FabSwingers.com forum: First message

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi all,

I got blocked by a woman who said I was rude on my first message and that women don't want to hear anything pervy until they get chatting.

But then so many profiles women will say "please don't ask how I am" etc.? That kinda thing.

So how do I sound fun but not cringy on a first message if most women don't want the normal polites or the naughties?

#cantwin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So basically, we dont want the usual "hi, u ok" messages that we receive day in, day out, so you come back with something like "FaF" or "want to sit on my cock?" Or messages to that effect? And then you get confused??

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So basically, we dont want the usual "hi, u ok" messages that we receive day in, day out, so you come back with something like "FaF" or "want to sit on my cock?" Or messages to that effect? And then you get confused??

The person in question stated that they wanted a guy to give her oral

I told she had a great body and that Id love her to open her legs and let me work my magic on her pussy.... She said I was rude..

So yeah why state what you want then when it's offered on a plate lick off??

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Kick off *

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

The person in question stated that they wanted a guy to give her oral

I told she had a great body and that Id love her to open her legs and let me work my magic on her pussy.... She said I was rude..

So yeah why state what you want then when it's offered on a plate lick off?? "

That would put me off too. Just because we state what we enjoy doesn't mean we want talked to sexually in a first message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Possibly ease in gently with the offers and not just "battering ram" it, in the first message? Yes, we all have wants and desires, but sometimes we like a little bit of a written connection before we get offered (and sometimes forcefully) the D! A first message really isn't the ideal place to go straight in with it as we get it all if we put something up that could be a little suggestive and every man and his dog goes straight for the kill, thinking theyre the first to mail that!(if that makes sense?)

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I delete any 1st messages that are dirty op and your message would have put me off too.

Read the profile, but try to refer to something in it in a funny way if you can, rather than getting straight to the nitty gritty.

If you haven't built up any rapport with someone, the graphic stuff will leave many women cold.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP just because someone states their likes on their profile doesn't mean its how they want to start a conversation with a stranger.

There is a massive middle ground between "hi how are you" and "I'd love to spread your legs" etc.....

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By *oly Fuck Sticks BatmanCouple
over a year ago

here & there

"OP just because someone states their likes on their profile doesn't mean its how they want to start a conversation with a stranger.

There is a massive middle ground between "hi how are you" and "I'd love to spread your legs" etc.....

Well said.... you wouldn't believe some of the messages saying i want to smash your mrs or simular!!

Funny that kind of message is instantly deleted

Us ladies like a little more effort

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks all x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps find a middle ground between “hi how are you” and “fancy a fuck”.

Just try introducing yourself like you would if you were meeting someone in person. Tell them something interesting, show some humour, etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps you could think of it this way; if you were at a party and someone catches your eye, do you approach her by giving her details of your amorous desires?

You generally wouldn't approach with 'how are you?' at a party either.

You'd usually mention something that you've observed about her, the room, the location, the event, the food, the drinks.....some sort of a conversation starter. Something like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP just because someone states their likes on their profile doesn't mean its how they want to start a conversation with a stranger.

There is a massive middle ground between "hi how are you" and "I'd love to spread your legs" etc.....

aptly put.

Honestly OP, your comment made me shudder. Make it relevant to the profile, but not pervy. Innuendos can creep in if you get talking, but not utter filth.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

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There is not one rule for all, there are varying levels of preferences on sexy chat for messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The person in question stated that they wanted a guy to give her oral

I told she had a great body and that Id love her to open her legs and let me work my magic on her pussy.... She said I was rude..

So yeah why state what you want then when it's offered on a plate lick off?? "

People say they want people to read their profile and comment on it to prove they've read it.

If she had sex chat and sex pics it does seem odd that she wouldn't want similar.

However treating someone like a human being before offering to lick their pussy as a very first interaction is also nice.

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By *otMe66Man
over a year ago

Terra Firma

"Hi all,

I got blocked by a woman who said I was rude on my first message and that women don't want to hear anything pervy until they get chatting.

But then so many profiles women will say "please don't ask how I am" etc.? That kinda thing.

So how do I sound fun but not cringy on a first message if most women don't want the normal polites or the naughties?

#cantwin

Not the best below but maybe a little less direct than your original message and something you could start from to form your own opening messages?

I read you love oral, let me introduce myself, I'm the Lancashire Licker, Something tells me we might get on

If you would like to know more, please do let me know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The number of a single senetnece, few word messages we get daily is close to 50 I guess - and the worst ones when you respond and say thanks for the message the next message is -when can we meet - this results in a block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's the same when you open a message from a women offering you a blowjob straight off the bat. It's like they don't even see you as a human being. It's disgusting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi all,

I got blocked by a woman who said I was rude on my first message and that women don't want to hear anything pervy until they get chatting.

But then so many profiles women will say "please don't ask how I am" etc.? That kinda thing.

So how do I sound fun but not cringy on a first message if most women don't want the normal polites or the naughties?

#cantwin

Not the best below but maybe a little less direct than your original message and something you could start from to form your own opening messages?

I read you love oral, let me introduce myself, I'm the Lancashire Licker, Something tells me we might get on

If you would like to know more, please do let me know. "

Perfect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What she means is she wants a guy (she’s attracted to) to give her oral.

Anything sexual or suggestive that’s said to a person is harassment unless you fancy them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What she means is she wants a guy (she’s attracted to) to give her oral.

Anything sexual or suggestive that’s said to a person is harassment unless you fancy them! "

Are you taking applications? ^^

haha

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By *otMe66Man
over a year ago

Terra Firma

"Hi all,

I got blocked by a woman who said I was rude on my first message and that women don't want to hear anything pervy until they get chatting.

But then so many profiles women will say "please don't ask how I am" etc.? That kinda thing.

So how do I sound fun but not cringy on a first message if most women don't want the normal polites or the naughties?

#cantwin

Not the best below but maybe a little less direct than your original message and something you could start from to form your own opening messages?

I read you love oral, let me introduce myself, I'm the Lancashire Licker, Something tells me we might get on

If you would like to know more, please do let me know.

Perfect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What she means is she wants a guy (she’s attracted to) to give her oral.

Anything sexual or suggestive that’s said to a person is harassment unless you fancy them!

Are you taking applications? ^^

haha"

You’d have to have a long tongue to reach me all the way down here!

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

Here’s a novel idea, crazy I know but I will put it out there! How about just talking to them as if they were a normal human being and show why you would have a genuine interest in them as a person! ??? I’m going to get roasted aren’t I ?

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

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The person in question stated that they wanted a guy to give her oral

I told she had a great body and that Id love her to open her legs and let me work my magic on her pussy.... She said I was rude..

So yeah why state what you want then when it's offered on a plate lick off?? "

I found that rude also but then again it might be a good way to gauge compatibility. I like a guy to get to know me before moving into graphic messages.

It may seem contradictory so I can see your confusion. I like an introductory message that references something on my profile and tells me something about you. Originality is key. Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What she means is she wants a guy (she’s attracted to) to give her oral.

Anything sexual or suggestive that’s said to a person is harassment unless you fancy them!

Are you taking applications? ^^

haha

You’d have to have a long tongue to reach me all the way down here! "

Hahah

Awryt I'm getting my shoes on.

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By *heonix_flamesWoman
over a year ago

Midlands

"Here’s a novel idea, crazy I know but I will put it out there! How about just talking to them as if they were a normal human being and show why you would have a genuine interest in them as a person! ??? I’m going to get roasted aren’t I ?

This please!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just say please can I put my penis inside you.. women appreciate manners. Without the please it's just rude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a fine line between being crude and being boring.

I usually open with

Hey, your profile is well written, are married men an option for you?

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By *drian HardthrobMan
over a year ago

Worcester

"Just say please can I put my penis inside you.. women appreciate manners. Without the please it's just rude."

Pretty please with a cherry on top!

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