any contact with.

I just don’t want to be the sort of person who knows that by doing something I might upset someone else but I do it anyway because it makes my life a little bit easier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't block in that situation. Started using private notes fairly recently

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No reply = block in my book. Just clears up your search page, nothing malicious about it "

I never received a message from you to not reply to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No reply = block in my book. Just clears up your search page, nothing malicious about it

I never received a message from you to not reply to "

I’m going to guess that you’ll be receiving a message off him pretty soon...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No reply = block in my book. Just clears up your search page, nothing malicious about it

I never received a message from you to not reply to

I’m going to guess that you’ll be receiving a message off him pretty soon..."

We’re frenamies

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I spoke to a women on here who said she hates it when a man blocks her after she replies to say she isn’t interested because it feels like an aggressive reaction and she thinks he’s blocked her because she’s upset or annoyed him. I did explain to her that it’s probably just their way of making sure they know not to contact you again but it didn’t make her feel better about it. Since that conversation I’ve stopped blocking people....it does mean scrolling through profiles is a bit more laborious but I don’t want to make people feel how she felt when she got blocked. "

I know this has been moaned about a million times on her by men, it's super hard for some men to even get a reply on her. So if its a negative, when you done the 'Make an effort with your first message, added face pics etc etc' and you get a No. A block save trawling through women that have already rejected you out of hand. If it hurts their feeling that they can't see the profile of the person they have rejected they need to get over it. What do they want? 'Erm bugger off Mr but please hang around and like my pictures for my ego boost' , not happening.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Well I guess it’s just because I have empathy and consider the feelings of others whether I’m going to have contact with them in the future or not. It’s the same reason I don’t go up to strangers and punch them and walk away without feeling any guilt or remorse because I’ll never have contact with that person again. It’s the same reason I donate to charities that help people I’ll never meet or have any contact with.

I just don’t want to be the sort of person who knows that by doing something I might upset someone else but I do it anyway because it makes my life a little bit easier."

Well you make a fair point although bit of a stretch comparing it to punching someone in the face. It just seems to me that ppl shouldnt be guilted into changing how they do things, even if you have empathy for others.

I mean if women on the site felt guilty for not replying to men who struggle to put themselves out there, and then put themselves down cos they feel nobody wants them, a lot of women wont like the fact theyve been made to feel guilty for ignoring "boring messages", and therefore feel theyre obligated out of a sense of empathy to give some form of response to avoid hurting some guys feelings.

At the end of the day we cant please everyone *shrug*

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

And in general I'm only blocking people I've contacted in my area to hopefully meet.

People in the forums who I seldom message because they are too far away to meet get a pass on the block system.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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I know this has been moaned about a million times on her by men, it's super hard for some men to even get a reply on her. So if its a negative, when you done the 'Make an effort with your first message, added face pics etc etc' and you get a No. A block save trawling through women that have already rejected you out of hand. If it hurts their feeling that they can't see the profile of the person they have rejected they need to get over it. What do they want? 'Erm bugger off Mr but please hang around and like my pictures for my ego boost' , not happening. "

I dont feel its a matter of her not being able to see his profile, as he said it was a case of her taking it as a form of aggressive reaction to her rejecting a guy.

But it still shouldnt matter if a guy blocks her after being rejected. She said no, he blocks her, that should be the end of it and both ppl move on. Getting caught up in trying to feel empathy for other ppl over their problems no atter how small and numerous they may be is, in my opinion, a little unhealthy in the long run. Sure have empathy, consider others, just dont keep making sacrifices for the sake of others

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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I know this has been moaned about a million times on her by men, it's super hard for some men to even get a reply on her. So if its a negative, when you done the 'Make an effort with your first message, added face pics etc etc' and you get a No. A block save trawling through women that have already rejected you out of hand. If it hurts their feeling that they can't see the profile of the person they have rejected they need to get over it. What do they want? 'Erm bugger off Mr but please hang around and like my pictures for my ego boost' , not happening.

I dont feel its a matter of her not being able to see his profile, as he said it was a case of her taking it as a form of aggressive reaction to her rejecting a guy.

But it still shouldnt matter if a guy blocks her after being rejected. She said no, he blocks her, that should be the end of it and both ppl move on. Getting caught up in trying to feel empathy for other ppl over their problems no atter how small and numerous they may be is, in my opinion, a little unhealthy in the long run. Sure have empathy, consider others, just dont keep making sacrifices for the sake of others"

It's a strange reaction to the blocking though.

In real life in a bar ,if a guy came up and tried to ask her out and she said no and he just stood there I think she'd be a bit freaked out. She'd be erm go away and leave me alone.

Which with a block he is doing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Well I guess it’s just because I have empathy and consider the feelings of others whether I’m going to have contact with them in the future or not. It’s the same reason I don’t go up to strangers and punch them and walk away without feeling any guilt or remorse because I’ll never have contact with that person again. It’s the same reason I donate to charities that help people I’ll never meet or have any contact with.

I just don’t want to be the sort of person who knows that by doing something I might upset someone else but I do it anyway because it makes my life a little bit easier.

Well you make a fair point although bit of a stretch comparing it to punching someone in the face. It just seems to me that ppl shouldnt be guilted into changing how they do things, even if you have empathy for others.

I mean if women on the site felt guilty for not replying to men who struggle to put themselves out there, and then put themselves down cos they feel nobody wants them, a lot of women wont like the fact theyve been made to feel guilty for ignoring "boring messages", and therefore feel theyre obligated out of a sense of empathy to give some form of response to avoid hurting some guys feelings.

At the end of the day we cant please everyone *shrug*"

You’re totally right, we can’t please everyone all the time as a lot of things we do have an impact on someone else somehow and sometimes there are things we have to do even though we know it will upset someone else, it’s not nice but sometimes we have no choice.

I was just comparing the act of not caring about hurting someone you won’t have contact with again, I do accept that punching a stranger is way more serious and inconsiderate than blocking a profile....

I see what you’re saying but from what I’ve heard most women on here get hundreds of messages a day so it would be a real inconvenience to reply to them all, even reading them all must be a chore, so I can understand them not replying to everyone even if they know it will upset some people. There’s only so much we can do to protect the feelings of others. I just think that having to skip past profiles I know aren’t interested in me when doing a search on here isn’t that big an inconvenience and I’m happy to put up with it.

It’s just my preference though, I’m not saying it’s wrong to block profiles, I’m just explaining why I don’t do it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I do it on a time saved aspect, there's no point in trawling through profiles of people who aren't interested in you. That's why Tinder is successful, if you aren't interested swipe left and never to be seen again haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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I know this has been moaned about a million times on her by men, it's super hard for some men to even get a reply on her. So if its a negative, when you done the 'Make an effort with your first message, added face pics etc etc' and you get a No. A block save trawling through women that have already rejected you out of hand. If it hurts their feeling that they can't see the profile of the person they have rejected they need to get over it. What do they want? 'Erm bugger off Mr but please hang around and like my pictures for my ego boost' , not happening.

I dont feel its a matter of her not being able to see his profile, as he said it was a case of her taking it as a form of aggressive reaction to her rejecting a guy.

But it still shouldnt matter if a guy blocks her after being rejected. She said no, he blocks her, that should be the end of it and both ppl move on. Getting caught up in trying to feel empathy for other ppl over their problems no atter how small and numerous they may be is, in my opinion, a little unhealthy in the long run. Sure have empathy, consider others, just dont keep making sacrifices for the sake of others

It's a strange reaction to the blocking though.

In real life in a bar ,if a guy came up and tried to ask her out and she said no and he just stood there I think she'd be a bit freaked out. She'd be erm go away and leave me alone.

Which with a block he is doing."

I don’t understand why she feels like that when she gets blocked, it doesn’t bother me at all when someone blocks me after I’ve sent a polite message introducing myself as I just see it as confirmation they aren’t interested. Especially as she isn’t even interested in talking to the person anyway. But we can’t help how we react to certain things.

I guess to her it’s like the man storming out the bar and banging the door on his way out after she politely turned him down. That’s not how I see it by the way, just trying to see it from her point of view.

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By *erfect imperfectionCouple
over a year ago

Basildon

We’ve had a period of time when not meeting single males therefore we were rejecting their messages. That changed and ended up meeting few of those rejected in the past. Blocking might not be the best all the time unless they’re rude or abusing. But that’s just us

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We’ve had a period of time when not meeting single males therefore we were rejecting their messages. That changed and ended up meeting few of those rejected in the past. Blocking might not be the best all the time unless they’re rude or abusing. But that’s just us"

I'd say law of averages of a block would outweigh the unicorn behaviour of a couple changing their preferences to single guys after staying way from them for a while

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We’ve had a period of time when not meeting single males therefore we were rejecting their messages. That changed and ended up meeting few of those rejected in the past. Blocking might not be the best all the time unless they’re rude or abusing. But that’s just us"

Your pictures are amazing and I’d never consider blocking you because I’d want to carry on enjoying looking at your pictures....

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By *erfect imperfectionCouple
over a year ago

Basildon

Lol, we all have preferences but we get your point

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By *erfect imperfectionCouple
over a year ago

Basildon

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By *erfect imperfectionCouple
over a year ago

Basildon

Thanks! Much appreciated

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I block for simplicity, resulting in all sides being able to focus efforts more effectively. Move on and forge the unmatched

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No reply = block in my book. Just clears up your search page, nothing malicious about it "

Yup

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

No I don't block people, I use private notes instead

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We rarely block profiles, only done so a few times

We do though make use of the private notes

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I'll block if someone has sent a use or its someone I really don't want to interact with . I don't block if someone doesn't reply though but then I don't look at sent messages often.

I have no issue if someone blocks me either I just block back usually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This proves that men message pretty much every vagina on the site. If you have to use the block button to not message again, you have no self control or recollection of the people who said no thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I rarely block..I rarely read messages and just ignore those I have read but don't like."

This.

My profile is clear. If people have read it and I don't reply they should take it as a not interested.

If they choose to block me so I don't pop back up then I'm fine with that

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

Our block list is used for multiple reasons, either for people that are a little too close for comfort, those that have wildly differing views to us or those that have demonstrated a total inability to take ‘no’ for an answer.

We use the private notes function to keep track of profiles as we can be using the site independent of each other.

It’s also a handy filter after threads about bareback etc.

Repetitive stupidity will earn you a one way trip to the block list though..

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham


"No reply = block in my book. Just clears up your search page, nothing malicious about it

I never received a message from you to not reply to "

Maybe it got buried and you didn’t see it?

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I've never blocked someone for saying no thanks, but I also don't message them again. Easier now I've started using private notes.

I only block people who are aggressive or insulting, or who hound with multiple messages when I'm clear that I'm not interested.

I don't have any issues with anyone blocking me if I'm not what they're looking for or if I've shown that they aren't of interest to me. If they don't want to interact with me for whatever reason it just feels a sensible option.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No reply = block in my book. Just clears up your search page, nothing malicious about it

I never received a message from you to not reply to

Maybe it got buried and you didn’t see it? "

If that’s genuinely the reason then that would have happened. I miss thousands of messages. My box is untidy and full.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Yes block is fine...saves them appearing in future searches.

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By *xfordshireCoupleMFCouple
over a year ago

Nr. Oxford

We are guilty of liberal use of the block button.

As others have said it saves hassle from the ‘repeat messagers’ that seem to forget we’ve said no on the past.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We block,usually if they send a one word introduction or they are rude...if they only want to engage with Mrs PD ignoring the fact we are a couple. If they are homophobic, rascist or just obnoxious.

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I don’t tend to block that often but will do it for one of these reasons:

1. They won’t take no for an answer and keep on pushing.

2. I think it is a fake profile and not really a lady or couple.

3. I am not their type.

It just cuts down on the noise.

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By *rbifunMan
over a year ago

exeter

Blocking people that aren't what you are looking for, or have made it clear you're not for them simply makes searches/who's near more effective. People really shouldn't take it so personally, that can be reserved for those that have been rude or pestering.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I spoke to a women on here who said she hates it when a man blocks her after she replies to say she isn’t interested because it feels like an aggressive reaction and she thinks he’s blocked her because she’s upset or annoyed him. I did explain to her that it’s probably just their way of making sure they know not to contact you again but it didn’t make her feel better about it. Since that conversation I’ve stopped blocking people....it does mean scrolling through profiles is a bit more laborious but I don’t want to make people feel how she felt when she got blocked. "

I would question how she knows she's been blocked. We say no thank you to lots of people and we don't get hurt if they block us because we have no idea if they have or not - that would require us going back through our messages to one we've said no to then trying to view their profile.

Sounds like she wants to have the right to turn others down but doesn't like it when they then show no further interest in her, if so, this is a deeply unpleasant character trait.

Mr

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

If someone says “not for me” I block. I’m not taking my ball home. I’m saving them the hassle of me messaging them again.

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By *1bttmMan
over a year ago

Shoreditch east London


"How many of you block a profile after you have a negative reply or no reply?

I love the block, saves on the cluttered uninterested in me profiles "

And equally those that contact u and u chat and it becomes clear they haven't even taken time to read yr profile.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield


"I spoke to a women on here who said she hates it when a man blocks her after she replies to say she isn’t interested because it feels like an aggressive reaction and she thinks he’s blocked her because she’s upset or annoyed him. I did explain to her that it’s probably just their way of making sure they know not to contact you again but it didn’t make her feel better about it. Since that conversation I’ve stopped blocking people....it does mean scrolling through profiles is a bit more laborious but I don’t want to make people feel how she felt when she got blocked. "

There’s a bit of pot and kettle in this theory!

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By *urplechesterCouple
over a year ago

chester

I’ve recently started blocking those that we constantly see who aren’t a match, ones who we’ve spoken too and messed us about or disrespected our relationship, the obvs fakes, ones who read our message and delete etc... I do find it a tad frustrating that those I’ve blocked due to their forum input, usually the ones with a superiority complex or just generally rude, are still visible on the forums to me. I always end up reading their posts before noticing it’s them, and then go rahhh haha. Blocking is just a handy filing system, no offence taken or meant by it at all Miss pc

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield


"I spoke to a women on here who said she hates it when a man blocks her after she replies to say she isn’t interested because it feels like an aggressive reaction and she thinks he’s blocked her because she’s upset or annoyed him. I did explain to her that it’s probably just their way of making sure they know not to contact you again but it didn’t make her feel better about it. Since that conversation I’ve stopped blocking people....it does mean scrolling through profiles is a bit more laborious but I don’t want to make people feel how she felt when she got blocked.

I know this has been moaned about a million times on her by men, it's super hard for some men to even get a reply on her. So if its a negative, when you done the 'Make an effort with your first message, added face pics etc etc' and you get a No. A block save trawling through women that have already rejected you out of hand. If it hurts their feeling that they can't see the profile of the person they have rejected they need to get over it. What do they want? 'Erm bugger off Mr but please hang around and like my pictures for my ego boost' , not happening. "

Ting. Exactly.

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