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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Do any women like "vanilla" guys (I think this is the correct term) when it comes to men or is it a turn off, do we come across as being too bland in the bedroom?

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Like x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It definitely has its place

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I must admit I am on fab for more than vanilla sex.

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

Certainly doesn't put me off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Variety is good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve slept with more guys off fab than on fab and some of the filthiest fucks have been guys not on fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like neopolitan, which does have a third vanilla

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

Depends on how vanilla.

If it's lights off, under the covers, strictly missionary, then... meh.

If by vanilla you just mean minimal kink then that's very much what I look for these days.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Some of my best sex has been with “vanilla” guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love vanilla. They usually end up spiced up once I'm done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do any women like "vanilla" guys (I think this is the correct term) when it comes to men or is it a turn off, do we come across as being too bland in the bedroom? "

Vanilla how?

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

vanilla is good sometimes x

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

I like vanilla, when it comes to sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everything starts off as Vanilla till trust is build so yes

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury


"Everything starts off as Vanilla till trust is build so yes "

this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everything starts off as Vanilla till trust is build so yes "

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down


"Everything starts off as Vanilla till trust is build so yes "

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By *urvySub87Woman
over a year ago

Near Wellingborough

I like a bit of vanilla from time to time

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

One persons kink is another’s vanilla so there is a place for everyone, it’s just a matter of finding the right connection

As others have said when you build trust things can become more kinky if that’s what both want and if not as long as your both having fun carry on

Can’t beat a good missionary session

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing wrong with "vanilla", as long as they don't thrust once then start snoring....

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By *ovingeachotherCouple
over a year ago

Devizes


"Nothing wrong with "vanilla", as long as they don't thrust once then start snoring.... "

Lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aww, I love a vanilla man x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never really quite sure what vanilla means.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One persons kink is another’s vanilla so there is a place for everyone, it’s just a matter of finding the right connection

As others have said when you build trust things can become more kinky if that’s what both want and if not as long as your both having fun carry on

Can’t beat a good missionary session "

This is exactly my view

Some people would see themselves as non-vanilla just because they are on a site like fab.

I would say my idea of vanilla definitely includes things others would find kinky

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire


"One persons kink is another’s vanilla so there is a place for everyone, it’s just a matter of finding the right connection

As others have said when you build trust things can become more kinky if that’s what both want and if not as long as your both having fun carry on

Can’t beat a good missionary session

This is exactly my view

Some people would see themselves as non-vanilla just because they are on a site like fab.

I would say my idea of vanilla definitely includes things others would find kinky "

I’m probably quite vanilla but then when I meet someone regular or in a relationship we try new things so….

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Vanilla is fine with me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Vanilla each and every time, have not got the time or attention span for that other stuff....

Cuddle, play, luck suck and fuck...cuddle, rinse and repeat.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Good vanilla is great

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By *otBunsHunWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Vanilla is perfectly fine as well as kink

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for all the feedback! Very encouraging responses, interesting points about vanilla connections for building trust etc. I'm most likely always going to be vanilla but would be open to learning things within reason that keep a lady happy if she were to show me the ropes. There's hope yet I feel

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"Good vanilla is great"

Yep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Vanilla has different meanings to different people. If I'm vanilla because I won't shit on someone's chest then I'm cool with that.

It's more about starting tame and pushing boundaries the more you get comfortable with someone. It takes a while to find out what makes each other tick so go with the person, not the 'kink'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Vanilla is back to basics really isn't it? Aslong as you're really good at the basics then theres no issues.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Vanilla has different meanings to different people. If I'm vanilla because I won't shit on someone's chest then I'm cool with that.

It's more about starting tame and pushing boundaries the more you get comfortable with someone. It takes a while to find out what makes each other tick so go with the person, not the 'kink'."

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By *issYeuxBleusWoman
over a year ago

My boudoir - S Wales

Vanilla with an open mind if perfectly fine by me. As long as someone is willing to push a few boundaries.

Vanilla sex is rife in the real world, we could have it in abundance.

Saying that most of my filthy sex has been with people away from fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like vanilla as much as anything else. There's a place for everything for me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Vanilla has different meanings to different people. If I'm vanilla because I won't shit on someone's chest then I'm cool with that.

It's more about starting tame and pushing boundaries the more you get comfortable with someone. It takes a while to find out what makes each other tick so go with the person, not the 'kink'."

Yeah the toilet stuff is a huge no no haha.

Vanilla for me personally when describing myself is kissing (loads of it), kissing a lady in special places, playful sex in the intimate sense, kissing/biting around the neck area and body but again very gradual. Candle lit massage. I'm more of a slow burner when it comes to sex, tantric etc. By the book but passionate and connective. Some relaxing music too. I'm very inexperienced in the kink sense. I'd be fully relying on a lady for learning and direction which could be off putting for her I feel.

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By *obbychickWoman
over a year ago

Essex

I like vanilla….it’s all about the connection for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like vanilla !! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve slept with more guys off fab than on fab and some of the filthiest fucks have been guys not on fab. "

Fully 110% agreed.

All my experiences of people and Fun sex pleasures have been .via House parties,invites,raves , and Holistic natural ways of bumping into others.useing Life skills of Communication,eye contact full body language of Expression where others esp opposite sex's can feel the real true version of whom you & they really are. And base their choice of like and dislike then. At free will.

The INTERNET Has Killed that and will affect everybody's mental state now and in years to come.

Make wise choices.. for the future and longterm. Not from what others on here assume of what they think they know of you, or based from your pic's..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I've never met anyone with the sole intention of it being vanilla. Sometimes it is, sometimes things get a little kinkier. Nearly all of it is good though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do any women like "vanilla" guys (I think this is the correct term) when it comes to men or is it a turn off, do we come across as being too bland in the bedroom? "

Do whatever feels comfortable for you OP, just stay open minded. I consider myself to be closer to vanilla than spice but jeez, I have certainly enjoyed learning new things over the last few weeks via a very horny and patient young lady

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Nothing wrong with vanilla x

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